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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:28:02 AM
Sorry to be posting with a fake name, but I have a really embarassing question.

Last night I was sleeping and woke up needing to pee, but I didn't feel like getting up at 3:30 since DH's alarm would be going off in a half hour anyway. So I fell back asleep and must have been really deep asleep because I was dreaming about finding a bathroom and peeing....only to wake up and realize I WAS peeing. I leaped out of bed and ran to the bathroom but OMG I am SOOO embarassed. DH was very nice about it and said not a big deal and helped me take the sheets off the bed.

I tend to only drink water during the day, maybe about 5 bottles (16 oz.) I didn't drink any from about 7pm on, but during the night my mouth/throat tend to get dry (from snoring!) so I have a bottle on the nightstand and will take a small amount. I did eat shrimp last night too which is unusual for me!

Has this ever happened to anyone else? I have had dreams about trying to find a bathroom before but never had an accident like this happen. I am 50 years old, still have all my female parts....I do have a fibroid so don't know if that might be pressing on bladder? I don't know, I am just SO embarassed.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:31:44 AM
It happens.

Humiliating. Yes.

But it happens.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:42:42 AM
I had fibroids, and one of them was pressing on my bladder, causing problems with my 'bathroom habits' for sure. I would have to *race* home from work, and right into the bathroom (almost didn't make it more than a few times!), and I was having to take breaks during a grocery store trip to detour to the restroom, stuff like that. I had a hysterectomy earlier this year to remove the fibroids, and it's gotten better since then.

maybe make an appt with your gynecologist to see if the fibroid has grown??

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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:42:59 AM
It's happened to me exactly as you described. I was dreaming that I had to pee and looking for a bathroom...yes, it happens.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:43:56 AM
I have had dreams where I am looking for a jacket or a warm place. Then I wake up only to realize all the blankets are off the bed and I am freezing.

I wouldn't be embarassed if your situation happened to me. Stuff happens.

Sounds like you have a very sweet and supportive DH.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:48:46 AM
This has not happened to me but I have definitely been concerned that it would. If I wake up with even the slightest urge to go to the bathroom, I go. I can't go back to sleep until I do. I'm sure that is because of a fear of exactly what happened to you.

I probably would not go to the doctor because of it happening once but if it happened again, I would make an appointment with my gyn. Otherwise, I would probably talk to my gyn at my next appointment if I felt like there might be more to it or I was having any other issues.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:52:02 AM
It happened to me one time while I was pregnant. It happens!


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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:57:10 AM
oh you poor thing.. id be mortified too, even though it is a normal bodily function and was completely out of your control.

it happened to my dh some time ago, he was deep, deep asleep and i woke up to a very wet mattress, he was embarrassed by it, but honestly, to me it didnt even really register, cleaned the sheets, cleaned the mattress and that was that. i never mentioned this to him again and had forgotten about it until i read your post.

i agree with the pea who said to see your dr if it happened again, or mention it at your next scheduled appointment if it doesnt happen again. there are medications you can take for an irritable bladder, my mother has been prescribed but for some insane reason refuses to take them regularly then complains that she has to either be thirsty or visit the restroom frequently.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:57:19 AM
THANK YOU. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your replies. It does make me feel better. This board has such great people.

I do have my annual GYN appt. on the 28th so will be talking to the doctor about it (with bright red face I am sure). She is around my age so hopefully she will be understanding!

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Posted: 11/16/2012 10:58:21 AM
Yep it has happened to me too exactly like you described.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:01:33 AM
It's happened to me. I woke up to find my pajama bottoms were wet, but I didn't go enough to get it on the sheets or mattress. YOu're not the only one.



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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:03:30 AM
This happened to me a couple times before I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. Has not happened since I started using my CPAP. I Look back and wonder if it was my body saving my life during an apneic event

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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:04:58 AM
The only time I've had that happen was once when I was also having terrible menstrual cramps at the same time. But pee dreams? Those are frequent and always involve a fast trip to the bathroom. I've learned that if I wake up with even the slightest feeling that I have to go to the bathroom, I better get up and go and save myself the discomfort of the dream and rushing to the bathroom in an hour or so after I've fallen back asleep.

I'll also say - since I'm in the same age range as you - that there will probably be a lot more embarrassing things happen in the future that either you or your DH will need the others' assistance with and it's best to just laugh them off instead of being embarrassed about it.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:05:09 AM

I wouldn't be embarassed if your situation happened to me. Stuff happens.

Right, me either. I'm rarely embarrassed about bodily stuff around DH. We have a one bathroom house, everything is pretty open with us. Don't be embarrassed. Things happen. No biggie.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:21:35 AM
I've had those kinds of dreams before. But as much as I hated to leave the comfort of my nice warm bed, I knew if I didn't I'd probably pee in my sleep also. Don't be embarrassed. Your dh is a sweetheart and since he doesn't seem to be bothered by it, neither should you. But if it happens again, check with your doctor just to rule out any possible problems.

And if it wakes you again...GO TO THE BATHROOM IMMEDIATELY!!!

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Posted: 11/16/2012 11:33:03 AM
It has happened to DH - specifically the first time we visited his parents after we married. 19yrs later I'm still embarrassed that he had to ask for clean sheets. You know he didn't tell his mom the real reason the newlyweds needed fresh sheets!



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Posted: 11/16/2012 12:49:15 PM

I'll also say - since I'm in the same age range as you - that there will probably be a lot more embarrassing things happen in the future that either you or your DH will need the others' assistance with and it's best to just laugh them off instead of being embarrassed about it.

LOL...this is so true I had not thought of it!!


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Posted: 11/16/2012 1:00:16 PM
I've pee'd when I sneezed, pee'd when I coughed, pee'd when I've laughed too hard.

The first time I had sex with Dh after DS was born I actually pee'd on him a little during the act. Now THAT was embarrassing.

Pee happens. If your spouse can laugh along with you about it, you know it's true love.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:01:46 PM
You're not alone! I haven't had it happen in YEARS, but I have had it happen and I'm only 35. The dream seems SO real, like I could even FEEL the coolness of the toilet seat. Don't be embarrassed


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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:05:13 PM
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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:10:34 PM
I had that same dream when I was about 17 staying at my aunts house. Don't feel bad! Been there too!


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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:21:46 PM
I have three fibroids and do have bladder and bowel issues. No accidents yet, but when I have to go I run to a restroom. lol It could be your fibroids.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:32:33 PM
I've never had an accident in bed thankfully, but I do get those dreams of finding a bathroom and that lets me know I need to wake up and hop out of bed. lol Funny we all have the same dream!


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Posted: 11/16/2012 2:45:27 PM
I used to pee over laughing, coughing, sneezing, tripping, etc. It was embarrassing to me, but my husband and I laugh over everything so it was ok.

The same exact scenario happened to my husband TWICE, and both times were when we were visiting his family. He was embarrassed about the possibility of them finding out, but not because I knew. Heck, I'm the one he peed on, and of course I have teased him about it over the years, but it's something we laugh about. Now, when we're at his mom's house, I make him face the outside of the bed.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 3:04:00 PM
I dont have to be asleep to pee on myself. I pushed out 3 huge babies(and the last two were early)! I pee on myself all the time! Laugh, pee. Sneeze, pee. Cough, pee. Yell, pee. And I'm only 30! I forsee Depends in my future!

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Posted: 11/16/2012 3:07:28 PM
It happens! I've had a lot of close calls with the "dreaming I could pee" thing.

A few years ago, DH had a stint where he wet the bed four or five times in the space of two months. He actually asked his doctor about it and he said it could be related to his weight. He was about 350 lbs. at the time. He's lost 100 lbs. and hasn't wet the bed in years -- not sure if it's related at all.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 3:20:45 PM
I had it happen when I was about 15...dreamt I was peeing in a toiltet and well, I wasn't.
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Posted: 11/16/2012 5:57:19 PM
When I was about 6 or 7 I got up, sleepwalking, and went into the dining room, hiked up my nightgown, and peed on the dining room chair pad. I then went back to bed.

I wouldn't believe my parents that it had happened until they pointed out the chair cushion line drying on the clothesline out in the yard.


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Posted: 11/16/2012 6:26:12 PM
It has happened to me on several occasions. I have an extra muscle around my bladder. I only go 2-3 times a day because my body doesn't tell me when I have to until I HAVE TO!! I can barely make it to the bathroom by time I feel like I need to. I am 27 and have had this problem since I was 19.

It has only happened 4-5 times but it is just like you said. Fall asleep, start dreaming of bathrooms and wake up peeing. I can stop myself once I wake up and run to the bathroom.

My DH knows my condition and I will wake him up bawling like a baby. He will help me take the sheets off and remake the bed for me.

I personally am not embarrassed to talk about it. With the extra pressure on my bladder if I fall, I pee, I laugh really hard, I pee, I sneeze, cough, get really bad hiccups, I pee. (not a lot mind you but still!)

My Grandmother had the same condition and as she got into her late 40's she was having trouble with even the slightest bladder control. She had a minor surgery and hasn't had any problems since. So I know what to look forward to. hehe.

So, don't be embarrassed, Talk to your dr. if your worried. and know the "Pea-Team" is here for support.

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Posted: 11/16/2012 6:31:20 PM
Nicole in TX--I did that same thing when I was 5 only it was into my moms giant change bucket. When she told me I was so embarrassed until she told me that she had done the same thing with a kitchen chair (thought it was the toilet)

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Posted: 11/16/2012 7:07:18 PM
Not me but once my husband did get up, lift the lid of his piano stool,wee, shut the lid and go back to bed!His excuse is that it was white just like a toilet!



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Posted: 11/17/2012 10:27:12 AM
It happens. Happened to me when I was younger and didn't have anyone sleeping in bed with me. My husband loves to tease. I cannot image how embarrased I would be if it happened again - he would never let me live it down.

Ever since the first time it happened to me, I always go to the bathroom right before bed and if I ever wake up in the middle of the night having to go - I GO!

I have always been a big dreamer, talk and my sleep, have even wacked my husband in the head once in my sleep. I always worry that I will pea in my sleep again..So far it hasn't happened, but you never know!!

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Posted: 11/17/2012 12:20:02 PM
I had it happen 3 times YEARS ago but didn't wet the bed because I woke up immediately and stopped when the first few drops "escaped".

And as everyone else, I was dreaming about searching and searching for a toilet. I guess I finally learned when I'm dreaming about finding a toilet SO bad, to wake up and find the REAL one!

I do make sure that I go just before I go to bed and if I don't fall asleep immediately, I go again. If I wake up and have to go, I try to drag myself up immediately no matter how asleep I still am!

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Posted: 11/17/2012 1:34:53 PM
Ya it happens no reason to be embarrassed

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Posted: 11/17/2012 1:36:29 PM
You might look into the snoring issues too -- you may have apnea which could benefit from use of a cpap machine. Apnea, even moderate cases, contributes to a lot of other health conditions, and treating it may help your overall wellbeing.


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