Thanksgiving: Anyone not care or celebrate the holiday? If so, why? Potential reasons......
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Posted: 11/21/2012 6:50:38 AM
Thanksgiving: Anyone not care or celebrate the holiday? If so, why?

Potential reasons why one doesn't care or celebrate the USA Thanksgiving are:

1. You live in another country and don't celebrate the USA Thanksgiving
2. You hate to cook
3. You hate to get together with family
4. You have other plans: sipping a pina colada while lounging on the beach of a tropical resort, climbing Mt. Everest, camping out at Best Buy for the shopping deals.......
5. You're sick, have an illness or disability which prevents you from celebrating.
6. It's just another day.
7. It's too expensive and you cannot afford it or you choose not to not to pay outside of your grocery/eating out budget.
8. You're working on Thanksgiving
9. Other: please explain

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Posted: 11/21/2012 6:57:22 AM
I do, but I wish it was more like the fun family celebrations I see everyone else talking about here.

My only in state family is my parents. The rest of my family is a 12 hour drive away. And my dad can be a grump. So we are having a dinner catered for the 3 of us, and I'm making dessert. We'll eat, talk for a while, and they will leave. Nothing extra special. I wish it was.

I am dating somebody that has 3 family gatherings. That sounds awesome! I just wish we had fun & games & kids and stuff to make it more like what I picture in my head.



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Posted: 11/21/2012 6:58:16 AM
9. other ..... grief makes times like this very difficult. But we will still be having Thanksgiving and making a special effort to give thanks for what we DO have.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:04:59 AM
#4. I'll be heading to Key West. So, beach, drink with an umbrella...yes.

My family is 3000 miles away and DD will be with her dad. It's never been a favorite holiday of mine anyway.


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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:07:59 AM
We celebrate Thanksgiving, but it's not the holiday I envisioned for my family. Due to family conflicts and distance, the six of us (DH, myself and 4 kids) always celebrate it alone. I wish my extended family was "closer" so we could have a more festive event.

Plus, I think the US Thanksgiving is overshadowed by too much Christmas hoopla (i.e. consumerism). I miss Thanksgiving in Canada, where is just about the holiday.


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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:09:55 AM
I do not hate Thanksgiving but it does not hold any special meaning to me. My family is very close knit and we get together at least once a month for dinner so instead of Sunday this week dinner will be on Thursday. I am thankful for each and everyday that I have so I don't feel the need to express what I am thankful over a turkey dinner.


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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:13:50 AM
1. Unless you mean Americans who live in another country then count me out as I'm English

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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:17:41 AM
I don't celebrate Thanksgiving as I'm not American and don't (never have) lived in America.
Most of the Americans I know living here do celebrate Thanksgiving, just sometimes a little differently, due to availability of ingredients or because they accommodate the tastes of non-American family members.



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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:25:18 AM
Thanksiving is usually my favorite holiday, but this year my MIL is in the hospital and it really looks like she may not make it, so it will be a somber Thanksgiving this year.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:46:38 AM

4. You have other plans: sipping a pina colada while lounging on the beach of a tropical resort, climbing Mt. Everest, camping out at Best Buy for the shopping deals.......

That would be us! Every year we make use of the LONG weekend to take a trip somewhere. This year it is PARIS! We are almost packed and the car is all ready to head out tomorrow at OhDarkThirty hours.


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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:54:52 AM
Thanksgiving is my least favorite holiday!

This year it will spent with just the 3 of us-me, my dh and my ds. My daughter lives too far away and I won't get to see her.

We have almost no extended family so Thanksgiving can be a lonely time for me. I wish I had a large family to gather together. Maybe my opinion of Thanksgiving would be different then.

I am however cooking a traditional Tgiving dinner for my guys and am looking forward to some relaxing time at home with them.


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Posted: 11/21/2012 7:55:32 AM
We are immigrants so we don't celebrate it. But since everyone has it off we do use it as an excuse for a family gathering. But we don't give thanks or anything, we do have turkey though. I call it "Fauxgiving"



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Posted: 11/21/2012 8:07:17 AM
My mom died 13 years ago today. Tomorrow will be my dads last holiday as he is gravely ill with end stage chf. My heart is heavy this year.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 8:12:40 AM
To Arielsmom and everyone else who mourns during the holidays: I am so sorry for your sadness and hope with time it turns (as mine did) to more of a bittersweet feeling. My Mom and Grandpa both died Easter week so I know those feelings well. Now, thankfully...when I think of them both I usually start with a smile or a giggle before tearing up.

As to Thanksgiving: I love it. It is one of my favorites. I love to cook and I love that it is one of the few that really isn't so commercialized. Of course, all the "black friday" and "pre-black friday" hoopla CAN detract from it but I try with all my might not to let it.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 8:48:39 AM
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Posted: 11/21/2012 8:58:12 AM
We celebrate it, but I admit it's never been my favorite holiday.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 9:10:22 AM
I remember the first Christmas after my Mother died that Oct. It was the 4th grandparent for my children to pass away and they were so sad. Since my youngest was 21, we asked if they would like to go to Las Vegas for Christmas and get away from reality. It turned out to be one of our favorite vacations every, but we all realized, it just wasn't Christmas and we decided to work on making new traditions.

I hate to cook, but I enjoy Thanksgiving and Christmas and making all my families favorites. This year will be different since both children are married to people from other cultures. We just go with the flow. I'll make most of the favorites and add NEW favorites.

Thanksgiving is a time to take those of us in this country can take a moment to appreciate what we have....whether we do it with family, friends or a cabana boy bringing us drinks at the beach.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone and to those who are sad this year, I wish you peace and love in the moments you can capture

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Posted: 11/21/2012 9:15:40 AM
I am enjoying it much more since I have begun celebrating it with my sister, brother and other assorted people who either have few close relatives or don't live near any. We are all single and the kids are all adults so they come and go as they please. We play cards and games and eat and just enjoy each others company.

I figure why should a bunch of us sit home alone when we can all hang out together and enjoy the day so much more. We have taken a "more the merrier" attitude and anyone is welcome to invite people they know who they think will enjoy our company. I don't know why we didn't think of this years ago.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 9:22:52 AM
I love Thanksgiving. My DH is usually able to spend four solid days with us and we do a family gathering. We do not do Black Friday shopping. It is all about being together. This year we are doing it with family - there will be about 15 of us - and a New Baby for our cousins! The other youngest is six so this is our first baby in a long time. Last year we spent it at home with the four of us and I made a mini dinner for the three of us that were eating.

Now, when I was a kid - having a family holiday was dreadful. There was fighting and name-calling, any given year the police could be called for a brawl. My mom would be mad and stressed for days beforehand, relatives would drink too much. Lovely. Back then, I hated it. We don't do holidays with that family anymore and it is wonderful.

I also worry and think about our friends that have lost kids in the last two years. I am so grateful, thankful , that we still have both of ours. I'm not sure how I would feel if we didn't - I don't think we would be celebrating the way we do now. I probably would be pretty tempted to head someplace tropical and have tacos or sushi for Thanksgiving dinner.



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Posted: 11/21/2012 10:28:57 AM
9. Other: it's just the two of us here in AZ (all our family is back in the Midwest), and we usually end up having a fight or it ends up with me being miserable for some reason-- or something goes wrong with dinner, etc. etc. I think we both *set it up* to fail, by having too high of expectations for it... it was always such a fun family holiday, but we can't re-create that with just the two of us. We keep trying, but it doesn't work.

(we do still celebrate it, but I'd almost rather not: I'd much rather go out to a restaurant at the very least, but I don't think my BF would ever go for that idea.)

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Posted: 11/21/2012 10:51:43 AM

5. You're sick, have an illness or disability which prevents you from celebrating.

Well, this might be me this year just because I am nursing a horrible cold. If I don't feel better tomorrow, I will pass on the festivities.

To be honest, if I have to skip it won't be a big deal to me. We are also a close, weekly dinner type of family. I JUST saw everyone on Sunday for a birthday dinner, so I will be fine cuddling up on my couch all day tomorrow if need be. It is rainy and blah here and since DH will have the day off, it actually sounds really nice to cuddle up together and watch movies all day!



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Posted: 11/21/2012 11:05:32 AM
This afternoon I am making a small Thanksgiving dinner for my DH and I because tomorrow I work all day. He will go to his extended families T-Day celebration as his parents are out of town visiting his sister, brother-in-law and her new twins.

I have worked on T-Day for 13 years. It used to be one of my favorite holidays (I love to cook!) but my family doesn't live in the area anymore so even if I had it off I would just be sharing it with DH's aunt, uncle and cousins. Yeah, no thanks. I may be selfish but I wish I had my mom, sister and brother to spend the day with.

I work with a guy who is coming in even though he doesn't have to because he too is alone on T-Day. Not married, no family in the area. He doesn't want to spend the day alone with his thoughts. Can't blame him and happy to have a Macy's parade watching partner.



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Posted: 11/21/2012 11:08:31 AM
DH is deployed, but I'm still cooking for the three of us (kids and I). However, DH isn't eating a traditional dinner. He's going to the meat tent with some other guys and having ribs. He said a traditional meal is just too depressing.

I would imagine he will help serve the traditional meal (as a commander), see the visiting dignitary of the year off on the airplane, and then go and relax.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 11:10:58 AM

#4. I'll be heading to Key West. So, beach, drink with an umbrella...yes.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 11:12:23 AM
My heart goes out to all of you who are mourning loved ones who are gone or are not doing well. I know the holidays are a difficult time of year.

I figure why should a bunch of us sit home alone when we can all hang out together and enjoy the day so much more. We have taken a "more the merrier" attitude and anyone is welcome to invite people they know who they think will enjoy our company. I don't know why we didn't think of this years ago.

This is what we are doing this year. We are getting together with my brother, SIL and about 14-16 of their friends on one of their friends houseboat. Should be a fun time!

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Posted: 11/21/2012 12:13:06 PM
My husband doesn't care about Thanksgiving. However, I am ALL about Thanksgiving so we never not have it.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 12:20:18 PM
9. Family drama. do NOT want to go.


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Posted: 11/21/2012 1:09:27 PM
I'm really just blah about Thanksgiving. We go to my MILs for dinner for a couple hours and thats it. I say it's just a speedbump on the way to Christmas.

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Posted: 11/21/2012 2:37:25 PM
I'm from the UK, so I have never celebrated Thanksgiving. But since moving to the US, we have had several invites to join other families in their celebrations.
We accepted one of these invitations, and we are really looking forward to tomorrow. Although we don't relate to the origins of Thanksgiving, being surrounded by all the build up has made me think - and tomorrow I will celebrate and be thankful for all the good things in my life right now


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Posted: 11/21/2012 2:48:38 PM
A combination of things:

This year we aren't celebrating because SO's grandfather isn't doing well. We suspect he will pass in a few months. We are going to his house to have what he wants to have (spaghetti). It is just SO & I, 2 of our three children, SO's parents, and SO's brother, sister in law and nephew. It's important that we go and get to see him, possibly for the last time.

I am usually really into a lot of holidays but SO's family is so set in their ways about what they eat, what they do (basically eat and sit around for a few hours) that I don't really feel like it's my kind of Thanksgiving.
I have offered to do it at our house and they say they would rather do it like they have always done. The few members of my family either have large families of their own and/or live all over the country.

My dream Thanksgiving would be my family, friends that I consider my family and their family members. All together, loud, boisterous, lots of different foods, games. Instead Thanksgiving with the SO's family is pretty depressing.

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Posted: 11/22/2012 1:34:13 AM
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Posted: 11/22/2012 1:57:37 AM

1. You live in another country and don't celebrate the USA Thanksgiving
I'm in Australia and we don't have Thanksgiving here. It's always sounded like a nice holiday to me, but it makes me sad to read that some of you won't be celebrating for various reasons.

For those who enjoy Thanksgiving - have a happy day. Hugs to those who are having a hard time celebrating this year.


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Posted: 11/22/2012 2:48:54 AM
1. I'm in the UK and English. No thanksgiving here.
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Posted: 11/22/2012 2:54:39 AM
I don't have any family except for extended family and most of them are weird. I still celebrate with friends but if I am honest with myself it is truly painful!


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Posted: 11/22/2012 2:57:03 AM
Our kitchen faucet caused a huge leak under the sink, so cooking is super inconvenient this year! So we are going to a local restaurant between football games.

DH grew up with a traditional turkey Thanksgiving, but my family was far from traditional. If we had turkey, it was because we went to some big potluck gathering of family friends. Mom always made pies for those potlucks. If we stayed home, we had whatever we agreed on. Usually, it was pizza I actually enjoy cooking the full traditional meal (even though I personally don't care for 90% of it, haha) and DH appreciates it. I'm all about the leftovers myself: turkey chili, sandwiches, nachos.


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Posted: 11/22/2012 3:23:08 AM
DH and I live far away from family. We are not doing the traditional turkey dinner.I usually make lasagna for Thanksgiving.

We are having a movie day! Gonna catch the movie Lincoln!

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Posted: 11/22/2012 8:02:22 AM
Tough day here. Not sure if it's the weather or ?, but my fibro pain is more difficult today. Before I was diagnosed, I used to cook Thanksgiving dinner. When we lived in central Florida, our house was large enough to accommodate extended family from both sides of the family. The last time I was able to cook was in 2005. We usually go to my Sister's house or go out to eat. This Thanksgiving, DH is taking a new diet pill and isn't hungry and doesn't want to spend $ going out to eat. DS doesn't really care about Thanksgiving. So, we'll probably sit at home and relax. Sounds awful, huh?

But, on Saturday, DH and I are going on a cruise. I am very Thankful and happy we are able to go. DH really needs it as work has been a bear this year.

For those who usually celebrate the holiday and cannot for some reason, such as grief, finacial situations, crazy family, ect.....BIG HUGS to you. For those who posted and are from other countries, thank you for posting.


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Posted: 11/22/2012 8:07:24 AM
My mom hosts Thanskgiving even though I usually end up hauling up the turkey and potatoes because she's getting older. This year she didn't even tell us until Tuesday whether we were going out or staying in. She called Tuesday night asking me to bring some stuff.

Well, I've got a lovely cold and even stayed home from work on Wednesday. My mom is a HUGE Germaphobe. So, I finally called last night to tell her I wasn't coming. DH and kids are going up, so she'll be happy. I owe them big time.

Me and my little Boomer boy will have a quiet day at home watching the parade and eating junk food. Maybe even scrapbook.

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Posted: 11/22/2012 8:19:55 AM
We celebrate Thanksgiving but it's not a big deal to me and I wouldn't care if all future Thanksgivings were cancelled. We usually go to my MIL's house for dinner (except for years we go to Disney World!), but this year there's drama in DH's family that he wanted to stay away from, so we're just staying home with our immediate family. So I'm making the turkey and the traditional sides, but really the only part of it I enjoy is watching football.

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Posted: 11/22/2012 8:49:02 AM
We're celebrating with my Dad, sister, brother and a few other family members today but it's not going to be a "normal" Thanksgiving for us.

My Mom passed away in April and my fiance's sister passed away on the 14th. Grief is definitely a huge factor in my life right now. We're trying to get everything set for our New Year's Eve wedding and it's really hard to be joyful in the midst of so much sadness. My fiance leaves tomorrow for California for his sister's memorial service.


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Posted: 11/22/2012 9:14:25 AM

No we don't celebrate Thanksgiving in Australia but I do love that it is such a holiday in the US.

For those of you who do celebrate - enjoy and for those who don't celebrate enjoy your day doing what ever it is you do.


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Posted: 11/22/2012 9:23:54 AM
It's not a big deal for us. We have no family in the area, so it's really just another meal. We'll still have all the food, because we like it.

We have to move out of our current home in the next four weeks, and we still don't know 100% where we're moving to, so that is weighing heavy on our minds. Because of the holiday, the jobs we're looking at can't be pursued or discussed any further until Monday, so I'm kinda wishing it wasn't Thanksgiving right now .

I hope everyone has a really nice, safe day!

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Posted: 11/22/2012 9:59:15 AM
I just recently started a new job and the owners are Aussie. One in particular is crazy excited about having Thankgiving in the states. He says it's his favorite holiday since they didn't celebrate it back home.

I hope everyone is able to get through the day the best they can. <HUGS>


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Posted: 11/22/2012 12:38:21 PM
I am meh on Thanksgiving, mostly because my family tends to get on my last nerve after too much togetherness (we all stay together for a few days and it wears thin after a while.) This year we are going out to dinner at a hotel, which I am looking forward to, and cutting the weekend short because my DS has a basketball team trip departing Friday morning. Yay! I will get to spend time with my BFF whose mother died on Thanksgiving, which is another reason the holiday is bittersweet for me.

My best Thanksgiving ever was spent as a guest of a friend of a friend's family in upstate NY. They all played football out on the lawn covered in autumn leaves, ate at a huge table decorated with a real cornucopia, and had a raucous game of charades after dinner. It was like something out of a movie! Also, I had no stake in any family drama that was taking place. It was more than 20 years ago but still my favorite celebration.
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