Do parents buy anniversary gifts for their married children?

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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:11:55 PM
We receive anniversary money from both my father and my in-laws. Not my mother.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 3:43:58 PM
I would think the kids might buy one for parents for the big milestone anniversaries. Our parents don't get us anniversary gifts, sometimes my mom sends a card.
I think the anniversary is between the couple.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:27:18 PM
I dont have any married children yet, but could see getting them a gift for special years...1, 10, 25( if I am still alive).

DH and I have gotten his parents gifts for big numbers...their 25th was the same year we married and we gave them a special dinner with family. For 30 we sent them to dinner and a Broadway show. For 40 we all went on a cruise our treat. This coming year is our 25th and their 50th. MIL has been battling cancer. Assuming she is doing well, we plan to take them to Florida nexy summer...and will arrange for vow renewals for all of us. Here's hoping they are both healthy enough (he is 81 and she is 74).

They have always taken us out for dinner and given us a card.

My parents are both deceased. They werent divorced but were legally seperated all of my adult life. My dad always gave us cash to go out or buy ourselves something. But he always looked for any excuse to give us money, that was just him.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:37:06 PM
I've always acknowledged both my parents and my in-laws anniversaries. My parents don't send a card/gift (which I'm totally fine with) on ours but my inlaws always do.
When our kids were little, my in-laws would send us on a weekend get-a-way every single year. They would watch all of our kids (and yes, we have 6) AND run our B&B (at the time we were innkeepers). Seriously, I have the most amazing/thoughtful in-laws!!! Once the kids got older, they would give us a gc to a nice restaurant. BUT on our 'big' anniversaries - both 10 and 20 - they sent us on a 10 day Alaskan cruise.
I always acknowledge the anniversaries of our kids that are married but not to the extent that my inlaws have with us! Just a card and a phone call.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:58:50 PM
No. I don't know if DH's mother and stepdad even remember when our anniversary is. My mother will occasionally send a card if she thinks about it, but no gift. She remembers the date because DH and I were married on what would have been her and my dad's anniversary if they had not divorced when I was a child. Her and my dad and a fun laugh about that at our wedding.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:04:50 PM
My MIL buys us a gift, and while I think it's kind, I do think it's odd. (And unfortunately, it's usually some sort of Willow Tree figurine- not at all my kind of thing.) My family never ever celebrated any kind of anniversary. I don't even think I knew what the dates were.

My mother does not acknowledge our anniversary other than to say Happy Anniversary if we happen to be on the phone on that particular day.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:06:23 PM
My mom sends us a check each year.

My dad's parents did this for my parents, so the tradition carried on with my sister and I.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:10:05 PM
Not in my world. We consider the anniversary to be between the couple

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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:23:20 PM
My parents have gotten us an anniversary present every year. They follow the chart where each year has a different item (either traditional or modern). But usually with a twist, for example, the first year is paper, so we got a whole tote full of paper products that we could use (and money). The funny one was the 14th year was Ivory, but knowing we wouldn't use anything made from Ivory (elephant husks) we got Ivory dishsoap and Ivory brand bath soap (and money). It was funny.

We don't get anything from ILs, but that side doesn't send cards for anything.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:26:04 PM
We even get cards and money from my grandparents.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:39:02 PM
my mom usually gets DH and i a gift card, something for the house or some cash to go for dinner. my dad wouldn't have a clue when my anniversary was.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 5:48:50 PM
My parents had a bunch of things that they had inherited. For our anniv, they would a few things for us to choose from. For our engagement, they gave us a set of Irish linen from Dad's world-traveling aunt, and a white cut work embroidered coverlet that the nuns had made for my Mom's mother for her wedding. My Grandmother's parents died when she was young and she spent some time in their orphanage before moving in with her older sisters (one of her sister was a nun).

This was a very special way for my folks to share these special things and see our appreciation before they, too, passed. Note: My mom is still alive but her memory is very spotty now at 92.


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Posted: 11/26/2012 6:25:50 PM
I always send my sister and her DH an anny GC/check, also. But I also have a very parental relationship with her in a lot of ways.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 6:47:43 PM

No.. in my family the only people who exchange gifts for an anniversary are the two who married each other. The rest of us may say "congratulations" but that is about the extent of it..

well..other than super big anniversaries like 50.

Same in our family.

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Posted: 11/26/2012 9:02:10 PM
My in-laws send us a gift every year. My favorite gift was on our first anniversary, they sent us paper plates, napkins, and cups! It was very nice. I also really loved the tablecloth and placemats they gave us for our 3rd anniversary. This year they sent some kitchen stuff from Pampered Chef. Oh and my Mother-in-law sends me these great homemade pot scrubber things!

My parents also send gifts. Usually it is money or gift card for dinner. On our 1st anniversary my Mom made us a beautiful quilt. She used material from my Grandmother. I use that quilt every night! I love it!

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Posted: 11/26/2012 9:12:27 PM
My grandparents always did for their grown children and grandchildren and my parents do the same for us. It's nice!
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