A young friend just let me know she is pregnant, how can I support her?

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Posted 12/3/2012 by clee321 in NSBR Board
 

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Posted: 12/3/2012 10:19:22 AM
So excited that my friend is pregnant. She has great support all the way around - her boyfriend, parents, family, friends.

She is young, smart, creative, adorable! I just love this girl.

I was in my 30s before I had my first child, so I don't know what a young person might need support-wise during their first pregnancy.

Please may I have advice for how to support a friend who is younger than 21 and pregnant for the first time?

Thank you!!!



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Posted: 12/3/2012 10:22:11 AM
I would think it would be the same as when everyone else has their kids. Congratulations, participate in baby shower(s), go and visit when they have the baby either at the hospital or after they get home, bring food during those first few weeks, offer to babysit, etc.



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Posted: 12/3/2012 10:25:49 AM

I would think it would be the same as when everyone else has their kids.


I know at 19-21 I wasn't as established as I was at 31, so I was hoping for ideas on what I can do to support her.




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Posted: 12/3/2012 10:59:32 AM
I don't really see it as being all that different from supporting someone who is older. I guess the one thing that I appreciated was when a friend would offer to babysit DS for me from time to time........even if it was just to let me go to the grocery store by myself. I was a single mom and was 18 when I had DS. I didn't have much money and definitely couldn't afford to pay a babysitter. I guess a lot of young people live at home with their parents and their parents help out. My mom didn't live in the same state anymore, much less me living in the same house, so those friends who offered to babysit from time to time were a godsend.





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Posted: 12/3/2012 11:10:13 AM

My mom didn't live in the same state anymore, much less me living in the same house, so those friends who offered to babysit from time to time were a godsend.


Great, thank you! Her family moved earlier this year, so that is a great reminder that she won't have that option available.



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Posted: 12/3/2012 11:51:33 AM
If she's got support and isn't going to be a single mom, then I would imagine it's just the same as everyone else who starts a family

good for her
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