|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:12:15 PM|I was raised by a single mom who worked 2 crappy jobs to keep a roof over our heads so almost everything I have now is a splurge compared to what I had as a kid. But one thing I really appreciate is HEAT in my house. We had heat growing up but my mom was a MISER with the furnace. I usually slept in a sweat suit plus flannel night gown, socks, mittens & hat & LOTS of blankets. Now I crank that sucker up as high as I want & LOVE it!
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:13:15 PM|Movies. Oh my God, I freaking love buying movies. My parents only bought like 4-5 movies total growing up. We had a VCR and later a DVD player, but they would never ever buy us movies we asked for. They said we could rent anything we wanted (1x/week-ish), but that they didn't understand why we would want to watch the same movie over and over again.
My brother also has an obsession with buying movies. His collection is much greater than mine.
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Loc: Washington State
|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:28:19 PM|Pants that aren't floods
Fresh fruits and veggies, there were 6 of us and 4 kids can go through a lot of fruit so we didn't get it often.
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Loc: Big Sky Country
|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:32:34 PM|
Milk and garbage bags. During the 70's there were no such things as garbage bags, at least not in our house.
One of my jobs was to line the garbage bin with newspaper after I had washed and dried it out. I hated, hated, hated that job. We also had iced tea every night for dinner and had koolaid for lunch, the only you got milk, was for breakfast.
I'll never be without garbage bags or milk again, my two boys would go through a gallon of milk every two days. It's still their favorite drink.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:35:26 PM|Like a PP said--Everything!
My kids will never have to have their hot dogs or hamburgers on mushy white bread because buns are too expensive like I did.
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Loc: Phoenix, AZ area
|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:39:22 PM|
oh, I forgot! I don't consciously think about it as a 'splurge' but it definitely is:
Our television, surround sound, DVR, DVD/blu ray player, etc. Growing up, we only ever had a 19-inch television with basic cable. (That's all they STILL have, actually, with a VCR that neither of them know how to use.)
We now have a 64-inch television, 6-speaker surround sound, high-def cable package, DVD/blue-ray player, etc. and we LOVE it!! We both love watching movies and television, and we LOVE having a really good system on which to do it.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:40:09 PM|
The yearly vacation was going to see relatives. We got to got for a long weekend to Six Flags once or twice.
I'd never been to Disney until I went to Orlando for a work conference.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:47:52 PM|
I can honestly say....nothing. Our family was not rich...dad worked in a machine shop and mom worked in the church office. But we NEVER wanted for anything and I cannot think of one single thing that I splurge on now because I didn't have it then....
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:53:02 PM|
Vacations and quality family time days. We weren't poor, we just didn't vacation much. In my entire childhood we went on vacation about 4 times.
As an adult with my family do mini-vaycay days when ever we can all year long. We take a vacation at the end of the Summer every year.
Loc: SF Bay Area, CA
|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:56:30 PM|OP your initial post has me cracking up! Just the picture of someone running around putting tape on EVeryThing...hahhaha Too funny!
I tend to splurge on a bunch of things this way. Home decor stuff is one area. Our house growing up was pretty bare and I always admired well-decorated homes, especially ones that were seasonally themed. Also, special occasion clothes is another one. I feel like it's such a luxury to be able to buy myself or my girls an outfit for a special occasion. Hmm, I guess I just like being able to "mark the season", as that was something I didn't really experience growing up.
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Loc: all up in your business
|Posted: 12/6/2012 1:59:22 PM|
I was raised by a single mom who worked 2 crappy jobs to keep a roof over our heads so almost everything I have now is a splurge compared to what I had as a kid. But one thing I really appreciate is HEAT in my house. We had heat growing up but my mom was a MISER with the furnace. I usually slept in a sweat suit plus flannel night gown, socks, mittens & hat & LOTS of blankets. Now I crank that sucker up as high as I want & LOVE it!
This made me think of something! Water! I know it's totally environmentally wasteful, but I pretty much use as much water as I want. When I was a kid, I had to use my mom's old, cold bathwater and now I take as many hot baths as I want, when I want. LOVE my baths.
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
Loc: all up in your business
|Posted: 12/6/2012 2:02:32 PM|
Random: anyone remember powdered milk? I think my mom (single teen parent) may have gotten it from the commodity program or something, but it was a generic version of the Carnation powdered milk and it was watery and gritty.
I will NEVER drink powdered milk again and processed cheese reminds me of "government cheese."
My mom fed me on $50 a month and I never went hungry, so kudos to her and her garden and shopping skills.
Loc: Mesa, Arizona
|Posted: 12/6/2012 2:14:21 PM|
Going out to eat, Toilet paper! 2 ply! I don't buy generic brand toilet paper. We always had 1 ply or the cheap stuff growing up. My dad always said toilet paper is toilet paper be happy to have it. I buy the biggest package I can find! LOL!
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Loc: Husker by Heart in WI
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:11:11 PM|
It still pulls my heartstrings to this day to see my kids wandering eyes in the crowd and see thier face completely light up when the see me or dh. I clearly remember doing the same as a little girl and the slight sadness I'd feel when I couldn't find my mom or dad in the crowd.
Ok, this has me in tears. You poor thing. That breaks my heart. Especially since tonight is my 6yr old's christmas concert and he does the exact same thing... scans the audience and then YELLS a big loud "MOM! DAD! There you are!!!!"
I better not cry now at my son's concert girl!
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:15:42 PM|
I splurge on hiring things done.
When I was growing up, my dad would fix, build, "do" everything and never without a lot of yelling and anger.
Now I pay a plumber, electrician, appliance repairman happily. It took years before I would let DH fix anything. He taught me it can be done without drama!
Loc: Big Sky Country
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:27:35 PM|
anyone remember powdered milk? I think my mom (single teen parent) may have gotten it from the commodity program or something, but it was a generic version of the Carnation powdered milk and it was watery and gritty.
Yes! My mom used to wait until nighttime to make and mix in the powdered milk into the cartons when they were half full. If she forgot to do it at night she'd be busted because everyone knew what happened if they had foamy, warm and gritty milk for breakfast. My poor mother was always trying to make what little household money we had go farther.
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and hear what they listen for.
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Loc: SCV, CA
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:28:45 PM|
I better not cry now at my son's concert girl!
No! No tears!! Just enjoy the moment!! My 3yo DD has her recital on the 15th and I too 'promised' not to cry!!
Will I ever get to Buckethead?!
Loc: NW Ohio
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:31:45 PM|
Good bread. Never had soft bread growing up and now I insist on it even though DH thinks I'm crazy.
Loc: Out and About
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:42:05 PM|
Store bought underwear!! My mom made all ours, and as soon as I turned 13 or 14 and started babysitting and earning money on my own I bought all my own. I will never forget how humiliated I felt in Jr high Gym class with my homemade panties. My brothers got BVD's and Hanes briefs but we girls got mom made and they weren't always cotton knit or even tricot and most times the leg elastic was wonky.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:53:50 PM|
Orange Juice. My step-father would limit the amount of OJ we could have. We could only drink it in the morning in the tiny juice glasses.
As soon as I left I bought lots of OJ and drink it at night with dinner in a big glass LOL!
But, looking back, I'm glad he limited the amount of Juice we drank (we mostly drank water, milk and lemonade made with real lemons, no kool-aid, no soda) knowing what I know now about drinking a lot juice and soda and the connection to being overweight.
But back then, I thought he was just a meany.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:54:50 PM|
Pretty much everything. For multiple reasons, my parents had to be very frugal (plus my mom is osmewhat cheap by nature), so anything I spend money on that is not an absolute life necessity (other than vacations) would be considered a splurge.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:55:51 PM|
Juice. Especially orange and grape juice. Growing up, we were only allowed to have juice in these tiny juice glasses. Yup, there were juice glasses and they had orange slices decorating them, so you could tell. They held very little. I wanted a large glass of juice at breakfast, but no, not possible . Juice is only served in the specific juice glasses, and it was only a few swallows. I wanted juice at other times of the day. No way. Juice was only allowed at breakfast, not for lunch or snack or at dinner. I told my mother that it made no sense because there were no real juice rules. She condescendingly told me I would think differently when I grew up. Nope! I moved out of the house and promptly started drinking juice out of regular glasses, any time of the day I chose. Still do.
Chicken. We seldom ever had chicken, and it is one of my favorite foods. When my mother served chicken, it was always shake and bake chicken legs. I liked white meat better, but a leg was better than nothing. So once I moved out, I started eating chicken most nights. I still seldom serve red meat.
Clothes. I am no fashion diva and I don't own a lot of clothes, but as a child, I got a new skirt or pair of pants and a couple shirts in August for school, and that was it. I usually had to wear one outfit two days and another for three to school. I dreamed of having enough clothes to wear a different outfit every day of the week, except maybe wearing the same pants a few times. I remember the first time I owned two pair of jeans at the same time. It felt quite decadent! I always made sure that my dc had enough clothes so they didn't need to wear the same outfit repeatedly the same week. I don't go for expensive brands, but my dc have always been appropriately dressed and had enough shirts for each day and weather.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 3:57:39 PM|going to the movies - we rarely went unless it was to the $1 theater
vacations - we took a couple of "road trips" in the car - 18 plus hours
i have fond memories of them and i know how hard my parents worked but i want to try to give more experiences to my kids
i cannot wait to take them everywhere and of disneyworld
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 4:11:34 PM|I love this thread! I have so much in common with you guys (Scotch tape - brand name too, thick tp, chicken breasts, juice) but my biggest splurge is heat! When it's cold - I turn up the thermostat!!! I feel like a reckless heiress cranking it up to 70 degrees when it's -25 outside I guess I could also say air conditioning and cable, but I'm still not sure that those are budget things for them - I think that they just don't "trust" them
Loc: Lovin Life in CA
|Posted: 12/6/2012 4:22:17 PM|
FLY-I never had flown in a plane till I was married. We drove everywhere as a kid, on all our vacations. As an adult, I hate to drive!!! We will get on a plane, with our family of 7, without blinking an eye at the cost, because that was something I never did as a kid.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 4:26:24 PM|
A birthday party. I always wanted a birthday party with all my friends and balloons and a cake and games but I never had one. You can bet my children had a birthday party, sometimes a big one with 20 or 30 kids and other times birthday parties at the bowling alley or swimming etc. Oh, and a picnic, I always wanted to do picnics and cookouts but my Mom and Dad wouldn't. We cookout all the time now and I still love it!!
|Posted: 12/6/2012 4:28:22 PM|
And homecooked meals, especially fried chicken (probably why I have a weight problem now, LOL). My mom was a nurse, she worked every day and got home late. I HONESTLY remember that my favorite meal growing up was a Swanson frozen dinner. The one with in an aluminum pan that you heated in the oven. My favorite was the one with English peas, fried chicken and mashed potatos.
When does football season start?
|Posted: 12/6/2012 4:30:48 PM|
I grew up poor too, similar to Free Bird's upbringing. And yes, for us even McDonalds was a rare treat! My mom too was also a bargain shopper and made sure we had an awesome Christmas every year. I tend to splurge more on things for myself. I know my Mom went without while we were growing up. I'm also blessed in that I don't have to do that so I treat myself nicely. It's probably also the reason I only had one child.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 4:47:11 PM|
Interesting thread. I think I splurge on being more involved and intentional with my kids. I also think creating traditions and a more relaxed environment. Grew up in an authoritarian household which always felt like walking on egg shells.
Even Christmas was uptight.
And, yes, I have bought my kids toys I wanted like a sit and spin and never got.
My parents did well financially but it did not equate to a more happy experience although I did have plenty of material things.
My DH grew up with the generic brand of toys/clothes, so I know for him it's nice that we have more freedom to buy what we want for the kids.
Oh, one may thing. I was a picky eater and always caught grief for it as a kid. As an adult I feel no guilt when I order what I want.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 5:12:32 PM|I have to laugh at the chicken references. I HATE chicken.
I had to clean the coops; gather the eggs; I had to cut the heads off; I had to pluck them; wet them keep plucking; wet feathers ewwww. Then we had chicken for a meal; then we had chicken for leftovers; to this day I detest the smell of reheated chicken; then there was the boiling of the carcus. Then for days and days and days chicken soup.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 5:32:30 PM|Ohhhh, yes, powdered milk. Processed gov't-issued cheese. (We got Grandma's, cuz even she had standards and wouldn't touch it!) and did anyone else "snack" on raw hotdogs?
And OHHHHH, homemade underwear!!! YES! I never dreamed anyone else lived through the horrors of those things like I did!!!
The bad news is, my mother is an excellent seamstress. She has great skills. But she has HORRIBLE taste in patterns and colors!!!
Picture it: the Junior High locker room.
Everyone standing around in their tidy whities (this is the old days, pre-VS) and new bras, and there, off in the corner stands a little girl in her sisters old, ratty training bra, and her...what??? What *IS* that she's wearing???
Those would be her homemade panties, with lovely, bold, patriotic red, white and blue eagles all over them!
Two unfortunate pair. They wore like iron, and lasted years longer than I could ever have imagined.
That's when I started begging for jobs and saving money to buy my own clothes.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 5:56:42 PM|
Vacations. I did not go without much as a child but my dad started a business when I was 10 and after that we hardly ever went on vacations as a family. My older sisters traveled with my parents a lot but my younger brother and I got caught in the "new business no money" trap and then it was "more money but can't leave the business" trap. It makes me sad. My parents were always sending us on school trips and stuff so I have been all over the place but not with my parents. We take at least 1 just-our-family vacation every year. I want my kiddos to have great memories with me.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 5:59:08 PM|
Name brand clothes and sneakers for my kids. I always had the off brand (no Jordache for me-I remember I had "Calabas", LOL).
Same with sneakers. I remember how badly I wanted light blueNike sneakers with a royal blue swoosh. And I had to get the ones from Sears instead! My son wears sneakers and runs around all the time, so I do get him the shoes he wants.
Also if there is something my kids really want for Christmas they get it. No "almost" toys for them. They can ask Sanat for one specific thing and it is pretty much a guarantee they will get it (within reason).
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Loc: NorCal wine country
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:19:58 PM|
Three main things for me:
Dish soap - no dishwasher at my house except me and my mom bought the store brand really thin pink or yellow stuff that was so abrasive to my hands and had no bubbles. For years I only bought Palmolive (remember those "Madge" commercials?)or Ivory Liquid. I still only buy really good dish soap.
Kleenex and toilet paper - my mom never bought Kleenex. She had really bad allergies but always carried a roll of toilet paper around with her and stuffed the used squares in the tube. GAG me!! I inherited her allergies but I buy nothing but the Kleenex with lotion in it. Along the same vein is TP. Ours growing up was like sandpaper. For years I only bought Charmin. Now I buy a less expensive but still soft brand.
Butter - my mom only used margarine and I decided long ago I'd rather have the fat from butter than the chemicals from margarine.
Am I allowed one more?... leftovers. Hate them. I just can't make myself eat most of them.
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Loc: Saint Louis
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:22:36 PM|
FLY-I never had flown in a plane till I was married. We drove everywhere as a kid, on all our vacations. As an adult, I hate to drive!!!
We grew up middle class and I don't remember wanting for much.
Except my mom always bought canned vegetables. I didn't know vegetables could even taste good as a kid. I would eat corn and it was okay, but one time we went to a friend's bbq party and I had grilled corn-on-the-cob. Wow...corn can actually be yummy!
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:31:45 PM|
Traveling in vacation by PLANE. We drove everywhere. Our annual vacation was to Northern Maine to visit family - driving all the way from Wisconsin. My dad would take his two week vacation and half of it was time spent in the car.
This was also the only vacations we ever took. I have great memories and really wouldn't trade the experience, but oh how I longed to go to Disney, or the ocean, or anywhere other than the place where everyone but us spoke French.
My first airplane ride was on our honeymoon to Mexico. My first trip to Disney (andUniversal Orlando) was after we were married 6 years (oldest dd was 4).
Now we go on annual vacations and FLY. We have been alternating a big vacation with a less expensive trip every other year. In 2010 and in 2012 we did go to Northern Maine to visit. My husband androids had never been there. It is as far North and East in the states that you can get, on of the four corners. We had a great time. The great part was that we FLEW most of the way, instead of being in the car for two-plus days. I am sure that the experience was that much better for DH and kids because of the travel. It was their favorite vacation, so we went back two years later. This ay become the less expensive every other year trip.
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Loc: Nashville, TN!
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:36:34 PM|
Jeans. For me and for my sons. My father thought girls shouldn't wear jeans so I rarely had more than 1 pair and I was tortured over my clothing all thru school.
My sons are very well-dressed.
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:41:47 PM|
staying in nice motels.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:42:54 PM|
The holidays. My parents were Jewish and we did celebrate Hanukkah, but really no tradition, meals or special events. They were not really religious. Just lit the candles and had gifts each night. It was fun, but they pretty much stopped when I was about 12 years old. After that age they would let me choose one nice gift which I received it on the first night and that was it, no further festivities. This was not due to finances, just their age and perspective. They were older when they had me and I think they just did not have the energy.
Do not get me wrong, I did have a great childhood and wonderful parents, but I missed not having holiday traditions.
So now I have fun. Do not celebrate Hanukkah or Christmas for religious reasons - but just kind of keep a festive environment. We have established our own traditions on Christmas day since it is holiday time off of work. We go over the top with wish lists, surprises, exchange tons of gifts and eat holiday food with friends. Been doing this for 20 years now and look forward to it every year.
Loc: Washington State
|Posted: 12/6/2012 6:57:19 PM|
Tissues. Not exactly a "splurge" item but we had to use toilet paper to blow our noses.
I was just coming back to post tissues too Tissues were too expensive and fancy!
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 7:28:16 PM|
Silky underwear. My mother thought it was only worn by women with loose morals. So I was raised in cotton granny panties. Now I spend a lot on nice panties and the majority of them are silky.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 7:37:15 PM|Good, high-end food. I was raised on hot dogs, mac and cheese and pasta when I was younger. Part of this choice is a lifestyle choice, but a huge part is never indulging in food as a child. In retrospect, I realize that choice was completely budget driven for both my and DH's parents. I honestly thought that Red Lobster was "fine dining" as it was such a treat to go there
DH and I aren't loaded, but we spend well above and beyond what I would consider "average" on groceries every week. I buy expensive butter and cheeses, grass fed meats and pastured eggs. We buy gourmet chocolate, micro-brew beers and higher-end wines. For birthdays and special celebrations we dine at high-end celebrity chef restaurants. On the flip side, 50% of our wardrobes come from Goodwill. Great food is definitely the thing in our lives we've chosen to be super-indulgent with.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 7:37:15 PM|
I was raised by a disabled single mom, and there were four of us kids....we got by with help from family, church, and child support, but it was tight tight tight.
I buy butter. REAL butter. We always had this horrible discount margarine growing up, except for Thanksgiving and Christmas, when we got real butter. I swore I would always use real butter as an adult, and I do.
Also--pants. We got our clothing second hand or from cheapie stores, and I am tall. They don't have long length jeans readily available, so after I was about 15 or so I wore shorts to school everysingle day rather than the extreme highwaters I would be stuck with otherwise. Dead of winter, there I am walking through the snow to school in shorts and a sweater. Sucked. I buy long length jeans now.
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Loc: monitoring lucy
|Posted: 12/6/2012 7:40:43 PM|
Good produce. My mom only bought red delicious apples in a big bag. To this day, I think the reason I say I don't like apples is because in my mind, an apple is a soft 'red delicious' apple.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 9:57:00 PM|What an interesting topic of discussion!
I recently had my mum stay for a month and asked her if she'd like smoked salmon and brie on her roll. She made a comment that she can't have that. When I asked why, she replied it was too expensive! I gave it to her anyway, as I always have smoked salmon and brie in my fridge! She has always had this mentality of class difference - "we 'can't' eat that because we aren't rich".
Thankfully, I no longer live 'blue collar budget' and splurge on what I was brought up to believe 'rich people's food', lol. Smoked salmon, brie, organic beef butt fillet, organic lamb, etc. If I can afford it, then it's obtainable. I'm still working towards Beluga Caviar!
My other splurge is in my craft room. I rarely look at prices if I want something scrappy/crafty. It's definitely an indulgence!
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 10:06:47 PM|
Was a teen during the 1970s and dad worked for Chevy. It got pretty lean some of those years, I will only buy "name brands" on many items and only use REAL butter.
"A full pantry is a thing of beauty" to me as well. We were never "food insecure" but came close a few times.
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|Posted: 12/6/2012 10:06:53 PM|
|Posted: 12/6/2012 10:11:16 PM|Clothes! And hair.
My dad got very sick and couldn't work when I was in 7th grade- and they had just sold our small starter home, bought a nicer big house, mom was working since all of us were in school...it was very bad. We ended up losing the house. I was in jr high and clothes were so important, but there was just no money. Everyone was school shopping and I felt it so acutely! So now I dress my kids in "cool" stuff, and take them to get highlights, etc. The funny thing is we home school, and niether one could care less- I practically have to force my oldest into the chair for a haircut, and her brand name clothes are meaningless! but it still is important to me that they look nice and have what the other kids do...even if I lucked out and they could care less!