Loc: Central California
|Posted: 12/6/2012 10:16:20 PM|
My mom thought they were the biggest waste of money and would get so mad at me when I would buy a magazine. I was never allowed to have a year subscription to anything.
As an adult I have 15 different subscriptions. I know it's because of my youth - I get so happy everything a magazine shows up in my mail box.
Mom, wife, CASA advocate, baseball fanatic and wine drinker
Blogging my way through life at Meandering Steph
|Posted: 12/6/2012 10:22:07 PM|Vacations. We never took vacations when I was a kid. Just didn't have the money. My kids are spoiled with the traveling we've done. Great memory making!
Clothes. I grew up with mainly hand-me-downs. I was always self-conscious about it. Now my kids don't always get everything they want, but they do look hip and cool.
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Loc: Oklahoma City
|Posted: 12/6/2012 10:38:44 PM|
Nice and high thread count sheets.
Quality pots and pans
Beautiful shower curtains.
Family couch where you can lay down, sit and jump on it.
Going to the movies. I can't wait to take my own kids Both kids don't like loud, dark, little scary or dark movies. I got a long way. It's not like the theater show Dora or Diego.
Try to participate in school activities as much as I can
Michel's Mom ~ Sugar Plum's Mummie
Loc: Land of Enchantment - Louisiana girl in a Southwest world.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 11:02:48 PM|
Well, first thing that comes to mind is TWO-PLY (NOT that one-ply stuff!!!) toilet paper and using how much I feel I need! Taking a shower when I need it even if it is TWICE a day! And flushing the @#$% toilet!
There are many other things I'm KNOW I do opposite of how my mother did things (like clean the kitchen as I go) but that is the first 3 I thought of. I didn't go overboard like my younger sister and get totally wasteful. I HOPE that I'm a happy "medium". Not too wasteful and not too stingy.
Oh, I hated gardening too BUT I much prefer home grown vegetables. I can't do much gardening where I live now, I've only been able to get tomatoes sometimes. But I'd love it if I could grow tomatoes, speckled butter beans and a few other things, I'd be thrilled!
|Angie ~ Snoopy, Amanda, Michel, Davy, Benji, & Onkita - my fur kids!
Red, Black & Tan, & Double Dapple mini Dachshund's! Is it Snoopy or Snoopea?
Michel 9, Onkita 14, Jeannie the Chiweenie 14, and Sugar Plum 16 years!
|Posted: 12/6/2012 11:03:37 PM|Real butter instead of margarine. I remember once our rich cousins came to stay with us, and one of them asked if we had any butter. I go to the fridge and pull out the ol' Imperial Margarine, and he says, "No, I mean REAL butter." I was like I had no idea what he was talking about.
When my kids get older I will let them order a book from the classroom book order each month (like Scholastic) if they want. My mom hardly ever let us order from the book club.
Otherwise, I try to play with my kids more. I don't ever remember my mom playing with us or spending time with us doing what we wanted. She was always on the phone or bustling around the house. I try to spend a little time each day just focusing on DS, letting him be the center of attention for a few minutes, really listening to him. Even if all he wants to do is play dumb Spiderman Ninjago Avengers games.
|Posted: 12/6/2012 11:10:19 PM|
I was just commenting to my husband today that I love the fact that once every few years I get a package of bows and use the sticky new bows on gifts. When I was a kid we reused those things to death, that and wrapping paper. I still remember digging through the box of used ribbon bows and using scotch tape to stick them on presents, and going through last year's gift tags to reattach to Christmas gifts. If I did really well I could wrap this year's gift in last year's paper and not even remove the tag!
I still have a hard time ripping wrapping paper, even though it all goes in the recycle. My husband's family was the same way, he said they'd use a knife to slit the tape off of the wrapping paper. Beck I'm so indulgent, sometimes I wrap stuff in scrapbooking paper!
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Loc: San Jose, CA
|Posted: 12/7/2012 12:00:55 AM|
a vacation that wasn't at Lake Almanor
a Sunday not going to church
dessert almost every night
some leeway in attitude
it rhymes with banana
mom to a 21 yo dd, 14 yo ds, and 11 yo ds and a scrapper for 13 years
Loc: NY'er now living in Europe
|Posted: 12/7/2012 3:14:41 AM|
So now, I make sure me or dh are there for everything. It still pulls my heartstrings to this day to see my kids wandering eyes in the crowd and see thier face completely light up when the see me or dh. I clearly remember doing the same as a little girl and the slight sadness I'd feel when I couldn't find my mom or dad in the crowd.
You had to go there
My DDs are 13 and 11 and I have gone to EVERY darn thing they have ever participated in. This past Tuesday, dd13 had a choir concert. We all went. During the concert, the director kept plugging for us to support another teacher and buy scarves to help young girls in Nepal.
So after, I went looking through them to pick one out. Dd11 keeps telling me to stop touching them and just buy one, to just hurry up that it is embarrassing that I am taking so long. So I fork over 45 euros for a scarf that as it turns out, has a nice big run through it.
Then I turn around and dd13 starts up, Dad is too loud and embarrassing her and I should not say things to her in front of other people... there was a dessert/wine/juice table after.
So we just left and when I got in the car I yelled that I was NEVER GOING TO A FUNCTION FOR YOU TWO EVER AGAIN, since we embarrass you so much. and here I thought I as a cool mom
AS FAR as the OP... a new(er) car. My dad duct taped our cars together including a pick up truck and van. I grew up outside of Manhattan where at the time, people did NOT drive vans or pick up trucks, let alone duct taped ones.
Old Pea Coven member wannabe
Loc: here, there and everywhere
|Posted: 12/7/2012 4:42:16 AM|
This is silly, but proper food storage containers WITH THE LIDS ALREADY ON THEM. My mom saved every kind of container, and you had to hunt through a huge pile of lids for the right one. Drove me crazy.
So now, I have a few nice containers, and they are stored with the lids on.
Loc: Why do you want to know?
|Posted: 12/7/2012 5:06:07 AM|
2 full bathrooms. When I got divorced and was looking at houses to buy, I refused to look at any that didn't have a full size master bath....and bigger than 4x6. lol. Growing up there were 6 of us with a SMALL bathroom. OMG it sucked on Sunday mornings. Needless to say I never looked great on a Sunday. haha. And the bathroom didn't have a fan.......ugh.
Also, going to the movies. And buying popcorn and a soda. This was something we never ever had the money for...so going to the movies is STILL a treat for me. And I'm 40. lol (and its still equally expensive as it was when I was a kid!! It's still definitely a splurge!)
**Live your dreams, not your fears**
Loc: Why do you want to know?
|Posted: 12/7/2012 5:12:43 AM|
OMG I forgot about this!!!! Hahaha. Yes. Hot dog and hamburger buns. No white bread instead of buns!!! LOL. And NO mixing powdered milk with whole milk. Barf. But that was better than when they could only afford powdered milk only!
My kids will never have to have their hot dogs or hamburgers on mushy white bread because buns are too expensive like I did.
**Live your dreams, not your fears**
Loc: Indianapolis, IN
|Posted: 12/7/2012 5:18:09 AM|
Clothes, clothes & more clothes. My sister is the same way. We grew up under very humble conditions & that meant neither of us had many clothes.
"I think we are drawn to dogs because they are the unhibited creatures we might be if we weren't certain we knew better" George Bird Evans
"Handle every stressful situation like a dog (aka Lab ): If you can't eat it or play with it, pee on it & walk away!" (author unknown)
Loc: Central Iowa
|Posted: 12/7/2012 6:24:14 AM|
Mom and Dad are the most conservative people I know. In their defense, though, the 70s and 80s were 'survival' years for farmers with no off-the-farm incomes. We were POOR. We burned wood for heat and grew or raised as much of our food as we could...mom even milked a cow and churned our own butter the whole time I lived there. I had a $30 allowance and had to buy my own toiletries, clothes and school lunch. We had no 'material' comforts unless we could buy them at garage sales, so now I buy whatever I want.
That said, it's kind of like a skinny person saying they can eat whatever they want...they just don't want much. I'm working out this morning on a nice treadmill that I researched and saved for for several months. But, I'm wearing four year old tennis shoes and a sweatshirt from the early 90s.
I'm not as conservative as my folks, but I do have a pretty good sense of the difference between want and need and stay within our means for most things. It helps that dh has a good job. If we had to be penny-pinchers, I had a good foundation of how to do it.
So....my splurges? Probably nice clothes and LOTS of sweetened cereal.
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Loc: Deep in the heart of...
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:21:54 AM|School pictures. I only have two sets of school/class pictures from my elementary school years, because my parents were too poor to pay for them most years. Even though I generally don't like the quality of school photos now, I always make sure my kids get the least expensive packet so they have a class photo and a photo of themselves from each year.
|Kristen, lucky mom and proud retired Army wife!
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:59:15 AM|
After school activites and summer camps.
My daughter is in three dance classes and my son in archery. We do swim team every summer and year round when the kids want it. I never went to fun summer activities. Just had to stay home once we were too old for day care. I remember being SOOOO bored. Of course my mom was a single mom until jr high and she worked full time after she remarried. We didn't live close enough to go somewhere on our own so we were stuck at home all day totally bored for 9-10 hrs a day. I think I was 13-14 when I got my hands on an old sewing machine and taught myself to sew some crappy sun dresses but it was something!
|Posted: 12/7/2012 9:04:30 AM|
My parents never really took any pictures. Basically we had just our school pictures. I think 1 Christmas she did buy my sister a camera (that took 110 film).
In fact, other than maybe a year where they had a polaroid camera, my mom never had a camera until about 3 years ago (and my mom is 75 years old).
Loc: Home Sweet Home
|Posted: 12/7/2012 9:29:43 AM|
I came from a family with 8 kids. My dad had a decent job but supporting 10 people was difficult. We never got to dine out as a family.
My splurge would definitely be dining out. We do it pretty often.
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Loc: At the intersection of Hooterville and Stars Hollow
|Posted: 12/7/2012 1:19:16 PM|Mrs green jeans I am so sorry but your patriotic undies story was so well told I was like . Then I was like .
Then I read it again and was like again.
Loc: SW Ohio
|Posted: 12/7/2012 1:58:37 PM|
Steak. Growing up we weren't rich. My dad owned his own business and there were plenty of up and downs. We always had butter (and now I use margarine because of a low fat diet) and enjoyed "good bread", but rarely had steak. Each summer the neighborhood would have a cook out and the adults would grill steaks, but the kids got hot dogs and hamburgers. But I think that was just part of the times. It was the way my parents were raised. My mom was born during the Great Depression (you know the other Depression). I went to Catholic school so clothes weren't a priority. I wore a uniform every day (which I hated). My Mom made most of my "play" clothes.
Now we shop at a local market where we get most of our meat, especially our steaks. I usually wait until they are on sale, but I make sure we have steaks in the freezer if we want them mostly rib eye or strip steak.
|Posted: 12/7/2012 2:01:43 PM|I'm more like TexasScrap, my parents did well financially, so we didn't lack in the material goods department. They also came to all of our events...I seriously can't remember them ever missing a recital or game, BUT we walked on a lot of egg shells and they subsequently divorced after my brother graduated from High School.
So for me, it's all about making good memories...my house is the hang out house for my children and their friends...I let them jump on beds and make messes without having to be on edge! My brother and I just didn't have that...way too uptight, so we definitely didn't want friends around...we would have been embarrassed by the epic fights our parents were constantly having!
And on a semi-related note....my parents (while good at attending) made us late for EVERYTHING. My children are NEVER late....I hated that feeling growing up...it was embarrassing, no way, no how for mine!
Working Mom to "3 Sugar Bugs", Madeline (15), Piper (10) and Grey (5)
Why, YES!, I am a princess.
|Posted: 12/7/2012 3:55:17 PM|We were not wealthy by any means but my parents must have fanigled things pretty well because I can't remember doing without. We took fantastic family vacations.
Because both my parents were raised dirt poor, heck dirt was an improvement, my dad would not allow me to have a pair of bib overalls when they were the rage in the late 70's early 80's. Pissed me off to no end because I couldn't wear what the other kids were wearing but in his eyes you wore bibs when you couldn't afford better clothes. Fast forward to a few years ago....dad is about 75 at the time and he shows up at my house one day wearing a paid of bib overalls He raved on and on that he didn't have to keep hitching his jeans up when he was trying to do yard work, how comfortably they were, yada yada yada....I just looked at him like and said "no father of mine is going to wear bib overalls!"
|Posted: 12/7/2012 4:13:54 PM|
yes, food and going out. I can't tell you how many times a night or days, I'd go to bed hungry... and we NEVER went out to eat, ever... my parents did other things with their money, rather than feed their children.
So I like to eat good stuff and order out a few times a month. And at night, if my son says he's hungry, I get him out of bed and feed him... I couldn't bare the thought of him going to bed hungry.
|Posted: 12/7/2012 4:15:41 PM|oh and pictures is another one!! I only have a few pictures of me... so I take pictures often!
|Posted: 12/7/2012 5:01:55 PM|
What an interesting thread!
I had to think about it for a while.
My parents divorced when I was 10. My father provided well enough for us so that Mom continued to be a stay home mom until I graduated from high school.
But we NEVER went on a vacation. Ever. So that will be my first answer....DH and I have taken our kids on vacation at least once every year...sometimes in good financial years, we went skiing in winter AND SCUBA diving in summer. We have a lot of great memories of vacations! And we live in a smaller house just so we can afford vacations.
#2 on my list would be a stable marriage. Both DH and I came from broken homes....our parents and our grandparents. We decided early in our relationship that we will NOT be like them. We are nearly to our 34th anniversary...
My mother was depressed my entire childhood. I didn't realize this until recently (I'm 55.) I was never allowed to participate in activities like dance because I had asthma and Mom was afraid to let me. I let my kids sign up for any activity they wanted and encouraged them to try it all....and I was always there to support them.
#4 - pets. Because of the asthma...Mom never let me have pets. I currently have 2 doxies....had a cat (well that did cause asthma so I didn't replace him when he died) and I'd have more pets if I had more room. Love them!
#5 - personal cleanliness. I grew up in the 60's when women got their hair done at the beauty shop with those wiglets and such. Mom got her hair done twice a week. She never washed her hair at home....wrapped toilet paper around her "do" at night. So...all my childhood, she washed my hair in the sink once a week. We bathed daily....just didn't wash our hair. So, when I got to high school in the early 70's...I thought everyone washed their hair once a week on the weekends. So by Thursday/Friday...my hair was greasy & ugly. I didn't realize it until someone made an ugly comment about my hair. Now, I wash and style every day...even if I'm just staying home. Also use make up and perfume. And I wear nice clothes to shop at Walmart.
And the last is making memories. I have so few memories of my childhood and I realize now that's because we never DID anything. Never went on vacation, never did anything to MAKE memories.
So...DH and I MAKE memories...especially on holidays and vacations. We take lots of pictures...silly ones especially. I think there is a funny song attached to each vacation we've ever taken.
The best times are when we 4 are at the dinner table together saying "remember when....?"
Thanks, OP. What a great thought provoking thread!
|Posted: 12/7/2012 6:11:46 PM|
When I was a kid, Mom would limit the amount of parmesan cheese we could have on our pasta. The first few years of marraige, I made similar comments to DH. He has taught me to live a little and "splurge" on parmesan cheese. Now, I can hand my 3 year old the cheese and let him put it on. Sometimes I cringe if it's a bunch...but I am moving past it.
BTW - my Mom said she has no memory of limmiting my cheese usage.
This made me laugh! We kids loved to eat a few slices of the mozzarella cheese when my mom was making laagne, but she wouldn't buy extra and would slap our hands away and get so frustrated when we wanted a slice. And the meatballs-I liked them plain, not in the sauce, but she would never save one out because she had "just enough." And the eggplant for eggplant parm-"just enough" and I love a few fried slices before they are mixed in. My mother doesn't remember that, of course. So now, I have extra cheese, meatballs and eggplant whenever I make that stuff.
And electricity and toilet paper. Our electric was shut off a couple times as a kid and we were forever running out of toilet paper. My mom still buys it one roll at a time! Or four, at the most, if I insist. I go to her house once a week and I always call and ask if she needs me to stop for anything on my way, and she still sayds, "Oh, yeah, we're out of toilet paper." They can afford it, she apparently just hates to but it. I buy mine in the biggest package possible. Proud to say I have never run out! It's even a joke among my friends, since we ran out so often.
The Project Pea
|Posted: 12/7/2012 7:43:06 PM|
sometimes - like once during each pregnancy - I'll buy white bread, lucky charms, and pop tarts. I don't feel as bad about it while I'm pregnant lol. But I still feel like my mom is wagging her finger at me for buying garbage food. We only ever had wheat bread, non-sugar cereal and no pre-packaged treats.
Why, YES!, I am a princess.
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:02:40 PM|
no pre-packaged treats.
If you get a real bad craving...let a girl know...I might know a freezer that has several, um, a BUNCH of frozen ding dongs in it
cori in wa
Loc: Vancouver, WA
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:06:11 PM|Strangely enough, bras and underwear. We always got ONE new bra and seven pair of underwear. One for each day of the week and wash the bra at night, wear it the next day.
Now? I have lots
Nicole in TX
The Peas did what we do and went insane over it
Loc: Not so obvious
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:21:07 PM|Tissues instead of toilet paper (well, in addition to....)
Butter instead of margarine
Fresh garlic instead of garlic powder
Bottled salad dressing instead of homemade
I never thought about the possibility of making underwear. Isn't underwear for kids dirt cheap anyway?
Oh, that was my Nana's standard gift to us each Christmas growing up- a package of underwear. Thanks, Nana.
Who has my six? Anyone??
Loc: the left side of the right coast
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:24:18 PM|
No one "tormented" me, but there have been points in my life where I we (me as a child, me as a young adult) didn't have many groceries on hand. To this day I have to plan my trips carefully, and on every trip to the grocery I think about how so many - including myself - take it for granted to just pick up whatever they need and run out with a cart when there are so many in the world who are truly, truly starving. (I was never starving, so I've digressed.)
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:30:07 PM|
Chocolate chips. If my kids want a handful, I give them a handful!
'Cause I'm as free as a bird now
|Posted: 12/7/2012 8:35:11 PM|I'm nodding my head to like half the things on this long list. maybe I was more poor than I thought.
oh and pictures is another one!! I only have a few pictures of me
This is a big one for me too!
There is like 2 baby photos of me. Makes me sad when I think about how my little sister has two ALBUMS of baby photos.
Maybe that's why I became a photographer.
|Posted: 12/7/2012 9:33:05 PM|
Another one for heat.
My parents decided they would save tons of money by using a wood stove instead of a furnace.
The wood stove heated the main floor...and it was not only warm, but hot...those rooms would get up to 85 degrees on a winter night, no trouble.
But the bedrooms? Ice cold. All winter long I could see my breath in my room. I could write my name in the frost that would gather on the inside of my window. When I was 13 I was the only kid I knew that had electric blanket as their number 1 on their Christmas wish list. (I got it, changed my life & made me look like a genius next to my brother & sister.)
My house is always warm. If I'm cold, I'll put on a sweater...if I'm still cold? I turn up the heat.
One sees clearly only with the heart. Anything essential is invisible to the eyes. (the little prince)
Mom to 3 great kids!
|Posted: 12/7/2012 9:45:35 PM|
Lol to those of you who say tissues were an indulgence. In my house it was paper towels! My mom hated to use paper towels for anything- "too expensive". You had to make a case if you wanted one and then you could only use 1 at a time.
She's 70 and still guards her PT like a hawk. Lol, I may have to get her a roll for Christmas.