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|Posted: 12/10/2012 4:36:20 PM|
Loc: Enjoying the humid continental climate zone.
|Posted: 12/10/2012 4:36:34 PM|
19, 20? Perhaps. 14? He'll no. And I'd be pissed if someone at a party I was at gave their child some.
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Loc: North Dakota
|Posted: 12/10/2012 4:37:29 PM|No, I wouldn't and I was a fairly laid back parent.
Holy moly! Talk about a way to turn your child into an alcoholic!
I don't really believe anyone or anything can turn someone into an alcoholic. I believe that like any disease, you're either born with the tendency towards alcoholism or not. I think it's all in the genes. But you can be a problem drinker without being an alcoholic. JMHO
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 4:39:48 PM|
The main problem I have with this is that it's teaching a 14 year old to use alcohol to de-stress. It's one thing to have a glass of wine to unwind when you're 40, quite another when you're 14.
If it had been a small glass with, say, an Italian dinner, that would be OK for me at that age. Not "you're stressed, have a glass of wine."
|Posted: 12/10/2012 4:58:44 PM|
I would and have given my kids at that age small glasses of wine on occasion. But it is always at home. I would never offer it as a stress reliever and never allow it at a neighborhood party.
|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:01:44 PM|No.
And especially not as a "stress reliever" or at a neighborhood party.
There are just so many stupids and assholes out there
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:02:00 PM|
No. Teaching child that alcohol is a way to de-stress is a BAD lesson.
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:10:30 PM|
At 18, 19 or 20, probably. At 14 no way.
I agree. No way for a 14 year old... seriously!
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:13:33 PM|
No, that is too young.
I am not opposed to one at home after the age of 18 or so.
It's all just nonsense anyway!
Loc: California, NY & Orlando
|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:16:22 PM|
I grew up in a European household where wine with dinner was not unusual, and my kids have had wine at special occasion dinners...probably not more than a mouthful, but as a stress reliever....no freakin' way!!!
|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:28:12 PM|
|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:28:36 PM|
I would never put a neighbor in the position of providing alcohol for my underage child, not at 14, not even at 20.
I am not opposed to a teen having an alcoholic beverage with family, but allowing a minor to have alcohol in this instance puts too much onto the host.
It is also teaching the kid that alcohol is a way of combating stress and that a glass of wine is somehow "deserved" at the end of a hard day. (I wish my mom would have taught me the same lessons about food)
Loc: In the NW rain
|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:29:02 PM|I would not in this situation and I'm pretty relaxed about alcohol. When my kids are older teenagers(they are in elementary school now) I'd probably let them have 1/2 a glass at Christmas dinner or a little bit of champagne to toast at a celebration. Never would I give them alcohol as a way to de-stress. There are other ways of helping your child deal with stress than giving them a drink. I think the mother exercised poor judgement, especially in a public setting where it is not legal(at least in this state).
Loc: Calgary, Canada
|Posted: 12/10/2012 5:46:08 PM|
Haven't read all the responses, but in that scenario: NO WAY!
However, growing up in my family, on special occassions the children about 14 and up were offered watered-down wine. This would be at Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter. It wasn't really a "treat" -- watered wine is rather dull and I'd rather have had a coke which was FORBIDDEN at the table. However, it was a gradual and supported entry into adulthood.
My family's way of introducing responsible alcohol use is probably not all that typical. We are British, living in Canada. Our legal drinking age is 18 or 19, depending on the province. As a family, we definitely believe that a adolescent's first introduction to alcohol should be in the home, and in a sensible, common-sense approach.
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 6:30:54 PM|
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 6:35:44 PM|
As a family, we definitely believe that a adolescent's first introduction to alcohol should be in the home, and in a sensible, common-sense approach.
I think this makes a lot of sense. My mother and aunt allowed us to taste alcohol as older teens. Much of it to me at that age.
Because it wasn't "taboo" I never was overly excited about drinking as a teen or later.
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Loc: LI, NY
|Posted: 12/10/2012 6:46:05 PM|
|Posted: 12/10/2012 6:51:57 PM|Nope.
My family was pretty lax about alcohol. When we were little we were allowed a small glass of wine at Christmas or Thanksgiving, and as a teen my parents knew we drank and didn't really say much about it. I was allowed wine at my mother's dinner parties throughout my teens. Whatever wine they didn't finish before moving on to the next course was 'shit-mixed' together for me to take when I later went out for the night.
Both my parents have drinking issues. One more obviously than the other.
No surprise that my teen years and early adulthood were a mess.
My DD never had these 'luxuries' She didn't drink until she turned 19.
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 8:44:45 PM|
Not at 14. Maybe a small sip, but definitely not a glass of wine.
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|Posted: 12/10/2012 8:44:45 PM|
No f-ing way.
Loc: Long Island, New York
|Posted: 12/10/2012 8:47:26 PM|