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Posted 12/11/2012 by Wilna in General Scrappin'
 

Wilna
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Posted: 12/11/2012 12:36:11 PM
of easing your mind when you are stressed.
I think sometimes the holidays adds more stress than we need. i need some tips.


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Posted: 12/11/2012 12:48:24 PM
It depends on what I'm stressed about. I usually think about all of the positive things in my life. I know it sounds simple, but it's what works for me.

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Posted: 12/11/2012 1:12:27 PM
I like listing it all out, and then going through and crossing off the things I have no control over. With what's left, I then go through and write an action I could take on it (whether making a phone call, filing something, whatever).

For me, it's usually unfinished tasks hanging over my head that stresses me out (well, and finances), so a list like that really helps me.


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Posted: 12/11/2012 1:23:45 PM
Holiday-related specifically, I just ask myself "what will happen if this doesn't get done?" If the outcome is not a tragedy , I let it go.

What will happen if I don't get the peppermint bark made? The kids will be disappointed ... for about 2 minutes, then they'll move on to all the other candy.

What will happen if my Christmas letter isn't posted until December 26th? No one's world will end.

What will happen if I can't find the perfect gift for that person? They will be grateful for anything received.

Etc.

And then a shot of Bailey's before bed



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Posted: 12/11/2012 1:39:07 PM
I have found all the above suggestions to be helpful.

Also, one of the best ways to manage stress during the holidays is to make sure you are investing time in self care, and keeping up with all your stress-busting routines. I know it often feels like there just isn't enough time, but consider it an investment... If you put in the time to take care of yourself (eat well. Sleep well, exercise, socialize, participate in our stress-busting hobbies like scrapping) you will be more efficient with the time you have left. A lot of us spend a lot of time taking care of others, but if we care for ourselves first then we are better at everything else we do... Including caring for others. I know I need to practice this more, especially during the holidays. Hope you are feeling better soon, Wilna, and the rest of us too!


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Posted: 12/11/2012 1:50:41 PM
Count your blessings (like in White Christmas) & just breathe, be thankful you have a crazy life to take part in, some people aren't so lucky...

Also, sometimes I find a cup of coffee or hot chocolate is just what I need to calm down & carry on.





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Posted: 12/11/2012 1:51:43 PM
glass of wine.






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Posted: 12/11/2012 1:58:43 PM
I remind myself that thousands of people would line up to trade their problems for mine.



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Posted: 12/11/2012 2:56:13 PM
Find a comfortable place sit..close your eyes and takes a few breaths. Simply focus on breathing in and breathing out.......this will help your nervous system settle down. Do this a couple of times a day and you will notice a real difference. We tend to tense up and hold our breath when things get hectic or difficult. It is simply amazing how freeing a few moments of simple breathing is......as you breathe let go of one thing, a phone call not returned, a task not done...a worry or concern....just breath into the feeling, acknowledging without judging and then letting it float away.....

Wish I could talk you through it ( guess you figured out I'm a yoga teacher!! LOL) but give it a try.... can't hurt...might help!! {{hugs}}


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Posted: 12/11/2012 4:58:55 PM
Know your limits! I think this applies to all women and not just around the holidays. You can't be everything to everybody all the time. You can't do everything perfect and you have to decide what is important.

As a crafter this is sometimes hard around the holidays because you think, well I could make that myself and it could be really beautiful....but I can't make everything.

So I order photo cards, I use sticky gift tags, my gifts don't have bows. But I do a DD, bake with family, and do an advent calendar with my son. These are the meaningful things for my family.

And try my hardest to get enough sleep.


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Posted: 12/11/2012 6:20:38 PM

You can't do everything perfect and you have to decide what is important.

As a crafter this is sometimes hard around the holidays because you think, well I could make that myself and it could be really beautiful....but I can't make everything.

So I order photo cards, I use sticky gift tags, my gifts don't have bows. But I do a DD, bake with family, and do an advent calendar with my son. These are the meaningful things for my family.

Jamieelyn, that was beautiful



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Posted: 12/11/2012 8:42:57 PM
I stay low stress by giving myself permission to do absolutely nothing. I don't have to celebrate the holidays in any frenzied way if I don't want to.

Now unexpectedly my husband has pulled me into hosting a party for xmas eve...and the idea was very stressful for a few days there...until I sat back and told myself I don't have to worry. I can do as much or as little as I want with this party. I don't have to cook (I can get it catered), I don't have to decorate (I can have the children that will be attending do the tree for me on that day as an activity). I have cleaning to do, but I am doing it in stages a small bit each day.

My stress level decreased a whole lot after that little talk with myself.


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Posted: 12/11/2012 9:18:45 PM
Running. Since I started running I find this is the best way to take out my frustration, anger, stress, etc. I can tell when I "need" to run vs. "want" to run.

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Posted: 12/11/2012 9:51:32 PM
Today, I decided to create handmade cards just for my DH, my daugher, my parents and my inlaws, and not for the whole family and friends, and to bakemjust one batch of cookies with my daughter for her grandparents. It is less stressful thay way.


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Posted: 12/12/2012 4:45:04 AM
My mentor gently reminds me the good book says "It came to pass" not "It came to stay".

Everything in life is temporary: the good times and the bad times. Cherish the good times, capture the memory, savor the moment. The bad times won't last forever even if it feels like forever.

((hugs)) This can be a tough time of year with overscheduled activities and over the top expectations. I wish you peace.



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Posted: 12/12/2012 9:10:00 AM
Xanax!

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Posted: 12/12/2012 9:21:32 AM
I will get away by myself. Go for a walk and listen to some music, walk around the mall, go to starbucks for some me time.

Or, I will call my BFF. She can always help me sort through what is bothering me.



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Posted: 12/12/2012 9:22:56 AM
Music. Not the kind with a fast, hard beat, but the kind that is quiet, soothing, and calming. Always helps me.


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Posted: 12/12/2012 5:07:30 PM
I cut back. Doing too much is what stresses me out over the holidays, so I make a master list of what's bothering me and see what I can do that will be "good enough." Family coming over Christmas Eve? Do take out instead of cook. Too many Christmas cards to make? Order them online, with a service that stamps and mails them for you. Too much to cook? Cut it in half, or buy pre-made side dishes. After a hugely stressful Christmas last year (brother and SIL were here with their toddler - I love them DEARLY, but brother is vegetarian, SIL is vegan and toddler is into EVERYTHING so I had to re-babyproof my house!), I said enough this year and am sticking with only cooking the basics, putting up only a few decorations and keeping everything low key. It's been much nicer and no one's complained!

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Posted: 12/12/2012 5:13:33 PM
Another vote for wine!

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Posted: 12/12/2012 8:46:07 PM
I have 5 children and after the hustle and bustle of the first 10 years with children I have finally figured out that less is more. I shop less, commit to fewer activities and spend more quality time enjoying the holidays vs. stressed out mom making everyone miserable. Doing less helps us focus on the things that are important like church, checking out the local Christmas displays and random acts of kindness. Helps remind the children that its not all about receiving. It is hard for me to Say no but when I do everyone is happier.
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