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LovMelrose
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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:50:50 AM
No way could I ever do that. Kids are only kids once and only get "X" amount of Christmases with Santa. It's a magical time that they never get back.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 9:11:56 AM
We never used Santa as a threat for my kids - in fact they only knew about the naughty and nice lists because of songs and books - never once even warned, "Santa is watching, so behave."

Really though, isn't this (Santa not coming) the logical outcome of what parents are threatening? The whole implication of a naughty and nice list is that some kids get gifts and others do not. If you tell your kids that Santa is watching, so 'be good for goodness sake' aren't you telling them that if they don't behave Santa will fly on by? Isn't the whole story of Elf on a Shelf that he reports back to Santa regarding children's behavior?

My dh and I agreed that we would never make a threat that we were not willing to follow through the consequences. There were times that the consequences were as painful to us as they were for the kids. For this reason we chose to never use Santa as in incentive.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 9:42:55 AM
I guess if you feel the need to use an imaginary fat man not bringing gifts to help discipline your children, you need to follow through.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 9:58:04 AM

The point of Santa is that he does not bring gifts to naughty children.


Maybe in theory but that's not how it was in my family growing up and not how it is for my kids. Santa is magic and wonder, for just one day of the year. I'm sure there are plenty of parents who use the Santa threat and you're right, if they do that, they should follow through. I'm just in the camp that believes there are a bazillionty better ways to parent and teach a lesson than this.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:20:56 AM
The parents in this case did a great job. They told there child that if there behaviors did not changes Santa would not come and they fallowed throw with it.

If more parent where not afraid to fallow throw with there threats, We would no spoiled children.

I did it once when my step kids where younger. They were told not to go in to the master closet. I flat out told them if the did so they would lose christmas. They did and I fallowed up with what I told them.
I have not had any problem Like that since. They know what I say is True and I will fallow up with what I say.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:31:55 AM
Oh, my --guilt trips are not effective parenting tools.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:34:18 AM
I wouldn't threaten something that I thought would be devastating to follow through with. Keeping the kids home from a family holiday celebration, eg. We don't do Santa here, but I would think that "no Santa" is pretty close to that--the kind of threat you will regret having to follow through with.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:22:25 PM
how is setting rules down and fallowing them a guilt trip.

Santa is not a give in , It is a privilege and privileges can be lost at any time. So Taking Santa away is a lost of a privilege.

To many children are spoiled rotten, Self center and everything has to be there way.

I have seen a 18 year old have a full on melt down because her mother did not spend 5,000 on the hand bag she ask for. I am talking rolling on the floor screaming. It is not pretty. I am so happy to see another parent taking a stand and teaching there child life is not a give in it a lot of privilege and privileges can be lost.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:49:16 PM
Wow, how bad do you have to be to have Santa not stop and give you a gift?

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:04:25 PM
I can't help but think I am sure there is more to the story. Also, why are we to judge what others give their kids and the reasons behind it. Every family is different.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:04:56 PM
I can't help but think I am sure there is more to the story. Also, why are we to judge what others give their kids and the reasons behind it. Every family is different.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:06:30 PM
My DH told me that Santa didn't come to his house once when he was about 8 because he'd found all his presents, unwrapped them, played with them (video games) and wrapped them back up when his parents weren't home (or so he thought). His mom found out and Santa didn't stop as a lesson. But it wasn't that he "never" got the gifts - they showed up a few days later after the point was well taken.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:42:37 PM

I have seen a 18 year old have a full on melt down because her mother did not spend 5,000 on the hand bag she ask for. I am talking rolling on the floor screaming. It is not pretty. I am so happy to see another parent taking a stand and teaching there child life is not a give in it a lot of privilege and privileges can be lost.

Seriously? Who was this person? Did you know her? Did she have other issues? I need to hear more about that one.

I am all for parents taking a stand. I take many that are very hard. I am fully supportive of parents doing things that are not easy. Taking away the magic that is Santa is not one of the things I would ever support. If it comes to that, then there are other things you are doing wrong as a parent OR your child needs additional help that having Santa come or not won't change.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 3:04:18 PM

I can't help but think I am sure there is more to the story.


Agree. With all due respect I'm not convinced that what the neighbors think happened is the gospel truth.

I have to believe this is so.

Really Red, I agree with you. I need more facts on the adult rolling around on the floor over the handbag.

So often in these threads someone pops out the perfect anecdote complete with a zinger to prove a point.




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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:04:52 PM
When my son was 15 Christmas morning he punched my husband (stepdad) in the face - police were called, domestic violence charges filed and every single gift went back. Sometimes there's more to the story.
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