If your S/O is willing to be upset with for 5 days OVER Xmas-how do you respond???

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:38:37 AM
As someone who dated, with two kids from a previous marriage (and some hefty ex-h drama), I refused to argue about my children. MY children. When DH and I got married, he adopted the kids, they became OUR children. But when we were dating, they were MY kids, and my loyalties lied with them.

When you are dating, particularly when you already have kids from a previous relationship, you are "interviewing" your boyfriends as much for their fathering as for their possibility to be a husband, IMO. I didn't go out on a lot of second dates because of big red flags like the one you are describing.

Dating when you already have kids comes with it's own set of challenges. It's not anywhere near as simple as dating as a childless person. My kids always came first.

First, I'd be having an adult discussion with my ex-husband to try to find a way to avoid large arguments with him. Then, I'd likely end things with the boyfriend. It sounds like he's pretty involved with the kids, if he's making Christmas-related surprises for them, which will make breaking up rough, but your kids have got to come first. Adults suck it up and make Christmas fun. Or they say to their S/O the next day, "I realize that I screwed up and I ruined Christmas for everyone, and I apologize for acting like that," and he'd better have a darn good thing in mind to make it all up to everyone. Somehow, I doubt your S/O is going to do that. Best to cut ties now, before another incident happens or it gets worse.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:10:41 AM
I haven't read all the responses but I agree with the few I did read that you have to really think about leaving.

My FIL is famous for his silent treatments. He can go for weeks! I'm sure they started out small in the beginning a few hours, a day or two. My MIL should have nipped it in the bud in the beginning of the marriage or left. It's no way for children to grow up, DH said it was like walking on eggshells every day. I don't know how he and his brothers turned out so normal.

Even my Mom pulled this crap, and again it was like walking on eggshells.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:27:42 AM
I'm not sure why the reason for the fight is important to some Peas. Do you really use the silent treatment as a viable option in any disagreement?

IMO there is no excuse for a silent treatment especially one going on for 4-5 days and during Christmas.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:11:19 AM

I'm not sure why the reason for the fight is important to some Peas. Do you really use the silent treatment as a viable option in any disagreement?


Actually, if you had read the whole thread you would see her follow up. The reason for the fight actually had nothing to do with her ex and everything to do with her boyfriend apparently seeing her children as some sort of an inconvenience for whom she has to ask permission to keep at home when they are sick and who he feels justified in taking it out on when things don't go his selfish way. In my opinion the reason for the fight is almost MORE important in this case than the resulting action.

OP, I'm guessing you are having a night full of tossing and turning as you digest some of this but you have to think about the consequences of tying yourself up with a man that will treat you and your children like this when you are just dating and he has no real parental authority. I can only imagine what kind of a husband and step father he would be.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 3:15:00 AM

When I've had a really hurtful experience with my husband I will avoid him for some time, and not just an hour or two. Sometimes I need time (days) to calm down and wrap my head around what has happened and figure out how to deal with it. I internalize the situation and dissect it and it takes me a while to figure it out. It has nothing to do with manipulation....Luckily my husband understands this as he also does not work well with yelling and nastiness during a disagreement.
Would you do it over Christmas, ruining the day, and in front of your family and your young children? He could possibly say 'I need some time to think things through then we'll talk about it' but still treat her with some decency in front of his family and hers. Anything less than that is emotionally manipulative.

I don't like people that use the silent treatment, I find it a very controlling type of behaviour. I would most definitely cut someone like that out of my life.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 5:53:51 AM
Please get out of this relationship. He's a dick. Really. You don't deserve this and your kids most certainly don't deserve this.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 6:06:07 AM
After further review....he's a dick....now that you explained it more he was PISSED because you wanted to keep your sick child home. Yeah...that's a deal breaker.

I was the one who questioned what the argument with the ex was about....thanks for explaining it further.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 6:34:05 AM
Why did you have to ask your s/o to keep your children?

Are you living with him? Are you two living together?

You are a single mother. This guy is in no shape nor does he want to be, responsibile for said childen. And when you are with someone with children, you are just as responsible as said parent.

I am remarried. I don't care that my children have a father. They do and always will. But when I remarried, my current came into the picture also. And for us, it is now a three parent equation, because hteir stepfather is there for them just as much as their parents are. (My older two children are 20 and 24 now and our child together is 14).

And to give you the silent treatment for over a week, because you kept one of your sick children home with you, (I would have called the ex before he came over to pick kids up and not surprised him at door), does not bode well.

His family must surely known something was up at dinner. I cannot imagine how awkward that was for everyone there.

How would I respond? I would not be talking to him at all. I would not be doing anything for him. I would not be making dinner, doing his wash, etc. What I would be doing is figuring out how to find a place of my own so that my children will be comfortable and not scared in their own home.

Because your children saw this argument. Your children felt the silent treatment. Your children know exactly how this person feels about them and my sympthathies lie with them. You are their mother. Time to stick up for those two little people you should care about most and not the jerk of a boyfriend.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 6:35:15 AM
I would be thankful because it would be a lightbulb moment for me. Also, I would be grateful that I wasn't stupid enough (sorry) to marry him.


Sometimes I need time (days) to calm down and wrap my head around what has happened and figure out how to deal with it. I internalize the situation and dissect it and it takes me a while to figure it out. It has nothing to do with manipulation.

But you still say, "I'm sorry, I am thinking some things over right now. When I get them sorted out in my head I will talk about them with you." And you continue to have normal social interactions with your SO, you don't just pretend they are not there.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:19:40 AM
This behavior is a huge red flag. You need to look long and hard at your relationship with this guy and decide if this is how you want to live the rest of your life with this guy.

He is trying to control and manipulate you. This is only the beginning, and since this isn't the first time, I would make sure it was the last.

I was married to a guy who did the same thing, but I was always willing to try and figure out what I did wrong and try to make it right. Until I wasn't anymore. There were times I had no clue what I did wrong or why he was mad and not speaking to me. Walking on egg shells got old real quick.

Your children are your first priority and this ass should not have a say in if you keep a sick child home with you or not.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:08:10 AM
OP's behavior was just as much a red flag as her boyfriend's. Dads can take care of sick kids too. She pulled a stunt at the pick up - no more, no less. Had she truly been a mama bear, she would have called and cancelled the pick up and rescheduled it properly. Instead she throws a cursing hissy fit on a dad who had expected to pick up his children. She allowed her daughter to act like a brat and refused to permit the dad to pick up a well child even. That's not being the rational one, that's for sure. Her boyfriend probably thinks he's the one with some thinking to do.

I don't get why people always assume the worst out of the people a Pea is describing - and its only one side of a story. Especially when she tells you that she's the one that acted badly in the first instance. In my book withholding custody is a much bigger offense than pouting.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:08:10 AM
After reading all of the replies, I think three people have gotten to the heart of the matter: Burning Feather, kimberly38, and Nicole in TX.

Your kids have to come first. If the boyfriend isn't mature enough to accept that, then something is wrong. A sick child has to take priority. Granted, some people think a "cold" isn't something to fuss much about, but regardless, a mother tends to nurse the kids, even for just a cold. If he resents that, he is a selfish bum, and it won't get better, only worse. It really does sound like he resents having the kids around. Big red flag!

Kimberly38 raised a point that I wondered about, and that is whether or not you are living with him at HIs place rather than yours. If it's your place and you pay the rent, kick the guy to the curb. If it's his place, and he is paying the rent, get your ducks in a row a.s.a.p. and find a place of your own. If it's a shared rent situation, figure out what you want to do, because right now he's in control. He will continue to be controlling and manipulative as long as he pays even part of the rent. You and your kids need to get out from under his thumb or get rid of him.

There are a lot worse things than loneliness and living on a shoestring. Hope you can work things out for the best for you and your kids. You shouldn't always have to be the one to apologize, let alone grovel by saying you've learned your lesson. You are being treated like a child and letting him feel that is an acceptable way to treat you. Nobody is right all the time. Something is seriously wrong with this relationship.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:20:45 AM

OP's behavior was just as much a red flag as her boyfriend's. Dads can take care of sick kids too. She pulled a stunt at the pick up - no more, no less.


Granted, I do think that sick kids can be taken care of by dads also, but we don't know how old the little boy is or how involved dad is in his life. Since he was already at home and exposed everyone there, maybe the best thing is not to expose more people to whatever illness he had. Maybe he's very young and just wanted his mommy when he is sick.

That's an entirely separate issue though. The real problem is that (a) she had to ask PERMISSION to keep her child at home that weekend from a man that has absolutely no business making that decision (b ) she had to apologize for overriding his decision when he got mad about it and (c) he felt he was justified in punishing the OP and her children on Christmas and over a period of several days because he didn't get his way.

Again, it appears that this dude feels like her kids are an inconvenience and should be shipped off to daddy's house no matter what and if they aren't, then he throws a fit and punishes them (5 days of no communication goes WAY beyond pouting)


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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:47:01 AM

I was stunned last time this happened but now I am really confused on what to do. when we talked, he expressed frustrations and I am sure he is overwhelmed being with a divorced mother of two. I really appreciate your advice!!


How would he be overwhelmed being with a divorced mother of two? You didn't sneak that in on him, right? If he was looking for a single girl, he made a huge mistake. Not everyone can handle being with someone who is divorced- even without kids. Those people should realize that. They just aren't ready for you.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:50:09 AM
This is just my advice. Take it fwiw. He's going to be a horrible step-father and husband. Don't let this go any further. Time to be a single mom. You don't need a man. Your kids have a dad. Let your kids have a break from the drama and let them only be surrounded by people who have their best interests at heart. No more screaming matches w/exh in front of them either. All 3 of the adults are modeling relationships and they're learning that relationships are contentious, unpredictable and angry. They need YOU, not you and your lousy boyfriend. Breaking up over the holidays will suck, but it'll suck a lot more if your kids have to be exposed to this any longer.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:01:00 PM
OP, if you feel like you're "stuck" with him for whatever reason (money, a lease, whatever) let me give you some advice.
While you're sitting here waiting it out with some douchebag because you're feeling "stuck", just remember that you might miss out on the person you're meant to be with that loves you and has you and your children's best interest at heart. All because you have your attention elsewhere.
There is ALWAYS an option to do it on your own.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:22:43 PM
After reading the update..I'm going to agree that it was a 3 way disaster.

From what I am reading HE lives with her..OR she lives with him? Maybe he is paying for the rent? and she feels she has to ask him? She SHOULD have calmly called and talked to the ex about the sick kid. Vs letting dad show up..and then get in to a heated fight. Also..why couldn't the dad take care of the kid??!! it was just a cold. HE, as an adult could have made the decision to take the kid, germy and all. WHY did she get to make all the decisions?
I think they all need to go to some sort of communciation therapy or something. WTH??
It's easy for all the Ps to tell her to throw the guy out. But we really don't know how much she has invested in this boyfriend, or her living situation.






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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:50:24 PM
Op, time to cut your losses with this guy. He will never truly love and accept your children. And if will not do that, then it's time to move on. Do not do that to your children.

The good news is that you found out now, before you got married to him. And the even better news is that there are wonderful men out there, and they will be willing to accept your children.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:56:01 PM
It sounds like your SO is having hard second thoughts about being in a relationship with you. Have a good talk with him about this, and if he's having doubts, break up with him. I think we all agree that he doesn't want to be the kind of person your kids need in their lives.

His behavior reminded me so much of my relationship with XH before we got married. We didn't live together, but after we were engaged, he went through a couple of periods of time where he would not really talk to me for a few days, and when we had existing plans, he would act like your SO did at his family Christmas.

What he was doing during those times was questioning whether or not he wanted to go through with the marriage. He wouldn't tell me because he didn't know what he was going to do yet. Any time he expressed doubts to me, I always convinced him to stay. I should have encouraged him go the first time it happened. He was right, we should not have been married.

How do I respond? If this happened to me now, I would say, "We aren't working out, are we? It's time for us to let this relationship go."

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:58:12 PM
It sounds like your SO is having hard second thoughts about being in a relationship with you. Have a good talk with him about this, and if he's having doubts, break up with him. I think we all agree that he doesn't want to be the kind of person your kids need in their lives.

His behavior reminded me so much of my relationship with XH before we got married. We didn't live together, but after we were engaged, he went through a couple of periods of time where he would not really talk to me for a few days, and when we had existing plans, he would act like your SO did at his family Christmas.

What he was doing during those times was questioning whether or not he wanted to go through with the marriage. He wouldn't tell me because he didn't know what he was going to do yet. Any time he expressed doubts to me, I always convinced him to stay. I should have encouraged him go the first time it happened. He was right, we should not have been married.

How do I respond? If this happened to me now, I would say, "We aren't working out, are we? It's time for us to let this relationship go."

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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:36:00 PM
OK A long time ago when I was younger I would have let something like that drive me crazy, be hurt by it and jump through hoops to make it better. But I am older now (mid 40's ) and have lived enough of life and gained enough self worth that I really have no time or energy to spend on a relationship with someone who can not interact enough to solve a disagreement. I would re-evaluate the relationship and probably quickly if there were children involved. I have no time for manipulation and game playing. There are plenty of men out there who do not have the time for that either. I am not saying to run from a relationship at the first hiccup or speed bump. But that if you can not sit down and communicate through the hiccup or speed bump then you are in for a long painful time in a relationship with that person.

Next time the communication about where sick children will stay needs to happen between you and the children's father. Fathers (well many of them ) can care for children as well as mothers. Giving you the benefit of the doubt that you 'know' your ex and your child and ex would be more comfortable with you keeping him then that's not an issue but the conversation still needs to happen. Visitation isn't something that can be changed on a whim without rational communication.

As far as your SO is concerned, any man who even thought to come between me and my children is going to have to re-adjust that thinking or I will re-adjust the relationship. My kids come first. period. Anyone not supportive of that is not going to mesh well with me over time and I would need to let go and let them be free to find someone who meets their needs more fully than I ever could.

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Posted: 12/27/2012 9:08:21 AM

We had one conversation about it afterwards and no words satisfied him. He has not tried to talk to me or resolve this since then. I have made numerous attempts but get snapped at etc

We went to his family Xmas dinner in silence and did not interact. He did not participate in the Xmas eve surprise for the kids which he made.

Xmas morning he watched the kids open presents but has done his own thing all day.

This is NOT the first time this has happened and I always break the silence, fix the issue but I can't believe he let his stubbornness ruin his Xmas and his part in ours.

What should I do?? I am frustrated and heartbroken but feels like I should not be the one to step up if he can't be satisfied by apologies etc


I think this type of behavior towards you and also your children is a HUGE indicator of things to come.


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Posted: 12/27/2012 9:41:01 AM
Wow there is so much wrong here I don't even know where to begin.
1. You had to ask permission to keep your sick kid home?? and he got mad?? And you don't see anything wrong with that? Kids are a priority, not your BF, BFF, S/O or anyone else. Kids come first. Period.

2. You didn't call your ex to explain the situation so he didn't have to come. Your child threw a tantrum and you yelled at her dad instead of stopping it. You flipped out and cursed out the dad in front of your kids. That's not healthy or appropriate behavior. If I was your BF I'd be scared too, and picturing that this is my future.

3.You "learned your lesson?" Are you a child? a dog?

4. Your bf is giving you the silent treatment and ruined Christmas for the kids? Do you really want this immature jerk as your future husband and step-father to your kids?

5. "when we talked, he expressed frustrations and I am sure he is overwhelmed being with a divorced mother of two" -- if he is overwhelmed he needs to leave. Many divorcees with kids think that no man will want them now and latch onto the first one who does. That's not right. There are plenty of men who do not care that you have kids with someone else and know how to handle the situation. You need to find yourself one of those.
5.1 On the other hand, maybe it's not the situation he can't handle, but you flying off the handle that is overwhelming.

Basically I think that neither of you is ready for this relationship, so for the sake of kids get out.




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Posted: 12/27/2012 10:23:27 AM

Actually, if you had read the whole thread you would see her follow up.


Actually, I did read the follow up before I posted by my 2nd post. My 2nd post still stands. The reason for the fight doesn't matter.


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Posted: 12/27/2012 12:19:14 PM
Simply_lovely has some really good points.

I think we have three childish adults in this situation. The BF for being a silent treatment giving jerk, the OP for starting a fight with her X instead of making a phone call and being an adult, and the X for being an hour late (unless it wasn't avoidable).

OP, does your child custody agreement allow for one party to keep a child because of illness? If not, you were in violation of that order. It is just something to keep in mind should your xh ever want to take you back to court.

Any man who can't put the interest of a child or children ahead of their own isn't a man who needs to be around your children. He wasn't just punishing you, he was punishing your CHILDREN and if you think they haven't noticed/don't feel the tension then you are dead wrong.

I'm not going to say run right this second because I don't know how involved this relationship is. I would suggest marriage counseling, family counseling (with your kids, you, current bf and/or ex), and individual counseling for you so you don't think that this

when we talked, he expressed frustrations and I am sure he is overwhelmed being with a divorced mother of two
is a healthy way to thing.

How long has boyfriend been in the picture? What frustrations did he express?


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Posted: 12/27/2012 2:21:12 PM
I haven't read any of the responses, but how would I respond myself? Kick him to the curb, my kids are a package deal and they will ALWAYS come first before a boyfriend. If he were my husband, I'd take his opinion into more consideration, otherwise, he has no opinion when it comes to my kids...


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Posted: 12/27/2012 2:25:44 PM
HMM, HOW CAN I RESPOND IN A SUPPORTIVE WAY??? Can't... RUN..FAST.. this is very clearly indication of a bad end...sorry..

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Posted: 12/27/2012 2:56:07 PM
Something is seriously off here. Either your behavior was so outrageous to your ex, he isn't sure he wants to stick around after Xmas but is trying to be there thru the holiday. Or, you shouldn't be picking mates for a while. One of the two.

I find it a bit odd he's so pissed off about something you said to your ex. Normally a BF would be on your page unless you grossly overstepped a line OR he's a real prize himself.


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Posted: 12/27/2012 3:16:14 PM
My Dh has been sulking over the whole Xmas period, taking no part in anything including meals.
He is the one missing out because the rest of the family carried on regardless and ignored his sulks. He'll get over it eventually but at the end of the day he's the one whose missed out!!


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Posted: 12/27/2012 3:19:07 PM

I think you owe it to your children to model healthy relationships. This clearly is not one. Grown adults do not get to act like pouty children.


I wouldn't tolerate immature behavior like that. It's only going to get worse over time. Sorry!

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Posted: 12/27/2012 3:34:53 PM

I'm sorry that this situation ruined your Christmas. You've already gotten some great advice. All you need to decide at this point is how long you are going to allow your BF to control your life.

He sounds controlling and immature. You can do MUCH better than that. Even being alone is better than being treated like that.

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