Can I return the gift my 4-year-old gave me, or does that make me a jerk?
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Posted: 12/25/2012 11:44:41 PM
Havent read any responses but I think it's adorable. I made my kids a reusable advent calendar with pockets when they were toddlers and they enjoyed it for years! I would buy them each a puzzle at the dollar store at the beginning of Dec and they would get a couple puzzle pieces every day. They so loved trying to figure it out as the month went on. Candies would be easy enough too. I totally think he would be looking for it next year...


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Posted: 12/25/2012 11:50:53 PM
We have an advent calendar where each day there is a strip of paper with the name of a Christmas carol that we all sing together. My DS is almost 12 and he loves it. We reuse the same papers each year. It's a beloved tradition in our house. You could also assign Christmas movies, activities, etc.

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Posted: 12/25/2012 11:59:11 PM
********All the more reason to keep it and create a beatiful tradition out of it. Then, when you son is grown, you can tell him about the lean year and how he gave you this gift that you didn't understand at the time but, has created a wonderful Christmas memory year after year!!********



I predict this will become one of the best gifts you have ever been given! Merry Christmas!


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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:12:19 AM
I see you've decided to keep it, and I think that's great. (If it's missing pieces, I'd even go so far as to go back to Target to try to find one that's not missing pieces. And then write in Sharpie on the bottom or some other inconspicuous place that it was given by XYZ to Mommy for Christmas 2012.)

I also don't like doing Advent calendars with tiny little toys/candy/whatever to go in each little thing. The ideas of a Christmas carol to sing each day, or a little something special to do, or little love notes would totally work. We do acts of kindness for our Advent, but I just write them down on slips of paper that turn into a paper chain. I would love to have some place to put them. I aspire each year to make SOMETHING to put them all in, but it just never gets done, so I would have loved to get something like this.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:26:52 AM
I'm like most. Keep it and someday you will treasure it. One year my Dad took us five kids to get a gift for our Mom. We unanimously selected these two, about 18 inch tall sad looking dog banks to go on each end of the stereo. (yes I'm that old...lol). We didn't know this until years later but she was so excited because she just knew there were two lamps she had been wanting in those boxes. I remember when one of the dog banks got broken. She sat and cried. We couldn't figure out what the big deal was. She later told us she loved those dogs after the initial shock because she knew only kids could pick out something that horrible and that my Dad didn't choose her gift for us. Mom's can be crazy too. lol. Glad you are going to keep the calendar. Years from now you can tell your son your feelings and he can laugh too. That's how memories are made. We don't always remember the best things that happen.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:43:58 AM
If you're willing to risk hurting your child over $29.99 then by all means return it and wear your a-hole (your words) banner with pride.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:30:22 AM
DH is happily wearing slippers our 4 year old insisted on buying him. DH doesn't even wear socks at home, forget slippers. You absolutely keep it. He picked those after I steered him away from a snow shovel.




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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:46:28 AM
My DD is 12 and doesn't believe anymore, but god help me if I don't decorate the tree with all the tacky/ugly ornaments she made out of popsicle sticks and glitter in preschool. Even if we win a billion dollars on the lottery, our handmade tree will be coming to our mansion with us.

Some things are special. Are you starving and desperately need the $29 to keep a roof over your head? That would be the only acceptable reason to return this gift from your 4 year old.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 3:15:37 AM
No bashing, but I am very glad you decided to keep it. I know how exhausted I am and I has one of the best Christmases of my life! Christmas evening can lead to a lot of bad moments for moms I think, so hugs to you for taking a moment and then coming to this conclusion.

Fwiw, my son is 5 and constantly amazes us by bringing up things we did when he was 3 or even 2, in great detail. He can't remember to put his socks on in the morning but will wax poetic about the junky little toy with the fishing line type filament, labeled 10+ that a grandparent gave him at wife two. Which I of course promptly "lost" so he wouldn't strangle himself or something. Apparently that was a big mistake! I bet yours will remember.

I also did activities for ours most days with a few little treats. Trying egg nog, Christmas cookies for after school snack, a nighttime walk with me to look at the stars and having mommy read as many Christmas stories as he wanted all day were the biggest hits.
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Posted: 12/26/2012 4:19:11 AM
I wouldn't return anything one of my children gave me. Just couldn't!


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Posted: 12/26/2012 5:24:43 AM
My 14 yo dd still moves a safety pin on a fabric advent calendar that my sister gave me 15 years ago. EVERY morning she comes straight down, finds the new number, and moves the pin. It will hang in my house 'til the end of my time. And it is not attractive or trendy in the least.

So, that puts me in the "keep it and use it" category.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 5:42:21 AM
I'm glad you decided to keep it.

And what a lovely Merry Christmas pile on! I guess that's the reason for the season, lol.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 5:51:35 AM
I don't think that you're an a-hole or a jerk or anything like that.

But as a mom, I cannot imagine wanting to return something my child selected for me on their own and gifted me with. No matter 'what' the item was, the sentiment behind it would be irreplaceable to me.

Even if my child wouldn't remember, I could just not part with the item for sentimental reasons. And I think that by the age of 4, there is a very good chance they will remember. I have many memories from much earlier than that. And I can recall vividly things that I picked out myself to present to my mom.

For me, even if I didn't have a sentimental attachment to the item, I would not be willing to risk hurting my child's feelings, no matter how remote the risk.

It might be one thing if we were talking about something that cost an astronomical amount of money that would be a burden on your family if you could not use it and you could not afford to have that much money tied up.

But an advent calendar from Target? Even if it wasn't my style, even if if it felt like a bit of an imposition, I could not even imagine returning it if it had been a gift selected for me by my 4 year old.

But I am highly sentimental.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 6:33:29 AM

And what a lovely Merry Christmas pile on!





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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:00:23 AM

Thanks for knocking some sense into me, peas!

I'm so glad you decided to keep it. I really don't think you'll regret that decision. Now embrace it and make a big deal out of that calendar next year.

And for the record, I have proudly worn macaroni necklaces to dressy events before just because one of my sons made them. Sometimes a moms got to do what a moms got to do.








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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:11:25 AM
I'm glad you decided to keep it. I don't think you're a bad mom for considering it. The holidays are stressful and you asked a question to get some perspective. It's not like you told the 4 year old it was crap and he's a loser.

Everyone needs to relax.... I'm sure at some point yesterday we all had a thought that wasn't "Merry Christmas" like. That's what makes us human.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:16:05 AM
I'm not attached to things. I can't stand clutter and treasure time with my kids instead of objects so I can completely understand why you would consider returning it. But, yes, I think keeping it is the right thing to do.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:22:37 AM
Well, now I know two things about the OP...she's human and she has a sense of humor. Way to take things in stride...in typical pea fashion, there is no wiggle room for being fallible.

I'm glad you decided to keep it too...and it didn't take much persuasion so that tells me that your not the jackass of the year. Jackass of the year would have required a few more justifications, a strange twist to the story and a hairflip. You're good.

I have a jewelry box full of brooches made out of puzzle pieces and bracelets made out of plastic beads and necklaces of macaroni. For the first several years, I'd hold on to those things long enough to appease my daughter but then, as you get older...and your children get older...something happens.

You realize that puzzle piece brooch or macaroni necklace or torn up advent calendar is so much more than what it appears on the surface. I look at the puzzle piece now and I can hear the giggles of the 6 year old little girl who gave it to me. I can see her buck toothed smile and her freckled little nose and her spaghetti straight hair that she would only wear pulled tightly back into a pony. I can hear her squeals of delight as I opened her gift and I can see the pride in her eyes as I pinned it on.

When she's six, you just see a piece of yarn with macaroni or a beat paper calendar. But later, when she's 24, you see *her*.

You won't see it coming, but one of these years, you'll pull out that advent calendar and it will hit you. You'll pause, sitting on your knees on the floor, next to the box of Christmas decorations and you'll instantly be transported back to the year he was four...and you'll sit there just remembering him then...until he finally yells down to the basement from upstairs, 'Mom. What are you doing? Are we putting up these decorations, or what...I have plans tonight' And in a flash, you're back with the boy who sticks around long enough to eat and sleep and, if you're lucky, long enough to help his old mom decorate the house for Christmas.

And you will be SO happy you kept that advent calendar all those years before because it's become a memory...and those are too precious to return.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:30:57 AM
I'm glad you decided to keep it. I hope you both can treasure it for years to come.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:01:40 AM
Wow, KikiNicole. I don't even have kids and that hit me hard. Thank you for writing that.
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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:02:46 AM
One of the ways kids learn to be generous gift givers is to make a big deal about what they give, so they feel really good about it and want to repeat that feeling.

I would ask how he came to choose it, what does he think you could put in the drawers next year, and tell him it has one of your favorite Christmas colors 'red' so he will have a big smile on his face and start remembering how much mom liked his choice.

My guess is he picked it out himself, so I would cherish it, no doubt. And I would mention it every year when I got it out.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:18:58 AM
Jerk, yes. How adorable that he picked it out for you! i just can't get over what a sweet gift that is.
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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:23:52 AM
Thanks for making me cry KiKiNichole! Merry Christmas.

OP, I'm so glad you're keeping it.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:26:07 AM
She asked for honesty lol. Yeah, it would make you an asshole. I think you would regret it. I'm glad you decided to keep it and I think it will bring you and your 4 year old a lot of joy in the future



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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:28:46 AM

You won't see it coming, but one of these years, you'll pull out that advent calendar and it will hit you.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 8:32:23 AM
I'm glad you decided to keep it



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Posted: 12/26/2012 9:02:12 AM
I'd feel like crap but I'd return it..

Pretty sure you and your 4 year old will forget


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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:01:48 AM

Come on, kelleyo... really? In a world with the Kardashians, and Lindsay Lohan, and Justin Bieber wearing overalls to meet the PM of Canada, I'm Jackass of the YEAR???

I mean, okay, I'm a jackass, but of the YEAR??? Ish!!!



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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:47:43 AM
OP, I get "lean years" and thinking how far $29 could go in the pantry. I do.. I'm glad you've decided to keep it.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:59:07 AM
yeah it definitely makes you a jerk lets put your not so hot gift in perspective, I bet there are moms around the world who have have lost a child who would love one more not so hot gift from their child again just sayin'

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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:14:12 AM
Hey, you survived your first pea pile-on. You're an official pea now. Glad you're keeping it. It'll be a source of smiles when your little one is older and you think back to those early years.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:53:46 AM
Keep it.

Dd (17) looks forward to our old cardboard Starbucks Advent calendar - I couldn't get rid of it if I tried.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:03:38 PM
Glad you are keeping it.

My gorgeous friend is currently wearing the he#% out of a Cinderella princess ring because her little guy gave it to her. It's what we do.

Let DS pick out a bag of candy and stuff it with that next year. Don't over think it, just enjoy.



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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:18:12 PM
Yay, proud of OP.... glad you are keeping it.......

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:26:08 PM
OP at least you can be thankful that it won't be sitting out all year long. He will be so thrilled next year when you bring it out. I love the idea of putting the pieces of puzzle in it all season long. Great idea.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:26:36 PM

yeah it definitely makes you a jerk lets put your not so hot gift in perspective, I bet there are moms around the world who have have lost a child who would love one more not so hot gift from their child again just sayin'


Psst- you missed the pile on. It was yesterday. The storm is over now, and your comment is way out of line. Just sayin

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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:28:54 PM
OP at least you can be thankful that it won't be sitting out all year long. He will be so thrilled next year when you bring it out. I love the idea of putting the pieces of puzzle in it all season long. Great idea.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:00:39 PM
I'm so glad you decided to keep it.

I'm afraid I win the gift for child gift this year. I see that someone got a beaded alligator ring, and while that is LOVELY I present to you this: (from my 8 year old DD)



It a rubbery starfish necklace that LIGHTS UP

AND...she bought her brothers DOG RAWHIDE candy canes because seh thought they were wooden candy canes for on the tree. I LOVE that child.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:37:47 PM
OP again here...

First of all, my internet at home was out when I woke up this morning, and it NEVER goes out. Then when I tried to get a hold of DH at work to tell me what to do to fix it, I could not get a hold of him either, which also never happens.

All I could think was, "The peas are so pissed at me that they broke my internet!!"

Then I thought, "That thread must have gotten uglier and uglier because god sure does not want me to read it!"

So I opened it up with much trepidation and am relieved to read that y'all are giving me a little grace this morning. I'm not proud of it and of course I don't want to hurt my son for anything, but it's just been awhile since I spent even $29.99 on something frivolous for myself just because. And that's the selfish, immature part of me that asked the question last night.

But reading all of your stories about your kids' presents has made me laugh and actually made me look forward to using this thing every year. I'll never forget the circumstances behind its arrival, that's for sure!! And Kiki Nichole... wow. Your post was just beautiful, and I know it is so, so true.

I truly hope all of you had a Merry Christmas, even those of you who think I suck! Anyone want to start a fiscal cliff thread and move the pile on over there? Please?

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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:40:38 PM
I have a similar advent calendar. My kids love to open the doors every day but I've never put anything in it.


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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:50:01 PM
OP, you come across far more laid back and fun in your follow up posts. I'm glad you decided to keep the gift and hope you will someday laugh about this with your son.

I wish you a wonderful 2013 and hope you're able to treat yourself to a few little luxuries
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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:51:04 PM
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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:07:17 PM

I'm not proud of it and of course I don't want to hurt my son for anything, but it's just been awhile since I spent even $29.99 on something frivolous for myself just because.
Don't know why I didn't think of this when I posted yesterday...

If it makes you feel any better, I've seen that Advent calendar in Target and that whole section of holiday stuff was on sale BEFORE Christmas...it was at least 30% off, maybe even more. (I know because bought a bunch of that stuff, thinking it might not be there after Christmas) .

So they might not have had to spend quite as much on it as you're thinking!


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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:29:03 PM
OP, I love that you have a sense of humor through all of this! And I'm glad you are keeping it.

I have a green bottle and green spice jar that came from Big Lots sitting with my green depression glass collection because my then 3 year old bought it for me and excitedly told me he found something for my "impression glass collection!". It's worth more to me than all the green depression glass that I own! The funny part of the story is that I gave him $20 to buy ne a birthday gift because he wanted to get something so badly, had my friend take him to pick it out(with instructions he could pick what he wanted) and he came back home and gave me $16.60 in change! He was sooo proud!

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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:34:58 PM
I'd pack it away this year, and see what happens next year. If he remembers, then suck it up and do it. If he doesn't, pack it up for Goodwill or Salvation Army.

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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:57:02 PM
I'm so happy you decided to keep it. Returning it would have made you a high-maintenance mom, where the child eventually shuts down because "I can't please her and nothing I do is right."

And it's so easy to squash them. I'm talking from experience -- my BFF's grade school son was making fun of my Sensa pen, twirling it around, etc., and I blurted out, "Hey, don't be dissing something that cost me $50. That's not junk, that's a serious piece of my work." Well, it turns out he'd bought me this pen with laser cut stars in it from the elementary school store for Christmas, and he was merely expressing how excited he was that he spent his allowance on a "perfect"gift to me. Apparently my words hurt deeply because I unwrapped it a few weeks later with a note that said, "It's not a real pen because it wasn't expensive. I'm sorry."

I still cry when I remember that. The pen is in a place of honor in my office and I kept the note in a box to remind myself to see things through a child's eyes.

At four, gift-giving is a new experience and your DS is learning to make others happy. They aren't always good at it, but it's such a precious start that the gift will always remind you of that.

Julie



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Posted: 12/26/2012 2:57:30 PM

My DD is 12 and doesn't believe anymore, but god help me if I don't decorate the tree with all the tacky/ugly ornaments she made out of popsicle sticks and glitter in preschool. Even if we win a billion dollars on the lottery, our handmade tree will be coming to our mansion with us.




And dammit Kristen/Kiki, you made me CRY.




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Posted: 12/26/2012 3:01:48 PM
I'm glad you decided to keep it. Kids are pretty proud of themselves when they pick something out to give you. Even a four year old.

You won't regret it. It may be the ugliest thing ever, but when you look at it, remember the smile they had on their face when you opened the gift.


Well Peas, I believe this thread has gone Thrusday.
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Posted: 12/26/2012 3:53:09 PM
It's a keeper. Start a new tradition with it.

My 5yr old gave me a blue plastic wine goblet with stick on jewels decorating it. I drank from it all day wine, soda and water and the look o pride on his face when he saw me drinking from it, was worth more than anything else he could have given me. It will go in my wine glass cupboard and is now my go to wine glass.
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