OMG! Is anyone following the story of Manti Te'o's *dead* girlfriend?? Notre Dame football player

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Posted: 1/17/2013 12:15:58 PM
I find it weird too that he never saw her.... And he talked to her on the phone right? Who the heck was he talking too then..?!? I can't wait til the real story comes forth. And if he didn't do it, when will they find out who really was behind the whole thing?



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Posted: 1/17/2013 12:19:50 PM

I find it weird too that he never saw her.... And he talked to her on the phone right? Who the heck was he talking too then..?!? I can't wait til the real story comes forth. And if he didn't do it, when will they find out who really was behind the whole thing?
It's addressed in the deadspin article. The person is somebody he knows. It should be easy enough to track further people involved by his phone records and all these lengthy, frequent phone calls.

I'm still having a hard time believing it was all a hoax.



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Posted: 1/17/2013 12:32:26 PM

If he really is that gullible, one would have to question how he ever managed to get into university in the first place, as its not likely he'll have the intelligence to graduate.

I think he was complicit.


Being school smart does not mean someone is street smart. And especially when it comes to love life, and even more especially when the person seems very sheltered. My coworkers former mentor is a brilliant, accomplished attorney, who is very good at her job and graduated top of her class. Yet when you hear her love life stories she sounds absolutely dumb. The things she puts up with from her much younger unemployed boyfriend are mindboggling to most people. But she is in complete denial. Doesn't make any less of a good attorney though.

Besides, Te'o is a good athlete, those don't really need to be school smart to get into and graduate form college.




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Posted: 1/17/2013 12:57:29 PM

You said you sent white roses to her funeral. What funeral home?


I think this part is easy, the flowers could have been intercepted, the person just walks into the home and says sorry my friend sent flowers here by mistake, please be on the lookout for it.

I want to know if was talking to a girl on the phone (a 3rd party) or that guy create a falsetto voice? Should be easy to research that phone number unless it was only used for the purpose of speaking to Manti Te'o.




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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:06:12 PM
WILL an investigation be done though? Was any of this a crime? I doubt the phone record or funeral information (or lack thereof) is public record. Donations were sent for leukemia, but is soliciting donations illegal, if on false pretenses? If he were complicit, it seems to me that all he is guilty of is lying, nothing that would elicit an investigation.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:07:23 PM
So, now people are assuming he's too stupid to even graduate from college?

Geez, I suppose no one has ever done anything stupid when it comes to affairs of the heart. Someone nailed it on the head about believing what one wants to believe. If this person kept handing him excuses as to why they couldn't meet, but he felt like he was in love, he'd probably ignore the red flag. Assuming he's innocent, he probably feels like a complete idiot. And I'd imagine he told lies during the "relationship" to make himself look like less of an idiot for having an online girlfriend.

I'm still going to wait to condemn him, call him names, and insist I "know" what happened. Cause I don't.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:09:44 PM
Only read the first page of comments on this thread but my first thought when I read this story was that it reminded me strongly of Sydneygate here on 2peas.

I actually did a search to see if the pictures of the so-called girlfriend were pictures of "Sydney."

Too bad they weren't. We could've spent hours regaling the media with our tale of "Sydneygate."


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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:11:53 PM
More from Poynter.org on how DeadSpin reported the story, and "What lengths do we go to to try and prove a negative?":

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What sorts of questions did the editor ask to make sure that this was a thoroughly reported story?

We began reporting on Friday. By Monday, Burke had found and contacted the woman in the Lennay photos. Once we had her on the record, we knew we had enough for a story. By Tuesday, we had a draft.

The only question, really: What lengths do we go to to try and prove a negative? Do we call funeral homes in Carson (we did)? Do we call funeral homes *near* Carson (we didn't)? Once we got an answer from Stanford on the question of Lennay's enrollment, I was satisfied.

What's your reaction to the reality that no other journalists thought to look into this story?

Well, I understand how this slipped through the cracks initially. If I'm a beat guy and I have 500 words to file after practice come hell or high water and the best player on the team has just told me a story about his dear, departed girlfriend, I'm not going to go spelunking through SSA death records to make sure he's not full of shit. They won't say that out loud in journalism classes or anything, but that's just the nature of covering sports on a hard deadline.

I have less sympathy for the folks who crafted those painstaking "Love Story"-in-cleats feature stories about Manti and his dead girlfriend. Those were dumb, infantilizing stories to begin with, and they were executed poorly and sloppily, and if there's any lesson to be drawn from this, it's that this kind of simpering crap should be eliminated from the sports pages entirely.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:15:53 PM
I hate to keep bringing up the Dr Phil case but at least one of the girls had saved phone conversations or voicemails. Looking back, the voice did sound somewhat feminine but I wonder if there is some kind of machine to change your voice easily? That person even created a sister that called the girls and talked to them about the health problems, car accidents, etc that the "guy" was involved with. I would assume the "sister" was actually the woman pretending to be the guy. It's just amazing how much effort these people put into this kind of thing. Don't thu have better things to do?


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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:36:27 PM

This is getting good! We're almost up to a really killer Lifetime movie


I told my husband this same thing!


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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:39:58 PM
Was Dr Phil this week?

I don't remember Sydneygate, can you refresh my memory?




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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:48:16 PM
Maybe she was a "composite" girlfriend that he was going to include in his autobiography...





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Posted: 1/17/2013 1:54:17 PM

There is a movie and now a TV show on MTV about this very kind of stuff. It is called "Catfish" and it happens a lot more than people realize. I don't find it hard to believe that he really thought he was in a relationship with the person he saw on the screen.
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and could it be that this show/movie is where he got the idea to concoct such a story? I am not saying that is what happened, just stating it as a possibility.


The movie Catfish wasn't released until September 2010. Teo "met" his fake girlfriend in November 2009. The Catfish-related MTV show just premiered in November 2012.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:07:40 PM
I admit it; I am fascinated by this on many, many, many levels.

First: The crazy. I cannot stop looking at it. This whole premise is so insane that you couldn't make it up...yet, he did.

Second: The "mainstream" media screwed up royally. No one did any research? Really? Also, in what world is the original story even a story? Whenever College Game Day on ESPN does their "human interest" story, I call it, "A football player once knew someone and he or she died," because that's what it is.

Third: Wow. A blog broke this story! That is awesome. I imagine that a blog/media outlet like Deadspin doesn't have a lot of overhead. Their writers/stringers possibly work out of their homes -- the two who did the bulk of the work on the Te'o story are undergrads -- and for a nominal fee. So they can "afford" to look at all the crazy tips and e-mails they get.

I was a city editor at a midsized daily for a while. I drove my reporters crazy because every call I got, every e-mail I got, we looked into. Eight times out of 10, it was the crazy. But those two times? Awesome stories. Newspapers, with their short staffing, can't really investigate every crazy tip they get these days.

Anyway, I find the whole thing just awesomely crazy, and I love it.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:10:08 PM
The Dr Phil show was last week or before. Let me see if I still have it on DVR.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:21:06 PM
I have heard so many different stories and interviews and such I'm not sure where I sit on this one, if he did get duped (which I am hoping is the case) that he will be able to carry on and still go on and have a career and 'recover'. I can't imagine the dad being in on it due to what is at stake for his son, why risk the reputation of all that his son had worked for? That one seems like a big stretch to me.
Even if he had met her, how did he know that wasn't a set up as well as others have mentioned. They did a story on this on the news today that it's an internet thing called "catfishing". Someone mentioned it earlier. Frightening. I hope for his sake that it is a true that he didn't just make the whole thing up or if he did he was trying to not make it so bad because he's been humiliated and it got out of control.




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It's sports 'news' because there are people that are saying that this was concocted (and he was in on it) in order to get him media coverage (which worked) in order to raise his visibility for Heisman voting.


They were alluding on the radio talk show that I listen to that they think that he was using that relationship as a cover for being gay.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:37:01 PM

They were alluding on the radio talk show that I listen to that they think that he was using that relationship as a cover for being gay.


That was my first thought yesterday when the story broke. I've been listening to sports talk radio all day and that's the opinion of some of the hosts, too. Not everyone -- some think he was truly duped -- but some have mentioned that possibly he was trying to cover his true sexual orientation.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:39:44 PM
If he was gay, why not just make up a girlfriend without using someone's picture or having someone else involved? For that matter, if you wanted to make it up for any reason, why involve other people? It would be easier to just keep it to yourself and not risk the other person telling. My guess is that the guy behind the whole thing is the same person that tipped the blog off to the fact that the girlfriend wasn't real. I may be wrong, but I tend to believe that Te'o was duped. Partly because the guy/friend was caught doing this to at least one other person a month before the relationship with Te'o started.



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They were alluding on the radio talk show that I listen to that they think that he was using that relationship as a cover for being gay.




This was my DS's opinion also. He is sports obsessed and said that there are very few, if any, openly gay players in the NFL. The fact that he is also a member of a conservative religion, and that he attends a church affiliated (albeit a different denomination) university could also contribute to the need to cover his sexuality up. I hope that isn't the case, and if it is true, it makes me feel really bad for him.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:52:47 PM
I think I'm going to need a bigger bucket of popcorn before this is over!!!

Truly, I am having trouble wrapping my brain around the WHY part of this.
Why would a "friend" do this to another, well why do it period?
I know people have said money, press time, exposure, etc. But REALLY? This took an
awful lot of time and coordination on someones part. And the thing that keeps coming back to me is that he said he "met" her on the field after a game! WHO was that girl he met? And how does she factor into this? OR did he lie about that and it really was totally internet stuff? I just don't know. But it stinks no matter how you sort the pieces.



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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:57:42 PM
Sydneygate happened a few years ago.

Basically a poster at 2peas calling herself "Sydney" came on the board and chatted and made friends with lots of Peas. She gave details like she had a boyfriend in the military who was deployed. She posted pictures.

This went on for a long time. It wasn't a quick scam. She was on the board for a long time before she let it be known that she was battling cancer.

I don't remember all of the details now, but she was this very sympathetic figure and a lot of Peas felt terrible for her, especially when she told us her cancer had worsened and she was going into the hospital and her deployed boyfriend couldn't get home to see her.

Then while she was in the hospital her "friend" posted updates on her situation, including her death.

I can't remember how the whole thing was discovered--I seem to recall that a bunch of Peas had made homemade cards for "Sydney" and a local Pea wanted to deliver them in person but couldn't get the "friend" to cough up which hospital she was in? Does that sound right? Maybe someone will chime in here.

Regardless, it was discovered that the "friend" was also "Sydney" and this person was a scrapbook store owner out in California. Cara in TX then found pictures of "Sydney" on a porn site and some online hook up site as well. No one was able to discover who the soldier was in the photos "Sydney" posted. It was speculated that it was possible that the scrapbook store owner copied the photos from one of her customer's scrapbooks, but we'll never know.

We also aren't sure what the point of the hoax was because other than some homemade cards, nothing was asked for. Perhaps eventually the "friend" would have asked for donations to cover the funeral or the medicals bills her "family" was paying? It was discovered before that part of the scam could be revealed/perpetrated.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:03:41 PM
I just read an article on TMZ (I know, but could that be any stranger than what's already out there). This is strange indeed. Is it an inside joke between buddies that just went viral and "reporters" picked it up and ran with it?

Real life is always strange.

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We also aren't sure what the point of the hoax was because other than some homemade cards, nothing was asked for. Perhaps eventually the "friend" would have asked for donations to cover the funeral or the medicals bills her "family" was paying? It was discovered before that part of the scam could be revealed/perpetrated.


Apparently there is a term for this behavior: Munchausen by Internet. There is also Munchausen by Internet Trolling.

Here is one article about it: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/the-lying-disease/Content?oid=15337239&view=comments#15348446 The author of the article interviewed some of the people who put on these hoaxes and describes one: "She's upbeat, even laughing at herself as she tells me about her overpowering compulsion to be liked, to be the center of attention, to lie.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:16:10 PM
Thanks *Scrapper* now I remember that.

That would be an interesting and plauible twist if he was gay. His family and friends may have asked who he was talking to on the phone all the time so he had to come up with a photo. After seriously dating her for 2 years his parents wanted to meet her so he came up with this ridiculous idea that she died.

TMZ is so funny, the title of their article is "Manti Te'o Hoax ...BLOWN WIDE OPEN" pun intended I'm sure! lol




Jan said she wanted to send flowers -- so Lennay's "sister" gave her an address. TMZ has learned the address belongs to a member of the Tuiasosopo family.






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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:37:19 PM

They were alluding on the radio talk show that I listen to that they think that he was using that relationship as a cover for being gay.


I've heard that as well. But there is also an article (I believe also on Deadspin) that several of his teammates thought it was fishy...and said they knew he was with other girls on campus while he was 'with' his 'girlfriend.'

And even if he IS gay...what's the point of this 'relationship' at all? I mean, he's a premiere talent at a D1 school, going into the NFL. Why not just say he doesn't have time for a girlfriend because he wanted to focus on football? Or if he thought he 'needed' to have a girlfriendm as a cover, why not just say he didn't have time to see her anymore, or the distance was too much, or just say they broke up? I don't see the point in saying she died. At all.



And the thing that keeps coming back to me is that he said he "met" her on the field after a game!


No, his DAD said that in an interview with the South Bend newspaper (I think it was). I don't know if he then agreed to it later, but it was first said by his dad.


it really was totally internet stuff?

The school AD confirmed today that it was exclusively an online relationship. They never met in person.


What's your reaction to the reality that no other journalists thought to look into this story?




They have interviewed one of the reporters from Sports Illustrated. He said that when he was first doing the story, he does remember that he could not find any information about the supposed car accident or her obituary and thought it was odd. He asked Te'o if he could get some more information and / or photos of her, and that Te'o basically told him that her family wanted to be left alone. Short of searching for her death certificate, he felt that he had to respect Te'o's requests -- or something along those lines.




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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:39:39 PM
Mallie, thank you for posting the link to that article. It was really interesting (and more than a bit disturbing).




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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:40:12 PM
This is interesting as well. Breitbart is claiming that ESPN knew about this before the National Championship Game, and sat on it (either because it wasn't in their best interest to report it or because they were still working in the facts - probably both). Deadspin just got the story out there first.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:50:32 PM
There's no way he didn't know, at least to some extent. They met in person, which he himself says, so he would have known at the very least that she was using someone else's pictures for her social media. Unless that poor lady she was impersonating has a twin out there crazy enough to pull something like this off. I do not feel sorry for him.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:07:13 PM

They met in person, which he himself says, so he would have known at the very least that she was using someone else's pictures for her social media.


No, they didn't.

The Notre Dame Athletic Director confirmed that they did not meet. Here's what he said:


Swarbrick admitted that the relationship was "exclusively online," though the perpetrators also placed phone calls to Te'o disguised as Kekua. While Te'o and his father had both told reporters previously that Kekua had visited the Te'os in Hawaii, Swarbrick said that Kekua never met Manti Te'o or his family, and that she provided excuses for why she failed to make each planned visit.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:09:33 PM
Why is this news?

I honestly don't get it?

There appears to have been nothing illegal and no real person died? It's strange, weird, and possibly embarrassing, yes. Does that really command national attention to dig and pick at it?


Not digging at people discussing it here but that it made the National non-sport news.

What am I missing? I mean what do they THINK happened that would be newsworthy beyond "dude you got scammed!" or "Dude you are a liar!"




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Posted: 1/17/2013 4:15:06 PM
Te'o himself said that blah, blah, blah, she was so beautiful, but it wasn't just a physical beauty. How would he know about her physical beauty had he not seen her (or told people that he had seen her)?

He continued to answer questions about her AFTER he had revealed to Notre Dame that the whole thing was a sham:


He was asked again about his girlfriend on Jan. 3 prior to the BCS title game, saying: "This team is very special to me, and the guys on it have always been there for me, through the good times and the bad times. I rarely have a quiet time to myself because I always have somebody calling me, asking, 'Do you want to go to the movies?' Coach is always calling me asking me, 'Are you OK? Do you need anything?' "

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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:02:24 PM

Why is this news?

I honestly don't get it?

There appears to have been nothing illegal and no real person died? It's strange, weird, and possibly embarrassing, yes. Does that really command national attention to dig and pick at it?




Because he is one of the highest profile college athletes in the country. He just played in the national championship. He's predicted to be a Top 10 NFL draft pick. He finished 2nd in the Heisman Voting. People are saying that this story was concocted to help him win the Heisman. And this story was national (sports) news when she 'died'. There were a bunch of ESPN and Sports Illustrated articles, etc about the 'death.' So to not report about it now would be even more strange.

It started as a national sports story. Then it turned into all of the makings of a Lifetime Movie, and got mainstream news attention. It's fairly fascinating - from a sports perspective, but also a social media perspective, and in a 'who done it' sort of way.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 5:19:27 PM
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Posted: 1/17/2013 7:17:17 PM

People are saying that this story was concocted to help him win the Heisman. And this story was national (sports) news when she 'died'. There were a bunch of ESPN and Sports Illustrated articles, etc about the 'death.' So to not report about it now would be even more strange.


Aahhh. Gotcha.

In this age when "reality TV is so often scripted and engineered for maximum drama and ratings it's probably surprising that so many were surprised.

I find it an indictment of what passes for journalism these days. How was it not caught sooner?



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Posted: 1/17/2013 7:26:06 PM

No, they didn't.

The Notre Dame Athletic Director confirmed that they did not meet. Here's what he said:


So what? Because it's completely unheard of for a coach/athletic director to lie/cover up/attempt to save face? I've read more than one article where it's reported that they met.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 7:29:31 PM
And also:

While Te'o and his father had both told reporters previously that Kekua had visited the Te'os in Hawaii, Swarbrick said that Kekua never met Manti Te'o or his family, and that she provided excuses for why she failed to make each planned visit
So we are supposed to believe he was lying then and telling the truth now? Okay.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 7:36:31 PM
And I guess to give the benefit of the doubt to the athletic director, maybe he truly believes that they never met. But that's based on what? On what Manti says NOW, conveniently AFTER this has turned into a scandal? It it walks like a duck...


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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:02:49 PM
Janet - did you read Te'o's own statement that he said yesterday? He said he was in an online emotional relationship. He didn't meet her. She doesn't exist.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:11:09 PM
KAS* Brian Teo has said in the past:


Every once in a while, she would travel to Hawaii, and that happened to be the time Manti was home, so he would meet with her there. But within the last year, they became a couple.
Te'o's father added then: "And we came to the realization that she could be our daughter-in-law."


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So either the father is lying or the son is lying.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:22:32 PM

Janet - did you read Te'o's own statement that he said yesterday? He said he was in an online emotional relationship. He didn't meet her. She doesn't exist.
I did. I realize she doesn't exist. My point is only that I believe he knew, to some extent, that this was a scam/made up. He lied, and admitted to lying per your cut/paste from the athletic director, about meeting her. He lied about that particular fact multiple times, and even involved his father, who also lied about that particular fact multiple times. Why would anyone lie about that? From where I sit, the only explanation is that there is much more involvement than they are willing to admit.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:47:51 PM
Maureen - yes, I mentioned earlier that his dad said they met. His dad said they met after a football game in 2009 as well.

His parents did not meet her but apparently believed that their son met her in person. Or dad is 'in on it' too.

Janet - we may be on the same page then. You said that he met her, and I was just saying that he really didn't meet her (or anyone pretending to be her) He might have said that previously, but he's not saying that now. I am not saying Te'o was duped completely.

There are too many pieces that don't make sense - I just don't understand what the point of it was either way. If he DIDN'T know, why would his 'friend' do this to him? For what benefit?

If he did know...why? What was the point? Trying to hide being gay (one speculation) doesn't explain the enormity of the lies. Wouldn't you just end the relationship? You're from Hawaii, go to school in Indiana, and she lives in California. Just break up & say the distance was too hard! Why make up leukemia, and a bone marrow transplant, and a car accident, and write letters to parents who have kids in the hospital who have cancer, and have 'her' send a text message to your parents the day your grandma does...and then tell your parents that she died that day too?? It doesn't make any sense at all. Gay, straight, hoax, knew about it, or participated in it. It makes no sense.


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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:50:24 PM
Two Words: Heismann Trophy.

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Posted: 1/17/2013 9:52:29 PM
Oh okay, I think maybe my first post wasn't worded the way I meant. I meant if he was really claiming to be in the dark about this, and since he did claim to have met her, then he didn't have any wiggle room there either since he would have known there was something about her that wasn't "right".


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Posted: 1/17/2013 10:51:01 PM
Here are the issues I have:

1) His father is quoted saying the family met her.
2) Manti is claiming they only had an online/phone relationship. This was disclosed by the university.
3) Who is the girl he actually spoke to on the phone if the photos he had seen of her are of a girl who had no involvement?
4) After Manti informed ND of the alleged hoax, he continued to lie about it to news media.
5) How does a person maintain a three-year relationship without actually meeting or Skyping at the very least?

I'm still leaning toward believing that he and his friend concocted the whole story. As to his motivation, it could be that he is either gay or he thought that this lie would help him win the Heisman. Since the lie began three years ago, it's more probable that he is hiding his sexuality or just wanted people to think he had a really hot girlfriend and loved the attention he got when he told people about her - in my eyes, making him a serial liar.

I do not believe he is the victim of a hoax.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 6:14:57 AM
Even the Heisman motivation is a bit fishy, although there's something I'm not clear on.

Dad says they met in '09, and were friends in '10 & '11. But when is the first time the public knew anything of his 'girlfriend?' Was it just during this season? Have his teammates/friends known about her for years, or did she just become his girlfriend magically this season and he says they have been friends for years but nobody knew of her?

Because there's no way they were concocting a Heisman campaign for 3 years. He had an outstanding season this last year, but that was a 'breakout' season for him. He wasn't known for being so amazing before that. As I mentioned, there's a UGA player (and I'm sure many other college players!) whose stats are better in most categories. He wasn't a Heisman candidate in any way, shape or form. Te'o was because of the media storm, no doubt. But has this 'relationship' really gone on for 3 years? I can't believe they concocted that story 3 years ago, hoping he would one day become a Heisman Candidate. Hopefully that makes sense. I know what I'm trying to say, but not sure I'm doing it well.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 6:15:53 AM
If he's gay and made up the girlfriend to hide that, if she dies (rather than they just break up), it affords him the cloak of extreme grief to hide that he isn't dating women. No one would expect him to start dating for a while after the death of a long-time friend/girlfriend. At least, until after he leaves school and gets in the NFL.

Someone called into a sports talk show yesterday (may have been Dan Patrick) and said that the family is known for stretching the truth and making up things. That lots of people in the town where they live are not surprised that this occurred. Of course, this could just be someone who has a personal beef with them or someone just telling tales, but I thought it was interesting.

It cannot be disputed, however, that he continued to act as if she had existed even after he knew it was all a fake. That alone makes me suspicious that he was complicit.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:01:56 AM
Article about nfl player

It only gets weirder Reagan Mauia former Cardinals player claims to have met the non exist any girlfriend!

There is just so much going on here it's hard to tell who's lying and or why. Weird. So is there really a person out there scamming football players? And why?

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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:43:04 AM

It cannot be disputed, however, that he continued to act as if she had existed even after he knew it was all a fake. That alone makes me suspicious that he was complicit.
I think that is fishy too.

If he had just had an online relationship and it just fizzled out - then I could believe he was duped. But the timing of her dying, the media blitz, and all that followed - that is very suspicious to me. He did benefit from this when it was going on (not financially, but it certainly elevated his public profile).

At the very least, he's dishonest. Either way he has lied.

I find this whole thing fascinating!


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