PVM - 100 ppl invited to a baby shower is too many right?
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PeaNut 116,261
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Posted: 1/18/2013 8:44:08 AM
That's A Lot of people!!!


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Posted: 1/18/2013 10:36:39 AM
Honestly, I don't think I have ever been to a shower with only 20 people! Guess our families and friends do it large! Mostly all of them are at a banquet halls with sit down or buffet meal or person's house that is large. I would say 35 - 80 people is average. I don't mind baby and wedding showers but usually it ends up taking up most of the afternoon.

Even if you invite 100, 100 won't come. Maybe have her cut the list down to 80 and 50 - 60 will be there.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 10:48:21 AM
Does she expect you to pay for a party that large? Have you guys discussed budget? I think it's fine to say "This is my budget. We can have a nice buffet/luncheon/etc with fewer people or some punch and cookies with a larger crowd". Personally, I would stick to family/friends.


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Posted: 1/18/2013 11:05:53 AM
I'd have no hesitation in telling my sister that I can't afford to host an event of that size and/or that I wasn't comfortable/equipped to do so. She could then scale it back or ask someone to help me or ask someone to take it over. Those would be her choices.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 11:14:14 AM
We live in a small town and own/run our business. It's really hard sometimes to draw the line between customers and friends. Your customers become friends and sooner or later your friends become your customers.

When my children got married we sent out about 175 invitations to the shower and then had to send out more when people who we thought would not be interested in coming asked if they would be getting an invitation. We had the wedding showers at halls and had all the aunts on both sides be the hostesses. I think I ended up throwing some money in and doing all the invitations/making and postage. Around here showers are big things.

One of them their friends did the baby showers and they were come and go and held in homes. But I bet there were that many people who attended the baby showers too. The other one had the baby shower in the townhall and I helped with the invites and I made around 400 of them. I don't know if that many showed up or not.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 11:24:44 AM
Who decides that X number of people is the appropriate amount for a baby shower?

It's an individual thing. For *your* baby shower, 100 people is too many. For *her* baby shower, 100 people might be just right.

It sounds like you are paying for the baby shower. Did you set parameters before she started working on the guest list? I saw in a subsequent post that you are trying to convince her to break it into two groups and that she seems annoyed. Perhaps there's a lack of communication between you two? Maybe you should both sit down and talk about the guest list and the expectations for the shower. That might clear up some of the issues.

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Posted: 1/18/2013 12:56:01 PM
Not in my family. We have such a big family, there are always at least 100 at the showers. And it has been proven (LOL) that if you start cutting people, people get offended and hurt that they were left out. So we all just have big, happy, fun showers and everyone has a blast. Love having a big family.

Sometimes they get so big that if the bride/mom-to-be has a lot of friends or co-workers or ILs, there has to be 2 or 3 showers. And everyone's good with that.

It wasn't until 2Peas that I heard of showers with only 15 or 20 people, honestly! It's just not anything I've ever experienced. I mean literally on Sundays when just my own side of the family gets together, it's 28 people - that's JUST brothers/sisters and their spouses and kids, and my Dad. That's not even counting one aunt, uncle, cousin, grandchildren, anything.

ETA: Some of the replies on here are harsh. Some people DO have just "close friends and family" and that means 100 people. Just because it's not how your life is, doesn't mean it's not how some people's lives are.



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Posted: 1/18/2013 1:36:49 PM
That is a lot esp. if you plan on opening gifts. a dear friend of mine, had a about 75 and it was the longest shower ever and with that many gifts, she hardly had time to really open and appreciate each gift. She hardly knew what anyone gave her..

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Posted: 1/18/2013 1:52:07 PM
I had over 100 BUT they were all family members

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Posted: 1/21/2013 4:55:58 PM
any updates?


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Posted: 1/21/2013 4:56:00 PM
any updates?
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