If you had a loved one that was cremated, what did you do with their ashes?

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jenjie
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Posted: 1/25/2013 8:07:23 PM
I was with my friend the day before her mom passed away a few weeks ago. She and her sisters were interested in cremation jewelry. If you are ever in this position, the funeral home quoted prices upwards of $200 but we found Perfect Memorials online offers many choices in a wide range of prices. My friend's mom loved butterflies. She was happy that there were plenty of butterflies to choose from.


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Posted: 1/25/2013 8:54:22 PM
My dad passed away last week, here in CA. He was cremated and being sent to AZ, where my mom is buried. He will be buried with her.

They were living in AZ when my mom passed away. He came here when he no longer could live alone. He was a veteran, so they have a plot in a National Cemetery.


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Posted: 1/25/2013 8:54:22 PM
My dad passed away last week, here in CA. He was cremated and being sent to AZ, where my mom is buried. He will be buried with her.

They were living in AZ when my mom passed away. He came here when he no longer could live alone. He was a veteran, so they have a plot in a National Cemetery.


Janet

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Posted: 1/25/2013 8:58:15 PM
My mom and sister were cremated and their ashes are in the cemetary in the town where we lived.

a friend has her husbands ashes in a big urn on her desk, when she dies, hers will be added, then mixed, and the urn is going to a plot they have somewhere.

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Posted: 1/25/2013 9:02:28 PM
My dad passed away on Father's Day last year. He wanted to be cremated and scattered in two of his favorite places. We did both and also scattered them at a park that we all loved. We also bought memorial necklaces that you can put ashes in. And the rest are still in a box in the living room.


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Posted: 1/25/2013 9:16:49 PM
My mother's ashes were buried in the plot next to my father's coffin. It was a strange turn of events that brought us to cremation for Mama. She didn't think about funeral plans when Daddy was alive, and when he died suddenly at age 53, she was not prepared and in complete shock. A few years later, when a high school acquaintance of mine died and was cremated by her parents, Mama actually said to me, "I can't imagine putting my baby in something so hot that nothing is left but ashes." So I thought Mama was opposed to cremation in general.

Then a few more years down the road -- about 9 or 10 years -- Mama's cancer came back, and she was tired, and she really didn't have much fight left in her. So when we discussed her funeral plans, I was really surprised when she directed me to have her cremated and put her ashes next to Daddy's grave. We got a marker to go next to Daddy's, but there was no burial -- it was just her ashes in a cardboard box.

I have long thought about my plans for when I die, and I have made sure my entire family knows. I want to be cremated, I want an Irish wake (not a funeral or a viewing or anything else depressing and maudlin), and I want my ashes scattered in Orlando, FL, and Cades Cove, TN. Don't keep me in a vase on the mantel; I'm not there.

I am glad there's a marker for Mama, though.


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Posted: 1/25/2013 10:37:03 PM
My FIL wanted to be spread out over a Boy Scout camp he used to spend a lot of time at. He was...not making this up...shot out of a cannon over the boat pond in an evening ceremony.

He had it all planned out...every last detail.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:00:38 AM
Grandpa was partially scattered in a boyhood park, the rest of him is at my mom's. My grandmother was in my aunt's wine cellar, and is now with Grandpa since Aunt moved to France. My step-dad was in my mom's dresser until she got around to burying his ashes at the cemetery.

Not sure about what MIL is going to do with FIL's remains. She hasn't received them back yet. She will probably keep them around.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:14:32 AM
DH has a client who has told her DD repeatedly that her ashes are to be put into a peanut butter jar and the jar lid is to be securely wrapped with duct tape. She's convinced that her DGD will spill her ashes everywhere, then DD would need to vacuum them up,and she (the client) will have to spend eternity in a Hoover! She and I both had a good laugh with that one!


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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:09:27 AM
Both of my parents' ashes are in Arlington National Cemetery.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:12:09 AM
My mom was creamated because she always said she had a fear of being buried alive. We buried her ashes with her mom and dad.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:46:08 AM
My dad was a Little League baseball coach, umpire and head of the Missoula league for years. After he passed we scattered a few ashes behind home plate at his favorite baseball field. Not many ashes, but some, and I know he would have loved it. The rest are in a small urn in my mom's bedroom.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 12:26:57 PM
When my brother died 25 years ago he was training to be a fighter pilot in the Air Force. He loved flying jets more than anything. My parents had him cremated because they couldn't bear the thought of having to see him in a coffin. A week or so after the funeral service his remains were scattered by a jet that flew over the mountains near the Air Force academy during sunset. We have pictures of the contrails from the jet illuminated by the setting sun. It was a really beautiful way to put him to rest.







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Posted: 1/26/2013 1:33:34 PM
My mother's ashes were released from the top of Long's Peak in Colorado, per her wishes.



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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:31:09 PM

A week or so after the funeral service his remains were scattered by a jet that flew over the mountains near the Air Force academy during sunset. We have pictures of the contrails from the jet illuminated by the setting sun. It was a really beautiful way to put him to rest.



I love this idea... it's totally something I'd love for myself.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:00:45 PM
My mom's ashes are at my dad's house. When my dad passes, we are going to combine the ashes in a heart-shaped wooden container that he made. Then we are going to take them both up to the Sawtooth Mountains in Idaho. They both spent their childhoods in Ketchum and both skied a lot. That's where they want their ashes to be spread.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:11:18 PM
My Dad's ashes are buried at a Veteran's cemetery. I love to go and visit him and read all the headstones. Such great history.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:35:52 PM
We spread some of my brother's ashes in the ocean, (at the beach where we had manyyyy fun times!) and I have some of them in a container in my house, behind my favorite photo of him



Stephanie in TX
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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:55:29 PM
We're Catholic so we don't 'spread' ashes. They are to remain all together.
I had my brother cremated 9/2011 and he is now buried, 8/2012, in the 18" of space between our paternal grandparents - very small town (under 350 people) church cemetery. When we asked about using one of the family owned plots the Priest offered the space between my grandparents at no charge.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:42:17 PM
My mum wanted her ashes scattered in the country near a farm she spent many childhood days and had wonderful memories of. Dad said he didn't care what we did. Mum died in May 2002 and Dad in Dec 2002 so we combined the ashes, found a lovely secluded spot in the country and scattered them there. We planted some rose bushes and scattered some wild flower seeds. Mum loved the area and dad loved rose bushes and his garden so hopefully they are both together and happy

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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:54:01 PM
Mum has Dads ashes in a box on the bookshelf in the lounge room. When she goes, both lots of ashes will be scattered together.

An Uncles ashes were buried under a rose bush near the back gate of their house. When aunty died a couple of years ago, the house was sold. As far as I know, Uncle is still under the rose bush - unless the new owners have found him by now.



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Posted: 1/28/2013 7:43:51 AM

People think it is weird but we had glass beads made with some of my Grandmas ashes, one for each child and grandchild. I wear my bracelet with the bead everyday. The rest were put into a garden in her honor.


I don't think that's weird at all. It sounds lovely to me.



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Posted: 1/28/2013 9:21:46 AM
Mother is on a shelf in our computer room. I just tote her from place to place and usually tell her (container) where she is now. Then I don't think about her till our next move. I've told my hubs I'm going to keep him on my coffee table so I can continue talking to him.
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