What kind of an asshole parent takes a child to see Zero Dark Thirty?
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Posted: 1/26/2013 3:20:07 PM
Good parenting skills there. Torture scene. Torture scene. Child starts to get upset. You think?

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Posted: 1/26/2013 3:25:36 PM
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Posted: 1/26/2013 3:27:00 PM
Unreal. DH and I saw that movie last week. Our DD won't be ready for that movie until she's 30.

DD is one of those kids who KNOWS her limits. She is 9, and a few of her friends have seen "The Hunger Games." DD is like: NOT ME! NO WAY.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 4:21:57 PM
i think parenting should require a license.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 4:44:11 PM
This happened when we saw that movie too! It bothered me do much I couldn't focus on the movie. About 20 minutes in, I left to go tell a theatre employee and see if they could do anything. They couldn't. As long as the parent is with the child, and has purchased a ticket, there is nothing the theatre can do. Luckily, in this instance, I saw the Dad and daughter leave about 5 minutes after I returned to my seat. His little girl looked 5 like my own daughter and I wanted to punch him for exposing her to those torture scenes.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 4:44:58 PM
I personally can't watch movies with torture scenes, so I'm glad to know I can skip this one. I wasn't much interested anyway. But yeah, take your child? No way. My dad used to let us watch horror movies all the time from as long as I can remember and I used to have such awful nightmares.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 4:53:37 PM
Ugh, I hate that! Haven't seen that movie but lately there have been little kids at all the movies I've been going to....the kids always inevitably get upset....ummmmmm what did you expect?!?



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Posted: 1/26/2013 6:04:40 PM
How old was the child (if you said, I must have missed it)? Was he 6 or 16? My daughter is 15 and she said lots of her friends have seen it and really like it. The friends are very mature and intelligent boys and girls (not that that makes a difference I guess). Some of the kids are 16, my daughter is very young for her grade. My husband wants to see it and since it's longer than my attention span, I won't go.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 6:08:57 PM
The torture scene is the reason I'm not going to see the movie, I certainly wouldn't take a child


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Posted: 1/26/2013 6:38:56 PM
I'd let my 13 year old see it but not my 9 year old.



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Posted: 1/26/2013 6:41:40 PM

How old was the child (if you said, I must have missed it)?


He was fairly young, I'd say on the younger side of elementary school. Probably 7 or so.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 8:57:19 PM
I didn't know much about this movie but just looked it up - seriously would be upset that a child that age was in this movie. After reading the little I did here I know I won't be seeing it either. It is rated R there is no way I would let my little one see it why would anyone think it was ok for kids.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 9:28:30 PM
The same ones that take a 1, 3 and 5 year old (roughly) to see Alex Cross.

While it was a good movie for dh and I, it was definitely not for preschoolers. It was quite violent, graphic at times and had some sexual scenes. I cringed every time one of those scenes came up. Those poor kids. I imagine they wouldn't sleep much after that.

I really wanted to slap those parents on the way out! What were they thinking??


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Posted: 1/26/2013 9:31:06 PM
I totally agree but there are some parents who claim
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Posted: 1/26/2013 9:32:39 PM
The same kind of parent who takes their kid to see Passion of the Christ or allows them to play extremely violent video games. And who usually shields them from anything to do with sexuality because that's too mature for them.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 9:33:13 PM
Dh drug me to see the last Rambo movie. The one that has like 65 kills per minute of the movie.

Young kid in the audience. Maybe ten years old. With her dad.

My husband said something to the theater manager, who said something to the dad. He did eventually leave in the middle of the movie.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:09:04 PM
The movie theaters around here donor admit young kids to R movies after 6 PM. I know that would not have helped it were the afternoon...

I wonder about these parents. DH and DS16 saw it last weekend. DH and I discussed it and talked to DS about it. DD19, however, probably would have had a harder time with it. She was on a state sponsored music tour to Europe this summer and they went to Dachau one day. I has been there a long time ago and tried to prepare her for it. She said she had to leave the intro film part because it bothered her so. She's almost too tender-hearted. She probably would have left the movie.




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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:20:05 PM
One who clearly isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.


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Posted: 1/26/2013 10:23:41 PM
This drives me nuts.

My father took me to see all sorts of inappropriate movies on our visitation days: Apocalypse Now, Deer Hunter, Taxi Driver. It was all about him. I still remember feeling awful after those movies.

I'm not militant about what my son sees, but I think of him before I take him to see a PG-13 movie, for sure.

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Posted: 1/26/2013 11:32:18 PM
I'm an asshole because I take my child to see a real life action film? You keep shielding yours.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:00:15 AM

I'm an asshole because I take my child to see a real life action film? You keep shielding yours.
Yep, you are an asshole if you take your younger child to this movie.

I will happily continue to shield my child.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:52:14 AM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:55:33 AM

I'm an asshole because I take my child to see a real life action film? You keep shielding yours.


Movies conveniently come with ratings to help you determine what's age appropriate, if you have a hard time figuring it out.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 6:55:13 AM
The same kind of a$$hole parent that took their per-teen to see Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. I could no believe it. Hello. Anal-rape scene. WTH were they thinking?????


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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:25:44 AM

I'm an asshole because I take my child to see a real life action film? You keep shielding yours.


Real life or not, I will protect my child from some things because of his age. And unless it is a documentary, there is a very good chance Hollywood amped up the violence, gore, sex, torture, in the movie, so it is not quite "real life" anymore.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 9:53:27 AM

The same kind of parent who takes their kid to see Passion of the Christ or allows them to play extremely violent video games. And who usually shields them from anything to do with sexuality because that's too mature for them.


That always cracks me up. You take your kid to watch extremely violent movies time and time again, but get upset when there is a sex scene! Not a rape scene, not some violent sexual attack, but two people making love and it's all "My kid can't see this! It'll make her a slut if she thinks it's okay!"

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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:05:09 AM
Violence issues aside, I feel sorry for kids whose parents drag them to movies the kids have no interest in seeing. I think it must be awful for a kid to sit quietly in a dark theatre for two hours watching a movie they don't understand or enjoy. The parents should either get a babysitter or take the family to a kids' movie.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:11:35 AM
I agree with auntkelly.

Why don't some parents seem to care about what's appropriate for their kids?

I am not going to see this movie. definitely my choice. I don't like to see people being tortured, or much graphic violence.

Kids don't have the choice if their parent drags them along, for what ever reason

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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:13:56 AM

I'm an asshole because I take my child to see a real life action film? You keep shielding yours.


It's called parenting. Some things are deemed appropriate for children in our culture. Some things aren't. We don't live in Beirut or Gaza and MOST of our society has determined that it's appropriate to shield young children from that kind of violence. If you disagree, that's your right, but yes, people are going to throw labels on you for acting contrary to social norms.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:19:25 AM

I'm an asshole because I take my child to see a real life action film? You keep shielding yours.


Yes, it does make you an ass.

No question.





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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:24:53 AM
I don't think it's fair to throw blanket statements around. Also, by openly judging others you open the door to be openly judged yourself. Lots of people aren't going to parent the same way. It is easy to pass judgement on others. Everyone is going to set different limits on what movies, books, video games, TV shows, etc. are available to their children. We all need to worry about ourselves and do what we feel is best for our children.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:31:08 AM

Everyone is going to set different limits on what movies, books, video games, TV shows, etc. are available to their children. We all need to worry about ourselves and do what we feel is best for our children.




No one who takes a 7 year old to see Zero Dark Thirty is doing what is best for their child.

They are simply too cheap to hire a babysitter and too selfish to wait for the movie to go to DVD.

I really don't think this is a subject where reasonable minds can disagree.

We could disagree/have a conversation about whether it's appropriate for a 13 or 14 yr old, sure.
But a 7 yr old in an adult movie? That just makes you an asshole, period.






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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:36:02 AM
Where did I say taking a young child to an R rated movie was appropriate?

Maybe parents need to start supporting each other rather than tearing each other down. Maybe some of you could offer to babysit for your single neighbor so he/she can go see a movie once a year and not have to take their children along.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:50:03 AM

Where did I say taking a young child to an R rated movie was appropriate?




Well, silly me, that's what this thread is about, so I assumed that's what your post in this thread is about. If that's not what you meant I have no idea what you did mean.






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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:50:41 AM

Maybe some of you could offer to babysit for your single neighbor so he/she can go see a movie once a year and not have to take their children along.
Maybe those who choose to have children should realise that means you don't always get to do everything you want to do.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:53:05 AM

Maybe some of you could offer to babysit for your single neighbor so he/she can go see a movie once a year and not have to take their children along.


See THIS is the problem right here.

NOBODY "has to take their children along". Just don't go to the movie. It really is that simple. A good parent can stop being selfish long enough to figure that out.





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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:09:08 AM


NOBODY "has to take their children along". Just don't go to the movie. It really is that simple. A good parent can stop being selfish long enough to figure that out.

That is exactly right. What we have in our society is a clash between entitlement and responsibility.

No one "has to" see a movie in a theater. Ever.

My biggest problem with people like this is that they have zero ability to put themselves in their child's shoes.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:11:14 AM

Maybe some of you could offer to babysit for your single neighbor so he/she can go see a movie once a year and not have to take their children along.


See THIS is the problem right here.

NOBODY "has to take their children along". Just don't go to the movie. It really is that simple. A good parent can stop being selfish long enough to figure that out.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:33:35 AM
Wow - what a bunch of judgemental bitches you all sound like this morning.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:44:30 AM

Maybe parents need to start supporting each other rather than tearing each other down. Maybe some of you could offer to babysit for your single neighbor so he/she can go see a movie once a year and not have to take their children along.


You are assuming he was a single father without a babysitter. Maybe his wife left him with the kid for the afternoon, maybe he just wanted to take his kid to the movies. Whatever the reason, it was a lapse in judgment.

I also don't necessarily think that it is my responsibility to give up MY time to someone who CHOSE to have a child so that he or she can go out and have fun. You'd be surprised at how many times I have babysat for my cousins so that they could go have a nice dinner or just have some time away from their kids. But it's not my OBLIGATION.

I usually don't care what movie parents take their kids to. This is really the first time something like this has bugged me enough that I thought about it after the movie all the way to my house and then prompted me to start a thread about it. I'm not outraged, but I think it was a serious lapse in judgment for an adult to think that this was an appropriate thing for a kid that young.

I have a pretty high threshold for stuff like this, but the torture scenes were graphic enough that they made me flinch a little. They weren't even "gory" in the sense that there was blood everywhere, but they were graphic enough. So, I'm not hyper-sensitive. And, for the record, I would take my nephew (he is in the 10th grade). This kid was way younger than my nephew.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:50:33 AM

Wow - what a bunch of judgemental bitches you all sound like this morning.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:54:08 AM
Sorry young kids don't belong in R movies period. And if you can't get to a movie because you have your kid at home with you, then you don't go. End of story. I don't watch movies on a regular basis because I don't want to spend 40 plus on a sitter to see one. I often wait till they come out, and grab a copy to watch at night.

It boils down to the whole "it's about me generation".

That said, my daughter who is almost 7 wanted to see the Hobbit. I hemmed and hawed over it because it is a violent movie and rated PG-13. My husband saw no problem with it. I finally agreed and we went to see it together. She loved it, she understood none of the characters were real, and the only time she got upset was when the hedgehog started to die. No nightmares, no issues. But we had also talked to her in depth about what she would see, and we did read the Hobbit to her. I have friends whose children would have been traumatized by it, so it is very much up to the parents on if their child can handle it.

The difference in the movie we saw and the one in question is that one uses imaginary creatures, and the other has real representations of people. We know it is a movie and not real, but it is still traumatic for children to see those acts of violence, against other people.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:04:52 PM
An irresponsible, idiotic parent, that's who. Jeez. People are so unbelievably stupid sometimes.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:08:20 PM
The same kind that took their 5 year old to see Pulp Fiction and sat in front of us so I got to watch the child's growing discomfort and fear as the movie got more and more intense.




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Posted: 1/28/2013 6:58:39 AM
Must be the same mom that brought her FOUR YEAR OLD DAUGHTER to see MAGIC MIKE! She then had to answer each question in great detail from the little girl! I was embarrassed FOR them!


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Posted: 1/28/2013 8:03:12 AM
I had a hard time watching those scenes and others. There is no foreseeable future where I would suggest it would be ok for my child to watch them.

And I am pretty lax about the video games and such. I left that theater with a whole new respect for life


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Posted: 1/28/2013 9:07:41 AM

If this were a book we were talking about, there'd be all sorts of pious "I never censor what my children read" and "my parents let me read anything from a young age and I turned out great". Because I have yet to see a thread on here questioning the suitability of certain books for younger children and not see the above comments posted.


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Posted: 1/28/2013 9:11:47 AM
Oh, and they would be the parents my DD who let their daughters see The Orphan in 6th grade (simulated blowjob on stepfather, anyone?). And took them all to see Magic Mike at 14.



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Posted: 1/28/2013 9:38:44 AM
I love my local theater. They have a sign that children under 15 are not allowed into rated R movies. Ever.



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Posted: 1/28/2013 9:43:04 AM
No. Even considering that the child is probably subjected to other extremely violent movies and game videos by his "father", he should have chosen to go when he was not encumbered with a small child as I figure from the subject matter that it is up there with The Passion of The Christ which I have not seen because my friend described it in graphic detail and I knew I would be disturbed by the imagery.

That being said, I grew up watching the 5 O'clock news during the Vietnam Era and didn't become a serial killer. Quite the opposite, I grew up with a very strong moral aversion to guns, drugs, alcohol, killing, and war.









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