S/O Is calling someone "Honey" or sweetie" demeaning them?

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Posted 1/26/2013 by susans sister in NSBR Board
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PeaNut 211,645
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Posted: 1/28/2013 5:07:16 AM
I also think it is contextual:

The drivers on our buses now know I prefer them to use my name rather than "dahlin".

Friends could use endearments without me batting an eyelid.

On the other hand my ex boss used "Sweetie" every other sentence when she was being sarcastic or disparaging about our work. It wasn't just to me - it could be anyone in her teams and it made all of us cringe when we heard it.

I avoid using endearments most of the time.


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PeaNut 51,689
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Posted: 1/28/2013 5:15:40 AM
Like others have said, context makes all the difference. I know people who HATE being called 'honey' or 'hon' by acqaintances, but mostly the person saying it is not being condescending.

Once I accidently called a male customer 'Babe' !! I think I said something like "No worries Babe" or something like that. This guy is in his late 50s or early 60s. I was pretty embarrassed at first, but he thought it was hysterical. Now it's an ongoing joke. Whenever he rings me he says "Hi Babe!" I never call him that if he's on his cell in case his wife in in the car!
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