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Posted 1/27/2013 by Epeanymous in NSBR Board
 

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Posted: 1/27/2013 2:28:00 AM
Question for those of you who are gun-owners: if my kid is coming over for a play date, and you have guns in your home, will you answer me honestly that you own them? If I ask you how they are stored, will you answer me honestly about how you store them?

(What is prompting this question is that a FB friend of mine who has multiple kids in the home posted a picture of a gun that is accessible in the home.)

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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:35:57 AM
Yes I would answer you honestly and tell you what precautions are in place to keep my child from getting the guns. I'd let you look if you wanted.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:40:18 AM
Yes, and I wouldn't be offended by the question either. I think you have a right to know your children are going to be safe.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 4:50:45 AM
we do not own guns. However, We have swords and knives in our home and I do let other parents know we have some live blades. They our in the master bed room and a couple on the wall. But most of them are locked in a gun safe in our master bedroom.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 6:19:33 AM
Yes, I would answer you honestly.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:31:36 AM
I am VERY upfront about it.

I am shocked how many people don't even ask before their kids come over. I usually have to bring it up. I let them know that our children do not have access to our gun safes and that even in the safe, they have locks on them and our children do not have access to the keys.

At our smaller home I am often in the house alone and I do have it loaded and ready, with my safety on in my bedside cabinet, but when others are here, I have it secured.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:43:01 AM
Heck yes I'd be honest. I see no reason not to be.

I'venever thought to ask about guns in other people's houses because usually we're the ones having kids over, but at some point I know there will be a sleepover away from home.

So how exactly do you go about asking that question? Any examples of reactions when you asked?

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Posted: 1/27/2013 7:52:15 AM

So how exactly do you go about asking that question? Any examples of reactions when you asked?


You just have to ask as politely as possible. Mention that you aren't gun owners so your children are not used to being around guns and that you just feel better asking. I think, honestly, that any truly responsible gun owners will be fine answering. Only one person ever was offended and got angry about how his guns were safe and his kids knew better than to touch them. Want to guess which house my son was actually shown a gun by the child living there? So, it is also important to educate your own children not to touch the guns if they are out and to immediately go a get an adult if another child touches them.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 8:01:29 AM
Yes I would, and the one time I was asked I answered truthfully and I think the parents were shocked. The mom admitted that they were pretty sure other parents had guns in the home based on conversations with the kids, but no one had ever admitted it outright.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 8:11:52 AM
Heck yes!

It is absolutely OK to ask and important that you do. I'd have no problem telling you and then asking you if you were OK with the situation. Different kids have different experiences and don't have the same level of knowledge and training about weapons that they probably should. A responsible gun owner takes that into account when they know who is coming to their home.

We are often shooting skeet in the backyard with some friends or others of our kids, after checking with their parents. They are invariably delighted with the experience and I am thankful that they are safer / better informed individuals as a result of learning the basic rules of gun handling and safety.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 8:14:05 AM
We've had one parent ask, but we have talked to all of the kids about guns.

We've seen these kids grow up - we've lived in this neighborhood for over 5 years. We treat them like our own.

Dh keeps one of his guns in a display box high on the wall. The kids have asked about it and dh took that time to discuss gun safety with them. If the kids are here when dh is going hunting, they'll see the travel cases and ask about them. Dh DOES NOT take them out, but he does say what they are for and how to travel safely.

I didn't have any problem with the one parent asking questions. She wanted to make sure they were locked away, which they are.

To be honest, I'd be shocked if any of the other parents asked. They let their kids roam the neighborhood at all hours and one dad has point blank told me that his 11 and 12 year old girls "can take care of themselves if anything should happen". I feel like I look out for the kids more than their parents do.





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Posted: 1/27/2013 9:05:07 AM

I have no problem with being asked and I have also asked other people.

Heck, I would WANT you to ask - especially if your child does not know anything about guns or gun safety. I not only want your child to be safe, but I want to lessen my liability.








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Posted: 1/27/2013 9:14:36 AM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:16:47 AM
Yes, I would answer your questions honestly and would not be offended.

My husband is a police officer, so I would think it's obvious to most that come in our home that we have guns. We've never had anyone ask where we keep them though.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:18:30 AM
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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:20:55 AM
Of course, to both.

Why would anyone lie and say they didn't have guns?

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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:25:35 AM
Yes I would answer you honestly. We have several guns and some are locked up but some are not. We have our pistols loaded in our bedroom and easily accessible to us. Now if your child came to my house they would not be able to get to them.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:28:17 AM
Yes I would. We always put all guns in our gun safe when any children are in our home.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:49:43 AM

I am shocked how many people don't even ask before their kids come over


Not everyone has grown up in a culture where it would even cross their minds that it would be a possibility.

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Posted: 1/27/2013 11:52:15 AM

Why would anyone lie and say they didn't have guns?

Maybe they don't want their kids to know that they own a gun. A friend of mine owns a handgun, but her kids don't know about it. She has no intention of telling them either.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:01:22 PM
DH is a LEO, of course we do. They are also secured.

Where and how is not for general public information (this board) but parental authorities (not all of the kids' friends were with mom &/or dad) were told details if they asked.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:04:13 PM
I don't know. If its the first time your child is coming over I would expect that I wouldn't know you that well. I understand the question but I'm not sure I want to tell someone I don't know well what types of weapons I have and how they are stored. I might say that I have A weapon that is securely stored but I absolutely am not showing someone out of my circle of trust my weapon storage.

I never once had anyone ask.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:18:11 PM
Interesting question. Of course I would answer honestly, but as to the comment of being shocked because people don't ask...My girls are grown but they lived in two different states while still in school (k-12). We always had kids around here as I would rather have them here where I know what was going on than elsewhere. I was never asked once that question in all those years. Different time perhaps? Of course I come from a time where guys had shotgun racks in their trucks with the guns in them in the school parking lot.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 12:25:14 PM
In our circle it's pretty common to be asked or often for a first play date, the hosting parents just volunteer the info. It's 90% non-gun owners though. So, it's generally them telling you they don't have guns in the home without you having to ask.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:43:39 PM
Yes and Yes. That is part of being a responsible gun owner.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:47:45 PM

Yes, I would answer your questions honestly and would not be offended.

My husband is a police officer, so I would think it's obvious to most that come in our home that we have guns. We've never had anyone ask where we keep them though.


Dh is a corrections officer at the jail. We would answer honestly but we have also never had anyone ask. I have always just assumed people know that we have a gun properly stored in our home.


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Posted: 1/27/2013 1:55:31 PM
Yes and yes.

I've offered it along with how we handle our dogs when visitors are present.



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Posted: 1/27/2013 3:00:41 PM
I have been reluctant to let my kids play at homes where I know they have guns. I feel that the people would be offended if I ask, so I don't bother. I'm glad to see most are open to the question! We don't own guns, never have never will. I would never mind if a parent asked me if we have guns in the house.

I always ask parents of kids that come here if their child is allergic to anything. My kids don't have allergies, so we have peanut butter, nuts, etc. But it seems that so many kids these days have food allergies. I want kids to be safe at our house!

We used to have a german shepherd. The sweetest dog ever, and loved kids. But I always asked parents when they came to the door if they were comfortable around the dog. If they weren't, we would put the dog in our bedroom. He didn't mind at all, and that way the parents and kids felt comfortable.




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