have you ever taken your spouse or s/o on a scrapbooking retreat?

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Posted 1/28/2013 by debinmaine in General Scrappin'


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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:44:59 PM
well...I am for the first time
My sisters and I usually go on a scrapbooking retreat every march. This year neither of my sisters can go...and I don't really want to miss it. I love where it's at....and the price is so reasonable it's scary!!
So I asked DH if he wanted to come along. We haven't been away just the 2 of us for over 2 years. We are going to a very scenic place where he can go explore and take pics if the weather is nice...and if it's not he loves to play around on the guitar and has millions of things he can do on the computer while I'm in the scrapping room. Plus we can have meals together and I an take breaks every now and then. I'm actually kind of looking forward to it.

So have any of you ever done this???


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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:49:42 PM
I think DH would rather I poke his eye out then spend the weekend in the vicinity of a crop retreat. But I wouldn't go to one my own (kudos to you for doing that!) so I consider it a little girlfriend getaway.

I think it's great your DH can enjoy himself while you scrap and that you'll have someone company for parts of the day.

Have a graet time!

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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:57:56 PM
I can't imagine my DH enjoying such a thing, unless there was another guy he could pal with, preferably a guy he already knows.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 1:01:25 PM
No, but it depends on where it is. If it's in a out of the way B&B kind of place, he'd be miserable. If it were in a hotel in a place where he'd love to explore the sites, a cruise or hang out at the beach and read a book, he'd be fine with it.

I, on the other hand would not like for him to be with me in the out of the way place. The whole point of me going on a retreat is to get away from the norm, relax and get things done. If we were in an exploring type place, it would be okay because he would not be sitting around bored and bugging me. LOL


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Posted: 1/28/2013 1:09:53 PM
This is actually only about 45 minutes from where we live...and it's right on the ocean...The rooms are very roomy and comfortable...
and DH is very much a loner.....so spending time on his own doesn't bother him at all.
I only asked him to come because because one of my sisters and I are going on a different retreat only a few weekends later....
so I was feeling guilty. At least this way we can both reap the benefits of getting away. plus...since it's so close if the weather is not cooperative or he gets bored he could always just go home and come
pick me back up later on sunday.


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Posted: 1/28/2013 1:13:09 PM
There is a group out of NYC that is coming to the Poconos (where I live) for a retreat and families are "encouraged to attend." I love here, I know that most kids would be bored out of their minds after a few hours, especially in early spring (no indoor pool, no snowtubing, too cold for horseback riding.) I'd feel way too guilty to enjoy myself...

My DH loves to watch me craft for a few minutes or he will hang out in my office but to have him there for the whole weekend, I think he'd want to claw his eyes out.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 1:26:03 PM
I have!

Several years ago DH and I went to Versailles, France together. I taught watercolour lessons at a mixed media and scrapbooking convention that ran from Fri-Sun. I had some free time during the day, but was also busy with classes, shopping, cropping, teaching, and having fun meeting people. DH did come and have lunch/dinner with me.

He had fun exploring the city and taking pictures while I was busy at the convention. Then we went out together during my free time and looked at things together.

It was great fun and I wouldn't hesitate to do something like that again!

ETA: I have also accompanied DH when he attended academic conferences for his field. I spent the day by myself and evenings with DH. It was fun! We've been to England, Spain and a few places in the US like this.
I like that we can both be independent and also spend time together.


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Posted: 1/28/2013 2:48:21 PM
biochempea...that is awesome...
although Bar Harbor, Maine can't hold a candle to spain, france or most anywhere else...especially in March.
But DH and I are the same....we can both occupy ourselves...and I'm sure he wouldn't agree to come unless he wanted to...it's not like I'm forcing him into it...I just hope I'm not the one regretting it in the end

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Posted: 1/28/2013 2:50:14 PM
I bet you'll have fun! Your DH can scout out all the good shopping and eating spots for you!


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Posted: 1/28/2013 2:56:01 PM
He golfs so it's great because he always finds a Golf Course. Sadly the Best place I went to was CKU Nashville but he had some last minute training to assist to after I already booked a king size bed
I felt pretty lonely in such a beautiful and romantic Hotel. I didn't have scrappy friends at the time either.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 4:09:09 PM
Ha! Only if there is beer and sports tv would I be able to take him!

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Posted: 1/28/2013 5:25:06 PM
A L-O-N-G time ago, when I still had a nursing baby, my husband and my baby came along. The event was at a retreat in the Pocono Mountains; hubby and baby spent time walking outside in the mountains, taking naps and swimming while I cropped. It was really nice.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 5:36:43 PM

I think DH would rather I poke his eye out then spend the weekend in the vicinity of a crop retreat
Same here!!

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Posted: 1/28/2013 6:39:13 PM
It would have to be near some civil war battle fields or some professional sporting venue for my DH to come along. Otherwise, he would drive me nuts being bored. When he goes on vacation, he has to do stuff. One time we went to Mexico. I was laying in my beach chair and he was driving me nuts wanting to do a bunch of active stuff.

I would go to a scrapbook retreat by myself and I have. I don't want to have to worry about my DH being bored.

I have gone with him to Washington DC when he was working. I had plenty to amuse myself. Plus I could just lay around for the weekend and be fine.


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Posted: 1/28/2013 6:58:39 PM
Deb, where/when is the retreat? I am in NH. Sounds tempting


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Posted: 1/28/2013 7:35:23 PM
Polly...this retreat is in Bar harbor...so that may be quite a drive for you. Its a great group of ladies...the 2 that run it are Creative Memory consultants...although not very active anymore.
It's at the Bar Harbor Inn and the room we scrap in is the dining room (it's not open yet for the season) which overlooks the ocean...it's just beautiful. 3 out of the 5 years I have gone its warm enough to walk down Main street with just a sweater!
If that one is too far for you...the one I'm going to is in Wells and it's a good one as well...that one is by a Stampin Up consultant.
if you want more info just let me know.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 7:50:31 PM

I think DH would rather I poke his eye out then spend the weekend in the vicinity of a crop retreat.

Ha ha Ditto!

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Posted: 1/28/2013 7:50:31 PM

I think DH would rather I poke his eye out then spend the weekend in the vicinity of a crop retreat.

Ha ha Ditto!

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Posted: 1/28/2013 7:59:17 PM

I think DH would rather I poke his eye out then spend the weekend in the vicinity of a crop retreat.

I think we are married to the same guy.

I've gotten to the point that I would rather just book a room in a fantastic hotel that does suites, order up some room service and scrap with one friend, rather than pay hundreds for a retreat. I've done dozens of retreats tho...so I don't feel like I'm missing out.


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Posted: 1/28/2013 8:04:41 PM
nope, that's my sanity break a few times a year. I have thought about it, but then I come to my sense and think "O, Hell to the NO!"

I come back refreshed and a much nicer person and that's the best part of it for him, lol.


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Posted: 1/28/2013 8:06:27 PM
It depends if it was in a city where they could go off on their own.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 8:07:30 PM
Oh, dear god, NO!

Although PennyScraps did and we had a ton of fun with her DH


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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:04:42 PM
No, he would never be interested in going.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:15:10 PM
I took dh along to a one-day event (Scrapapalooza by Scrapbook Generation in MO) and he did fine--he spent the day pursuing his own interests at a Civil War battlefield and taking photographs of airplanes (I think his goal is photos of every plane in the U.S.). There would have to nearby things he enjoyed doing for it to work.

A friend brought her dh to a 3-day retreat last February. She was recovering from a serious illness and concerned about managing her "stuff". Her dh was the Sherpa for us all! He works from home so put in his computer time in the room and joined us for meals. He did fine, but I don't think my dh would have done as well in that scenario.

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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:43:57 PM
Well - I would have been one of those that said "no way" "its my time", etc....until last Sept when I signed up for a 3-day crop about 30 minutes from the house.

We had just lost our dog of 14 years and my husband was devastated. I was going to cancel the crop as I didn't want to leave him for 3 days, but then decided he would come with me.

He declared it a mini-vacation for him, and spent time at the pool, in the spa, at the bar, walking the trails nearby, going to get me starbucks, and in the room watching movies in the hotel robe!

We went to dinner both nights, and because I brought EVERYTHING I own for scrapping, I made frequent trips to the room to get more items, punch a punch, etc...

The breaks were so nice for me! I tend to sit there for the entire crop time, and forget to move around - where having him in the room was a great reason to get up!

I thoroughly enjoyed having him at the crop - I didn't feel like I needed to entertain him, and it was nice to know he wasn't alone at home missing our dog that would have been with him.

He enjoyed it as well, and when I did another 3-day crop 2 months later, he came again! And again, had a great time enjoying the hotel.

I had also brought tons of snacks, drinks, our own pillows and throw blankets - and made our room into a little retreat as well.

I actually look forward to the next one! I hope you both have a fantastic time!

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Posted: 1/29/2013 1:16:55 AM
No; he'd be miserable.
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Posted: 1/29/2013 8:12:21 AM
Yes, my sister and I brought our DHs and had a great time. We laughed at first because they wanted to go! They hung out together and just met us for dinner.


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Posted: 1/29/2013 6:54:23 PM

.this retreat is in Bar harbor

Oh, Wow! We stopped there on a cruise last year. Bar Harbor is one of the most beautiful places we've ever been. I loved being there and wouldn't mind going back and actually staying there for a while, at least longer than the day our cruise ship was there. You're so lucky to be going there. Have a great time at your crop! I'm not sure I'd get much scrapping done. I'd be out seeing all the sights and the beautiful scenery.

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Posted: 1/29/2013 11:22:41 PM
No but then I haven't been on one either! Mine would probably enjoy it, and has done a little. My biggest problem might be that he'd end up on Crop Nightmare Stories thread because sometimes, you just can't shut him up! He'd talk talk talk. I swear, sometimes he is as bad as a little kid, has to say what he thinks right now...

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Posted: 1/30/2013 1:19:46 AM
My DH would not likely want to attend, but then I usually attend to have girl time, so I never invited him!

I have attended crops/events where someone brought along her hubby and some of the attendees were a bit put off by it-seems they didn't like the male presence there as they were uncomfortable talking about girl stuff with the guy in the room.

I guess it could change the energy at a crop, but I know it wouldn't bother me 'cause I'm still going to talk about girl stuff even with him there. Bet a guy could learn a lot by hanging out all weekend long!


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Posted: 1/30/2013 3:03:33 AM
Yes! But he was/is not as the OP says, attending a scrapbooking retreat, he is travelling with me, which we do a lot for w*rk too, so it depends on the location. In march we are off to a 2-day event in Cape Town. Usually we have breakfast together, then he drives off to wherever he wants to go- he used to be a competitive sailor, so this time sea sailing & winelands equals happy hubby.

To be clear-- he supports my scrapping addiction & knows my bunch of scrappy friends and a couple of the husbands, the scrapping ladies LOVE him, he is much nicer than me but he would not hang around the scraproom. After scrapping, it is dinner with or without "the girls"-- again, depends on the location-- and I would MUCH rather room with him than any scrapping buddy! My first retreat I attended on my own, brand new scrapper & knew nobody, I asked to pay a single supplement as I don't like to share , especially with strangers, and I was flamed for that, one particular lady still mentions it, 3 years later!

Hope you both enjoy the event/ location.


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Posted: 1/30/2013 6:10:31 AM
I'm loving all the replies.
and just to be clear...DH will not be in the scrapping room with me...he will be off doing his own thing. He's not big into sports...he's pretty much a computer geek and loves photography....so I'm sure he will be just fine. And this particular retreat is no frills..and we do meals on our own so that will be a nice time for us to connect together during the day. Probably should mention that our son is 20....so it's not like I need an escape from the norm.
Plus...neither of my sisters that I usually go with really scrap. Over the years they have brought boxes and boxes of pictures that they have sorted through and put in pocket albums...so they aren't really interested in seeing all the beautitful pages the other ladies come up with. We've always used this as a sisters getaway. I'm actually really looking forward to this one. I will probably get a lot done!!


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Posted: 1/30/2013 8:23:38 AM
when i do the long weekends and rent a hotel room he comes with me and hangs at the bar or pool till i come to bed it works great for us but that only happens 2x a year and i go to weekend trips monthly

i treat it as a night out (like a weekend date)


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Posted: 1/30/2013 9:02:37 AM
Yep!!! And he will find his own thing to do. He drove myself and 3 scrapping friends all the way from MT to AZ to attend Creative Escape!!! Twice!!! He's a keeper!


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Posted: 1/30/2013 10:13:45 AM
Those two retreats you are attending sound awesome. I would love to have more info on them.

As to my hubby going...he said he would rather poke sticks in his eyes, but totally supports me going.

I think its awesome that your hubby is going with you.


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Posted: 1/30/2013 11:02:23 AM
Before we had cable/direct tv, he would have been all for it: 300 channels, a mini fridge, and a king bed to lounge on all day? He'd be all over it. BUT now he can have that at home in his man cave (reclining couch, not a bed though). ***Plus, he'd see all my scrappy stuff out in the open. I don't want that.
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Posted: 1/30/2013 12:03:30 PM
NEVER and i wouldn't want him there either. Those retreats are a girls weekend only. it's a chance for all of us to get away from hubby and kids. he doesn't even call me unless it's an emergency. he knows better than to bother me. if he has to bring me something, i meet him at the door.

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Posted: 1/30/2013 1:39:08 PM
We would be doing alot of eye poking because he'd poke his out and I'd poke mine.

Now a trip to France, yes, if I was going to be working, but if I was going to scrap for myself why in the world would I go with my DH and go scrapbook most of the time?

I am going to go out on a limb and say I personally don't like when DH/SO and/or kids come into women's scrapbook retreats. That's me. There is always someone who does it so it must be OK with some people.

If I wanted to have a weekend away with my DH, and I sometimes do, we will plan a trip away.

I did go to a work conference once in San Antonio and I took the whole family. We rented a car and DH took kids to Seaworld, and all that stuff. We just used the chance to cover my plane ticket and the hotel.


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Posted: 1/30/2013 3:16:46 PM
Yup...my DH went with me a few times.....won't go near the scrapping festivities but is really okay with finding other stuff to do and catching up later!!! He comes to my yoga retreats too but he likes those!!! LOL

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Posted: 1/30/2013 3:24:57 PM

Now a trip to France, yes, if I was going to be working, but if I was going to scrap for myself why in the world would I go with my DH and go scrapbook most of the time?
Well, I only taught a couple of hours each day and the rest I spent scrapbooking. I thought it was fun. He thought it was fun. We both saw it as a chance to get away together.

There are a few upcoming retreats I'd love to go to, and DH would come along with me in a heartbeat! Not to hang out at the crop, but so we could both get away. We don't get to spend much time together with just the two of us, and DH would love to go with me somewhere that *I* would love to go, and spend some time with me when I wasn't busy doing my own thing.

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Posted: 1/30/2013 3:26:48 PM
My DH took me to Orlando the one year that summer CHA has a public trade show. He was bored out of his mind. So much so that he went shopping! My DH hates to shop. But I got a new Coach purse out of the deal He said he'd rather roll in broken glass that do that again.

He got me back, though. He dragged me around FL to look at real estate for the next 2 days.

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Posted: 1/30/2013 4:12:42 PM
I visited Bar Harbour last September. It's beautiful there. My Aunt, Uncle and Cousin came with us. I have just got my aunt into scrapbooking and she loves it. We are more like cousins than aunt and niece. She's just three years older than me.

I would loved to go on a scrapbooking retreat. Maybe to the mountains in Tennessee.

Have a great time you two.
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