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Posted: 2/1/2013 9:17:19 AM
I'd like to go a different direction on this -- the discussion as to the actual event are interesting, but I'm exasperated on a different level.

Everything that happens does not need to be made public!
Too many people are developing no filter at. all. about what they post to social media.

And it isn't a matter of "if I don't want to read/see it, then don't read/see it" -- it is matters of boundaries, of privacy, of truth, of necessity.

Your thoughts?

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Posted: 2/1/2013 9:33:26 AM
In my own experience, young people post their whole life onto FB etc and therefore see no need to filter anything. It took a long time for me to get my daughter to understand that whatever she posted on FB would be effectively out there forever. That potential employers and friends/ partners would be able to see all that.

Posting to social media just seems so ingrained with that generation and I'm to sure what the answer is. My DD just seemed to 'grow out ' of it, and thankfully my oldest boy has never bothered with FB ( he is 17).

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Posted: 2/1/2013 9:38:36 AM
Meh, people complain about rude behavior and did long before social media. So I don't think that pertains in this case. But I do look at it this way. I share what I am comfortable with. You share what you are. It isn't up to me to decide what is right for others, unless I am their boss/parent/etc.

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Posted: 2/1/2013 9:55:07 AM
I would not have had a problem with it if she hadn't posted the entire receipt. If it was just the note with the title Pastor, I would have thought it funny.

I do frequently warn my Girl Scout troop to think really hard about what they put out in texts or online, because it will never go away.


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Posted: 2/1/2013 10:12:44 AM
In my experience it is not only young people that have no boundaries. I had so many friends on FB that posted way too much personal stuff. It was crazy. I have deleted my acct.


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Posted: 2/1/2013 10:15:45 AM
I have no problem with people posting too much infor about themselves...it's their business, it's their problem to deal with the fallout.

But I hope we do keep developing good laws, rules, and regulations to protect people from others trying to attack them, slander them or their business, and basically engage in defamation of character. It seems like monitoring social media/internet activity and following up with real-life consequences is an issue that continues to need more work.

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Posted: 2/1/2013 10:18:51 AM
I agree with you, OP.

Not only do people post every iota of information about themselves, but many tend to post an awful lot about other people, and not always with their permission, which can lead to trouble for either or both parties involved.

People need to think before they spill every last detail and thought on social media and they need to be responsible when it comes to information regarding others.

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Posted: 2/1/2013 10:24:09 AM

As for no filter -- there's a first year high school teacher in the metro Denver area in trouble for utilizing social media to post nude and nearly nude pictures of herself, calling students 'jailbait', laughing at student drug busts because she herself had weed in her car in the staff parking lot, saying she gets high on pot while correcting student tests (I can understand the temptation, but still not appropriate). All that trouble to get an education and prepare for a profession and no judgment skills whatsoever.

I read about this. I am astounded she did that. And at the same time, not really. I'm saddened by how many young adults have no judgment whatsoever when it comes to social media and consequences. Is there really no common sense left?


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Posted: 2/1/2013 10:32:27 AM
I can understand the privacy aspect of this situation. However, people have to start being responsible and own their bad behavior before they can correct it.

I strongly believe the pastor stepped way over the line of acceptable "love thy neighbor" behavior by writing that comment on a receipt. The pastor knowingly took money away from an honest, hard working girl's paycheck knowing there wasn't a thing the waitress could do about the situation. It was like preying on the weak. Then pastor then hides behind God to excuse it. I call bu11sh!t big time on that.

Since the public can no longer read responsible, factual reporting in news/journalism outlets, maybe what we are seeing are the rough-edged beginnings of another form of reporting on current affairs. Social media is the highway in which that is done.

It all goes back to what our parents told us - "if you don't want to get caught doing something bad, just don't do it in the first place."


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Posted: 2/1/2013 10:45:05 AM
People behaved rudely before social media, true. But people are irresponsible with social media. Never before have we had the opportunity to take our irritation to the whole world and potentially ruin the lives of people entirely out of proportion to the offense. People are much too anxious to fight other people's battles and enlist the entire country to poke their nose in affairs that are none of their concern. So yes, it IS different now.

^^^^^ I agree with this; I don't like the trend, personally.

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