After party Etiquette
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Compwalla
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Posted: 2/5/2013 1:59:45 PM
When I was a kid I read a funny book my mom had by Phyllis Diller that said the best way to clean uncleanable goo off a casserole dish was to take it to a potluck because the neighbor would feel obligated to return the dish sparkling clean. You got Phyllis Dillered times six.

Darcy_Collins
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Posted: 2/5/2013 2:11:14 PM
Can I confess that my OCD is flaring up at the thought of all those dirty dishes sitting out all night......

You don't hand someone a dirty dish - EVER.


Sharna_G
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Posted: 2/5/2013 2:12:28 PM

I'm thinking the husband had something to do with this snafu. He didn't know what belonged to whom and he was ready for the guests to leave so he poped off and said something to the effect of "why don't ya just leave it, let wife clean them all up and she'll get them back to you?"

Yup.

I am also thanking God that, in my circle, everyone pitches in and the kitchen is sparkling before everyone leaves. I can't remember the last time I had a pile of dishes to wash after a party.

OP, I've read that soaking a crock pot in hot water with a dryer sheet (like Bounce) will lift the grime off. Of course I wouldn't know cause I use Crock Pot Liners.

Really Red
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Posted: 2/5/2013 4:17:47 PM
Well, I would never leave my crockpot, but I left three breakfast dishes at a very tired person's house. I could have KICKED myself when I realized I did it. I did tell her PLEASE DO NOT WASH THEM, but I knew she would never return them to me unwashed.

Sorry OP. You are SOL. Wash and return.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 4:26:10 PM
Maybe you should have brought the dishes into the shower with you?

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Posted: 2/5/2013 4:38:32 PM
Yes, I think you are stuck with the cleaning of the dishes now. That stinks that they did that though.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 5:03:24 PM
If a pea was the neighbor that left the crockpot, here is how she would be posting.

"So DH and I went to our neighbor's house for Super bowl party. It was a pot luck and I took my dish. When every one was ready to go home, the hostess was no where to be found. It was kind of awkward. We didn't know if we should leave the left overs or if i would be rude to go into her kitchen and clean it up ourselves or just take the entire thing back home.

Who leaves their guests and disappears? What say the peas?"

lucyg819
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Posted: 2/5/2013 6:09:07 PM
I don't get this "never send home a dirty dish" thing.

If a guest brings a dish to my house, I send the dish home with her with the remains still in it. If all the food has been eaten, the dish may get washed before she leaves, or then again, maybe no one ever got to it. I rarely get back to the kitchen to wash dishes while the guests are here. Either way, hopefully the dish goes home with her. I don't want to be stuck with worrying about returning it, and I would never say, oh, the dish isn't clean, so leave it here for me to deal with.

If we should forget and the dish stays, of course I'll wash it before returning it. But I'm surprised that many people left their crockpots. I wouldn't WANT to leave mine anywhere. Dirty or clean.

But I don't get this fixation with washing the dish before the guest leaves. No one in my family was ever so obsessed with clean dishes.

CountryHam
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Posted: 2/5/2013 7:16:58 PM
around here a superbowl party doesn't have a "Hostess".
We are so not that formal. Like those strange comments
implying guests were somehow wronged by bringing food
to a party they were invited to. Heck ya .. it's a
superbowl night. It's the quintessential in laid back
events. Everyone brings munchies. Who cares if anyone is
formally ushered out the door by some hostess. Folks
knew they brought a crockpot when they came and should
of gone in the kitchen and grabbed it.

peaname
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Posted: 2/5/2013 7:27:06 PM
Well, I don't live in a cul de sac but I would assume that you spend a lotof time socializing and are very casual with each other so I can see why you took the shower if that's what you felt like doing.

I would wash the crock pots and dishes and stick the next 'host' with your dirty dish next time. Just be sure your name is on it

Welcome aboard!

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Posted: 2/5/2013 7:28:47 PM
I think Lucy and I should form a Mutual Admiration Society -- Etiquette Edition.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 7:49:09 PM

around here a superbowl party doesn't have a "Hostess".
That would be the title of whoever's house it was at. Not a formal title, just the way it is.



lucyg819
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Posted: 2/5/2013 8:54:26 PM
Lisa and glad to hear I am not the only weirdo.

Laura.Jane
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Posted: 2/5/2013 9:58:08 PM
I'd wash them. I would feel embarrassed handing someone a dirty dish.
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Posted: 2/5/2013 10:16:53 PM

Can I confess that my OCD is flaring up at the thought of all those dirty dishes sitting out all night......

You don't hand someone a dirty dish - EVER.


Mine too. Yikes! I can't sleep if there are dirty dishes in my kitchen.

CountryHam
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Posted: 2/5/2013 10:29:54 PM

around here a superbowl party doesn't have a "Hostess".

That would be the title of whoever's house it was at. Not a formal title, just the way it is.


Well duh. I meant we aren't so formal as in the woman of house
would have to be available for the guests when they leave.

Kiwipolz
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Posted: 2/5/2013 10:38:22 PM

Maybe you should have brought the dishes into the shower with you?

This lol. I always send people home with their stuff (with or without food in it). DH probably would not even think of it.

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Posted: 2/5/2013 10:46:11 PM
Yep.

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