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PeaNut 77,965
March 2003
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Loc: Middle of USA

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:02:32 AM
A couple of months ago we relocated for DH's job. I had to leave behind a wonderful job that I loved. I am now looking for a job, but have not had any success. Seems like I have to much experience for the jobs I've been interviewing for...imagine that. So, for the past 20+ years I have either worked for stayed home with my babies. Now my kids are in school and I'm home by myself all day. I'm wondering what you do at home all day without kids. My house is clean and organized so there's nothing else to do but shop, but I don't have the extra money for that. I'm thinking about volunteering, but don't want to start and then have to quit if I find a job. Can you all give me some ideas before I start getting depressed. I need to get off the couch.

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PeaNut 65,852
January 2003
Posts: 29,505
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Loc: Nashville, TN!

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:15:17 AM
Attend classes and Bible study
Prep meals for the new moms at church

scrappin mama
Will I ever get to Buckethead?!

PeaNut 105,398
September 2003
Posts: 405
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Loc: Kansas City suburb

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:15:47 AM
I had a career 4 years ago. Just like you, we relocated due to my husband's job and I did not return to work. Last year, I started working in childcare at a local church. It's just a few hours a week, but it's better than nothing. I have a cleaning schedule for the house and that keeps me busy. I'm really hoping to go back to work next year. But I have a special needs child that needs me when he is not in school, so it's a challenge to find a job with those hours.

In the beginning, it was very hard on me. I was bored to tears. Once I set up a daily routine, that helped a lot.

*Lisa Dale*

PeaNut 6,845
September 2000
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Loc: Virginia

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:18:07 AM
get involved in church, volunteer, have you thought about direct sales? I love working for Thirty One Gifts, make my own hours, meet wonderful women, and make a little $$ too. You can pm me if you'd like more info.

Also, could you possibly start an Etsy business? is there a craft you enjoy doing?


PeaNut 132,195
February 2004
Posts: 98
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Loc: Indiana

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:19:44 AM
I enjoy being a stay at home mom even though my kids are older now. I spend time doing the cleaning, organizing, laundry and cooking, of course. I also keep up all of the yard work and gardening in the summer, painting and deep cleaning.
For fun I read and I still scrapbook once in a while. Something new I started in the Fall is joining ancestry. com which has been very interesting and fun to do. I have never really been interested in researching my ancestors but once I got started I was hooked and have been able to fill in some things on there that others were missing. Also I go out shopping or to lunch with friends once in a while. I manage to keep busy most of the time.
I hope you find something that makes you happy and busy.

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PeaNut 114,407
November 2003
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Loc: At the intersection of Hooterville and Stars Hollow

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:26:45 AM
I would suggest you volunteer. I think they would still rather have you as long as they can - and the contacts might be valuable.

Do you like to cook? That's a nice time filler - then add working out to work it off

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PeaNut 156,993
July 2004
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Loc: Connecticut

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:31:08 AM
I play tennis 3 times a week, go to a Pilates class, take the dog for long walks and volunteer a TON: I'm the President elect for our HS PTA; the advocacy rep for the elementary PTA; do stuff for our town library, our church, National Charity League.

I feel like there aren't enough hours in the day, honestly.

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PeaNut 120,522
December 2003
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Loc: San Jose, CA

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:32:16 AM
I've been a SAHM now for 13 years. My children are 13 and 10 (with a 20 yo who has moved out). I find plenty to do during school hours because I am busy after school with homework and driving them to activities and having their friends over. Currently I am working on three crafty projects (cards, stained glass, and video transfer). Last fall I did tons of volunteering so I have scaled that back a lot. I exercise every day including going walking with other moms two mornings a week. I like to have lunch with my mom, go to a movie at the theatre by myself, read books, and read on the internet. I did a ton of organizing last month. It seems like I always have a list of 10 items I want to get done each day and it is nice that I don't have to get to it all.


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mom to a 21 yo dd, 14 yo ds, and 11 yo ds and a scrapper for 13 years


PeaNut 370,325
April 2008
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Posted: 2/5/2013 9:37:39 AM
What about applying at a Temp Agency. It will give you the chance to see different companies. It's easier to get hired if you're already working. It will give you a chance to do something different. Plus you'll earn some money, albeit not your regular salary.


PeaNut 19,061
July 2001
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Posted: 2/5/2013 9:38:17 AM
I am in a similar situation. I haven't worked since we relocated because of DH's job. My children are grown and live several hours from us. I take care of everything around the house (cleaning, cooking, yard work, bills, shopping, errands, etc.) while DH is at work so we can do fun things on the weekends. I go the gym everyday, I volunteer one day a week at a local food pantry, and occasionally with church projects and with the Friends of the Library. I attend a Bible study one morning a week. I also read a lot (2-3 books a week) and work on craft projects.

Where I volunteer, there are regular volunteers, but there are also a lot of people who only volunteer for a short time (several are doing community service time). There are plenty of volunteer opportunities where you wouldn't have to worry too much about quitting if you found a job.


PeaNut 382,038
July 2008
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Loc: hogtown

Posted: 2/5/2013 9:56:00 AM
i second the suggestion for a temp company. you can let them know you are looking for full time work so would prefer short term contracts. who knows, you could end up FINDING a job that way.
that's what happened to me, registered to temp, did a two week assignment answering temp office phones and ended up being there for over 12 years and had 5 different positions in that time!
Good luck!


PeaNut 190,644
February 2005
Posts: 477
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Loc: TN

Posted: 2/5/2013 10:06:06 AM
I'd encourage you to talk to your local Girl Scout office and see if they have somewhere you could volunteer. Some of the positions would be long-term, but there are plenty of places and events that could use short-term volunteers as well. And young women always need successful adult women to look up to.

We also have a great volunteer resource in our town that I'm sure is in other cities as well. It's called Volunteer Hub and it allows you to see many volunteer opportunities - some one offs, some longer term - where you can step in as your schedule allows.


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PeaNut 36,843
April 2002
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Layouts: 25

Posted: 2/5/2013 10:10:51 AM
(said tongue in cheek) you could teach slobs like me how you have kids & a husband, a clean house and so much free time?

I took on the yard (and to be fair - it's 1 1/2 acres right in the city) but the yard work alone just about consumes all my time.

I've been online all morning but plenty of work has piled up.

I'm never bored.


Ancient Ancestor of Pea

PeaNut 497,090
January 2011
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Posted: 2/5/2013 12:21:42 PM
Garden, craft, and cook.

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PeaNut 223,117
September 2005
Posts: 16,361
Layouts: 22
Loc: Heffalump Hollow

Posted: 2/5/2013 12:24:53 PM
Homeschool my kiddos. If I were not doing that I would work at their school as a para or volunteer there. Volunteer at an organization I believe in would be next, then just the life of our home : all appointments, cooking, gardening, cleaning, etc.

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PeaNut 123,471
January 2004
Posts: 16,907
Layouts: 165
Loc: Husker by Heart in WI

Posted: 2/5/2013 12:30:33 PM
If you handmake anything, you could easily start an etsy shop.

Not sure what area you are in, but in the states w/4 seasons, right now is the perfect time to work at a plant/flower market. Planting season is busy, and those places always could use seasonal help. (loved doing that for a couple of years!)

Don't just look at what you're used to doing, look at what you love. Like stationary and gifts? Apply to a hallmark store. I worked at the gift shop at Cracker Barrell and loved it! Any hobbies you love? Look at expanding those, or finding a way for it to bring in extra money.

Good luck!

Ancient Ancestor of Pea

PeaNut 87,597
May 2003
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Posted: 2/5/2013 1:13:04 PM
Volunteer! They would be happy to have you and would understand if you get a job. You could always tell them that upfront.

I started volunteering at my kids school when my youngest started school. I love it! I am now the volunteer coordinator. We have many volunteers that work part time. Some volunteer and stop when they gety a job. No problem! Happy to have whatever time they can give.


PeaNut 486,481
October 2010
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Loc: SF Bay Area, CA

Posted: 2/5/2013 10:00:18 PM
Maybe you could host a meetup of some sort? I've heard that can turn into a stream of income. Or periodic craft classes. Ever heard of skillshare?
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"Don't Stop Believin'"

PeaNut 308,186
April 2007
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Loc: California Coast

Posted: 2/5/2013 10:45:05 PM
How about exploring your new city? Take walks and hikes, get a guide book, take tours, ask friends what's fun to do there and go do it! It might seem boring by yourself but you can consider it scouting for places to take your family later.

Check out the free/cheap programs at your library, community center, colleges, etc. Check Craigslist, Meetup, ...

If I had the luxury of free time, I'd finally learn Italian. Do you have a language or skill you've always wanted to learn? Pretty much anything is on Youtube (free) these days. Maybe something to make you employable in a new field since you're not having luck in your old one?

You could start your own business. Let us know your skills and work background and we can brainstorm with you


PeaNut 60,649
January 2003
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Posted: 2/5/2013 10:51:51 PM
Get a dog

That completely ate up my extra hours!!


PeaNut 31,845
March 2002
Posts: 463
Layouts: 53
Loc: Poconos PA

Posted: 2/6/2013 6:23:02 AM
Take up a hobby
Be social, go visit friends
Get a pet (that will get you out and active)

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2013 Layouts Completed: 324 (and counting but no project life...)
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PeaNut 156,993
July 2004
Posts: 46,562
Layouts: 13
Loc: Connecticut

Posted: 2/6/2013 6:31:39 AM

Get a dog

That completely ate up my extra hours!!

No joke!!!


PeaNut 14,286
April 2001
Posts: 15,422
Layouts: 245
Loc: the 80's

Posted: 2/6/2013 6:40:37 AM
I've been a SAHM for the last 13 years with our youngest in 6th grade. When she was in elementary school, I volunteered in her school, vice-president of the PTA, Girl Scout co-leader, social with friends, loved taking care of our house. Taught classes at the LSS for years & got two puppies in the middle of that.

Basically there wasn't enough time in the day to volunteer & I got really burned out on it. For the past couple of years, I have actually learned to enjoy not having all those commitments & want to be in our house, taking care of a garden, the house & the dogs during the day. I've joined a photography group in my city & sort of look forward to a new social activity through that.

I actually do enjoy being at home with no schedule!


PeaNut 219,829
August 2005
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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:49:45 AM
I think it can be easy to get in a bored rut as a sahm if you let yourself. I work part time now, but was home full time 12 years.

I think you have to almost schedule activities for yourself, including housework, etc..

Look for things outside of the house, volunteering, a craft class? Book club? Exercising, etc..

Good luck and I hope you find a job or whatever makes you happy.
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PeaNut 138,098
March 2004
Posts: 6,558
Layouts: 2
Loc: NC but wishing I was somewhere else

Posted: 2/6/2013 7:27:40 AM
Right now, I homeschool, which takes up ALL my time. I can't wait for the day when I can just relax, craft, learn more about photography, etc. Maybe in ten years, I'll get to do that!

journey fan
"Don't Stop Believin'"

PeaNut 308,186
April 2007
Posts: 12,538
Layouts: 0
Loc: California Coast

Posted: 2/6/2013 8:16:33 AM
Here's an example of an at-home job you could do, until you find something in your field:

BRAINFUSE is seeking work-at-home online tutors in the following areas: Accounting, Economics, Finance, Resume Editing, Earth Science, Chemistry, Physics, Nursing, Calculus, Statistics, History, and High School Reading and Writing. You must have a bachelor’s degree.

All tutoring is done online. You must have Internet – preferably high-speed Internet. The general tutoring rate is $10 per hour, $12 for accounting, finance, and economics tutors. Hours are flexible, and you choose your own schedule.

There are opportunities for advancement. If interested in this home-based opportunity, please forward your resume to: Please put “Brainfuse – the subject you want to tutor” in the subject line. Good luck!

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PeaNut 176,832
November 2004
Posts: 14,039
Layouts: 2
Loc: Stalking Dave Gahan

Posted: 2/6/2013 8:34:52 AM
Substitute teach
Take online or in house college courses of any type
Take up a new language
Join your local neighborhood FB page
Start up a book club
Start up a bunco group

Sometimes people are just waiting for another to start something up! Good luck.

luv my bulldoggies

PeaNut 24,213
November 2001
Posts: 6,081
Layouts: 106

Posted: 2/6/2013 7:00:01 PM
(I'm not a SAHM), but I agree that if you volunteer and need to stop after finding a job, they will understand, and will always be appreciative for the time you gave.

Ancient Ancestor of Pea

PeaNut 198,401
March 2005
Posts: 6,878
Layouts: 0
Loc: Wernersville, PA

Posted: 2/6/2013 7:29:30 PM
I take care of seniors in their home. I work though an agency.

The pay is not the greatest, but the rewards are.

You can work a few hours a day/week or more. Realize though that holdiays and weekends may be involved as there is always someone needing care 24/7.


PeaNut 66,309
February 2003
Posts: 3,634
Layouts: 13
Loc: Central Iowa

Posted: 2/6/2013 8:09:11 PM
I work part time, so sometimes have a little extra time on my hands. I enjoy learning and work on my Spanish, research web page authoring, work on my 20 year novel, train horses, improve our acreage, increase my volleyball knowledge and prep for practice, organize my track stuff from last year, craft, make tshirt quilts for other people, and on and on. We're super busy with the kids' activities right now, but when there's more time, I still don't have enough time for all I want to do.

Volunteer for as long as you can. You'll make great connections and who knows what might come of it. The animal shelter, the library, the local elementary, the local church, the food pantry, are some places to start. The local chamber might have more ideas.

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PeaNut 24,213
November 2001
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Layouts: 106

Posted: 2/12/2013 3:11:44 AM
I know what you mean about leaving a job you loved--- When we had to move for DH's career, it was soooo hard to leave my job, too ....but even worse, our families I hope some of these ideas helped


PeaNut 149,833
May 2004
Posts: 1,142
Layouts: 108
Loc: K.C., Missouri

Posted: 2/12/2013 5:24:12 AM
I volunteer in the classrooms of my four children, also for 3 different not-for-profits, sell stuff online (facebook, craig's list and Ebay) and run the household. (errands, cooking, cleaning, etc.)

Liana - Mom to triplets (11) plus one (7)
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