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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:02:24 PM
I am turning 40 in July and I really want to go on a trip to an all inclusive resort. Like Cancun. My hubs & I are planning a trip to Jamaica with another couple in October. There are probably only about 3 people I'd consider traveling with besides my husband & 2 are family. I'm not sure anyone could go & my hubs doesn't seem too thrilled. He'd rather be at the lake. So, the question is......would you go to an all inclusive resort for your birthday alone? I'm starting to think it would be wonderful. Am I crazy?
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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:05:13 PM
I have not. I don't think I would have much fun all by myself.

But I think I side with your DH on this one. If you are already going all-inclusive beachy area in October to Jamaica, I'd opt for the lake or something non-beachy/inclusive in July.

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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:13:07 PM
I've gone to the UK when I was in my early 20's. Did one of the tours, it was a lot of fun and I met some cool people. I wasn't married at the time.

I'm also turning 40 this year, and I am thinking of going on an art retreat this year (in June.) My DH is always encouraging me to do things on my own.

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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:15:05 PM
I went alone to europe for a month..when my kids were 7 and 9. I had a great time...before cell phones...called home twice. kids stayed with grandparents.


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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:18:20 PM
That would not be fun for me at all, but I can sure see how it would appeal to someone else for some nice alone "me" time.

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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:22:10 PM
I haven't done that but I would if I really wanted to go. I have traveled for work alone where I have stayed over in the location to do some sight seeing and play by myself. I enjoy doing that every now and then. You can do exactly what you want to do, when you want to do it. You can sleep in if you want. Eat where you want. etc.

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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:24:04 PM
I have. Last year the kids were at summer camp and dh had no vacation time left. I had been missing SCUBA diving, so I headed to Roatan on my own. I had a good time diving and I plan on doing the same thing this summer while the kids are gone.

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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:31:10 PM
I'd do it! I've taken little vacations by myself before, it's good to have "me time"

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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:39:19 PM
I wouldn't. You'll find that most of the people at those kind of resorts are couples and it just makes me feel more alone. I think you could find a place a lot closer and cheaper if you're just going away for some alone time.


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Posted: 2/10/2013 9:43:09 PM
I love traveling by myself. It's kind of hard to drink too much wine and pick up French men when the husband is tagging along

I have traveled a lot by myself, but I don't think I would ever do a resort trip alone. I prefer exploring cities, museums and such by myself, but if I were just hanging out on a beach- it would be nice to have some company. If you know that you would enjoy it though, go ahead and book it!


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Posted: 2/10/2013 10:34:36 PM
A beach resort would not be something I would like to do myself. I have toured cities by myself and have enjoyed it immensely.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 12:08:37 AM
I definitely would. I've traveled alone before and find I often enjoy it more than traveling with others. The world is my oyster! Go and enjoy yourself!

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Posted: 2/11/2013 12:50:07 AM
I've traveled alone several times -- to Scotland, to Peru, to Miami. In fact, I have to do the all-inclusive thing by myself later in the year because DH isn't fond of that scenario. (He's not a sun and beach person.)

It's very relaxing, and an awesome time to catch up on things that make you happy. I like the fact that NOBODY is there to judge whether you get up at dawn or sleep until 2, whether you choose to "waste" the day in the room reading a book or go exploring, whether you eat junk food instead of something healthy. There are few time restrictions.

Go. Have fun.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 3:41:56 AM
I travel alone and enjoy it, but not to an all-inclusive. That is either couples (and some are couples only) or singles on the prowl. I don't think you'd have as good a time as you think you would.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 3:12:51 AM
I think that kind of trip sounds WONDERFUL! I travel alone often--I think it keeps me grounded and helps me revisit my "real" personality and identity. It reminds me that I have an individual identity in addition to my relational identities--I'm not just Dave's Wife or Alice's Mom or so-and-so's boss, etc.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 6:48:14 AM
I've travelled alone and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I've always found people to hang out with or talk to when I was in the mood.

It's kind of nice to visit a museum and not be rushed by someone else

Bring a few books and a laptop. Enjoy.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 6:58:07 AM
Yes, often. It's much more relaxing to do this on your schedule rather than have to consult with someone else, or end up going somewhere you don't want to go, but they do. On your own, with a guidebook, you're free to anything you want, or sleep in as late as you want.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:11:20 AM
I have and would.

The best part is not having to deal with the annoyance of another person trying to dictate or whine about the things on the itinerary. There is nothing worse than someone whining that you're taking too long at a gallery, or that there's nothing to eat at the restaurant you want to go to, or why aren't we going to the waterslides because horses are boring. All said by adults.

Honestly, travelling alone is the ultimate and I think your husband is being a baby. If he wants to go to the lake, off he goes. It's your birthday so you get to do what you want.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:24:43 AM
I've traveled alone, often, in country and abroad. I've never done and all inclusive alone because resorts are not my kind of travel, but my daughter does. She has always met people while traveling makes a point to meet in other cities for other vacations. Her husband is a people magnet and they meet other couples while traveling and make friends all over.

Go, enjoy. If you have hobby activities (stitching, reading, knitting, etc) take something for alone times. Sometimes, I like to find a good movie, order room service and cross-stitch, draw, copic, read. Just wonderful alone time. I love it, especially if there is a balcony that overlooks something beautiful.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:31:03 AM
Sure, I'd do it! I have no problem doing things alone, although I don't often do that



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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:31:44 AM
Yes, and it's wonderfully indulgent I find the only hard part of the day is after dinner - if you don't feel like going to a bar, movie, shopping, or don't feel comfortable wandering around at night... But that's in cities, at an all inclusive I would think there'd be activities and you'd get to know other people... I think it sounds wonderful

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:39:00 AM
Not a beach fan so I've never done that but I have travelled alone frequently. Love the freedom of it! I imagine, given who my husband is, that I will be doing a lot more of this in the coming years. My DH is a military brat and grew up all around the world. His parents loved to drag him to castles and museums the world over and he really hates museums. Needless to say he really really prefers to stay home. And he flat out refuses to go anywhere there are castles. So that leaves out Europe!

Besides I may be able to include my mother on some trips as well, I got my love of travel from her and she hasn't been to nearly as many places as she would like. We are going to Ireland later this year together.

All that to say since my DH won't travel with me I *will* go alone if I have to, and look forward to it!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:40:58 AM
Being an only child, I have never bought into the idea that to have a good time you need a huge group of people. Before getting married, I traveled extensively on my own. I say if you want to do it -- do it! Enjoy!

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:56:00 AM
Absolutely...as a matter of fact, I've done it pretty much every year since I learned to SCUBA dive 12 years ago. I've been all over the world and never once felt unsafe or lonely. There is something so relaxing about marching to your OWN drum: eating when YOU want to eat, sleeping when YOU want to sleep, wandering into the sixth old church in a day and not worrying about hearing your kids moan "another old church?!?". I LOVE TRAVELING ALONE!

I'm actually thinking of my trip for this year and looking closely at Hawaii for the fall. I would book a live aboard dive boat trip. Anyone want to join me?

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:57:29 AM
Have you ever gone to a movie by yourself? Dinner? If you can do that and not feel uncomfortable then I think you'll enjoy traveling alone.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 8:27:38 AM

I wouldn't. You'll find that most of the people at those kind of resorts are couples and it just makes me feel more alone

Exactly. I have no problem going to Europe alone but a beach resort, I would never do alone.


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:37:35 AM
I plan to at some point. I don't know when, but probably when the baby is weaned (or as an act of weaning, lol). DH took DD out one night and as I went about the house doing my own thing, I realized that I really need to get away by myself and do my own thing and feel more like me again. So when he came home, I told him about my new plan to take a vacation without him or the baby. And he was really supportive. I don't know where I'm going yet either, but it will likely be overseas to go around a city, or to visit a friend I haven't seen in a long time. I don't really do beach vacations, but if that's your thing, by all means go ahead!

I can't wait for this hypothetical vacation of mine. It's what keeps me going some days. LOL.

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