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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:29:24 AM
Well I did this weekend at a Dance competition. I have had a very stressful few weeks. The last straw was when the dance teacher drew eyebrows on my DD that to me she looked like Frieda Kahlo.Just a line with a little smudge with a finger. DD was crying and I was about to cry and laugh at the same time. She looked crazy! I would never do that to a kid. But the teacher was like Oh its stage make up you dont understand. Shes fine. I or DD was NOT FINE. DD sucked it up and preformed beautifully.
I sucked it up for the night and came back yesterday. I did DD make up and filled in her brows CORRECTLY. She looked beautiful. I was still mad at myself for not standing up to her teacher at the time. I was still upset that her teacher thought it was ok and made DD feel and look like a fool.
I refused to talk to the teacher. I just walked by and dropped DD where she needed to be.
The teacher obviously knew I was upset. SHe wanted to talk in front of everyone and I said I dont want to talk in front of everyone. So she came to me later and said can we take a walk. So we did. Long story short I had so much crap building up . Issues at the studio and with other Moms and the make up was the kicker I was just a crying mess.
I told her that DD looked horrible. People looked at her like she was a nut. Girls laughing at her. Made DD feel horrible about herself. She deserves to feel beautiful like everyone else up there. ETC..
She never agreed about the brows..so I told her we will never agree on that then.
The other Moms being kinda rude to a few of us and making it very hard when they are her friends.We are trying to fit in and we just dont seem to fit in ..not for the lack of trying. I am a person that is part of both groups. SO I try to include the others .. but then I am pushed to the side because of it. Its like high school!
I was a little mad that the other Moms too. They were giving me a look of Sorry your DD looks like a freak..but we are not saying anything to the teacher cause they don't want that to happen to their daughter. It is always ..whatever the teacher says goes type thing.
I UNLOADED on the teacher I had no more room to push it down.
In the end I was a mess..My Make up was gone in the first 45 minutes there. We then both said sorry . She told me she really likes me etc..I lost it again and we hugged and I had\have to let it go for DD sake. These are her friends. She was much happier yesterday. They did really well . I am going to try harder again with these Moms and teacher. DD never even knew that we had a pow wow. She thought that I got caught in the rain.
Today I feel a little bit of a fool. I am usually so much in control that I feel somewhat stupid for being such a crying mess. Who knows if it will make it better. Maybe we have a better understanding of each other? I am sure I have the label of the highly emotional Mom now. I can cry at the drop of hat . Im probably peri menopausal. Sheesh!

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:33:25 AM
I am not a big cryer, but the last time I cried in public, it was also at a dance competition. My daughter's dance teacher yelled at me over something. I was so angry at her that I ended up crying by myself in the auditorium. It was then that I decided that my daughter was going to be done with competitive dance after that year, and even though that teacher ended up getting fired, I stuck with my decision and don't miss it one bit! DD still dances, just not on the team, and she still has one class with her friends, which is one the thing she missed not being on the team.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:33:59 AM
No, never. And I am peri menopausal.

That seems like a WHOLE lot of drama over eyebrows. I would have fixed the eyebrows right the start and avoided the rest of the dramafest.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:50:24 AM
Not a sobbing cry, but I have teared up out in public. I'm usually thinking about my mom when I do. She has ALS.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:56:00 AM
Yes, once. The deli department at my local grocery store really sucks. They screwed up yet again the last time I visited, and I just got so upset that I started crying. Turns out my blood sugar was really low (I have Type 1 diabetes), which causes me to be a cry baby when that happens. Unfortunately, to everyone around me, I just looked like a crazy person. So embarrassing!

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:59:54 AM
It would take a lot to get me to have a big public cry. I'm the type of mom who would have just fixed my kid's make up and then moved on. I also wouldn't care if I fit in with the other moms. When I read your post it makes me glad that my daughter's thing is marching band and not dance.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 9:00:47 AM
I broke down in public once because a man offered to take my shopping cart to the cart corral.

It obviously wasn't because he was being a nice guy - I just had so much negative stuff going on in my life at the time that the small kindness of a person willing to push my cart 10m just set me off.

I have always treated others as I expect to be treated but that moment really made me start to live the saying "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle".






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Posted: 2/11/2013 9:06:31 AM
I have never been a cryer, but in the past couple of years my health has gotten worse, and I cry over the stupidest things.

I also still do the ugly cry if something reminds me of my dad. I don't have any of his stuff to remember him by because my stepmother, which I really liked, sued my mom over the estate and has been awful.

I just get really stressed, and then I cry. I cry over movies or television, and it really concerns my dh.

I know a lot of it is medical because I can tell a difference when I am late with one of my meds. The difference is night and day.



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Posted: 2/11/2013 9:17:14 AM
One time that comes to mind was only a few months ago. We had a very, very rough sumer and fall with my son. He had a complication from a 1 hour out patient surgery and ended up being in the hospital for 1 month and had 10 surgeries over that time. It was the 2nd hardest thing I have ever walked through. I was so drained, depleted and exhausted by the fall. He was home but we weren't out of the woods and my plate was still very full with his specialist, appts and everything else. He is also on the spectrum so his life prior to this was already a lot. I was at Aldi and feel pretty hopeless and drained. When I went to check out the check out lady said, Hi how are you? I looked up at her and when she looked in my eyes I just lost it. I said the typical "I am fine thank you" response but tears starting fall down my face. I just couldn't stop it. I was totally lying and was at my end and there was no where else for it to go.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 9:22:44 AM
Im just glad we were in a quiet corner with no traffic of people around. This was not a screaming match. But just a quiet discussion of 2 Moms.
I just care deeply about certain things. One being my child. She was hurting and upset..so that made me upset. Usually I handle things calmly. It was very unlike me to show\feel so much emotion in public and let the water works happen.So today I am like ..woah that was crazy!
The teacher is an emotional person too so I think it will be ok. My Daughter has been with her for almost 9 years..so I am not some Mom who walked in off the street ... daughter dances 1 hour a week and had a freak out on her. It's a lot more invested relationship. It was a little bit of my trust being broken in her teacher caring about my DD as much as I do.

But I do feel more emotional over the last few months. When I read the thread about peri menopausal..some of the things fit. I am not usually a crier.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 10:47:15 AM
Yes, the day my son left for Marine Corps Recruit Training.
I was so good when his recruiter came to the house to take him to the depot, he even commented on it...but hours later, while dh and I were in the Italian Restaurant in the Stratosphere in Las Vegas (we had traveled there after my son was picked up, dd was in a dance competition)...all of a sudden the tears started coming and would not stop! I sobbed into my gnocchi. I've never experienced anything like that before.

The only other time I had such a reaction was when ds came home from his deployment in Iraq...as soon as I saw him come off the bus, o.m.g. complete uncontrollable sobbing.





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Posted: 2/11/2013 10:48:43 AM
I'm not a crier so if I'm crying in public, it is bad.

As far a stage makeup goes, I've never seen good stage makeup look good close up. The first time my kids were in a production with adult, it scared them! IMO that wasn't a battle worth fighting.



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Posted: 2/11/2013 11:20:07 AM
The only time I've lost it in a public place was after my mom passed away. It had been a tough year anyway, made so much worse when my mom died suddenly, on my birthday.

Three months later I was handling life quite well, until I went shopping at Target. I had my cart filled with stuff, turned to go down an aisle and realized I was in the greeting card section. Staring me in the face was row upon row of Happy Birthday Mom cards. I totally lost it. I ended up abandoning my cart, fleeing the store, and sitting in the car sobbing my heart out.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 11:29:51 AM
No. I would have fixed her eyebrows without further comment except maybe to tell the teacher that she can't go out looking like Groucho Marx, it'll only take a second to fix. That would have been that.
And the other moms--I would never have known whether they liked me or not since I don't hang out with other moms and have no interest in anything they say or do. I have my own friends, I don't want to be friends with other moms just because we have kids the same age.

As individuals, some of them may be very nice, but I don't do the type of catty dramatics those type of groups are known for so I just stay out of it.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 11:46:28 AM
I did once - in WalMart. The greeter was an older man - possibly in his 80's. It was Veteran's Day, and he had his squadron cap on with pins he was awarded. I was so overcome with thankfulness for his service, I was a blubbering fool. I went up to him and thanked him for his service, and then he thanked ME, because he said it meant a lot to him that people still appreciate what he went through. It's not hard for me to cry when I see a military man in uniform.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 12:01:15 PM
I have. It was a few months after my mother had passed away, I was at Barnes and Noble purusing the books when I came across a book titled "Motherless Daughters" it just hit me hard and couldn't contain my tears.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 12:39:50 PM
I lost it at Applebees a couple years ago. For some reason our food was taking ages to get there and my friend left to go to the restroom. I was sort of looking around just people watching when I noticed the table directly across the way from our table. It was an older man and an older teenage girl. The man would say something, and the girl wouldn't respond or lift her eyes from her phone. They sat there awkwardly, him fiddling with the menu and her on her phone. Watching the two of them just hit me so hard. My dad passed away when I was twelve and looked a fair bit like this older man. Seeing the two of them together looked just like how my dad and I would have looked going to dinner together (only in the age before cell phones).I would give anything for a chance to see my dad one more time and to see this girl not even look up from her phone and make eye contact was killing me. I just starting crying, really ugly crying. I almost got up to go talk to them, I barely kept myself in my seat. But I so wanted to go tell them to enjoy their dinner and talk because you never know what's going to happen.

My poor friend came back from the restroom to me bawling and barely able to articulate what was wrong. We wound up requesting a new table so I wouldn't have to be right next to the other one but the whole night I stared at that older man and teenager. I actually still get really sad even remembering it.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 12:59:05 PM
Don't feel bad. It happens. I've done it....I can't remember when/where but I KNOW I have done it. It's just sort-of an OVERLOAD button gets flipped and you're done. It's crazy. It's embarassing, but don't let it get to you. People understand.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 1:12:42 PM
As an adult, I've cried times in public (not including funerals). One time was at the airport when my mom was flying back home. She's in her 80's, so I never know if that will be my last hug that I give her. I totally broke down walking back to the car.

Second time was in Disney World inside a candy store. My dad had died a month before. He loved candy, and I would always buy him something on my trips. I quietly cried, but I know that people noticed I was upset.

This all makes me glad that I don't have to deal with dance team drama.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 1:38:46 PM
Oh my goodness...I cry quite often in public. One time I was at the bank to put money into a memorial trust for my cousin. I had already spent many nights crying over it and thought I was going to be ok, but as soon as I said his name to get the account information I just started sobbing. The teller and the manager gave me a kleenex and said they were really sorry. I must have spent 15 minutes with the two ladies. They had information on the memorial fund and then researched his name and found the horrific accident pictures that he died in. They were really nice about the whole situation.

I've always been like...if it happens, it happens. I cry at movies alot too. I just get so caught up in the storyline.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 1:45:55 PM
Yes. The year my daughter was diagnosed with cancer I would cry in public all the time the first few months. One day I was at the grocery store and they cashier asked how I was doing and I just started sobbing. The very next weekend, not even a week from diagnosis, my older DD was skiing and so I'd dropped her to lessons and waited in the lodge. I just couldn't stop. I had to go sit in the car but that was worse. I could at least pull it together with some people around, being by myself made it that much easier to just wallow.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 1:59:23 PM
Thank goodness I'm not the only one AntJackie! I don't know that I have ever done the "awful" cry in public, but I can tear up at about anything! Choral concert at school, CHECK, Soccer goal by one of my DD's, CHECK, Military greeting family at the airport, CHECK <- you get the idea!

Don't beat yourself up, happens to the best of us! And it's usually over the dumbest of things....kind of the straw that broke the camel's back.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 2:26:32 PM
I burst out crying in San Francisco airport several years ago. My dad had died just a few months prior and my mom's health was very poor. We went to visit and help her and then when I had to leave, it broke my heart. I missed my dad so much (still do) and my mom was so sad and so sick.

When we got to the airport, there was a problem with our reservations - 4 of us had reservations but they couldn't find our then 11 year old daughter's reservation and didn't seem too concerned with it. I knew we would get home, I knew we'd all be together, but it was enough to push me over the edge with the sadness I was knowing then and I just burst out crying. Big, big sobbing crying. My middle son didn't help much when he scolded me quite loudly but I'm sure he was overwhelmed too.

We certainly did get home, all of us together and then I cried some more. Just a very sad day of travel for me.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 2:37:24 PM
Count me in.

DH had been home for 2 weeks R&R on his first deployment. I had just dropped him off at the airport and said goodbye. I was flustered with the airport parking machine not accepting my credit card and I didn't have enough cash on me. The tears started rolling and I ended up pulling off to the side and having a good long ugly cry right there in the car. Some lady came over to see if I was okay. So embarrassing.




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Posted: 2/11/2013 2:41:04 PM
I can't believe you had a public meltdown over stage makeup.

There are cases where crying in public is understandable and deserving of empathy and sympathy. This is not one of them. You embarrassed your daughter and yourself with your histrionics.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 2:53:41 PM
I have before, several times. The time that sticks out the most was when my neice (who's now 14) graduated from Kindergarten. I had just had Miss Lerin and was a blubbering mess, moreso than any of the other mom's/aunt's/grandparent's at the ceremony!

Another time, I was at work and was suffering from severe depression (undiagnosed at the time) and my boss told me I was going to have to work more hours per week but get paid the same. I lost it then too.








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Posted: 2/11/2013 3:03:16 PM
I envy those of you who do not cry easily. Both dd13 and I are brought to tears easily. Idk why, but we are. Especially if we think we are in trouble for any reason. It's weird.

So, yes, I have cried in public more than once.

For those of you who think it is silly to cry over stage make-up...that's really not all it was about. It was about how her dd felt and how she felt people were judging her dd based on the stage make-up.

OP- I feel for you, we did competitive dance for YEARS and I am SO glad that she is now focusing on technique classes. I was so over the drama!!!

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Posted: 2/11/2013 3:05:25 PM
The only time I ever have, I couldn't hide it or control it. I was shopping alone for an outfit to wear for my mothers funeral, she died suddenly so I hadn't been able to ever even think about this. Every store I would walk into, they of course were cheery and asked "how's your day!" Then in WhitehouseBlackmarket, the sales person followed me and tried talking and then asked "so, what event are you shopping for today"
I lost it, completely, they were so nice and sat me down and brought me water and tissues. I shouldn't have attempted that shopping especially myself, but I thought I could handle it. No way.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 3:18:56 PM
Twice that I can recall...

Once was several months after my FIL passed away fom complications of diabetes. I was in a doctors office for a simple cyst removal and while I was in there, a woman went into a diabetic seizure in the waiting room. It was heartbreaking to witness. Her poor husband was so overwhelmed and I just kept picturing my MIL andFIL. I tried so hard to fight back the tears but after it was all over (and the lady was fine), one of the nurses came over to see if I was ok. I felt like an idiot. It wasn't an ugly cry but tears were silently streaming down my face.

And the other time was about a year ago. My DH and I were scheduled to leave for a cruise when my daughter was unexpectedly named to swim on a relay team at her district meet 6 hours in the opposite direction the day before we were to depart. We made arrangements to be at the meet and were all set until we woke up the morning of the meet to a phone call saying my DH's MIL had been rushed to the hospital. We spent most of the day putting a fake "happy face" on in front of our DD so as to not stress her out. At one point we were able to break away from her for a short while to grab some food and in the middle of a Primanti Bros restaurant somewhere in Pittsburgh, my DH and I both lost it when the waitress came up to us and said, "how are you folks today?". The stress just floored us in that moment. In the end, MIL was fine. DD had a good meet and we went on our cruise...but there were many stressful hours before any of that happened.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 4:25:40 PM
dance is enough to make anybody cry.



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Posted: 2/11/2013 4:42:48 PM
I had an anxiety attack in the Denver airport one time. I could not stop crying. I was fine otherwise, talking normal, but the tears would not stop. Bless the poor TSA agent, she did her best to make me feel less crazy.

As far as the eyebrows, I think it was just the straw that broke the camels back during a stressful week. Just put it behind you and move on.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 6:36:25 PM
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Posted: 2/11/2013 6:42:36 PM
Just once- in the bank. I was under so much stress at the time I just could not help it.
My DH had been battling with a kidney stone for over a week, been in surgery twice to remove it, in constant pain, plus a company he did business with debited our bank account by mistake making things bounce and instead of reimbursing it they accidentally took it out again! Plus there was a stressful issue with my dad all at the same time. I had gone to the bank to deal with that problem and she told me the money had not been put back in yet and I just started doing the ugly cry in front of her. I was so embarrassed but absolutely could not hold it back.




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Posted: 2/11/2013 7:14:18 PM
Yes, about 2 weeks after my DH died. I needed to get out of the house and decided I could probably handle a short trip to the grocery store. As I was going down an aisle, a lady I'd never seen before stopped me and said, "Didn't your husband just die?" I was taken by surprise and kind of mumbled yes and she went on to tell me that he always used to run past her house. Evidently she lived in our neighborhood. Anyway, I completely lost it I had to park my grocery cart and leave.


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Posted: 2/11/2013 7:20:40 PM

No. I would have fixed her eyebrows without further comment except maybe to tell the teacher that she can't go out looking like Groucho Marx, it'll only take a second to fix. That would have been that.
And the other moms--I would never have known whether they liked me or not since I don't hang out with other moms and have no interest in anything they say or do. I have my own friends, I don't want to be friends with other moms just because we have kids the same age.


That's me exactly. I have never cried in public. And I never feel the need to "fit in". It's not something I ever expect or look for. My life is pretty busy and I don't feel the need to add new friends to it either.



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Posted: 2/11/2013 7:20:51 PM
About 12 years ago, we went to Orlando on a family vacation with extended family. We were at Islands of Adventure, and a group of people on those electric scooters cut in between our group of 12. My boys and their cousins were walking up ahead of us, or so we thought. We thought my 7 year old was with them, they thought he was with us. He had actually been caught up in the scooter group. We realize he wasn't there and went into panic mode. The employees told me to stand where I had last seen him (in case he came back), sent DH to the main gate to watch there, and everyone else fanned out to look for him. I stood in the middle of the walkway sobbing for almost 20 minutes until they found him. People were stopping to ask me if I was ok and I was crying so hard that I couldn't speak clearly to tell them. It was one of the scariest moments of my life and one of the few where I totally lost control of my emotions.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 7:30:44 PM
Just recently. It was the week after Hurricane Sandy and we had lost our power, our heat and multiple other electrical items in our house due to a power surge. We then had a blizzard and our new puppy was delivered - all within that one week. Plus, my dh was out of town - I was completely overwhelmed. The puppy got diarrhea and I just didn't know what to do. A friend recommended a veterinarian and we took the puppy in to her. She was so nice to me and all she asked was: "and how are you?" In a really kind way and I just lost it. She couldn't have been nicer about it - she's a lovely person.



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Posted: 2/11/2013 7:47:37 PM
I'm a crier so it's normal for me to get teary eyed any place I go. The only time I remember really losing it was shortly after Ds was diagnosed with autism. We found a wonderful group of therapists that specialize in ASD kids. While waiting with a small group of parents they were all chatting and laughing. I burst into tears, crying hysterically. I couldn't understand how they could act so "normal" when it felt like everything was crashing down around us. All the dreams we had for our Ds felt like they were forever gone. It was an ugly, near hyperventilating cry.

I was terribly embarrassed later. I did end up making some of the best girlfriends I could ever hope for that day so it was totally worth it.


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Creative Dreamer

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:07:00 PM
I've been especially teary lately. A couple weeks ago when my dad was in the hospital and it looked like he would not make it, Mom and I were to hungry to go home. I cried at Pizza Hut because he would never get to eat pizza again. He died this last Friday and I just know I am going to cry this week when we are out and about taking care of his final expenses.



cocoanmom
StuckOnPeas

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:36:56 PM
Life happens and sometimes it just gets over whelming. The Brows were what just broke the camels back. There is a lot of other things that are going on in and around my life that I just could not hold it in anymore. There was no opportunity to fix anything. If I touched them it would have made it worse. I needed to start all over again. Could'nt do that.
Everyone was understanding and the teacher was nice enough to recognize that. We are friends. More than just a teacher\client relationship. So there is give and take.
I am glad I am not the only one this has happened to before
I have learned a few things from this weekend. I appreciate the friends and family I do have even more.

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AncestralPea

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:43:52 PM
Yep, actually just a couple weeks ago at work. I was a supervisor, an employee had cursed me out BAD and almost attacked me and I was told it was my fault. I was doing my job and it bit me in the ass. It was so bad that I was told if I spoke with this person again I'd be fired. My supervisors brushed it under the rug like no big deal. I left my supervisor position and went right back to my original job.

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Posted: 2/11/2013 8:51:00 PM
My DD moved to competitive dance this year in August, and yes, it's enough to make anyone cry!


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Michel's Mom ~ Sugar Plum's Mummie

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Posted: 2/12/2013 12:28:41 AM
Yes, more than once after my DH died 11 years ago. And a few times after other family deaths.


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PeaAddict

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Posted: 2/12/2013 7:06:08 AM
My daughter has danced on stage for years an I never understood the "washed out" look everyone says dancers have if they aren't wearing caked on makeup! My daughter started dancing at age 3 and when the dance teacher told us to put heavy makeup on our kids for the shows, I never did. It was usually split (some moms loaded it on and some didn't). I didn't and my DD never looked "washed out" on stage.

And yes I've lost it in public a few times, the most memorable was at Magic Kingdom while I was pregnant and couldn't find my DH after riding a ride with my DS. The other was when my DH called me at Joann fabrics on Black Friday to tell me my dad sent me a large sum of money as a gift.

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PeaNut

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Posted: 2/12/2013 9:03:25 AM
A few weeks ago we were at Pizza Hut and my 6 year old who is normally pretty quiet says in a loud voice "that guy looks dead." Well it was a woman I used to take care of who was on oxygen and was just moaning and making noises, couldn't lift her head up, in a wheelchair, probably on hospice. I felt so embarassed and sad, and felt so bad for her family. I couldn't say anything, I sat at the table wiping away tears. That woman used to be so active 6 years ago. One of the neatest people I have met. I let my son know that wasn't nice and explained to him in the car that she really is dying.

*KAS*
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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:25:26 AM
Not a sobbing mess, but I recently had tears that would just.not.stop. At the airport of all places. I tried reading, responding to emails, anything. Didn't help. It was like my eyes sprung a slow leak, and I couldn't find the hole!

Mine was over a guy I am no longer dating. I just had this overwhelming 'I miss him' feeling. Not sure if it was because we used to always talk before / after every flight, or if it was b/c I was staying at the same hotel I was in the first night we talked. I really have no idea. I just couldn't make the (silent) tears stop. I held it together until I got in my rental car 90 minutes later...and lost it. Privately.

The crazy thing is, we still talk. We are very close friends. I had his talked to him 2 days before. Texted him later that night & instantly felt better w/ just that small connection. I just miss him every day. Love sucks sometimes.


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