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pheestand
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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:30:49 AM
Suffice it to say- I'm old. I'm in pain. I'm tired of dealing with this and just want it to go away and never come back.

My period.

I'm just sick of it. It's been 37 years of discomfort. 37 years of uncertainty of when it's going to be here. Sometimes, it's monthly for 3 to 5 days. Most of the time it's too random to track and can last for however long it wants. It's miserably uncomfortable; actually I have more pain when I ovulate, especially in the winder months than the period itself. BTDT- hot water bottles, heating pads, Motrin, Pamprin, Flexeril, Tylenol 3, birth control pills, homorone regulators, ever imaginable OTC remedy and many prescriptions. Seriously have tried it all, without exaggeration.

Been through invitro and infertility- spent two years running tests to determine why after 11 years of not preventing pregnancy, I wasn't pregnancy. Laproscopy, Hysterosalpingogram, many tests I can't remember the names of, (nad definitely not the spellings!). Guess what? I'm officially "normal". Infertility reason- on DH's side.

I'm old. I have my children. I'm beyond done having children. I have no use for the parts causing me issue. And it's so stinkin' frustrating.

Can't I just get rid of the no longer needed parts and enjoy the rest of my life already- pain free, and without uncertainly thinking every little cramp and pain *may* mean my period is coming?

At this point, I'm wishing, praying for menopause!

Aside from all that- does anyone have any suggestions; or please talk me down from ripping it all out myself!! (LOL- I wouldn't attempt an at home hysterectomy in real life, but there are those days when it doesn't sound bad)






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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:34:53 AM
Are you 37, or have you had your period for 37 years? If you are 37 you are NOT old. I'm 37. If you've had your period for 37 years maybe you've already started menopause.


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:37:17 AM
I'm 48 years old. I've been having my period for 37 years. Today, I'm so uncomfortable, frustrated and miserable; I want to stay in bed.

Feeling sorry for myself I guess!

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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:42:49 AM
I had an endometrial ablation done two years ago, and I barely have any period at all now. It was well worth it. You might look into having that done. It's not a guarantee that your period will go away, but it might!

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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:43:19 AM
You sound very much like what I've gone through most of my life. Irregular, painful, terrible bloating, heavy, etc. Mine were so irregular that the GYN put me on provera and I LOVED it. I knew when my period would come (within a couple days), it wasn't painful anymore, my periods were lighter. It was great, I was always like "so this is what a period is like for other ppl"

One down side I had, that made me stop was that I already have depression issues (I'm not medicated for it, I actually do very well), but I felt my depression coming back badly - like suicidal thoughts during my period. I realized when it was at it's worst, that it was only during my period. When I googled it, it was one of the side effects. Called my GYN and said I wasn't taking it again. Period went back to "normal" but don't feel like offing myself anymore.

If you don't have issues with depression, I would consider it. It was wonderful otherwise!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:47:42 AM
I'm sorry! That does stink. And 48 is not old!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:49:47 AM
I had a lot of pain with mine for years. My doctor did an ablation which pretty much eliminated my period (I would spot a little) but it didn't help the pain. Ultimately, I ended up with a hysterectomy. I had cysts on one ovary so they took that one and left the other. I have been pain free ever since. The best thing I ever did!!





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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:51:28 AM
talk to your GYN-there are options out there-not all of which involve the loss of your uterus, LOL

I hated my period-I had heavy, heavy bleeding and it would often start very suddenly at random times throughout the month. I was MISERABLE

I now take BC and I skip the "dummy" pills so I dont ever get a period at all. I LOVE IT. of course, not knowing you, or your history that might not be the best option for you but make an appt and sit down with your gyn and explain the situation and see what options are available to you


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:51:32 AM
Have you thought about talking to your doctor about ablation or a hysterectomy?

I was not a candidate for ablation, so I had a hysterectomy four months ago. Best thing I have ever done. It was completely life-changing.


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:53:25 AM
If you've been on all the meds, then surely it's all documented at your doctor's office. I would make an appointment and discuss a hysterectomy with him. That's what I did and my doctor agreed that it was needed. I had it done about 20 years ago and have always said it was one of the best decisions I've made.


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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:55:14 AM
What makes me pause at what you suggest is that I know a few women who have had a hysterectomy and still have monthly pain. Weird as that is. I am just not sure that I want to go thru major surgery and find that I am not able to be free from the pain. That would be a kick in the pants.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:57:50 AM
I don't have any advice beyond the other replies but I'm sorry you're suffering.

Oh and pssstt....you're NOT old. I'm 51 and I'm definitely not old, not most days anyway



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Posted: 2/12/2013 10:58:27 AM
I'm 47 and have had my period since I was 9, so I know where you are coming from! I was having such horrid periods that they put me on provera and that has saved my sanity! It's a pain to remember sometimes 'cause I only take it the first 15 days of the month. I still mumble and grumble, but at least I can leave my house during my period now. I was flooding a super plus tampon and an overnight pad in one whoosh and you never knew when the whoosh was coming!

I was not a candidate for the ablation and they wanted nothing to do with removing the thing. I'm so ready for this time of my life to be OVER!!

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Posted: 2/12/2013 11:19:17 AM
I didn't read all the replies but as others have said talk to your gyn about an ablation. I had one done about 5 years ago (I think.) While I still get my period they are much lighter and the cramping is not as bad; but it is slowly increasing.

Good luck to you!

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Posted: 2/12/2013 11:23:45 AM
Ablation, best thing I've ever done! You don't have to suffer, check it out.


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Posted: 2/12/2013 11:33:11 AM

What makes me pause at what you suggest is that I know a few women who have had a hysterectomy and still have monthly pain. Weird as that is. I am just not sure that I want to go thru major surgery and find that I am not able to be free from the pain. That would be a kick in the pants.


I had a hysterectomy 3+ years ago - I still get monthly breast tenderness, and I feel a twinge when I ovulate, but it's NOTHING compared to the misery I had been enduring prior to that. I ended up with a diagnosis of adenomyosis (and a large cyst), but they can't tell you if that is what you are dealing with until after the surgery is done.



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Posted: 2/12/2013 11:43:21 AM

What makes me pause at what you suggest is that I know a few women who have had a hysterectomy and still have monthly pain. Weird as that is. I am just not sure that I want to go thru major surgery and find that I am not able to be free from the pain. That would be a kick in the pants.



If they only had a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) and not a oopherectomy (removal of the ovaries) then they still might have pain if the pain is ovary related.

I was in a similiar situation painwise due to endometriosis at 30 years old had everything removed except for one ovary (would have both of them taken, but decided since I was only 30 and all the adhesions were on the right side, to leave the left one) and have been very happy since then.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 11:47:21 AM
I'm 45 and had a hysterectomy a couple of years ago because my period became a freaking nightmare

Talk to your gyno about your options ...

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Posted: 2/12/2013 1:18:51 PM

I was having such horrid periods that they put me on provera and that has saved my sanity! It's a pain to remember sometimes 'cause I only take it the first 15 days of the month. I still mumble and grumble, but at least I can leave my house during my period now. I was flooding a super plus tampon and an overnight pad in one whoosh and you never knew when the whoosh was coming!


This. I take it for 10 days and I have my life back. Some months I skip it and no period at all. It has been my saving grace!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 2:33:25 PM

If you've been on all the meds, then surely it's all documented at your doctor's office. I would make an appointment and discuss a hysterectomy with him. That's what I did and my doctor agreed that it was needed. I had it done about 20 years ago and have always said it was one of the best decisions I've made.



My sister recently told me that hysterectomies are much harder to come by these days.

OP-37 years my goodness you have put in your time I'll pray the menopause fairy visits you soon.


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Posted: 2/12/2013 3:20:02 PM
ABLATION!

I'm very much looking forward to mine!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 3:52:15 PM
I had years of awful periods, surgeries, cysts, then finally got uterine cancer and a hysterectomy! No more periods and I feel so much better!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 3:53:26 PM
Ablation=God send! I have no monthly pain any more. There's no guaranteeing your results, but I don't get a period any more at all. My ferritin (iron) levels are now back in the normal range too since I'm not having blood loss monthly!


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Posted: 2/12/2013 5:51:51 PM
I was right where you were when I was 48!! The Rx Anaprox helped me dearly with most of my symptoms, or I wouldn't have been able to get out of bed to function!! It honestly took most of the cramps away and seemed to cut down the bleeding. However, when I hit my late 40's, I began having that "crime scene bleeding". It got worse every month and then my period began to get unpredictable. I became anemic too. Turned out that I had fibroids covering my entire uterus (and more) and had to get a hysterectomy. I obviously don't get my period anymore and that's a relief, but it took me close to a year to recover from the surgery (which should have been pretty simple--I had the daVinci). I hope you find some answers and some relief. I'd try the Anaprox first and then make sure that you don't have fibroids.









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Posted: 2/12/2013 8:16:51 PM
I was joking with my OB/GYN on the last visit and she said "Wouldn't it be nice when couples were ready to start a family they came in and I flipped a switch and then when they were done they would come back in and I would turn it back off."

I am in Perimenapause and I went for 6 months without a period and then I got one. I really wasn't missing it at all.

I wish I could offer a helpful suggestion but here is a hug for you.

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Posted: 2/12/2013 9:38:10 PM
I had ablation about 4 years ago. No more periods for me. Before that, I was having the horrible whoosh another pea described.


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