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2boysandwill
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Not anyone on the board of course...I'm talking about my co-workers and everyone else I've encountered today IRL that are so friggin' grumpy and grouchy because they either
1. "don't like" v day
2. feel v-day is nothing but a commercialized day full of crap
3. or are just downright grumpy a$$ people on a daily basis anyway
So now I'm feeling "wtf-ish" because what I really want to say is "get a grip" it's just a day to go out of your way to show your love for the people AROUND you. V-day is not just about ur SO...and v-day isn't SUPPOSED heighten anyone's awareness about being single, or unhappy, or upset that you were done wrong...wth!
It's a special "designted day" to tell the people around you that you love them either by card or a call to your mom, your dad, a sibling...a friend...shit ANYONE!
good grief...u want a commercialized day? friggin' rabbit and leprechaun...no THAT's a commercialized day. | |
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batya
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I vote for number 2. But I would never ruin someone else's enjoyment of it. I sent 2nd grade DD off to school with her phineas and ferb valentines and her decorated box. Everyone can have their fun. Just don't expect me to do anything and don't whine to me about it. Then, I think we're good. |
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MerryMom937
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I chalk it up to "sour grapes".
But then, some people can really talk too much about their 3 dozen roses that were delivered, or the expensive restaurant they are eating at, or the diamonds that her BF or husband bought them. Sort of in a "shove it in your face" way.
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GrinningCat
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:10:47 PM
Valentine's Day aka Singles Awareness Day aka Thursday aka "I'm in a relationship and I am sooooooooo awesome because of it and I am going to flaunt it because today I am allowed to".
Ya. I get why people are bitter. I'm somewhat bitter because while many people (like you 2boysandwill) say it's supposed to be about loving those around you, it's really not. It's about romantic relationships and that's it for adults and for little kids it's about candy and toys. There's really not a lot for the "everyone around us". There's no random doing nice things for other people, it's just Thursday unless you're in a relationship.
That said, I was told an awesome joke by a three year old and she gave me two of the valentines she'd just got at a party (well, three but one's an envelope). So that was cute.
But beyond that and the "blind date books" I picked up at the library last night that I plan to open up tonight to see what I picked, there is no love for fellow man going on. Sorry. I'm mostly indifferent about it this year, but it's still kind of annoying for the single folks of the world. | |
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melanell
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I think a constant barrage of Holiday chatter can annoy anyone who doesn't celebrate/participate in the particular holiday.
We see people who get bent out of shape about Halloween, Christmas, any holiday typically celebrated with noisy fireworks, etc..
It's up to the ones celebrating if they are going to let complaints or gripes about the day ruin the fun for them.  |
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MrsScrapDiva
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:15:59 PM
Even when I was single, I loved Valentine's Day. I love the colors and the decorations, the flowers, the chocolates, etc. I think it is a nice, brighten your spirit kind of day in the middle of a long winter. I like the excitement of the day.
I feel the same with St. Patrick's Day too about the decorations and fun times! | |
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MizIndependent
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I think all the grumpiness just shows how much pain people really are on in. Of course, people are inherently selfish so, while they could choose to respond by showing their love an appreciation for everyone around them, it is actually more natural instead for them to focus on what they don't have and what society tells them the must have in order to be "whole".
Focusing on what one does not have has always been a recipe for depression and bitterness.
Try to have compassion for those in a "mood" today...it's a rough day for them until they learn the value of focusing on the good in their life. |
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Aggiemom92
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:17:06 PM
I'm not bitter and don't give a hoot what other people do with this day, so I wouldn't do anything to spoil your fun. But it doesn't mean anything to me. I "get into it" because my kids do and I like having fun with them. Beyond that? I'd probably be pissed if DH spent a ton of money to "show me he loves me."
It's a special "designted day" to tell the people around you that you love them either by card or a call to your mom, your dad, a sibling...a friend...shit ANYONE!
If you need a 'designated day' to tell/show me you love me, you clearly don't love me THAT much and you can just save your breath. | |
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2boysandwill
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:19:54 PM
but it has nothing to DO with being single...or on the opposite end, being righteous FOR being in a relationship. That's a rather twisted way to look at it.
to each their own...everyone is entitled to their own perogative (shrug) | |
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scrap4maddie
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If you need a 'designated day' to tell/show me you love me, you clearly don't love me THAT much and you can just save your breath.
EXACTLY! You need to be told to tell people that you love them? Do something nice on a regular day. That shows love. Not buying overpriced flowers and dinner because someone decided today was the day to "show love"
I also agree with Batya- as usual. |
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Scrapbrat1
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:23:28 PM
I sort of like that Valentine's Day has become more of a "show your love to those you love" kind of day, rather than just "couples" kind of love. As someone else said, I love all of the colors and decorations. We happen to have someone in my office whose birthday is today, so we did our Feb. birthday luncheon today and celebrated both occasions! |
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2boysandwill
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:25:18 PM
I'm not bitter and don't give a hoot what other people do with this day, so I wouldn't do anything to spoil your fun. But it doesn't mean anything to me. I "get into it" because my kids do and I like having fun with them. Beyond that? I'd probably be pissed if DH spent a ton of money to "show me he loves me."
completely agree and could've wrote your post word for word. as another person (IRL) mentioned, the dh's/so's still get sex on any other day, the kids still get "I love u's" on a daily basis...
what bugs are the negative comments comments of how it's all crap and bogus and so on...I haven't embraced the holiday as complete crap
I just think love and affection is for anyone...not just a dh/so | |
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2boysandwill
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:28:53 PM
EXACTLY! You need to be told to tell people that you love them? Do something nice on a regular day. That shows love. Not buying overpriced flowers and dinner because someone decided today was the day to "show love"
But that's it too!! flowers and dinner just became the 'thing to do' so of course it's a PITA to do today. Several couples (myself included) don't even bother with going out and celebrating 'that' way.
Vee day can be anything you want it to be is what I'm trying to convey.
BTW Batya...I want a Phin/Ferb Valentine!!  | |
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obsidian
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I vote for two too. I gave each child one chocolate from a box of favorites and went to bed. | |
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mlana
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:30:30 PM
My DH may not cut the grass, hang pictures, or fix the cars, but when it comes to say "I am listening to you, I pay attention to what you say, and I love you," the man is second to none. V Day may be a commercialized, made up holiday to some, but in our house, it's sacred. DH decided to make it MY day during our engagement, when he realized that my birthday is just 3 days after Christmas, and our anniversary is just a few days after that. I spend the whole holiday season focused on my family, and all of my money and attention is on making the season great for them. I would rather have any available money spent on my family than on myself during the holidays, so DH figured out a way to give me what makes me happy ( focusing on my family) and still let me know that he values me.
My DH celebrates Valentines like no one else. He dedicates a whole week (sometimes even an extra day or two) to showing me how much he loves and appreciates me. He does this by giving me a gift and card each and every day of the week, usually culminating in a grand gift on the official V day. Each gift is thoughtful and takes into account ME - what I like, what I have mentioned I like, or what I have liked in the past. He does not give Homer gifts for V week, only gifts that are all about ME. He saves all year for this, and he makes notes all year on things I have mentioned I want or like.
Do I brag about him and his awesomeness? HELL YES!!! LOL
Like any holiday, Valentines is what you choose to make of it. I am so grateful for DH's choice.
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jillt1405
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:32:15 PM
Its certainly only for grown-ups and NOT for children, co-workers etc over here! |
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Annabella
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:32:26 PM
For all those people that have bs excuses for why they don't celebrate Valentines Day, I ask them if they celebrate Mother's Day. Same reasoning really. lol All my single girlfriends are doing something with each other: fondue parties at home, baking cookies and click flick night, going out for margaritas, happy hour sangrias, or watching the Beyonce special on HBO. |
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El*Em*I
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:35:15 PM
I think it's one of 2 days for a couple (the other being your anniversary) to celebrate your life as a couple.
Celebrating is always fine by me!!!
Happy February 14th to all!
Ro
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TREZmom
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:35:17 PM
Valentine's Day is just not my thing...never has been, never will be. But I don't impose my views on the world. Try to just ignore the naysayers. | |
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KikiNichole
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:37:46 PM
EXACTLY! You need to be told to tell people that you love them? Do something nice on a regular day. That shows love. Not buying overpriced flowers and dinner because someone decided today was the day to "show love"
So. You're saying that my husband, who had flowers delivered to me yesterday, took me out to dinner last night and brought me lunch this afternoon only does something nice for me on when someone else has decided that he needs to?
Because:
Last Sunday, he took our daughter to a two hour practice (on my designated day) so I could lay in bed in my bathrobe and watch a Prison Break marathon.
Because he took me out to eat because I was too tired to cook and then drove me by Dicks for a new running shirt (because I was complaining about my lack of recent motivation)
Because I'm a terrible cook and he eats what I put in front of him, every night, without complaint...and tells the kids to shut it when *they* complain
Because he bought me a gift card to a spa for a massage, a facial and a pedicure for Christmas AND included the same for a friend because he thought I'd enjoy going with someone more than going alone.
Because, he spent an entire Saturday painting our bedroom after I bought new bedding...and then spent an entire Sunday repainting it because I hated the color I picked out.
Because he packed a cooler of diet coke and iced tea and brought it to me when I was stuck at a ball tournament in 100 degree heat and I'd forgotten to take one myself.
And because he sent me a vase full of overpriced roses and took me out to a crowded dinner with the rest of the free world for Valentine's Day...that means he needs to be told to tell me he loves me?
I truly don't understand that sentiment. I get not liking it if it's painful. I get not liking it because you think it's an overpriced commercialized holiday...but what I DON'T get is deciding what it means to other people. |
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Peabay
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:49:46 PM
I don't care if someone doesn't like it, but why piss in everyone else's Cheerios? Like the friend on FB who wrote: "Happy Hallmark Day." I get it, you don't like Valentine's Day, but why make other people who do feel crappy?
And that's coming from someone who really doesn't give two figs about Valentine's Day. |
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bellstar
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:51:38 PM
Valentine's Day is a day designated for people in romantic happy relationships. Many people are in unhappy relationships or in no relationship at all. A good healthy relationship is a luxury and not everyone is fortunate enough to have one. So that is why some people are bitter and can't conceal it. It's really hard to act happy sometimes when somebody's great relationship that you don't have is being rubbed in your face. | |
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dottyscrapper
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:53:16 PM
It's a special "designted day" to tell the people around you that you love them either by card or a call to your mom, your dad, a sibling...a friend...shit ANYONE!
No, historically it isn't what you describe it as.
St Valentine was allegedly a Christian saint that married soldiers secretly when they were not allowed to be married. Christians were persecuted under the Roman Empire at the time. Part of why we send cards is because St.Valentine healed his jailers daughter and sent her a letter signed from your Valentine. That was the reason in days gone by that one never signed their name on a card sent to someone they had romantic feeling for.
Commercialism has taken over the original meaning of the day - Romantic love has now been changed to loving everyone! 
Generally we still see it as a romance day here in the UK.
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obsidian
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:53:38 PM
I truly don't understand that sentiment. I get not liking it if it's painful. I get not liking it because you think it's an overpriced commercialized holiday...but what I DON'T get is deciding what it means to other people.
A very good point there.
If DH had taken me for an over priced meal I would not have objected. The backlash to V.Day does seem to get stronger every year as the push to make it more and more romantic and comerical gets into more peoples craws.
Saints days were a way of creating high days and holidays throughout the calendar for people to look forward too and mark the seasons by.
If a particular day is special to somebody go for it. However, in many ways we have swapped selling indulgences for overpriced bouquets.
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*SeikasHaven*
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I don't get the "if my SO has to have a specific day to act like he/she loves me then they obviously don't really love me" line of thought.
Do you people not celebrate your wedding/dating anniversary? Because I'm pretty sure you can celebrate your marriage every day and yet no one gets all haughty about that.
My DH is pretty awesome on any given Thursday, but I'm happy to take deliberate time on this one to share my appreciation/adoration for him.
So sue me
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pudgy_groundhog
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:59:18 PM
I don't care if someone doesn't like it, but why piss in everyone else's Cheerios? Like the friend on FB who wrote: "Happy Hallmark Day." I get it, you don't like Valentine's Day, but why make other people who do feel crappy?
ITA!
I think The Oatmeal summed it up well:
The Worst Thing About Valentine's Day
If it's not a big deal to you, then treat it like any other day. But going on and on about it does start to sound like sour grapes. |
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writermom1
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 2:59:54 PM
I'm not a big celebrater of the day yet I agree with you.
Not your thing? Fine.
Pi#^ing on another's parade? Not okay.
"Less complaining, more sexy rumpus" indeed
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PEArfect
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I would probably fall into the #2 group, but I still celebrate it. It's a fun holiday for kids and dating couples. My dh and I go all out for each other for our wedding anniversary.
I heard on the radio today how Valentines day supposedly originated, but I haven't had a chance to look it up to see if it's true. I'm hoping it's not because it's definitely not a warm and fuzzy story. |
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obsidian
StuckOnPeas
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 3:09:59 PM
http://shop.theoatmeal.com/collections/frontpage/products/i-like-your-face-so-much-greeting-card
I like this card. A cut and past link because I'm not sure of I can link to a shop without getting flamed. | |
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batya
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 3:22:33 PM
For all those people that have bs excuses for why they don't celebrate Valentines Day, I ask them if they celebrate Mother's Day.
No. Only to the extent that my kids make me cards and want to do something if they choose, otherwise, I don't care for it, either. I don't expect, I don't circle things in catalogs, I don't want my DH to struggle to buy me stuff.
But if someone else does, like Peabay says, I don't piss in their cheerios, I want them to enjoy if its their thing, but I don't want any cheerios. I don't need them or choose to have them, but I am a live and let live person and if you want cheerios, have them. Just don't bitch to me that you didn't get the cheerios you wanted. I don't want to listen to it. |
OK. Newbie. This is how it works. If your post consists of 80% sanity, 10% stupidity and 10% all kinds of crazy, we immediately focus on the 20% b/c it discredits the 80%.
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Ms. Liz
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 3:25:04 PM
I was told an awesome joke by a three year old
GrinningCat,
What's the awesome joke ??? 
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I eat my peas with honey. I've done it all my life.
It makes the peas taste funny, But it keeps them on the knife.
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batya
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 3:26:58 PM
If it's not a big deal to you, then treat it like any other day.
That's what I do. And until I went online today, I forgot to pack up little DD's Valentines for school that she prepared. |
OK. Newbie. This is how it works. If your post consists of 80% sanity, 10% stupidity and 10% all kinds of crazy, we immediately focus on the 20% b/c it discredits the 80%.
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obsidian
StuckOnPeas
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 3:37:25 PM
I forgot to drop off DD's homework. They had to freeze toys and watch them melt. I had to go back and stand by the door like a noddy while DD quickly put her name on the container.
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Aggiemom92
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 3:38:31 PM
Do you people not celebrate your wedding/dating anniversary?
Actually we do not. However, even if we did, the difference is that the anniversary marks a milestone. Like a birthday. Valentine's Day marks nothing.
or all those people that have bs excuses for why they don't celebrate Valentines Day, I ask them if they celebrate Mother's Day.
I don't really care for Mother's Day either, for the same reason. In fact, I think all of the "appreciation" days are silly. Appreciate the people in your life all the time, and SHOW it. I think it's a sad statement that we need Hallmark to tell us to love our SO's, thank our Mother's, appreciate our teachers, secretaries, etc.
But as I said, I don't begrudge anyone else enjoying these holidays. |
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Epeanymous
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I like holidays, period.
I don't celebrate Christmas, but I still like seeing the trees and lights. I go all out for Halloween and I have birthday banners and felt hats for everyone .
I am not going out for dinner tonight, but dh is making lamb shanks and got me some nice Scotch.
My FB feed is flooded with jerks like me who are posting all of our Pinterest-inspired handmade valentines and so forth, though. Maybe I'm in a pink haze and am just not seeing the backlash. | |
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2boysandwill
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:07:25 PM
thanks for the history bite dotty! I didn't know that!
Valentine's Day marks nothing.
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bridgyree
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:12:23 PM
Today is just another day for me. My husband totally spoiled me last night and brought me home flowers and chocolates and a teddy bear. In the past we've bought each other small gifts (mostly in the dating years) but neither of us really like Valentine's day for reason #2 and once we both realized that we just chilled out about it. When I said 'wow, you hate V-day' he said "I saw a commercial at 6am, it seemed like a good idea then" I just laughed. My plan was to go see the new Die Hard movie this weekend
Now if I'm having a bad day I'm going to be my normal self today...If I'm having a good day I'll be my usual over the moon self today. The date on the calendar has nothing to do with it. However I will use all the disgusting gushiness on FB as an excuse to indulge in the wine earlier than usual | |
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tamhugh
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:13:42 PM
I have always disliked Valentine's Day. I don't try to depress the people who are enjoying the day, but I don't get into all of the hoopla either. I bought DH a bottle of Tanqueray and some dark chocolate and send the boys a card with a GC in each.
On the flip side, at our lunch table today, people were asking what everyone was doing for the holiday. My DH is taking me out to dinner (I was shocked, to be honest, first time in 28 years he has made reservations), one said they were cooking a special dinner at home, and 3 said that they weren't doing anything. The last woman piped up about how very sad it was that their husbands weren't doing more for them. Went on about how her husband always has flowers waiting for her, and a nice gift, and special dinner plans. She basically made it clear that she thought the other husbands didn't love their wives as much as hers loved her. Those are the kind of people who make others hate Valentine's Day. | |
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Georgiapea
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:14:59 PM
Oh, bummer, how terrible. I guess I've lucked out, as all the people I've encountered today have wished me a happy valentines day. The checker at Walmart, and 2 bank tellers. Oh, and someone who came in to change his mailing address did as well.
ETA: We celebrate Valentines at our house. DH got me a heart shaped box of chocolates and a card. I got him a card and a tee shirt and cap with his airplane type on them. Even my grandson's girlfriend got me valentines chocolate yesterday when she came to pick him up.
Valentines FUN if you have someone to share it with. Otherwise, it's just another pesky day. | |
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Creativegirl
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:23:36 PM
I like all the holidays. There's always room for fun and festivity in my book!
Some of my favorite valentines days were when we taught preschoolers at our church and valentines day fell on a night we taught. We would decorate cookies, blow up big pink and red balloons and play games with them, and make cards for moms/dads/siblings etc. Just good plain fun! Nothing romantic about it, but heart warming all the same. |
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sues
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:28:09 PM
I truly don't understand that sentiment. I get not liking it if it's painful. I get not liking it because you think it's an overpriced commercialized holiday...but what I DON'T get is deciding what it means to other people.
ITA! I can decide for myself, thanks.
I like the decorations and the candy- the simple sweet gestures of the day. I like surprising my family with little treats. I like sending DD to school with treats for her friends and teachers- especially because at this age (13) -no one does it anymore. (Her teachers were thrilled. )
What I don't like are the extreme ends of the V-Day spectrum. The grouches who declare it a Hallmark holiday and all who love it are 'sheep'. Or- the people who expect extravagant gifts and dates- like it's a fairy tale waiting to be played out. | |
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Annabella
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:42:34 PM
I don't get why people have to comment that they don't like it. I don't post anti-St Patrick's day sentiment on the day. I think it just makes you look really bitter and lonely to voice your anti-valentine's day rant. |
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*Delphinium Twinkle*
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 4:47:41 PM
I know what you mean |
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perumbula
oooh, what you said!
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 5:02:14 PM
I'm in the "any holiday is a good holiday" camp. Make it as big a deal as you like or just plain ignore it. We keep it pretty simple but do recognize it as a day to celebrate our marriage. My kids recognize it as one of the biggest candy hauls of the school year. Sometimes I get roses. Sometimes I get chocolate. Sometimes I get a hug and a kiss and a big I Love You. Whatever is good and I'm happy with it.
I do think the "my husband loves me mostestestest" brats should just shut up though. I get something for Valentine's Day and those girls still annoy the crap out of me.
Now when St. Patrick's Day rolls around and Pintrest is awash in rainbows and green clovers, I'll be rolling my eyes. I won't say anything though. If you want your green pancakes and rainbow decor, go for it. We'll just remember we are neither Catholic nor Irish nor beer drinkers and mostly ignore it. Except the corned beef. thank you to all the St. Patrick's day celebrators who make my beloved corned beef affordable once a year.  |
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Simply_Lovely
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 5:36:42 PM
I don't care if someone doesn't like it, but why piss in everyone else's Cheerios? Like the friend on FB who wrote: "Happy Hallmark Day." I get it, you don't like Valentine's Day, but why make other people who do feel crappy?
ITA! If you don't celebrate it, that's fine, but why make those who do feel bad?
And we don't really celebrate it either, and never go out on the 14th or buy overpriced flowers. But a card and some chocolates to share never hurts anyone. It is also the day of my grandmother, who was named Valentina, after the saint. And my cousin was named after her. So I just treat it as a day of love. And seriously, who hates love? Not to mention that pink, red, and hearts are my favorite things ever.
And those who do celebrate it over-the-top romantically - kudos to you! With our busy lives these days it's sometimes necessary to have a day when it's acceptable to drop everything and be romantic. |
 
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AussieMeg
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 5:47:05 PM
I'm not into Valentines day at all, and I am decidedly unromantic. But I have to say..... Marcy / mlana, your husband is a treasure!!! That's so sweet. | |
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OSUBuckeyeFan
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 5:50:37 PM
I like Valentines Day. I liked it when I didn't have a 'valentine'. I LOVE the colors that signify the holiday..red, pink and white. I wore my red scrubs to work last night. I wore my red heart earrings and my Old-fashioned Valentine scrub jacket. Tonight, I'll be wearing hot pink and my heart scrub coat.
My sister got married on Valentines Day in 1998. She's now divorced and been dating a man for over 5 years and she still likes Valentines Day.
I just don't get the people who are all bah humbug over it. |
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voltagain
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 5:55:10 PM
For those who are in a romantic relationship, I don't think the realize how deep some women take *not* being in a romantic relationship.
If I were a lovable person I'd have an SO.. but since I don't then I must be fundamentally flawed. That IS a bitter pill to even think about swallowing... yet that is what is going on for lots of un-coupled people.
Valentines is celebrated as a kids holiday in elementary school. But after that age it does skew to romance. It IS hard to be reminded at every turn you aren't worthy of having a romance.
So, I understand you not wanting them to rain on your happy parade. But perhaps your happy parade could stay a bit closer to home and not be tootin' around the work place, neighborhood and everywhere else. |
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voltagain
OklaPhoma
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 5:58:07 PM
to go out of your way to show your love for the people AROUND you. V-day is not just about ur SO...
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If this were true women would be upset with their bff for not getting them a gift and not so upset with their dh or boyfriend. After 5th grade valentines is about your SO, not the people around you.
Think about taking your gal pals out for dinner tonight to show them some love... doesn't feel right does it? |
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scrapper100
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| Posted: 2/14/2013 6:22:16 PM
No I don't need a reason to tell people I love them I just think today is a fun day. Yes I am married and I got a gift and gave a gift but that isn't the main part of the day. I told DH I didn't want to go out for a fancy dinner and he is picking up takeout instead we will have a nice family dinner that I don't have to cook.
Now I get annoyed with people that have to brag about what they got but that goes for all occasions/holidays. I mean I don't mind hearing it once but don't keep shoving my nose in it either. Some people are more subtle and that is more pleasant to be around than someone that needs the expensive gift to feel loved. I know my DH loves me and that is what matters. DH knows not to spend money on flowers today as they are overpriced and they just aren't something I will appreciate. DH know what I like and knows that I don't need a lot of money to be happy - not saying I don't like nice things but I don't need them to feel happy.
I guess at this point in my life I just choose to think of it as a fun day. If you don't like the day don't participate but don't get all grumpy to those enjoying their day. Tomorrow you can be grumpy
I hope everyone had a nice day. If you don't have someone to treat you to something I think you should treat yourself to something any little something to put a smile on your face. |
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