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pennyring
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I love holidays. All of them. All year long.
I grew up not celebrating normal holidays. It sucked. I never dressed up for Halloween. I never bought my classmates Valentine's Day cards. I never opened a Christmas present. I never got chocolate from the Easter Bunny. I never traded a molar for some coin with the Tooth Fairy. And so on.
I met DH when I was 19. When he heard of my past, he swore to give me the childhood I never had. We celebrate EVERYTHING. We adore the cheesiest holidays the most, and Valentine's Day is at the top Cheese Mountain. I adore it.
I've never shoved my V-day down anyone's throat. In fact, I don't really chitty chat with co-workers about anything personal at all, unless they ask. I'm working. This isn't about my personal life and what I plan to do over the weekend.
So, if you don't like it, fine. No skin off my teeth. But I love and will continue to love it!
Yesterday really sucked though. It was like everyone woke up and decided to be a complete asshole all day long. No idea what their collective problem was. I still went home and had a nice VD with DH. And that's all that matters.
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missbitts
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Valentine's Day is at the top Cheese Mountain
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Simply_Lovely
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Easter is a very sacred day for many many people around the world. Easter is not a f-rabbit commercialized day.
I don't know when it became about a rabbit and not celebrateing that JesusChrist rising from the dead. Maybe the same "people" that changed Christmas from being about the celebration of JesusChrist's birth to a commercialized Santa & spending spree on presents for people...
As was explained earlier St.Valentine's day also had a deep meaning before it became commercialized. At least the hearts and romance go with the original historical theme. Now you please explain to me what an egg-laying rabbit has to do with the resurrection of Jesus (space) Christ?? |
 
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voltagain
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In fact, I don't really chitty chat with co-workers about anything personal at all, unless they ask. I'm working. This isn't about my personal life and what I plan to do over the weekend.
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The way it should be. And I sincerly hope you had the best valentines day of all.
I totally disagree with Batya's "put them in thier place" It does nothing to make the anti valentines people enjoy the day any more..just gives them more reason to hate it. |
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Aggiemom92
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That's a great story Pennyring. | |
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batya
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 1:38:24 PM
Well, you can put them in their place in one of two ways. One is to say 'I didn't ask you and continue with your happiness. Not going to please them. The other is to not engage in their hate fest thus not encourage/invite their negativity. Also not going to please them. Either way does not satisfy what they were after, does it?
And who cares if it makes them hate it more? I don't celebrate b/c it's not my thing. I don't hate it. I don't want to rain on anyone's cheerios or piss on their parade. But I know people who do. My purpose is to keep their piss off me. Not to turn them into happy people. That will never happen. Some people aren't happy if they can't be miserable. |
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Gia LuPeaA
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This is the most bizarre thread since the one last year chastising the dad for "being so thoughtless" for bringing his little girl flowers. I mean really... being annoyed that someone wished you Happy Valentine's Day?  |
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2boysandwill
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we are headed towards cooky town if we can't wish each other a happy (insert any holiday or THING here) day. Soon, there will be nothing left because each.and.every.single.little.thing causes some sort of unknown visceral reaction.
"Great weather, right Peggy!"
- Great weather?!? WTF do you mean great weather! The sun, gives me hives!
"Woo-hoo! How 'bout that superbowl game! It was great!"
--Screw football! That sh*t reminds me of NEVER getting picked to play on the yard! That Johnny was a pr*ck!!"
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batya
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 3:32:20 PM
How did we go from the OP being about people being crabby about the meaning behind the day or not celebrating it themselves to being offended if they're wished a Happy Valentine's Day? Who said that? I don't think we're reading the same thread anymore.
Classic Peaing. |
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Gia LuPeaA
StuckOnPeas
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 3:58:25 PM
How did we go from the OP... to being offended if they're wished a Happy Valentine's Day? Who said that? I don't think we're reading the same thread anymore.
Classic Peaing.
Voltagain said "Don't wish me a happy valentines day. Yeah, I had perfect strangers on the phone wish me a happy valentines day yesterday. After hanging up all I could hear was my ex telling me he didn't love me and never really had."
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"**I** don't need to know about your love celebration with your lover. So don't include me. Don't wish me a happy valentines day just because you have a lover. It is possible to be happy and not make others miserable in the mean time." |
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batya
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 4:02:00 PM
Even when people told me Merry Christmas, I said Thank You. Not some angry passive aggressive Happy Chanukah, Happy Yule, Happy Holidays thing in return. And I didn't have visions of anything else. Sometimes people are just trying to be nice.
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melanell
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:08:30 PM
I don't care if someone doesn't like it, but why piss in everyone else's Cheerios? Like the friend on FB who wrote: "Happy Hallmark Day." I get it, you don't like Valentine's Day, but why make other people who do feel crappy?
And that's coming from someone who really doesn't give two figs about Valentine's Day.
I agree. And we also don't do anything for Valentine's Day. But I'm happy for anyone out there celebrating the heck out of it.  |
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ilovecookies
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Voltagain said "Don't wish me a happy valentines day. Yeah, I had perfect strangers on the phone wish me a happy valentines day yesterday. After hanging up all I could hear was my ex telling me he didn't love me and never really had."
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"**I** don't need to know about your love celebration with your lover. So don't include me. Don't wish me a happy valentines day just because you have a lover. It is possible to be happy and not make others miserable in the mean time."
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jrenae
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:22:37 PM
If it promotes love, who cares if it's commercialized. We can decide how each of us wants to do it in our family. It's fun...it can be artsy, and it can serve as an opportunity to teach the importance of loving each other (kuum bi ya...kuum bi ya....). Some claim to say "I don't need a day to show that I love someone..., blah blah blah..." Well, fine, don't. But it's a nice reminder. We have days to remember our Veterans, but we should remember them everyday. We have days to remember those that died in battle, but we are to remember them anyway. These days are just fun ways to remind us and celebrate. You don't have to spend a lot if you don't want to.
I don't like the debbie-downers either. Valentines Day doesn't just have to be about those that have significant others (or are bitchy because they don't). Last year DH sent a care package to my sister's family in Wyoming (it was DH's idea). We didn't this year because our funds were tighter. But the point was to show love and remember those we love.
(and no, I haven't figured out how to successfully re-size the photo...Suck it, trolls...and Happy Valentines Day..  )
and Valentine's Day is at the top Cheese Mountain. I adore it.
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Gia LuPeaA
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IleneTell
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 10:21:31 PM
This is fitting.
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redboots
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 10:26:36 PM
I absolutely agree that V-Day is a commercial "holiday" that causes many people to feel forced into a show of affection that is not genuine.
That doesn't make me enjoy it any less, though
I'm lucky enough to be married to a year-round romantic. He always makes me feel loved, beautiful and appreciated. We give each other gifts and cards throughout the year and make it a point to express our gratitude and love for one another on a regular basis.
We don't need an excuse to express our love for one another, but we enjoy the chance to do so.
I also love using Valentine's Day as an excuse for surprising friends and family. One of my cousins has been having a hard time, and I sent her a care package that she said made her week. My husband's best friend is stationed in Afghanistan and he and his company greatly enjoyed the box of treats that I surprised them with. One of my best friends is going through a divorce, so I took her out to lunch and gave her a fun little care package, as well.
I look at VDay as a great excuse to express my love and gratitude for my friends and family, and to make their day a little brighter.
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jenp1024
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 11:45:41 PM
So, I understand you not wanting them to rain on your happy parade. But perhaps your happy parade could stay a bit closer to home and not be tootin' around the work place, neighborhood and everywhere else.
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shannoninkc
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| Posted: 2/17/2013 12:53:52 PM
Holy crap, some strong feelings about a no big deal kinda day to be nice to people.
Why does not having a significant other equate to Vday being stupid/throwninyourface/insert your complaint here?
I include my single friends in Vday, I still ate chocolates when I was single. I probably tried to find a dude to make out with, who the hell knows. That was 8,000 years ago.
Who gives a shit if you have someone or don't? If you are that unhappy about your relationship status, that is on you. Make the most of it, be it singleness, togetherness, divorced, whatever.
Get over yourself and your very narrow view of the world and how it should treat you on a day most people should be able to churn out at least a half smile.
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