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Miss Lerins Momma
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gar
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This happens regularly, but MUCH less not that we are eating WW's meals every day (menu planned out and groceries bought on Sat) except for 1 Saturday meal and Thursday dinner. If we still have issues on Saturday, we narrow it down to 2 and flip a coin. 99% of the time we go with the coins answer.  Works like a charm! |
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Miss Lerins Momma
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cropduster
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When we do this, I'll usually wind up making breakfast for dinner. I never get an argument when I do this. Or we get pizza. |
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creativechicky
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It's a pretty popular game at our house too. It's these times that I wish I was a meal planner. I just kind of wing it everyday. Or if you can't agree have a go to meal like take out pizza or whatever =) | |
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Luvnlifelady
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Yes! Food and it's related hassles are my most loathed chore. I know I should be grateful for all the options, but it drives me crazy!
I do not like to grocery shop and then trying to plan something interesting each night is like pulling teeth. I'd much rather clean toilets than try to figure out "What's for Dinner?"
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pheestand
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I would have put money down that you were outside my front window, listening to OUR conversation! It's even better when we're all standing in front of the open refrigerator and freezer, staring as if SOMETHING, anything, is going to jump out and say "EAT ME".
Ended up with parmasean and walnut crusted orange roughy, cheesy potatoes and peas....
Somedays I just give up though. | |
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petesmom
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Miss Lerins Momma
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Aggiemom92
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:12:07 PM
Still no decision and I've said pizza 3 times, but DH is refusing but won't give an alternative.
My rule is that if you reject a suggestion you have to come up with one of your own. I would have ordered the pizza after the second time.
My kids are older now and about once every 3 or 4 weeks we have one of those nights where I'm not really hungry and I ask what they want and they 'can't think of anything.' I've started saying 'the window for getting me to fix your dinner closes at 7:00. After that you're on your own.' It works. They either tell me what they want and I fix it or they end up making themselves something. They never complain though because usually when this happens they're not really hungry either. (It's usually when we've had a weird day where we ate lunch late, so a 'light' dinner is better anyway.)
But, I feel your pain. I plan a weekly menu every Thursday and I think it's one of my most hated chores. |
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ellencee
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I'd much rather clean toilets than try to figure out "What's for Dinner?"
Please come clean my toilets & I'll gladly figure out your dinners! | |
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Luvnlifelady
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:13:15 PM
I've recently asked for ideas from everyone. DH's contribution was "chili." 15 yo DD sent me some magazine links. I told her it would be helpful if she would first look at the recipe to see if she thought she might like it first.
I looked at a recipe for copycat Orange Chicken from Panda Express. By the time you buy the ingredients (and use tiny amounts of each), it's cheaper to just get it from the restaurant. Ugh!
ETA: I also wish there were more healthy or relatively healthy options for take-out and delivery would be nice too. See...I'm not asking for much!
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scraps_of_time
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:16:44 PM
I got tired of that game years ago. I shop, I cook and I plan. I fix what I have planned. They either eat it or find there own. |
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Luvnlifelady
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:20:38 PM
ellen-I will accept your offer. No problem. I'll even do laundry (no ironing though).
This is when I think we all need "sister wives." Between 4 women, there's bound to be one that likes to cook. |
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flanz
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:22:40 PM
Yes! Food and it's related hassles are my most loathed chore. I know I should be grateful for all the options, but it drives me crazy!
I do not like to grocery shop and then trying to plan something interesting each night is like pulling teeth. I'd much rather clean toilets than try to figure out "What's for Dinner?"
me too! | |
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Miss Lerins Momma
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:25:20 PM
This is when I think we all need "sister wives." Between 4 women, there's bound to be one that likes to cook.
Haha, my friends and I joke about that all the time! |
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Dizzy_D
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:30:04 PM
I want Thai drunken noodles with chicken please. Spice level 5. |
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momof1child
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I make meals in larger servings so that I always have something in the freezer.
Sam's is great for having "stuff" to make dinner. Shrimp Scampie (micro cook the amount of shrimp you want), spring rolls, stuffed shells.
If desperate, I will make stove-top stuffing and add dried cranberries, frozen turkey or chicken meat, walnuts, frozen veggies and cook it all together.
I love cooking, yes, including the shopping thru to the cleanup. | |
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Nantini
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:35:13 PM
When no one decides we get to eat what I want. Usually that's taco salad or during lent it tuna salad on toast.
Sometimes you just want someone else to decide! | |
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*Shannah*
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:38:40 PM
it happens in my house ALL THE TIME. my dh can NOT make a decision on his own, it drives literally INSANE, and has for 10 years. it took him THREE YEARS to decide on a freaking TV, that's how bad he is. | |
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Miss Lerins Momma
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naniwebbEMT
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:44:09 PM
Pretty much every day at my house. Lunch and dinner. DH can't make a decision to save his life. If I force him to choose something he reverts to 2 meals, neither of which I like, so I have to choose anyway.  |
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KateMarie
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:47:01 PM
I pick it, I cook it, they eat it or they can find something on their own or go hungry. End of story. |
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MrsScrapDiva
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:47:29 PM
You are not alone! It used to happen all the time. And what makes it worse is it is getting later and later and no one can decide and everyone gets grumpy.
Now, I try to plan ahead. | |
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TXMary
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:47:48 PM
I plan meals and cook all week. Our weekends...we play the what do you want/IDK, what do you want game. We call it culinary foreplay. |
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paigepea
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:48:34 PM
I plan dinner 100% of the time and I've stopped asking for ideas. They get what they get and they don't get upset. Luckily, dh is happy with anything. |
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Monklady123
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Oh yes, we have a version of this in my house all the time. I hate -- HATE -- thinking up what to cook. And then I very much dislike cooking it.
The version this game that we have in this house is this: I ask "what do you want for dinner?" and get these replies:
Dh: "meatloaf" -- or "whatever".
Ds: "pork bbq" -- or "eh"
Dd: "broccoli/quinoa bake" -- or "um..."
Sigh.  Seriously, we could eat meatloaf, pork bbq, and broc/quinoa every single day and two out of the three would be happy. (dh and ds eat all three, but dd is a vegetarian...)
Tonight we had red lentils and beans over rice. I slaved away all day over those lentils. 
ahem... in the interest of full disclosure, they were TastyBite Madras Lentils, from Costco.  (my kind of cooking). |
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Luvnlifelady
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 6:57:38 PM
I just made a deal with DH. He loves to play boardgames so I told him if he figures out dinner, I'll play a game with the family later tonight. Win-win.
ETA: Update-not so much a win-win. It's 7 p.m. and I'm finally heading out for take out grilled chicken with sides. Ugh!
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Pridemom
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I laughed when I read your title, because we play that song and dance at our house. I have found we all like it when I meal plan. And we avoid the song and dance. |
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IPeaFreely
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:03:16 PM
I dont think Ive ever asked that question. I cook it. They eat it. Done and done. | |
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peamac
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:07:54 PM
Happens here, too.
It's 7pm and DH just put two frozen pizzas in the oven. I've been busy working and he doesn't want chicken again. And we ate out last night for Vday and we're too far for a quick run for something fast. Frozen pizza seemed to be the easiest thing.
There are nights like this when I'm glad our DDs are away at college- sometimes it's hard to figure out what to feed just the two of us! |
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Maryland
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:21:04 PM
Here too! I hate planning meals. And hate shopping for food too. I could go to Target everyday but grocery store, yuk! I love when my husband travels because I don't have to cook. Crazy! I would hire a cook over a house cleaner any day.
And the answer is chicken. IF they don't give me ideas we have chicken.
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melanell
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:40:56 PM
LOL!!! Yep! And before we were even living together.
Just going out for dinner would bring about that conversation.
Sometimes I swore we'd stop being hungry before we had decided what to eat. |
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mom2cameron
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:44:24 PM
Happens at my house almost every night. Drives me nuts. |
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CroppingKate
Peas-okay; Queues-not so much
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:45:34 PM
I dont think Ive ever asked that question. I cook it. They eat it. Done and done.
Here, Here!
I will add, if I don't feel like cooking, I'll go out and pick something up, I don't ask first.
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pennyring
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:46:50 PM
Nope, we don't play that game. We plan the week's menu on Saturday and shop on Sunday for the week.
Tonight was supposed to be BBQ pork, but SOMEBODY'S DH forgot to turn on the crockpot at lunch time.
We had hotdogs and beans instead. It works. 
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TXDancermom
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:47:39 PM
Every. Freaking. Week. when we are getting ready to go to the store or at the store....I am so tired of dh telling me this.
With the kids, I gave up and just told them what we were eating | |
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danlilr
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:48:49 PM
I get so frustrated by that conversation!!
I tell my DH that I will shop for it, cook it, clean up after it - but sometimes i just don't want to decide what we're having. I make decisions all day at work, and just don't always want to decide what to cook.
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:57:17 PM
Meal plan made. Cook what was planned. People eat it or go to bed hungry. Not my problem. Asking this many people what they want? Nope, not gonna happen. | |
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Eleezybeth
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:58:25 PM
I hate planning meals. So it is not as easy as "I choose, I cook, they eat" in our house. I hate the chore. Even though **loud sigh** the decision always comes down to me and I should MAKE it as easy as my choice, you eat.
I'll make you whatever you want and I'm a pretty good cook so stretch me and see. I just hate thinking of what to cook whether I planned in advance or not. If DH would hand me a menu on Saturday night for a whole week...... holy crap, I'd think I died and went to heaven. Wonder if I could ask for that for my birthday. (Eureka!!) | |
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biochemipea
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 8:59:09 PM
This is why I have no problem having DH make dinner when I don't feel like it. He can make grilled cheese, salad, and microwave pastas. The kids are happy, I don't have to cook, and DH cooks dinner. Win, win, win!
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stabbybean
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:17:29 PM
At our house it's, "what was your plan for dinner"? Me: "I'm making x y z". Him: that just doesn't do it for me". Me: "well, what would you like then?". Him: I don't know. I guess I'LL go out".
OR..."I ate a late lunch so you don't have to cook dinner. Me: "I have to cook for the rest of us.". Him: don't go to all that work. They can eat cereal.". Me: "I don't want cereal.". I didn't get my lunch today, I need a meal and So do the kids.". Fast forward to me putting away dinner. Him: I didn't know dinner was ready!!". Me: "you weren't hungry, remember?".
Grrrrr. I love to cook but am really tired of cooking dinner every. Stinking. Night. |
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bridgyree
BucketHead
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:34:13 PM
Nightly ritual here! We fight about food more than anything else. I am indecisive...my husband won't choose because he says I'm picky. I don't think I'm that picky. I just don't eat fish or seafood, otherwise I really eat pretty much anything. It has been really bad the past month or so. I have no appetite so I don't even care if I eat. Give me a box of multi-grain Cheerios to pick at and I'm happy enough. Unfortunately that doesn't work for him 7 days a week. | |
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scoobers
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"Whatever" or "something simple" are two phrases I hate to hear. I always respond to DH, "what temperature do you cook that?" |
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likescarrots
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:47:47 PM
I plan 5 meals a week and grocery shop for them all at once, so this isn't a huge issue at my house, pick one of them and the choice gets reduced as the week goes on.. I typically plan them based on certain things as well, for instance if we're going to be home late it's going to be an easier meal, if a meal needs bread made I'll decide what is the best day for me to make it ahead... etc.
We do sometimes have this issue with going out as there isn't much to choose from, but I can't image it would take us that long to decide on something. | |
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Belia
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:48:06 PM
I will shop for it, cook it, clean up after it - but sometimes i just don't want to decide what we're having. I make decisions all day at work, and just don't always want to decide what to cook.
That's me. I get so tired of question after question after question. Please just think for yourself! | |
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ChirpingCricket
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:49:44 PM
About five years ago, I hit the wall about "what's for dinner," and I made a rule that the person who asked that question had to fix dinner. They stopped.
I now have a job, work 9 to 10 hours a day, come home, and still have to fix dinner. Four days ago, my husband said, "I should fix dinner more often. We work the same."
He's a keeper.
--Cricket
P.S. -- He made biscuits and gravy for his first "I'm an equal partner; I can fix dinner, too" dinner. Not a single vegetable in sight anywhere. It was *great*. |
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peapermint
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:52:45 PM
I'm lucky -- my DH does all the cooking and the grocery shopping too.
We kind of have the same things over and over but I'm not going to complain because I don't want to cook. |
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benem
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| Posted: 2/15/2013 9:55:53 PM
Can you do a weekly meal plan? I hate trying to figure out meals at the time! |
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