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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:14:10 AM

We have a friend who doesn't eat vegetables, but I'm sure he would find a way to pick them out. No big deal.

This guy sounds like an ass. Don't hang out again.

I'm kind of bummed you decided to explain your common goals... because I was going with "they're swingers" until you explained it.


bwahahaha!! That was AWESOME!

Ya the kidney beans, didn't know about that at first but its actually pretty darn good. It's my new fave dish.

I don't like normal fajitas that are grilled etc...








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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:17:59 AM
By the way, WHO CARES if there are beans in fajitas or not. They were DAMN GOOD!









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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:20:02 AM

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We are trying to make new friends that are couples, because while we like our single friends. We want to hang with more people that have common goals like us.


Single friends don't have "common goals?" Really? I always disliked it when married women dump their single friends. Hopefully, that isn't what you mean though. I actually think it shows exactly what kind of friend someone is and, yea, I would think it was rude to do so.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:24:30 AM
Ok, that's just plain ass rude.
I don't care what recipe you have, it you invited me over I would have eaten it and complimented you as well. Yep, even if I didn't love it. I guess that's because if I was looking for a friend, I wouldn't have attached "must cook exactly like I expect" to the list of requirements.

Now, I want to know... how are you all getting out of any future meet ups. Cause you know they'll ask.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:26:24 AM

Single friends don't have "common goals?" Really? I always disliked it when married women dump their single friends. Hopefully, that isn't what you mean though. I actually think it shows exactly what kind of friend someone is and, yea, I would think it was rude to do so.


It isn't what I meant.








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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:27:59 AM

Now, I want to know... how are you all getting out of any future meet ups. Cause you know they'll ask.


LOL, I really don't know. Here's the kicker. My husband is one of the main bosses in his shop. I wouldn't think an employee would want to insult the bosses wife??








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Posted: 2/19/2013 11:27:13 AM
I have learned long ago that work friends and personal friends do not mix. That's just like I do not bring work problems home and I do not bring my personal problems to work.
I do not intermingle with my boss or other co-workers outside of work unless I have to take a business trip, but even then; once the dinner get together is done, I'm on my personal time and would rather spend it how I want to.



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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:12:29 PM


My husband is one of the main bosses in his shop. I wouldn't think an employee would want to insult the bosses wife??
Clearly the guy isn't too bright on top of being a social reject. However, I have to say that your husband isn't being wise in creating social connections with people he supervises.

I can already see a situation in which this guy is passed over for promotion and alleges that the reason is that the private social relationship fizzled out.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:18:20 PM
Rude


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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:44:09 PM
I don't find what he said or did overwhelmingly "rude". I would put it more on the "he's not the most tactful person". I think your back was up a little bit and you are nit-picking his words and behavior.


Well fajitas are made with veggies, everyone knows that.


Count me as someone who doesn't cook my chicken or beef fajitas with onions or peppers, if that is the vegetable you are referencing.

I really don't like fajitas with the cooked green peppers and onions. I like onions and I like green peppers, but I don't like them steeped in chicken fajita mixture. It tastes "steamed" and not fried. Maybe hearing about "chicken fajitas", it didn't register with him about the onions and green peppers. I know a lot of people don't like the taste of onions and/or green peppers (raw or cooked).

I would have just picked them out of the fajita though, without saying anything. But then I am not overly sensitive to the taste of onions and peppers, but others are, so merely picking them out of the fajitas still doesn't remove the taste and flavor.

From that point on, I think you were irritated and are possibly looking for justification in your irritation. I mean the guy bought himself something to eat from the bar. Why are you so irritated?? What skin is it off your nose. Do you expect everyone to love your "amazing fajitas"?


Then later we are sitting outside and he tells me "you know I didn't like you when we first met, because of XYZ"! Um WTH? I would never tell someone that, unless we were one on one.

If you didn't like me, that's info I don't need to know. What does it accomplish? and to be said in front of everyone was insulting and embarrassing.


Without knowing what "xyz" was, I guess I still wouldn't as irritated. He is saying that he changed his mind about you. Tactless, possibly.

Look, you will never find the perfect couple to be friends with, we all have our quirks and moments of "open mouth and insert foot". Including you, kinley pea.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:59:35 PM
Hage you rea dyour own signature quote lately?

It was a blunder

Let it go...i think you are overreacting


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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:01:31 PM

Single friends don't have "common goals?" Really? I always disliked it when married women dump their single friends. Hopefully, that isn't what you mean though. I actually think it shows exactly what kind of friend someone is and, yea, I would think it was rude to do so.


How does wanting to have some couple friends to go on date nights with equate to dumping your single friends? I have single friends...I have married girl friends that I only hang out with the wife. My husband has single guy friends...he also has married guy friends that I don't really hang out with the wife so he just spends time with his guy friends. We also have couple friends. We spend time with all of them. Sometimes we just want to go on a date night as much as my single friends just want to have a singles night out.

And there are absolutely no beans in Fajitas...and you cannot cook them in a crockpot. I can see where you could confuse someone if they were expecting Fajitas and that is what you served.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:04:22 PM
Rude, but not a super big deal. I'd get over it pretty quick!

Also sounds like he could be socially awkward, rather than rude -- he lacks social clues and awareness, rather than trying to be insulting or knowing that he's insulting and just doesn't care.







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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:19:39 PM
The meal thing was rude

The comment about not liking you at first, a little rude but maybe he's an idiot


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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:23:29 PM

Clearly the guy isn't too bright on top of being a social reject. However, I have to say that your husband isn't being wise in creating social connections with people he supervises.

I can already see a situation in which this guy is passed over for promotion and alleges that the reason is that the private social relationship fizzled out.


They were friends before they worked together though, but the second part. That would NEVER happen.








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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:59:50 PM
Some possibilities. He thought you were good enough friends to share that he doesn't like vegetables. I have friends who would make that an ongoing joke.

The "when I met you I didn't like you" is a backhanded compliment.



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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:38:01 PM
Just wanted to pop in and tell the OP that I did the fajitas tonight. I used black beans instead of kidney beans, and added a can of niblet corn, drained. I also threw in a packet of chicken taco seasoning mix and a dash of liquid smoke. They are AWESOME.




there's no way that chicken fajitas made in a crockpot are good

in a crockpot, chicken dries out and vegetables become limp. you have no taste buds


The chicken is nowhere near dry, and the veggies are fine. This is easily accomplished by not adding the veggies til the last hour or so of cooking, and adjusting the cooking time on the chicken to approximately two hours on the high setting. Most chicken dries out and veggies become limp when overcooked.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:09:05 PM
Of course, that was rude.

Also, those are not fajitas, maybe fajita-like but not fajitas and damn, NO BEANS.

And you "make" a lot of drama in your life.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:18:56 PM
Okay now I am curious. What part of NV are you in? I am in Henderson.




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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:51:39 PM
About the food, what was he supposed to do? Dictate what you cook? I don't go around telling people I don't eat meat so make me a special meal. If there's something I can eat, I will eat it. If not, I deal. No biggie. It's not rude for me to not eat a slab of meat because someone makes it and I'm not going to eat meat to stroke someone's ego.

In ten years of knowing this guy, your husband never picked up on the fact he doesn't eat vegetables?



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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:53:27 PM

ust wanted to pop in and tell the OP that I did the fajitas tonight. I used black beans instead of kidney beans, and added a can of niblet corn, drained. I also threw in a packet of chicken taco seasoning mix and a dash of liquid smoke. They are AWESOME.



there's no way that chicken fajitas made in a crockpot are good

in a crockpot, chicken dries out and vegetables become limp. you have no taste buds


The chicken is nowhere near dry, and the veggies are fine. This is easily accomplished by not adding the veggies til the last hour or so of cooking, and adjusting the cooking time on the chicken to approximately two hours on the high setting. Most chicken dries out and veggies become limp when overcooked



MMM sounds yummy. I was actually thinking of doing black beans next time I did them! I am going to try how you did them and ya the chicken never turns out dry. I leave some of the juices in when I cook it though also.








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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:55:40 PM
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I am in Elko.

Whoever said I make a lot of drama in my life. Seriously. I invited someone to be rude to me? Shutup! Now there is some drama LOL


In ten years of knowing this guy, your husband never picked up on the fact he doesn't eat vegetables?



they aren't close friends and don't know how much men talk veggies with each other.








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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:56:43 PM
Rude yes, but considering the lack of manners, I wouldn't let his behaviour bother me. Might not run to hang out with them again though.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 6:42:18 PM
To give the guy SOME credit though..ha. Those were NOT fajita's..so you can't really blame him for not wanting to eat them, and I know ALOT of guys..my dh included do not like the texture of foods from the crockpot.






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Posted: 2/19/2013 6:52:45 PM

To give the guy SOME credit though..ha. Those were NOT fajita's..so you can't really blame him for not wanting to eat them, and I know ALOT of guys..my dh included do not like the texture of foods from the crockpot.


Whether they were fajitas or fauxjitas, he was still an ass.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 6:55:15 PM

By the way, WHO CARES if there are beans in fajitas or not. They were DAMN GOOD!


Some people care. I'm one of them. Beans-especially kidney beans-in fajitas are disgusting. While I probably wouldn't say it to you as your guest, I would take a bite or two of your "fajita" meat, and push the rest around my plate.

The guy might have been rude, but I agree with wench. You seem to have a lot of drama in your life, and you seem like you're constantly offended. Don't like the guy? Then you don't have to be friends with him. Simple. Going on and on about him being rude isn't going to change him. If you have this big of a problem with him, why don't you confront him about it?

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Posted: 2/19/2013 6:55:41 PM

because I was going with "they're swingers" until you explained it.



Me too!

From the way you explain it, I think you're being a bit sensitive. I wouldn't give a rat's ass if someone told me they didn't like me when they first met me. I imagine that that happens all the time. Who cares?

Don't like my food? Great! More for me.

Glass half empty, half full and all that jazz.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 7:59:39 PM

Some people care. I'm one of them. Beans-especially kidney beans-in fajitas are disgusting. While I probably wouldn't say it to you as your guest, I would take a bite or two of your "fajita" meat, and push the rest around my plate.

The guy might have been rude, but I agree with wench. You seem to have a lot of drama in your life, and you seem like you're constantly offended. Don't like the guy? Then you don't have to be friends with him. Simple. Going on and on about him being rude isn't going to change him. If you have this big of a problem with him, why don't you confront him about it?


Oh Lord, I have had a couple things happen that does NOT equal drama, do me a favor and shut it!. I am over it, we will NOT be having them over again as I stated before. If this were someone else you would totally agree it was RUDE. It was rude! I am not dwelling on it, I was over it the next day but posted to see if I was just overreacting.

I didn't think I was and a lot of you agree. I personally, would never do that to someone and I don't know what guys you have around but all the men I know will eat ANYTHING.

Let me ask, do you all eat chili? Chili has kidney beans!

FTR, I am not going on about it being rude! Except for the first couple replies, I haven't said anything else about it other than replying to specific people when they direct a ?.








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Posted: 2/19/2013 8:26:04 PM
Wow!! So very rude!!

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Posted: 2/19/2013 9:45:36 PM
I vote asshat.

I don't care what was/wasn't in the fajitas. You don't go to someone's house as a guest and carry on like that. He sounds about 10.

That'd do it for me. Let 'em be friends with someone else.

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Posted: 2/20/2013 6:36:58 AM
I think once he turned up his nose at your "amazing fajitas", he was sunk.

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Posted: 2/20/2013 9:07:53 AM

Let me ask, do you all eat chili? Chili has kidney beans!


Let me save you the trouble of a new thread about the rude guest who turned their nose up at your amazing chili - chili doesn't have beans in it. Just ask any Texan.

And while I certainly don't think the guy is going to win any kudos from Miss Manners - those are not fajitas. They are not even faux fajitas - if someone told me they were serving chicken fajitas and I showed up to that recipe, I would be surprised - and not in a good way.


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Posted: 2/20/2013 9:22:29 AM

I vote asshat.

I don't care what was/wasn't in the fajitas. You don't go to someone's house as a guest and carry on like that. He sounds about 10.

That'd do it for me. Let 'em be friends with someone else.


I agree, it wasn't that he wouldn't eat it. That's fine.

It was the way he did it.

But, I have had to suffer through some pretty gross stuff at people's houses before but I suffer through it lol. I eat a small portion of it and thank the person who made the meal.

Manners and tact used to count for a lot in society, it seems that not many people have either anymore. I was brought up with "please, thank you, etc."

I really AM over it though. We just won't have them over again.








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