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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:56:01 PM
Kids seem lazy and unmotivated to me these days. What is the oldest age you have known someone to still live with their parents? Obviously, not including someone with a disability or valid reason for living with the parents.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 1:59:02 PM
I don't personally know anyone who lived with their parents after college (beyond maybe a couple months while job hunting, finding a place to live, etc.), so 22.

I know there are lots of 20somethings and even 30somethings who live with their parents, I just don't know any.

I also think there is a big difference between adult children who live with their parents basically for reasons of inertia and adult children who live with the parents for a specific reason and/or with a specific timeframe or goal in mind as the move-out reason.

It's an entirely different thing for a 27 year old to live at home just because they've never left and have no plan to do so and a 27 year old new doctor to live at home while going through advanced training (usually with ridiculous hours) and paying down massive student loans instead of paying rent for a house/apartment they barely ever are in.

There are also plenty of practical, not-lazy reasons that older children move back in with parents after being on their own for years.

If the situation is mutually beneficial, the adult child contributes to the household in an approrpriate way, and everyone is happy with the situation, it's all good.

The problems seem to come when the adult child makes no effort to become indepedent, doesn't contribute to the household and in general takes the parents' generosity for granted.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:00:33 PM
Well I lived at home until I was 25. I paid rent, was responsible for all my own laundry and room, cooked dinner 2/3 times a week, and was responsible for all dishes.

I lived at home to save money, since I live in CT, and its a very expensive state to live in. I didn't consider myself lazy or entitled.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:02:29 PM
We have some family friends whose 31 year old son still lives with them. He has a job, a girlfriend, a degree... but why would he want to move out? She does his laundry, they don't charge him rent, and it's a nicer house than he would get if he moved out. I think it is ridiculous but it works for them. He has never lived on his own, it isn't a rebound.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:03:05 PM
we have two home at 23 (one with a disability), one at 26 who moved out 2 yrs ago. he may move back if he loses his rental...he only pays 600 a month, is still in school and is working 30 hours a week. studios are $1500-2000.

we focus on a plan...do you have a plan for finishing college? do you have a plan to get a job? the economy is tough...and all our kids deal with depression...and are not lazy bums.
none of the kids even own a car...costs are too high.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:04:43 PM
My brother-in-law, an eccentric millionaire in his forties, moved in with his parents when he came back to the States after a decade abroad. We all thought he'd be there until he could pick out a nice place of his own, but he stayed for YEARS. Now that they NEED someone there to help take care of him, he has moved into his own place.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:04:45 PM
That's what I'm afraid of, with the cost of living so high, will they be able to afford to move out.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:05:15 PM
I think there are as many different reasons that adult live at home as there are adult children living at home, KWIM? And not all are due to being lazy or irresponsible. Some who do it are actually trying to MORE responsible by saving a down payment to buy a house, paying off debt, or going to college.

I've had almost all of my adult kids and even a few nieces living with me as adults. We live in a very high cost of living area and getting starting around here is tough.





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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:05:30 PM
How about 27 and 28?

DS 1 got laid off last April and DS 2 has a construction business that is struggling. DS 1 just got hired by my BIL 3 weeks ago at his lumber yard, part time, but its something.

The garbage is out to the road 3 days a week, the lawn is mowed, snow shoveled, groceries carried in from my car, toilet and tub scrubbed, dishwasher emptied and loaded. Otherwise, they'll have to find somewhere else to live.

They are responsible and respectful young men. If not, they wouldn't be living in our house.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:07:17 PM
I have thirtysomething and fortysomething friends who have lived with their parents at times. The oldest is probably in his mid-forties and moved in with his parents after his divorce, because they needed help and he needed a place to live, so it was a win-win.

I know a couple of people who are in their thirties and still unmarried, and are of a culture where it is normal to live with your parents until you marry. They have a huge advantage financially, which will serve them well when they do marry - having a 50% cash down payment on a house because you weren't paying rent for ten years is pretty stinking awesome if you ask me.

I have only known in my life maybe one or two real slackers who moved back in with their parents after college (or never moved out in the first place) because they were lazy slobs who don't want to work.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:08:32 PM
My brother lived at home until he married at age 29.

He didn't go to college so he didn't move out and come back. He was there the whole time.

I went to college at 17 and never lived with my parents full time again; just the occasional school break.
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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:08:45 PM
I don't think there is a particular number. I'm 45 and if something happened, my parents would open their home to me in a heartbeat.

But their home was not open for the sole purpose of sponging off of them or being lazy or making repeatedly poor choices.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:11:15 PM
I'm trying to talk my son and his wife into coming to live with me. I don't see multi-generational living as an automatic signal of dysfunction or lack of motivation. It was something we saw quite a bit of in Hawaii and in Italy. Both very expensive places to live. The more working adults pooling the resources into one home the better the standard of living for everyone.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:12:19 PM
What is a valid reason?

My DD lives with me. She moved back in to go to school. She finished school, and she is engaged and will move out after she gets married later this year. She pays rent, chips in for groceries and cleans house. What is lazy about that? She will have a firmer financial footing when she gets married, and they will be able to buy a house sooner rather than later. It's all good.

One of my girlfriends, for instance, still lives with her parents and she's nearly 40. She has quite a good job and pays rent and utilities. She uses two of their rooms and a bathroom. She figures its the same as having a one-room apartment. Her parents, now retired, benefit financially as well. Not only that, but last year her mother had two knee replacements and her dad was diagnosed as having Alzheimers. They benefit from having her in the home as well.

My boss's nephew recently spent two years living with him after graduating college and not getting a job. In his case, I often thought he was holding out for the "perfect" job - the kind all kids are promised just for going to college, but he was working two part-time jobs while he waited. So, I would not have called him lazy.

What is funny, is most of the "lazy" adults I know actually room with other "lazy" adults working minimum wage jobs to pay rent and for their cell phones. I just don't think the American dream works for everyone, and some people are okay with that.



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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:12:31 PM
my 21 y/o is still at home but he's (hopefully) working on a move-out plan.

My parents (with 2 kids in tow - 5.5 and 9.5) moved in with my maternal grandparents when we moved to the States. We lived there for 2.5 years (until my mum inherited a house from her aunt). My parents were 44 and 55 at the time.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:13:01 PM
KikiNichole and voltagain - I agree there are circumstances where it makes sense. Maybe I should change the title to lazy adult children...

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:13:52 PM
My dad lived with his mother til she died - not because she needed care, but because he was lazy. And trying to avoid paying child support. He was well over 50. Then he moved in with his girlfriend




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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:14:53 PM
purplepackrat - all valid points.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:23:54 PM
I moved in and out of my parents place several times during my 20's. I was expected to pay rent and help around the house. I also worked full-time, sometimes 2 jobs during those periods.
At one point all 3 children were living with them. Which was a great help to them financially as my mother is the sole earner in the house as my dad was in an accident 10+ years ago while fighting a fire.
My sister moved out shortly after getting married. I moved out about a year after her. My brother took the longest but continued to pay rent the entire time. He also had a dog that was not going to be accepted at any rental he might be interested. He did move out last year but was forced to leave the dog at my parents house.
I rented until my husband and I bought a house just this past October. It's not as easy financially in your 20's and 30's. I'm fortunate enough to work as a nurse where I will always have a job. My husband is not college educated but has a decent job. My in-laws gifted us the money to make a downpayment on our house. We are very fortunate. I don't know how we would have done it otherwise.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:27:15 PM
I know two people who lived with their parents into their late 20s. One was very responsible, paid rent and bills, had a great job and a vehicle, etc. The other is exactly the opposite.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:28:03 PM
I'm 38 and I live with my son and my dad. I stayed while I was in school and my mom never wanted us to leave. Then she got really sick and I took care of her while she was dying. My son is 19. We have a 5 bedroom house. I split expenses with my dad. I have a good job, own my own business, and pay my son's tuition. Technically, I now own part of the house. I don't see any reason to move out. There is plenty of room. We work different hours. I don't define my son or myself lazy. Not sure what the big deal is????

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:29:11 PM
My BFF had her grown son (age 42) move back in with her and her dh... he had just gone through a big break up and because of numerous issues, he stayed for 3 years. During that time, her marriage broke up (24 yr) mainly because that she wanted to help out her son. Who was working during that time.

Her son has since moved out, nearby but is gone now. And... so is her husband. A situation she now regrets.

My 3 dc have never moved back home for any reason. Thankfully, they are all in good situations. In fact, if anything - I will be the one moving in with one of them someday... Although my son says that probably would not work out and that he would prefer to send a check to a place that I would be living at.... works for me.




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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:30:11 PM
My husband was 25 when we married and he moved out of his parent's home. His brother was into his 40's.

The parents did not ask for money nor expect work to be done. In fact, the ONLY thing they were expected to do in the house was put their clothes in the hamper after they showered. Yes, I had A LOT of re-training to do after we were married!

My husband did help with the work around the farm though. Especially those things his father was not physically capable of doing anymore.

My BIL, on the other hand, made life very difficult for my in-laws. He even moved his girlfriend in 1988 or 1989. He slept on the couch in the LR while she took his bedroom. The parents had a sitting room off the kitchen they used. They married 6 months before we did in 1990. It was only 3.5 years later just after their daughter was born did they move into their home that was built across the street. Even after they left, they had a huge negative impact on my in-laws.

When it comes to our kids, they'll be welcome to live at home if they are actively trying to better themselves, may pay some expenses and definitely participate in house hold chores. A lot of guidelines would have to be established and agreed upon beforehand.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:31:14 PM
My ex sister in law's brother still lives with his mom, he is almost 65. He is (in my sil's words) sucking off of their mother, has turned their house into a show hoarders would love to film. He lived on his own for a few years in his 20's but migrated back and has only worked for a brief period of time in his 20's and 30's. She said her other siblings are fed up with what he has done to their mothers house and doing to their mother

I don't get it I know I would never allow my children to move back home and do nothing. I know there are circumstances that people need help and a chance to get back on their feet but to down right enable them. NOT healthy for anyone

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:31:30 PM
I don't know of any of my friends that moved back in with their parents. When I was growing up, it wasn't even really talked about that much. It was just what kids did. When they graduated from high school, if they didn't go to college, they still moved out of the parents house. If they did go to college, they either lived on campus or they lived at home until they graduated and then moved out. There are a few that got married right out of high school and they got an apartment with their spouse. If they didn't have enough money to move out on their own, they found roommates to share an apartment, house, or whatever. But, nobody continued to live with their parents. The only situations I know of where a child moved back home was when the parent needed care and the child was in a position to be able to move back in with them.





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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:31:56 PM
My neighbor is in her 70s. Her son is in his 50s. He is a railroad engineer and when he isn't working he lives with her.

Its not a full time thing because he works 'on the road' but I would think hed want his own place when he isn't working! Even if its just a small apartment.

Not my business, though...



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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:33:35 PM
My Husband's friend is still living at home and he is nearly 50. It's nothing to do with disability or not having the money because at one point he was going to move out and buy a house in Italy (We're in Ireland).

We have hardly any contact with him in the last two years. He had a weird 'moment' whilst out with a gang of us for my DH's birthday and he has never contacted any of us since.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:34:32 PM

I don't know of any of my friends that moved back in with their parents. When I was growing up, it wasn't even really talked about that much. It was just what kids did. When they graduated from high school, if they didn't go to college, they still moved out of the parents house. If they did go to college, they either lived on campus or they lived at home until they graduated and then moved out. There are a few that got married right out of high school and they got an apartment with their spouse. If they didn't have enough money to move out on their own, they found roommates to share an apartment, house, or whatever. But, nobody continued to live with their parents. The only situations I know of where a child moved back home was when the parent needed care and the child was in a position to be able to move back in with them.

This was my experience as well.

My only friend who moved back home did so a couple years after graduation when her younger sister (still a teen) was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and the family wanted to spend the rest of her time together. Kind of an exceptional situation. After the sister passed away, my friend and her twin brother moved back out of the family home into their own places.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:50:29 PM
My brother just celebrated his 40th birthday and lives with our mom.



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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:58:09 PM
I lived at home until I was oh... I can't remember... like 26 or so. I'm hardly lazy, thankyouverymuch.

I worked full time from the time I was 17 in high school. I worked more than full time after I got my second degree (2 jobs - 7 days a week). I was in college until I was 24.

"Moving out" just wasn't something my parents ever encouraged, so it honestly never occurred to me to make it a priority. They were the opposite, in fact. They wanted to us to basically stay forever. Eventually, that got inconvenient, so I moved out.



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Posted: 2/19/2013 2:58:27 PM
Well, there is a guy I went yo school with who has never moved out. He lives around the corner from me on his parents home. He has never married either. In fact, I don't think he's ever even dated.
He's 48.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:22:51 PM
Most everyone that I have known have not been lazy, all have had jobs and contributed to the household, most did not go away to college. Not sure if that made it harder to later break away, or not....

I know that once I had a taste of freedom at school, I was not going back home to stay. At 22, I moved in with friends, with $70 and a car. Took me 3 weeks to find a job as a teller in a bank. Interest rates were sky high, over 18%, so jobs were very hard to find.

I had an older cousin that was learning disabled, capable, handy, but not book smart. He was the only one of his 4 brothers to not go to college. He lived at home with parents, in a large house until they passed. He had a machinist job. His dad died when he was in his early 30's, and his mom lived another 20 years. He took good care of her, maintained the big old house and his brothers and their wives appreciated it.

After she died, he started dating and really enjoyed it! He got married and was so sappy and happy.

One of my best work friends never left home either. Her folks owned a 2 family after her older sister moved out she took over the upstairs apt. She never married, is in her early 50's and takes care of her mother, her dad has since passed.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:26:11 PM
I'd probably live with my parents (and DH and our kids) if my parents had just a bit more room in their house.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:27:36 PM
Pennyring- you're excluded because you're not lazy.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:28:12 PM
I do think that there is a tremendous differnce between adult children living at home today and in the past. While I'm sure laziness is a factor, I see other reasons too, usualy financial ones: the cost of living has outpaced the growth in wages making it hard to afford an apartment even w ith roommates in some areas, the massive amounts of student debt make young adults unable to afford their own places, the frequency with which people are laid off (I know a man in IT in his late 20s who has been laid off 10 times in 8 years as business after business has folded).

I also see another difference is that "back in my day" we were all keen to leave home so we didn't have to live under our parents' thumbs and abide by their rules that we felt cramped our style. Today's parents seldom seem to have those same rules, so why leave?

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:32:27 PM
We have friends that have their almost 30 yr old son still living at home. Son does not work, is not going to school, has no chores. He is perfectly healthy in every respect. They let him play video games all day, while they both work. They are making him lazy in every way.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:41:51 PM
I think you have to take into consideration the relative standard of living and size of homes. If you look at my parents generation, they didn't leave home - they fled - unless you were going to inherit the farm, than you stayed forever. My oldest aunts had 9+ younger siblings, in a house with no washing machine, let alone dishwasher. It's not real shocking that they all moved out early - too early in many cases.

In my generation, most people had relatively modest homes - I think the average home than was around 1200 square feet - it's now double that. People my age coming home, still shared bedrooms with siblings and the only entertainment was the single television in the living room - controlled by mom and dad of course.

Now adults staying at home typically have as much space or more than a starter apartment. Everyone can easily have their own space without being on top of each other. I had several cousins who stayed well into their twenties as they were saving for down payments on a house. I think it's great that my 26 year old cousin who is a teacher could comfortably live with her parents until she moved into a house she paid for on her own instead of marrying at 16 just to escape taking care of younger siblings and no real options ala my parents generation.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:42:49 PM
48. he is an only child. his father died when he was young so he has always lived with his mom. i think she is still very functioning but he has never had a reason to move out. he has a girlfriend who is not looking to get married so i think that makes it even easier to stay home.

i also had a neighbor who was probably in his early 50's who lived at home. he did not work. his father had died and he took care of his mother. she was very sick and needed round the clock care. he rarely went outside because she would get anxious if she couldn't see him or call out to him. he was the nicest guy but that had to be a tough situation for him.

i don't know anyone who lived at home out of laziness.



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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:50:24 PM
My mom's BFF's oldest son lived at home until he was 40. He didn't move out until just before his wedding. He was a forest ranger and he spent so many days a month living in a tower, so he and his family decided when he got his job to live this way. He paid rent, though they didn't call it that, and he paid the electric bill from April to September because he preferred to keep the house cooler than his folks could comfortably afford. His mom's handicapped sister lived with them, and having another able bodied adult in the house was very helpful. While his mom was very happy that he found someone to share his life with, she was sad when he left. Her youngest son did the same thing, lived with them until he married, but he married much younger.

I left home at 17, but I lived with my parents off and on several times. At my insistence, I paid rent and handled a lot of the cooking. I was always employed, but it was more convenient for me to live with them than on my own. My dad had some problems with the fact that I didn't feel like I had to "obey" him or ask his permission before I did something, but my mom kept him off my back. I was always respectful of their personal beliefs, but I wasn't going to ask permission to go out with my friends and have a drink if I wanted. My dad wasn't employed very often during that time, so Mom and I were the ones keeping the household afloat. I actually stayed longer than I had planned to twice, just because my mom needed my help financially and I couldn't afford a place of my own and to help them.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:53:44 PM
My sister was 24 when her marriage ended. She and her less than 1 year old lived with my parents for three weeks.

That was all she could take.

She's the only one of the four of us who has ever tried to move "back home".

I left at 19 and would rather live under a bridge than with my parents.






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Posted: 2/19/2013 3:58:39 PM
I was 23. But working full time and had a part time job at night. Once I was engaged I moved out with DH for 7 months before our wedding. We bought a house. He was only out of the Navy for a year before he moved out of his parent house. Otherwise he was gone at 19 in the Navy. So we were 23 and 27.





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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:13:22 PM


I think you have to take into consideration the relative standard of living and size of homes. If you look at my parents generation, they didn't leave home - they fled - unless you were going to inherit the farm, than you stayed forever. My oldest aunts had 9+ younger siblings, in a house with no washing machine, let alone dishwasher. It's not real shocking that they all moved out early - too early in many cases.

In my generation, most people had relatively modest homes - I think the average home than was around 1200 square feet - it's now double that. People my age coming home, still shared bedrooms with siblings and the only entertainment was the single television in the living room - controlled by mom and dad of course.

Now adults staying at home typically have as much space or more than a starter apartment.
Excellent points.

Our home was a tiny 2 BR, 1 bath ranch. One tv that my father controlled like Stalin controlled Russia. One phone on the wall in the kitchen. My "room" was a converted attic space -- freezing in winter, hot as hades in summer. But that was my only option for any privacy. (Good thing was that I could climb out the tiny attic window and get out/come in after curfew.) My poor little sibs had the bedroom in between my parents' bedroom and the bathroom. They got to hear everyone in the bathroom and also EWWWWWWW my parents' sex lives. (My little sister swears she is still scarred by thta!) My parents also both smoked like chimneys, so we and our clothes and all of our belongings reaked of smoke. Add to that the crazy strict rules my parents had and is any wonder we got out of there as soon as we could?

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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:24:52 PM
Well my uncle did all his life until my grandma died a few years ago. He's in his 50's.

He's definitely not lazy. Rather shy and as the oldest son of a large family he felt he needed to help take care of my grandma and younger siblings as my grandfather died when he was still a teenager. And over the years, he just stayed. I don't know the financial details but I do know that my grandmother had very little money and he helped pay a lot of the bills and did more and more of the housework/cooking as she got too infirm to do so.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:25:44 PM
We've stayed with my in-laws a few times during transitional periods, like when we moved here from out of state and were trying to reestablish. It has never been long term. I don't think I could handle living with my family. I was 17 when I moved out.

DH's best friend lived at home until he was 31. His mom was older, he was a change of life baby. She didn't want him to move out. He may have had a few irresponsible years, but he worked, made his own car and insurance payments, helped with her bills, kept the yard mowed, etc. His now wife, GF at the time, moved in with them as well when they were seriously dating. Her family had a house they could have lived in free of charge, but he didn't want to leave his mom. When they finally did move out, he bought a house 1/2 a mile away. Even though the arrangement was beneficial for the mother, it made him a very lazy person at home. He is incapable of cooking and did not learn how to operate a washing machine until he was 32 years old. I guess that's why he waited until he was ready to get married to move out.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:26:42 PM
Eh, my mother got married at 19 to get out of her parents' house, and her three sisters got married at 16 to get out of the parents' house. Only one of them married someone with whom they have had a lifelong, relatively happy/stable, productive life; maybe if they had not been so anxious to get out, things would have been different (small house, parents who used their kids as free labor, etc).

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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:32:44 PM
SNORT.

Ok. You sure disregarded ethic minorities where multi-generational households are common. My 2 sisters and live with my grandmother. We own the house, we pay the bills. We take care of her. My sister and I are both attorneys. I started working at a very young age, and I don't mooch off anyone, thank you very much.

When my grandmother dies, all three of us expect to sell the house and move out on our own, because we made a pact to take care of her until she died. (shaking my head)

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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:35:42 PM
I think that would be really hard to take.

I don't care how long my children live here, but they have to either be in school full-time or working. Or both. Currently I have a 23 y/o here but she is in school full-time. I don't care how long she stays after she graduates (in a few months) but she'll have to get a job. I imagine she won't stay too long past graduation--just long enough to get a job, save up for an apartment, etc. But, whatever. I honestly don't care.


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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:36:33 PM
My 53 yr old BIL lives with my MIL, and has pretty much his whole life. College educated, not married, no children, a decent but not outstanding job. FIL passed away about 6 yrs ago, older brother lives 5 hrs away, we live 4 hrs the opposite directions. No more immediate family left in the area. He lives there knowing that neither the older brother, or my hubby can because we have solid jobs and families that would need uprooting should MIL need direct care and he was not there to provide it. Her health is deteriorating, and she really shouldn't be alone.

We help support them and their lifestyle in return. We can't do the day to day activities, yet middle brother can. We can do other things to see that they are provided for and have done so for years. That's what families do; as much as we are individuals, we also have responsibilities to each other as well. They have a solid roof over their heads, transportation (we just replaced their tires for Christmas) and if something comes up, we do what we can financially to see them through. (replaced roof and windows in years past, new siding, split the cost of a new car when their old one was totalled and insurance didn't cover everything, etc.)

Back in the old days, families took care of their own. What BIL may appear to lack in independence to the average eye because he lives at home greatly makes up for it in the family eye. He'd not only give you the shirt off his back, he'd iron it first. He's there so the other two brothers don't have to be.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 4:43:56 PM
I'm 36 and live at home. I have a teaching degree but can't seem to get a job. I tutor and teach preschool three mornings a week and it barely covers the bills. I don't think that I'm lazy for living at home with mom and dad, but I just can't afford it. I'm starting to make some good progress on my bills and when the time is right for me and the SO to move in with each other, I should be able to do it.

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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:38:20 PM

My 2 sisters and live with my grandmother. We own the house, we pay the bills. We take care of her.


I think in this case, your grandmother lives with you. You own the house; you pay the bills. My mom lives with us, too. We own the house and we pay the bills. She does contribute but we only ask for about 20% of the utility bill (and nothing else, no food or mortgage or anything like that), since that's about all she uses. A while back she started to be rolling in dough so she gives us what she wants, once she realized she was going to outlive her money no matter what. It pretty much goes to help pay tuition bills. Anyway, my mom lives with us. It would never work if we lived with her. NEVER. Heh.


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