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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:12:49 PM
Stupid. I tripped or lost my footing going down the two stairs into the garage, and I was carrying Finn at the time so the only thought I had was "DON'T LET HIM HIT THE CONCRETE FLOOR." In my effort to keep him safe I had no way of breaking my fall, and went down full force on my right knee. I knew right away I'd done something bad. I literally fell and couldn't get up (and that old lady in the commercial was playing through my head on repeat, reaching for me).

We were home alone. Finn's head touched the concrete but just barely. He cried for a second from surprise, but didn't even hit hard enough to leave a red mark on his head - so my mom goal was achieved and he was safe. But all I could do was cry on the floor of my garage and wait for DH to get home. I tried calling him, knowing he was likely en route home anyway. He didn't answer even though I called several times and I was seriously considering calling 911.. I felt like an idiot, but the pain was so bad. DH called me back and I tried to tell him what happened. When he got home he took Finn (who was happily watching cartoons on my phone) and put him into his carseat and then helped me get up and into the car.

At the ER they had to wheelchair me in and they bustled me right into a room. The doc came in before I was even in the jonnie, poked my knee once or twice, and said he'd get me something for pain and about 30 seconds later a nurse came in and shot me up with Dilaudin.

End result is that right now they're calling it a sprain, but the doc said tendon/ligament stuff wouldn't be identifiable for probably 5 days and kneecap fractures can take 10 days to show up on xrays. I'm pretty certain something is Really Wrong with it. I'm in an immobilizer and on crutches which leads me to a question:

DH is taking tomorrow off of work and then it's the weekend, but what the hell am I going to do with Finn come Monday? I can't bear any weight on the leg, have to use crutches and an immobilizer, and it's my right leg so I can't drive. How am I going to take care of a young toddler by myself for an unknown length of time? I have to see an ortho next week to assess how much damage there is, so I'll know more then... but what the hell am I going to do?

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:16:12 PM
Scary! Glad little Finn's okay. Hope you're feeling better soon. Lots of ice and rest!

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:16:16 PM
Oh no.

Honey, this is when you call in favors from family and friends and if necessary you hire someone to come in and assist you.

The plus side is maybe you can find a babysitter that you can bond with and learn to trust while you are there and they are helping and then you will have her to call after you have recovered.

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:20:14 PM
OMG poor you!!! Ouch

I hope you heal fast

I'm sorry I have no suggestions for mobility on crutches with a toddler.


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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:26:39 PM
Oh, ouch. Gosh I have no suggestions, but BF's idea sounds good.

I'm glad Finn is okay & hope that you heal VERY quickly.


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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:27:54 PM
Oh no! I can't believe the mama bear instinct sometimes it's amazing how we'll sacrifice self to save our kids. I'm sorry you got hurt though!

Could you create a safe room and gate the two of you in with snacks and lunch and diaper supplies and watch a Bubble Guppies marathon?
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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:28:06 PM
Poor thing!

I did something similar carrying my then 1 year old son to the car... I tripped over the edge of the driveway and came down hard on my knee (but he was completely fine, so mission accomplished!). I really thought I broke something but just bruised it badly.

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:36:45 PM
I'm so sorry! Is it really swollen? Can it be drained? When I tore my ACL I had to have it drained. Please keep us posted.

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:37:35 PM
So wish I lived there...I would take watch that sweet boy for you! So sorry about your knee.....

It's all just nonsense anyway!

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:37:54 PM
Ouch, ouch, ouch. I'm sorry.

Call in any friends and family you have living close by, if not, look into a housekeeping service, babysitters, something like that. You probably don't need home health care, just someone to chase the baby, bathe him etc and do light housework until you are back on your feet.

Not fun.

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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:42:28 PM
BF really gave you a great suggestion. I am very glad that Finn is OK, but I'm sorry to hear that you have a knee injury. Please let us know what the orthopod says Since you'll need help w/Finn, it's time to pick up the phone if you haven't already. Hoping that you're feeling comfortable w/the leg up and are able to get good rest.


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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:44:57 PM
TV CAN be a babysitter. Your DH can spend the weekend setting up a safe area for the two of you where you can spend your days. Gates, furniture, boxes can all be used to make walls to keep a toddler contained and safe. Food and drinks can be put in a ice chest. Your motto is now KISS. Keep It Super Simple.

Regardless of what the doctor says next week, you aren't going to be better in a week. Strongly consider someone to come in and help you care for Finn, cook and clean. Call your church or a local church. They may have some ideas. Call a nanny agency. Call your friends.

Good luck. I was on bed rest with a toddler. Yikes. But we did it and DD was only a month early. You can do this.
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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:50:20 PM
No advice for you, but sorry this happened. I hope you didn't do any major damage to your knee and you have a speedy recovery.


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Posted: 2/28/2013 9:52:47 PM
It seems impossible to take care of a toddler but you'll be fine. I had foot surgery and took care of my 2.5 year old ds and 4 year old dd by myself from day 3 on. That included grocery shopping and preschool drop offs on crutches with them and everything! I look back and wonder how I did it but somehow I did. Kids are pretty darn good with realizing that stuff too sometimes. Get some baby gates and have your dh make a safe area for him nearby the couch. Have easy lunches and snacks ready to go and you'll be set.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 12:55:43 AM

I'm sorry you're hurt. I have to admit that your title reallly intrigued me and I had to see how you "broke" yourself.

I'm so glad to hear that Fin wasn't hurt during your fall. I hope that you recover quickly.

I agree with Carla, that this is a perfect time to call your friends/family/neighbors and ask for help. You really do need it. Don't feel guilty for asking. Just think of how you'd feel if someone you cared about didn't ask for help if they were in a similar situation to what you're in.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 2:20:07 AM
Oh, Emma, I'm so sorry! Take Carla's advice and call everyone you can. I wish I was closer; I would help in a heartbeat.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 2:27:11 AM
Well done on saving your little 'un from harm but sorry you're so hurt in the process!

I can't add anything to the good suggestions you've had other than to say that you'll have to ignore the non-essential tasks for a while, like dusting, and just let it go in your mind. You can catch up when you're mobile again. As long as the necessary stuff is taken care of the rest can wait.

It'll work out, don't worry. Hope you're healed soon.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 5:12:58 AM
I hope when you wake up today that your knee is so much better.

Good Momma Bear reflexes by the way!

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Posted: 3/1/2013 5:16:24 AM
I'm sorry you're broken!!frown:

Knee stuff is HORRIFIC. I am sorry. I hurt my knee in July and I am just feeling better. It was awful.

When my girls were 2.5 years old, I was pregnant with my son and on bedrest except for bathroom breaks. For 10 days. And I took care of them. DH prepared food, brought it in the bedroom. Put the TV in the bedroom and we basically camped out there. Girls were old enough at 2yo to respond to direction, so that was helpful. We watched a lot of TV.

It was hard and hateful, but when DH got home he took them outside and did stuff with them. Otherwise lots of books and TV.

So sorry!

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Posted: 3/1/2013 5:58:49 AM

I'm sorry about your boo-boo. But glad you kept Finn from injury.

You might as well make your peace with two things:
1 - You're going to have to let lots of things go.
2 - You really need to ask for some help.

And you'll get through this. You're a feisty girl.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 6:04:29 AM
Oh no! I'm so sorry and agree with the others. Now is the time to call in all favors!

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Posted: 3/1/2013 6:53:50 AM
Oh no!! I wish I lived closer - I'd totally help.

How about your in-laws? Neighbors? Friends? ANYBODY!

Ask them for help. And maybe someone knows someone who wants to earn a little extra money as a mother's helper for a little while who can take care of both of you when others can't help out.

I'm so sorry this happened. Thank goodness you were able to protect Finn, but I'm sorry you hurt yourself so badly in the process.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 6:59:52 AM
I hope you wake up and your knee shows some degree of improvement super momma.

I agree with the other Peas advice. Don't be afraid to ask for help!

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Posted: 3/1/2013 7:08:22 AM
Oh man, I know *exactly* how you feel! I had a bicycle accident in 2001 and landed on my left knee, just as you described. Like you, the ER said they would xray but that it was likely soft tissue damage that would require and MRI. They recommended I get in to see an ortho as soon as possible.

One MRI later and I was diagnosed with a torn ACL and other ligament tendon damage as well as cartlidge damage. After consultation with my ortho doc, I chose not to have surgery. I was out of the immoblizer in just a couple of days. It took about 2 years for my various muscles/ligaments/tendons to heal enough to not have occasional "collapses" from my knee giving out. I did have to give up anything that require a "planting, then twist" movement. I could still walk, run, swim, hike, bicycle, etc. I couldn't play basketball, tennis, etc. Since I didn't play those before my injury it wasn't a problem

Is there ANYONE, even a teenager who can come in for a few hours each day to help? Someone to do the chasing and running around the house for you?

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Posted: 3/1/2013 7:19:04 AM
Oh goodness! I am glad Finn is alright and hubby was not far away. One thing to consider is getting a walker rather than crutches. I know it sounds strange, but they are much more stable, you can move and let go of them as needed, (to pick things up, reach for things etc) without having to keep both hands on them all the time. The hospital gave hubby crutches when he broke his ankle and he almost hurt himself again trying to use them. We switched him to a walker and it was much safter, he could do more etc. We attached a bag to the front so he could go from one room to the other, put stuff in the bag and get back withouth trying to balance.

Definitly look into some help! I know it is hard to ask for, but this is exactly the time it is meant for!


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Posted: 3/1/2013 7:33:33 AM

I broke myself when youngest DD was 8 months old. I fell on the icy driveway and fractured my leg in 4 places. It was a long long time before I was walking again.

Definitely call in your favors for the first few days. You're still new on the drugs and you want to be sure they're working well enough to deal with your pain and not screwing with your head at all.

After that, I agree with the Pea (Michelle?) who suggested setting up a safe zone. Have DH bring you all the food, drink, and diapers you will need for your day, and then some. Keep your meds handy but locked up. And turn on the TV.

But use your friends and family if they will help you. It's very humbling to be on the receiving end of a favor, but take whatever help you can get. Worry about paying it back or paying it forward later. With DH, figure out how your going to let your helpers into the house without compromising your security or requiring you to get up to unlock the door.

I'm glad Finn is safe. I hope your knee isn't as bad as you fear.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 8:02:04 AM
I'm scared of stairs and this makes me hyperventilate.
Glad little Finn is ok. It might not be as bad as you think!

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Posted: 3/1/2013 8:26:10 AM
A hurt mama is a terrible thing! I'm glad Finn is OK. I fell while carrying Jay when he was about 8 mos old -- it's such a scary feeling.

I hope the damage to your knee is minor and that you feel better soon.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 8:46:57 AM
Wow, that must be awful! So sorry! I don't have any magical advice, but I hope you'll be able to get things worked out.

Maybe your husband could take some time off work and file for FMLA so it doesn't count towards his vacation or personal time(?).

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Posted: 3/1/2013 8:58:09 AM
Wow that sounds terrible! Do you have neighbors/friends/family? Someone that can at least pop in once a day to change a diaper, put him in the crib to nap and heat up some food for you?


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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:06:18 AM
I'm glad Finn is okay.

I agree with what others have said - time to call in family and friends in addition to setting up a small safe area near the couch! Good luck and I hope you heal quickly.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:27:59 AM
Wow! I'm glad Finn was okay and that you weren't more seriously hurt! That is scary!


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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:38:11 AM
Man, I'm sorry you hurt yourself. I hope it's not as bad as it seems now.

Can you find a college student or two to come in and help you? They are a lot more flexible than a teenager in HS.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:46:44 AM
I'm sorry you're broken. I guess Finn couldn't kiss it and make it better?
I think BF had the best suggestions, but you'll be surprised what you can do by Monday. You'll have things rearranged, you'll be used to the crutches, the pain will hopefully be a little better. Just do what you can and don't let what you can't bother you.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:47:12 AM
So sorry you hurt yourself. I feel your pain. I broke my kneecap 5.5 months ago and am not back to work yet. My fracture showed up right away on the X-ray. I was walking up some concrete stairs and fell. Fortunately my kids are teens and were able to help. Healing thoughts to you and feel better soon.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:53:40 AM
Oh boy, my left knee twinged when I read this, because it is the knee that has BTDT. FORTUNATELY, mine was on carpet on a wood floor, not bare concrete. I was carrying my 6 pound Dachshund Michel in my right arm and was screaming inside, "Don't fall on Michel!".

Fortunately, he landed very softly with my hand under his body. He probably thought "wheee, this is fun!" He walked around wagging his tail and wanting to "kiss" me. I had to just lay there a while until the pain subsided enough to get up. I had carpet burn in both knees and my left hand in addition to knee pain in my left knee. Still, what I had was NOTHING compared to what you had on bare concrete.

I hope you haven't broken or torn anything, that it is just extreme bruising. That alone can hurt and take a while to heal but better than the alternative.

But, just ask for help and have DH spend the weekend getting an area set up for you and Finn. I'm so glad you were able to protect your little guy.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 9:54:10 AM
Hopefully it isn't too serious and heals quickly! I broke my foot when my daughter was 10 months old and spent 2 months on crutches, one thing I used was an office chair (weird I know). It was a safe way to get around with her in my lap!
Good luck with your recovery!

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Posted: 3/1/2013 10:04:59 AM
Oh gosh you poor thing! On the bright side, Finn didn't get hurt so that was good.

I think you could manage with him as long as you are in a confined space. It won't be easy, but it will have to happen. I wish I was closer, Daniel and I could come over and distract Finn so you can rest! ((((((hugs))))))


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Posted: 3/1/2013 10:16:49 AM
I am sorry that you are hurting, but yay for the Mommy instinct that protected Finn. I slipped on the ice last year while carrying my toddler. My elbow took the brunt of the force and protected his head from hitting hard.

I like the idea of a safe zone in the house. You can probably get by without driving for a bit. Make up your shopping list and send DH or a friend. Or buy what you can from Amazon or grocery delivery place. My right foot is currently in a boot because of a stress fracture, but the orthopedist said I can take the boot off to drive where I need to go. Hopefully once you get to the orthopedist they will be able to help with ideas also.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 10:25:48 AM
Ow! That sounds very painful. I'm glad Finn is ok, but ow. I hope that however you broke yourself you heal fast, and that you're up and at 'em again soon.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 10:37:12 AM
Oh no! You definitely need to call in some help. Can your husband take more days off? That stinks! When my son tore his ACL he could not walk at all the first few days, but then he was able to hobble around on crutches. So maybe by Monday things will be better. Although it would still be close to impossible to take care of a little one....

Good luck! I hope you feel better soon and are able to get some help next week.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 11:11:15 AM
I am so sorry that happened to you!! I fell once with my dd in my arms and thought for sure I broke my elbow. I know that "falling with child" move a little too well.

If you get set up at home while dh is at work (any way he can work from home for a few days?) ... things to remember

To help you keep clean (esp with diapers!) wet (water only) washcloths,
soapy washcloths (put these into ziplocs), dry cleaning rags.

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Posted: 3/1/2013 1:29:00 PM
I'm so sorry that happened. You may need to attach him to you. Or you to him. I'd go for a wheelchair instead of crutches.


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Posted: 3/1/2013 3:08:33 PM
Oh No! Hope you will mend quickly!!

I slid down an entire flight of stairs with my DS when he was about two. I broke two of the toes on my left foot. But he was fine and was yelling "Do it again mama, do it again"

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Posted: 3/1/2013 3:42:55 PM
Oh my gosh honey! I'm so sorry that happened to you. Mad prop Super mom points for not letting him touch the floor but poor you.

I'm hoping for you that the pain and swelling go down tonight and it's far less damage than you originally feared.

I'd get the word out to friends, family, church, whatever your resources are. Put it on FB if you have to. Your DH is probably going to have to haul you to a few appointments here and there.

I think having a safe zone set up is super smart idea. I know it's easier said than done but make a cozy, contained corner with all your daily needs and enjoy cuddling and healing.

So sorry. This stinks. Silver lining that you might be healed up and back up and around before spring proper arrives. If one must cocoon I think winter is best for it. <Grasping>

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Posted: 3/1/2013 3:55:43 PM
LBP, that's not funny but it made me laugh. I'm glad you weren't more seriously injured!

Thanks for all your kind words and suggestions. I don't really have anyone who can reliably help me. Right now i don't know what our plan is.

The orthopedist looked at my hospital chart this morning and wants to see me first thing Monday morning, so hopefully I'll know more then. But realistically they won't be able to diagnose anything soft tissue-y without an MRI, so I'm not super hopeful I'll have an answer.

I haven't even tried to get downstairs today. It was nearly impossible to get up the stairs last night and I'm not eager to attempt it again.

Again, thanks guys. In the grand scheme of things I'm really most grateful that Finn didn't get hurt. Me getting hurt is an inconvenience, and it sucks, but I never would have forgiven myself if he'd been injured.
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