Wedding gift question.
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Posted: 3/15/2013 7:26:05 PM
If I bought a gift for the wedding shower, do I need to take a gift to the wedding?


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Posted: 3/15/2013 7:29:24 PM
I think if you're invited to both, you take gifts to both.



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Posted: 3/15/2013 7:30:18 PM
Yes


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Posted: 3/15/2013 7:34:13 PM
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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:17:06 PM
In the circles I've been in (Northeast, Southeast, West) the answer would be no- you wouldn't be expected to give for both occasions. Just one gift for the bride/groom, given at the shower OR the wedding.

If you're invited to the shower you should be invited to the wedding (unless you live far away from the wedding site but close to the shower location, if that makes sense).


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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:19:46 PM
I bring a gift for both. I don't think it's uncommon to give a gift at the shower and bring just a card to the wedding, however.


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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:21:51 PM
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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:22:00 PM
Etiquette says you only need give one gift.

I'd still give two.




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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:43:36 PM
I think it depends.

I have seen peas say that they typically give $100-200 for a wedding gift, as that is the local norm. To which I say .

My general budget is around $25 for a shower gift and $50 for the wedding. So... that means I have given two gifts and still evidently am a cheapskate.

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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:56:34 PM
If I am invited to both, I do.


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Posted: 3/15/2013 9:00:54 PM
Other than my best friend's wedding, I don't remember ever going to a bridal shower and a wedding.

I think if I was, I would probably buy a bigger gift for the shower and maybe a smaller gift for the wedding? Maybe not bring a gift to the wedding at all. Depends on who it is I suppose.


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Posted: 3/15/2013 9:05:24 PM
Yes, if you can afford to do so.

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Posted: 3/15/2013 10:35:47 PM
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Posted: 3/15/2013 10:50:52 PM
I've never heard of one gift covering both events. Always a wedding gift if I attend or don't attend but want to send a gift. Always a shower gift if I attend.


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Posted: 3/15/2013 10:57:22 PM
DD got married last Saturday. No one gives both that I know of around here. She only got one or the other. I've never given one for each either. Usually people give at the shower and if they weren't invited to a shower, then they give a wedding gift--but not both. Is that a regional thing?

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Posted: 3/15/2013 11:07:39 PM
I've never heard of only giving one gift. Usually the shower gift is something small, in the $25 range while the wedding present, which is sent to the home, not brought to the wedding is in the $75-$150 range.



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Posted: 3/15/2013 11:12:14 PM
If I am attending both, I always give a gift for both. Usually for a shower, I give an actual gift and for the wedding I give cash. Even if we don't attend, I send a gift.

Someone told me once that if they are buying gifts for both, they buy something practical for the shower and something more extravagant/pretty for the wedding. That seemed to be a rule of thumb for what we got. For our wedding, the actual gifts we got were things like silver pieces or crystal(candlesticks, pitchers, serving platters, vases).

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Posted: 3/15/2013 11:14:58 PM
I do gifts for both, with the wedding shower gift as a much smaller gift.

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Posted: 3/16/2013 1:52:19 AM
You need two gifts, a shower gift and a wedding gift. Doesn't mean you have to break the bank though.


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Posted: 3/16/2013 1:54:50 AM

In the circles I've been in (Northeast, Southeast, West) the answer would be no- you wouldn't be expected to give for both occasions. Just one gift for the bride/groom, given at the shower OR the wedding.


I run in the same circles as you. I would not give an additional gift.

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Posted: 3/16/2013 2:11:21 AM
Just got home from the wedding. It was beautiful. As for the gift, tacky as it sounds, we "pinned" a generous amount on her dress.




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