Do you let your pets sleep in bed with you?
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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:38:00 AM
DSO and I had an 'argument' about having pets sleep in bed with us last night. One of the first things we are doing when we buy a house is to finally get a dog.

Now, growing up, my dog always was at the foot of my bed. Not little dogs ether, I had a Rott and a lab mix. Now, I have a cat that curls up either ON me on by my feet. DSO does not want any animal in bed with us.

He had a smaller dog, said that it would pee in the bed. Now, that is a potty training issue, or just an issue w/small dogs (I dunno, never had little ones), and not indicative that all dogs will do the same. Never did any of mine do that.

So what say the peas? Do your pets sleep with you? Or are they banished to the floor? Not even allowed in the bedroom at all?

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:41:16 AM
I would but my dog gets too hot and would not sleep in bed with us. He sometimes gets out of his bed to sleep on the cool tile.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:41:27 AM
Yes, all my pets have slept in the bed with me (or in my kids). I have never had a dog or a cat pee in the bed. The "worst" that have happened is when our cat decided two give birth to her kittens in my son's bed. Twice. Apparently he's bed is a very safe place to be

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:41:36 AM
We have our first dog and once we crate trained her, we let her out to see where she would sleep. She either sleeps at the foot of our bed or on our bedroom floor. She will NEVER pee on our bed nor on our bedroom floor. Like the trainer and the vet said, they don't pee where they sleep. So even when she was still having accidents (and sometimes she still does if we didn't walk her in time for some reason) she NEVER would in her crate or in my bedroom and never never on my bed. Even when she was not trained.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:45:37 AM
I wish. My dog will pacify me by sleeping at the foot of the bed for a little while, but eventually he sneaks away to someplace cooler.

I will sometimes call him in the middle of the night, if I'm home alone and hear a noise and he will come to my side of the bed, give me a big sigh and jump he's saying 'Seriously. Can we not make it through one night without you waking me?' And he'll stay there until he thinks it's safe to sneak away again.

But yeah, if he'd do it, we'd let him.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:47:42 AM
He has a small point about the pee issue, older dogs can 'leak' without knowing it but they usually can't jump up on the bed by then either. It 'can' become an issue. Especially for smaller dogs who have smaller bladders. However, dogs do not usually pee where they sleep so if the sleep on your bed they are not going to pee there on purpose. (usually there are always exceptions to doggies rules )

I don't see anything wrong with not having them sleep with you either. I know some TV dog trainers have a big issue with it as it can give the dog illusions of alphaness, sleeping with you can encourage misbehavior in dogs with a tendency for dominance or so the TV trainers have said. But as long as they behave and mind their place I see no issue with it. My dog when i was a kids slept with either me or my sister.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:48:20 AM
I don't like sharing a bed with a pet. The dog was crate trained until we were confident of her house breaking. Then her crate door was left open (in the living room) Sometimes she slept there, some times she slept on a little doggie bed in our room, other times she chose to sleep on the floor by one of the kids beds (or under their beds more precisely)

The cats would sleep part of the night with each of the kids but never in our bed. Not sure why since the door wasn't closed but they seemed to know we didn't like them there.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:48:44 AM animals in bed with me/us. Just grosses me out to have their butts in our bed...

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:48:57 AM
Mine come and go as they please. One of my cats stays with me most of the time, one only comes up when he feels like it. Our dog starts out in her crate or the floor, but usually jumps up in our bed in the wee hours of the morning. NEVER have had one pee in the bed.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:49:26 AM
My cats end up in someone beds every night. It's not always my bed, sometimes it is my DDs' beds. They are so snuggly and warm I couldn't kick them out ;D

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:52:20 AM
2 of my dogs sleep with us. The other dog sleeps with my son. Never had an issue with peeing. Sometimes they get tired and go to bed before I do...then I have to move them over so I can get in.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:53:02 AM
No. not even in our room. they wake up me up constantly and I can't stand it. the dog would NEVER be allowed in our bed, he's a stinker and he's HUGE. but he is constantly shaking his head, even though we thoroughly clean his ears and his vet thoroughly cleans his ears, we've tried everything, and being woken up at 2 in the morning by him shaking his head is ANNOYING. the cats like to play half the night, so they are banished to the basement when we're sleeping. (plus they love to get in the trash and on the counters).


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:54:05 AM
No! I try to keep my bedroom as a cat hair-free room. Plus, he annoys the crap out of me in the middle of the night.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:54:13 AM
Yep... All three of them.

They're small and they all have their own spots. The littlest can be a bit of a wanderer, but I think it's because she gets cold. She likes to be under the covers, snuggled up close to someone.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:55:13 AM
Sure do. All three of our dogs sleep in our bed. They are small, a Pom, a Chihuahua and a Jack Russell and we have a king size bed. One of the cats sleeps in the bed part time. She gets on and off during the night. Wouldn't have it any other way.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:56:23 AM
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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:56:44 AM
We have a 54 lb Am Staff and a 60-some lb PBT. Add me and SO who is 6'3", and it's a tight fit in a queen sized bed. Once we get a new house we're getting a bigger bed. But we'll probably get another pittie too.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:57:42 AM
Dog? No. He has his own bed. The cat sleeps on our bed during the day and she will hang out at my feet while I read and wind down but she doesn't stick around all night.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:58:00 AM
The dog does not -- she's too big. Plus, she has trouble jumping into the bed off the wood floors (no traction!)

I don't "let" the cats into the bed, but that's where they go. They like to curl up on DH under the covers. I kick them if they migrate over to me.

Peeing in the bed was an issue at one time for my little cat. But it didn't have anything to do with sleeping there. She also peed on laundry, towels, couches, and anything else that was soft. She's on prozac now and hasn't done that in several years.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 8:58:03 AM
No, DH has never allowed animals to sleep with us. He didn't even allow the kids to sleep with us unless they were very ill. Our bed is our bed and not to be shared. Now, when he is's fair game! Kids, animals.....all aboard!



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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:00:33 AM
Occasionally. Our Maltese will sleep in my bed every once in a while. Most of the time she sleeps in her kennel. I can't imagine a large dog sleeping on the bed - I wouldn't do that.



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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:01:56 AM
Never ever - the pup is only in my bedroom because his crate won't fit elsewhere but once he no longer needs his crate they will both be shut out of my room at night


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:02:05 AM
Oh yes! I grew up in a family with dogs/cats always sleeping in the beds with us, so it seems perfectly normal to me.

My Ex didn't like it, but he got used to it. The pet we had at the time quickly figured out to sleep only on my side of the bed. But then again, he was 6', and I'm only 5'; much more room on my side, lol.

I have 2 dogs now, and they start out in the bed, and 1 of them gets down pretty quickly to find a cooler spot. The other one is the most hug-a-bunny sweetie pie boy ever. He is the most cuddly boy I've ever had. He would sleep right on top of me, if I let him.

I do like having them close, sort of for an early warning device, in case something is not right, in the house, or close to the house. They will let me know. My bigger dog, a Greyhound/Lab mix, has a wicked growl, and a great big bark. She is very protective of me, and I really appreciate it!


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:02:57 AM

The cats try and sometimes succeed. They like to sleep up close, then we spend the night trying not to disturb them. We try to knock them off before they get to close.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:03:45 AM
Yes - my dogs (Shih Tzu) sleep in the bed.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:03:46 AM
Our cat sleeps on my pillow, wrapping herself around my head. It's delightful to fall asleep with a kitty purring next to your ear. DH and I love it.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:03:59 AM
Always. We have a boxer, a beagle, and a cat. They all sleep in bed with us.

Growing up our dogs always slept in someone's bed. I love having them lay next to me and lay their head on me.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:05:53 AM
Yes. And he rules the bed, but I love it. He's a great little cuddler who spends half the time on top of the covers on a blanket and using a small pillow pet for a pillow and half the time under the covers cuddled against DH or I. We take him on the motorccycle with us and camping and it gets cold somme of the nights (40's-50's). He started sleeping under the covers when we were camping and then kept it up when we came home.

DH and I both had dogs growinng up and they slept with sommeone in the family. It's not unusual for us. And my nieces/nephews spend the weekend partly so that the dog will sleep and cuddle with them.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:09:17 AM
Nope. We don't let animals sleep in the bed with us. We've got a no animals on the furniture rule in our house.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:13:49 AM
I don't do animals in my bed. I don't care what size, I don't want some furry thing touching me or taking up space. And I love dogs.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:16:35 AM
NO! I don't want any animal in bed with me. People sleep on beds, dogs sleep on the floor. We have a chocolate lab and she has her own bed in our room where she sleeps very comfortably. I just think it is gross having dogs in bed with you.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:17:50 AM
We used to. The only reason we don't anymore is because he can no longer jump up there. We have a new dog, but he's too big, so he's never been and won't ever be up there.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:20:45 AM
Yes our Shih-Tzu sleeps with us every night right inbetween us. She has NEVER peed in the bed. She may have accidents on the floor, but never ever in the bed. It's never been a problem and if there are 'relations' going on...well she growls and I put her on the floor...yeah, she doesn't like that.. LOL


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:21:50 AM
Mine does only if there is bad weather. He's turned into a big wuss now that he is older


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:24:01 AM
My 20 pound dog does sleep in the bed next to my husband, my larger dogs don't because they like to spread out. Never had my dog pee in the bed, that's a potty training/dominance issue.
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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:27:06 AM
The cat, yes, at the foot. The dog, never. She sleeps in her own bed.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:39:06 AM
We have two shih tzus and they both sleep with us every night. One at my feet and one curled up at my side. DH is happy that they stay to my side of the bed. Lol!! I can't sleep if the one is not beside me.
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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:41:19 AM
Our cats do. The cats have the 2nd floor and the basement and the dogs have the main floor (Ozzy and the cats are fine, but Jax and the cats is all out war) Ozzy is not one to share his bed so even when he comes upstairs to sleep, he has his own bed in our room. If Jax could sleep upstairs he would sleep on the bed


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:45:56 AM
Both of my cats sleep in bed with me. Sophie tends to lay right next to my knee and Athena lays either at my feet or across my ankles. They get up and down at night, but it doesn't disturb me. They've never peed on the bed, although one of them did puke on it once.

I've never owned a big dog, so I am not sure how I'd be about one sleeping with me. The idea of it doesn't bother me, though.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:49:48 AM
We do. We have 2 Cavalier King Charles Spaniels, and they are the biggest cuddlers!! DH snuggles with his favorite, and the dog just stays right there.

The other will snuggle next to me under the covers or on my pillow like a cat.

I love my boys.

No issues with peeing in the bed ever. Even if they are going to get sick, they have the courtesy to jump off the bed!

As far as shedding, we've learned to deal with it in the rest of the house, but I put an older blanket on top of the bed at night, and just fold it down during the day.

My boys are my buddies, and I love them so much! I'd be sad if I couldn't have them in bed with me and DH. Some nights it's also our two DD's with us. Very crowded!!!!

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:52:49 AM
Sadie the mini schnauzer sleeps where she wants, sometimes in her pen, or on the couch, or sometimes in my bed. Loki the cat no longer comes upstairs, due to age. He used to sleep on my bed all the time. Neither ever peed in my bed.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:58:00 AM
Nope. The cats sleep with the kids and the dogs sleep downstairs in their crates. Dogs aren't even allowed upstairs. That's the cats' area.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 9:58:08 AM
Yes, they are allowed to sleep with us but only the 75lb boxer does.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:04:14 AM
We have a Dalmatian and she never sleeps with us. She has her own dog bed in the living room and sleeps there. Even if I put a bed for her in our room, she prefers her bed downstairs and leaves the bedroom as soon as we turn out the lights.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:15:12 AM
We have two shichons and the just turned 2 year old sleeps in our bed. I never thought I'd have a dog in my bed but I adore him and he sleeps at the foot. He would never pee in the bed (or the floor!). Our little girl is only 5.5 months and she sleeps in a crate next to dds bed. Eventually she will sleep on dds bed. I don't want her with me because she licks way too much!! Plus I like my space and two dogs -even though they are small- just is too much for me!

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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:18:23 AM
Absolutely....I couldn't imagine not having them there.

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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:25:02 AM
Yes. Always have and always will. It's one of my favorite things about having a dog or dogs.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:27:32 AM
Absolutely not. As much as DH wants her too, our dog is not allowed in the bed. Or on the furniture. He does hold her on his lap in his recliner. She's a 75 lb lab.

She has a perfectly fine dog pillow she can sleep on if she needs more padding than the floor. But since she seems to enjoy sprawling out on the tiles, I think she doesn't mind hard surfaces too much.


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Posted: 4/2/2013 10:30:55 AM
I have 2 dogs. The lab has a thick dog bed on the floor right next to me. My Bichon sleeps in bed with us. She sleeps between DH and myself. If I go to bed first she will sleep under the covers until DH comes in and puts her at the foot of the bed. For one little dog she sure takes up a lot of room.

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