|Posted: 5/4/2013 6:38:26 AM|
my first knee jerk answer is to go to college right out of High School. But if I had done that I probably would not have been working that little job,and wouldn't have met the guy I married and had the wonderful 11 years with him before cancer took him away,I certainly wouldn't want for none of that to have happened including the 3 great kids we had. truly though if I had been planning to go to college,I probably wouldnt have had that job and really not sure our paths would have crossed enough anywhere else for us to get to know each other.
get life insurance on the dh.sad but true. we were going to be debt free the fall of 2001 and get each other life insurance for Christmas that year. he was diagnosed in late Aug before we got the chance. Id rather have had HIM than money,but the money would have helped a lot
I really wish I had stayed more active, I used to be on a bike a lot but that died off when I started driving and when I got out of HS I basically stopped. I used to run some too,but my knees are so bad that may have made things worse had I kept that up,but the biking? wish Id not stopped.course now I barely have time to even do anything but maybe Id make time if i still loved it like I used to.
someone pass the crayons!
Loc: in my own little world - but it's ok -everyone knows me here
|Posted: 5/4/2013 6:39:17 AM|
Believe your instincts. He is cheating.
FREEDOM OF SPEECH SHOULD REQUIRE INTELLIGENCE
Loc: Central Iowa
|Posted: 5/4/2013 6:44:43 AM|
How about 30 years? I'd tell myself to work harder to prepare for high school sports. I wish they would have pushed weight lifting and body weight exercises back then. I see what they've done for my kids, and think I could have been a fantastic athlete.
How about in October? I would have taken my daughter to a different club volleyball team tryout. Our experience was kind of ho hum.
|Posted: 5/4/2013 6:46:36 AM|
Make yourself priority.
Study hard at school.
Loc: My DH's heart
|Posted: 5/4/2013 7:26:13 AM|
I had a great relationship with my parents, but they passed away far too soon. I'd tell myself to appreciate every moment with them and really listen to their family history stories.
7 Sweetpeas for me
Loc: The PEAch State
|Posted: 5/4/2013 8:42:55 AM|I would love a do over with my children if I had the knowledge I have today. Would love to have the knowledge and the energy at the same time.
Mainly though is to realize how fast time flies and the tough times with little kids changes quickly.
I tell my adult children all the time to enjoy each stage of their children's life!!
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People not perfection
Loc: Right where I should be
|Posted: 5/4/2013 8:55:40 AM|
You really are OK. Be yourself. I wasn't the type of woman who let a man define me but I gave a couple men who weren't truly for me to loud of a voice and influence. There voice was louder than any other voice (for a while) so I let it become my truth. Until.....until I learned the truth and learned to fight for myself. They now are in there proper place but back then I didn't know how to do that.
Loc: the great white north
|Posted: 5/4/2013 9:13:09 AM|
Be who you want to be, not what your parents expect, not what your DH wants. Be YOU!
|Still the great white north. Snow is still here...
|Posted: 5/4/2013 9:49:41 AM|
15 years- dont date a divorced man no matter how sweet he is.
10 years- teen daughters are complicated, teen step daughters are impossible! Be certain you are ready for the havoc that is to come. They are adorable now, but like kittens they grow to be cats.
Thanks, just had to vent. We'll survive this, right?
|Posted: 5/4/2013 9:59:04 AM|
Hmm, good advice already shared. I think IceSkate and Anon have mine:
Skip Ann Taylor and avoid dating men with kids. This step mom biz is harder than I expected since kids older and busier. Doh.
|Posted: 5/4/2013 10:13:33 AM|
That weight is going to be really hard to get off in your 40's. Get rid of it NOW!!
Changing it to Phrann
Loc: At my wit's end
|Posted: 5/4/2013 10:16:00 AM|
Don't go with that bad boy named Dusty.
|the Pea f/k/a Frannie HaHa
We judge others by their actions, but ourselves by our intentions.
|Posted: 5/4/2013 11:35:49 AM|
Don't spend so much time sunning yourself. You may look good in the short term, but def not the long term.
Wear sunglasses for pete's sake !! Your face will thank you.
Try being nicer and I bet you would have had many more friends.
Loc: Las Vegas, NV
|Posted: 5/4/2013 2:57:45 PM|
You know the Mormon kids that you went to school with? Get to know them.
Respect yourself and your body. Put the fork down and get moving.
Work really hard to learn to think before you speak and act.
Don't let your Dad pick your major.
Don't waste all that money on scrapbooking.
Spend less, save more.
Listen to the still small voice, the words of our Savior and the prophets voice a lot more often.
|Posted: 5/4/2013 3:56:01 PM|
Floss more and see your dentist regularly - it will cost your 39 year-old self a lot less money, pain and aggregation later
|Posted: 5/4/2013 3:57:48 PM|
@wicked queen - that's deep
WHO PUT A DICK IN THIS BOX?
|Posted: 5/4/2013 4:38:25 PM|
|Posted: 5/4/2013 4:47:30 PM|
I'm 53 also and have to agree with the other Pea who said that back in the late 1970's, early 1980's the emphasis for girls was to focus on marriage. I don't mean like it was back in the 1950's-I still went to college, but it was still very expected.
I'd like to go back and tell my college self, hey you know what? You don't have to get married so soon. Spend time on you. Find a way to go and explore and travel the world. Backpack through Europe, and beyond.
I did follow my heart and after being in college for 3 years majoring in early early childhood education I switched to photography. And it was absolutely the right choice for me. I would have been miserable as a teacher.
But I wish I hadn't followed status quo and gotten the husband, house with a yard, and so on. I really wish I'd spent more time travelling internationally first.
Oh, and in high school-don't worry so much about what other people think. They are not constantly judging you to see if you are okay. You are wonderful just as you are.
Debbie in MD.
Loc: The South
|Posted: 5/4/2013 5:36:08 PM|
1. Don't listen to everything your mother says. It's not always true.
and somewhat related...
2. Antidepressants are good and so is counseling.
Wife, Mommy, and First Grade Teacher
"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."
What if everything is an illusion & nothing exists
|Posted: 5/4/2013 7:09:24 PM|
fast food parties in the dorm are not a good idea. Do not invite that boy to snip-snip to play. Be better with your money.
Miss Lerins Momma
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
|Posted: 5/4/2013 7:52:55 PM|
Well like some others, there are some things I wish I could change but really made me who I am or brought me some other joy (such as dating the multiple ***es led to meeting the final *** who is the father of my three wonderful kids).
However, if I could I would go back and tell myself to go back to school sooner, not waste time on a math degree (recently changed majors because I couldn't get past Calculus), and not buy that "dream house" (which is still my dream house, but I'm never going to be able to afford it on my own and I would have been better off not buying this house and being able to buy something I COULD afford).
Working for SHALOM
|Posted: 5/4/2013 9:16:14 PM|
Be kinder to yourself.
Working for SHALOM
|Posted: 5/4/2013 9:16:15 PM|
Be kinder to yourself.
Kerry in CT
|Posted: 5/5/2013 9:33:10 AM|
Buy Apple stock!
The Banana Under the Couch Pea
Loc: Somewhere over the rainbow...
|Posted: 5/5/2013 9:37:37 AM|
Stop trying to fit the mold. There's a great big, open-minded world out there and you can be whatever (and whoever) you want to be!
|Posted: 5/5/2013 9:59:47 AM|Keep working out. It's harder to start up again when you're older.
|Posted: 5/5/2013 10:39:27 AM|
Dream bigger dreams for myself.
G'ma to five adorable grandkids!
|Posted: 5/5/2013 1:09:48 PM|If I could go back in time, I'd start working right out of high school, not in my mid 40s. All those years I could be putting toward my retirement/social security. Years wasted.
|Don't worry about the people in your past; there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.
Facebook is like jail. You sit around all day wasting time, writing on walls and if your not careful you'll get poked.
|Posted: 5/5/2013 1:27:40 PM|
First of all, I wouldn't change a thing. I'd tell myself "stick it out, there will be bumps along the road. Eventually you will find peace and have the life and love you always wanted."
M in Carolina
nothing could be finer than to be back in Carolina
|Posted: 5/5/2013 3:19:47 PM|
Don't let your fiance's parents dictate that we can't get married until I finish school. I should have listened to my parents and come home my senior year to rest and figure out what was wrong with me. Instead I got sick on my honeymoon and have been sick ever since. I just wore myself out that last year.
Don't worry about what other people think of you. Be yourself.
|Posted: 5/5/2013 3:32:21 PM|
I am going to return later tonight to read all of the answers to this post, it is such a great question.
For me, some advice is too private to actually print here. The "publishable" stuff would include:
- get a teaching vs a journalism degree -- you are going to move to a small town in Florida vs live in New York, and since teaching was your 2nd choice, you'd be hired in the career you wanted.
- learn more about genetics.
- take better care of yourself
- travel more in your 20's
- make the most of everyday things more often
- get a pool sooner lol
|Posted: 5/5/2013 4:53:11 PM|
Beg, borrow and well - don't steal - the money to go to law school.
To Boldly Go Where No Pea Has Gone Before
Loc: Destination Imagination Global Finals
|Posted: 5/5/2013 10:07:27 PM|
Use credit wisely
Don't settle for less than what you want in a spouse/life partner... IT MATTERS!
|Posted: 5/5/2013 10:29:06 PM|
1. Workout it's good for you
2. Stay away from junk food
3. Don't spend so much money
|Posted: 5/6/2013 12:15:47 AM|
Don't start cutting. Once you start you won't be able to stop. Push harder to get help, don't let any key dismiss you and how you are feeling. Don't waste more time at school, go and get a job a field you like. There's nothing wrong with being single. Apprenticeships may pay shit but are worth it.
Mary Kay Lady
I'm thinking . . .
Loc: The state of Confusion!
|Posted: 5/6/2013 12:37:51 AM|
I would need to go back about 27 years to correct my mistake. DH and I were dating and he confessed to me that he was a habitual liar. Swore up and down that he'd tell the truth from then on.
Also, I should have recognized the signs of alcoholism. At the time I didn't have any experience with it so didn't realize what it really was.
Since I can't go back and do it over I just have to make the best of it and move on from here.
Thirdly, I'd work harder to maintain a healthy weight.
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
|Posted: 5/6/2013 1:47:27 AM|
That day that I introduce that (you can fill in the blank), to my brother.
Can I go back and tell myself not to do that?
Ancient Ancestor of Pea
|Posted: 5/6/2013 8:06:08 AM|I don't really know. I'd be afraid that if I gave advice to a younger self it might cause to miss out on the good and wonderful parts of my life. So I don't know that I would really want to change too much.
Maybe just to tell myself that things would *really* be okay, not just the "things will be fine" stuff people tell you who don't actually know that it will be, LOL!
When does football season start?
|Posted: 5/6/2013 9:37:33 AM|
Save your Money!! So you can be a SAHM when you decide to have kids.
Rick Springfield Junkie
Loc: Mountain High Pea
|Posted: 5/6/2013 9:42:42 AM|
Manage my money better
and more importantly:
Do not walk back to the kitchen area where you work as a young gal (18 yrs) and see the new manager who will break and rip your heart out..spent way to many wasted years on that!!.... LOL