How many kids did you dream of having?
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Posted: 6/21/2013 11:42:59 AM
I wanted 1. Ended up adopting 5. 2 boys and 3 girls. One of our daughters passed away after being home from the orphanage 5 months and 10 days


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Posted: 6/21/2013 11:56:11 AM
When I was younger I didn't think I wanted any. I just didn't click with kids. I never babysat because I just had no desire. Then my best friend got pregnant, and I fell in love with her little boy. The same year he was born I met my husband. He's a BIG fan of kids. Unfortunately due to PCOS we haven't been able to conceive and at 44 I don't think it'll ever happen. Some days I think I'm okay with it, other days I long for having a child. We are considering adoption, and there is actually a set of three siblings listed on the states adoption site that I would LOVE to take in, but don't know if I could do three all at once!! LOL


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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:12:36 PM
I always assumed that I wouldn't have any kids ... never really liked them

Then I turned 30 and my biological clock kicked in ...

Now I have two dd's



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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:15:15 PM

ZERO but then I met the most amazing man and was blessed with 2.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:22:32 PM
I thought 4 but I have 2. After infertility and divorce I am done but don't feel complete.



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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:23:01 PM
I always wanted 3-4. Two girls and a boy. I ended up with 2 boys, 1 girl, but my girl is in Heaven now. I'd give just about anything to have another girl!

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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:29:15 PM
"I wanted 1. Ended up adopting 5. 2 boys and 3 girls."

That's great!

We were in the process of adopting through the foster program in our county until DH was in the hospital with a pulmonary embolism and DD was in the same hospital having transfusions, then chemo at the same time. AND, DS was just diagnosed with Aspergers.
We put it all in hold indefinitely

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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:34:08 PM
When I was little, I wanted 8. When we were married, I told DH 4, and he wanted 2. We have 6, all adopted. We think at ages 50 & 55 we are done, but we have thought that several times in the past and been wrong. Our oldest is almost 22 years and our youngest is 22 months and our most recent came to us last year at the age of 15.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:34:43 PM
I can't remember whether I wanted 4 or 5 when I was growing up. Settled with the three I have (boy, girl, girl). Now, the grandkids are coming along!

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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:39:33 PM
It would depend on what part of my life you were talking about. I changed my thoughts about that quite regularly.

As a little girl/tween, I had no qualms about the idea of having 12 or more, because clearly kids are easy to have and to raise so why not have a dozen?

By my late teens, and during/after years of caring for other people's children, I was hoping for a much smaller brood. I really liked the idea of 2, close together. (Or, if life allowed for it, 4, but I definitely didn't want 3.)

By the time DS #1 was born, I definitely did not want to have another one any time soon, and maybe not ever.

The years after DS #1 were the ones in which I had a hard time making myself really stick to one path in terms of any more kids. Sometimes I wanted a 2nd one very much. But other times I really just didn't think it was a good idea. Well....I always thought it wasn't a good idea, but sometimes I still wanted one more anyway. That's more accurate.

DH & I finally decided that we were good with one. It was a good thing for us, we were all happy, and none of us would need to go through another difficult pregnancy.

We were content with that choice for about 6 months or so. And then I found out I was pregnant, and I cried. I was scared and upset and it took quite awhile for me to chill out and be happy that we were getting a 2nd baby after all. DS wanted a baby sister so badly he could burst, and when I found out I was having another boy I called him and told him the news and I could hear how disappointed he was and I cried the whole way home.

He still insisted he wanted a sister, despite seeming pretty happy with his brother, for the first few years, but he has finally stopped asking, and good thing, because I am definitely not interested in having any more! I am completely and utterly happy to be done.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 12:56:57 PM
DH and I both wanted 4. I almost bled to death with my 3rd (3 C-sections) so we have three: two daughters with our son sandwiched in the middle.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 1:01:50 PM
Wanted 2, we were blessed with 3... number 3 came 11 years later!!

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Posted: 6/21/2013 1:17:30 PM
I wanted to have four. I have two and am considering having a third. Hubby thinks he is done though, but then at times says he thinks we should start trying for a third. So needless to say, we need to have some discussions about this. Confusing men... ugh!

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Posted: 6/21/2013 1:17:45 PM
Wanted 2, ended up with 6.


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Posted: 6/21/2013 9:34:52 PM
I wanted 3 before the year 2000. I had 2 born in 2003 & 2004

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Posted: 6/21/2013 11:08:01 PM
I wanted 5, but we have 2. Having to work outside of home and an unwilling spouse smushed that dream. I love my 2 more than I could ever have imagined, though.
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Posted: 6/21/2013 11:11:00 PM
We wanted 5, ended up with two. Oldest is biological & youngest was adopted. We had fertility problems.

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Posted: 6/21/2013 11:28:45 PM
Six. No idea now why. lol But I had three and raised two of my grandkids, so I sort of hit five anyway.



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Posted: 6/22/2013 1:08:11 AM
I wanted zero and I have zero!



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Posted: 6/22/2013 1:20:11 AM
Growing up my mom says I always played with 2 dolls at a time and talked about having twins when I grew up. After my son was born I was ready to be done. However, at the age of 4 1/2 he made a wish in fountain for a baby sister. Several months later he was saying bed time prayers and said "God I am coming to you because this wishing thing aint working, I want a baby sister." A few months later I found out that I was having twins. He now has two sisters! We call them a wish and a prayer, we just don't know which is which. He has been a wonderful brother to them for the past 12 years.

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Posted: 6/22/2013 1:57:24 AM
I dreamed of having 5. But once I was married, I thought 4 was our magic number. But then pregnancy #2 was such a crazy disaster (though we got ds1 out of it!) that we thought we just might be done with 2. We didn't pursue it for awhile. We were still tramautized from the pregnancy. Yes, preg #1 was hard, but #2 made #1 look easy.

BUT...I felt I always wanted 4 and knew it wasn't to be. I knew I'd be sad if I didn't have 4, but I knew I'd regret it if we didn't have 3. We threw caution to the wind and had ds2. My hunch was good. It was a tough pregnancy, but nothing like #2. We knew it was the right thing. Now he's 2 1/2 year old driving us crazy, but hey, isn't that what he's supposed to do?! lol... He is our toughest "two year old", however. But each kid has their challenges. We love him and our family wouldn't be complete without him.


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Posted: 6/22/2013 3:02:54 AM
I would have liked three, but have two, six years apart.

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Posted: 6/22/2013 6:38:40 AM
I'd be happy to have one. We'll see.


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Posted: 6/22/2013 7:02:21 AM
I always wanted 8 - I know I was crazy.
I had two from a previous marriage - dh had four.

He said if we got married no more children and I agreed but really wanted one together. We had number 7 and lost her on her third birthday to cancer.

10 years later we had our big blessing in our last daughter.
So I did get my 8 children, and we also had one foster son .

I wouldn't change it, I probably would have had more if I hadn't t had the time where after losing dd I had some infertility issues.

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Posted: 6/22/2013 7:46:36 AM
Never wanted any, and didn't have any. I admire people who can do it, but I can't.

Lucky enough to find a husband who was okay with that.


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Posted: 6/22/2013 9:49:23 AM
4....and I got them!
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Posted: 6/22/2013 10:04:03 AM
I read Cheaper by the Dozen when I was a kid, so 12 seemed like a real good idea. Haha.

From about age 18, I have wanted Zero. And that's where we're at with that.

ETA: I don't like babies. I've never understood the allure. If someone plopped down a 5 year old, that would probably be fine. I just don't want to mess around with babies. They seem like an awful lot of work and absolutely zero appeal.


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Posted: 6/22/2013 10:09:51 AM
I always wanted 12 kids. I had three and loved being pregnant but had difficult pregantcies and we realized how expensive it was to raise kids.So I got my tubes tied. But I missed having babies and so we started doing foster care for infants. To make a long story short...we ended up adopting one of those babies. He had/has some issues and was considered a "hard to place baby" but we fell in love with him and he is now a college graduate!!! I do have grandchildren now and just adore them!!! If I hit the lottery (which I do not play lol) I would adopt more.!!!

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Posted: 6/22/2013 10:25:46 AM
I guess I'd always thought I'd have two---boy and girl.

I've had three boys, two living.

I would have liked to have had another girl child, but its not in the cards, and I've become OK with it.

ETA: We went many years without kids--twelve years married and seven years of not preventing (and trying at times too). . There were times I was OK with no kids. I'm so very glad we had them, but we would have been ok, different, but ok without them. Now, I wouldn't give them up for anything though.

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Posted: 6/22/2013 11:34:34 PM
Never wanted any, got two.

Can't imagine life without them!

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Posted: 6/23/2013 7:35:07 AM
I never wanted kids and never had any.


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