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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:01:43 AM
Backstory.... We have two neighbors we are close with... C and M.. We all have kids Round the same age and play together outside a lot with them. We have lived here 10+ yrs... M family 10+ years, C family 4 years. We all get along great.. It's the kind of place where's we open our garages up and kids wander in and out takin toys to play with when we are all outside.. Everyone brings out bubbles, chalk, snacks, sprinklers are going, slipin slides... Way fun! Wives, husbands, kids .. Have no issues helping each other out with stuff etc. a really nice set up.

House next to C family was sold by older couple last year ... New family moves in... We all introduce ourselves.. They have 2 small kids as well..and they come out to play sometimes as well when we are there. Since we are outside a lot after school it almost always just the moms outside with kids... New dad.. Lets call him E gets home from work early so he comes to hang out with his kid. Great! E is a bit too familiar right off the bat.--- his gaze lingers a bit too long, he stands a bit too close.. He dos t seem to pick up on social cues well .. All of the moms agree he gives off a creepy vibe... He has made some comments to my husband about how another female neighbor is a "c word" because she didnt wave to him one day .. (Really who calls someone that?? ) Made another comment to Cs husband about wanting to smoke pot with him ... And he doesn't smoke pot ... Nor ever made any allusions to doing so... Has come to our front door with a drink he made for me... He has gotten angry with us in general cuz we weren't outside one day ( it's pretty standard that if it is nice out from 3-5 we are out there), he never brings any toys out to play with, nothing to share with the kids, he will come into Cs backyard when we are back there and just kinda slink inI .. And be right behind you before he says hi.. Just creepy.

So yesterday I get a text from C that says her and herfamily were in their fenced in backyard playing and he came over with the kid...fine. Her famy says bye and goes in their house. E and the kid stay I. Her backyard for over and hour playing on her swings with her toys --- she keeps texting me telling me he isn't leaving.. I keep texting her telling her she has to tell him to go or he will keep coming back... He finally leaves but comes back 2 hrs later when C family isn't even outside and plays in their backyard again... And apparently has done it again this morning. She is totally creeped out and disnt know what to sAy to him... And to say n such a way as to not have him fly off th handle.... WWYD?

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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:16:38 AM
I would let my husband handle it. I think he would say something like...I'm not okay with you being in my backyard unless I am out there. Does C have a husband/spouse? And why isn't he stepping in?



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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:19:01 AM
Oh man! That IS creepy. We're NOT good with creepy neighbors that don't know boundaries ... So we moved out into the country where I have NONE! LOL!

It sounds like the guy is super defensive anyway so if anyone says anything to him it will probably start a huge neighborhood war. He would probably be a major A**. I guess you all have to decided whether neighborhood harmony with a creeper is better than a group of neighbors that don't get a long with one guy.

ITA that it should be the husbands that talk to him.

That sucks. Sorry my ramblings haven't offered much advice but I do feel for you!


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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:26:44 AM
That's creepy. Her husband should say something since he gets defensive AND I'd be buying a big old lock for her fenced in yard.





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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:29:50 AM
You say it's a fenced in backyard.


Couldn't they just put a lock on the gate?


All fences are kept locked here.


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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:32:56 AM
Maybe he is high and that is impairing his perception and judgment.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:34:30 AM
He dos t seem to pick up on social cues well >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>


We have lots of peas with kids that have aspergers and other autism spectrum issues... ever wonder what happens after childhood? Your neighbor.
The dads in this group need to take the new guy aside. Be explicit about the unspoken rules of the neighborhood, sharing toys, private spaces, appropriate family language and substance use.


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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:43:55 AM
The dads in the neighborhood need to address things with him. Starting with the C-word he called one of the women. Has the husband of said woman been informed of what he said? Have you talked to his wife? If I had to handle it without having the men do it, that's where I'd start.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:44:12 AM
I'll be the outlier. If someone came into my fenced in backyard uninvited I would ask them "Can I help you", "did they need something" or otherwise indicate that their presence isn't welcome. I sure wouldn't drag my kids into the house and sit and wait for him to leave.

And if I found someone playing in my fenced in backyard when I wasn't out there I'd probably be a whole lot more blunt "What are you doing here?" If he's slow with social cues he might not realize that what he's doing is entirely inappropriate.




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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:45:18 AM
Lock the gate to the backyard.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:48:07 AM
I agree with those saying the guys in the neighborhood need to be explicit with him about the expectations and norms.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:56:47 AM
C's husband is NOT confrontational at all.. he would never say anything..
their backyard fence is only on one side.. he has to walk all the way around their house in the front to get to the side that has no fence.
his wife is at least 20 years younger than him.. always inside -- they have a little one.. 7 months or so so she was inside with her.. when she comes out she stays for only a few minutes saying her allergies are bad -- she doesnt speak much at all.. and when she does it is kinda hard to understand her.. she is from Taiwan and english is not her first language.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:57:09 AM

He has made some comments to my husband about how another female neighbor is a "c word" because she didnt wave to him one day .. (Really who calls someone that?? )
And what was your husband's response to him? I know that would NOT fly with any of the male neighbors here and they would have put him in his place right then and there.

As for him coming in the yard uninvited...that's what locks are for. Or, she could do what we used to do when it was ok for neighbor kids to come over and swim--we put a flag out that signaled it was OK to come on over.


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Posted: 6/30/2013 10:59:52 AM
so...I'll be the one that jumps to the worst conclusion first. Has anyone checked the sexual predator list for your area lately?




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Posted: 6/30/2013 11:03:00 AM
The husbands definitely need to take care of this now,and locks should be installed on the gates asap.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 11:13:59 AM
"so...I'll be the one that jumps to the worst conclusion first. Has anyone checked the sexual predator list for your area lately?"

that is what I said after we started getting the creepy vibe from him.. that and we thought he had his wife locked up somewhere inside cuz we never saw her... we see her a bit now... but the whole relationship just seems off.. .

"He has made some comments to my husband about how another female neighbor is a "c word" because she didnt wave to him one day .. (Really who calls someone that?? )
And what was your husband's response to him? I know that would NOT fly with any of the male neighbors here and they would have put him in his place right then and there. "

yeah my DH stopped him in his tracks and addressed his language and also stood up for the lady that didnt wave to him... my DH travels A LOT and isnt around most of the time for the interactions with this guy

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Posted: 6/30/2013 11:23:46 AM

E is a bit too familiar right off the bat.--- his gaze lingers a bit too long, he stands a bit too close.. He dos t seem to pick up on social cues well ..


We have a large portion of our society being diagnosed with spectrum disorders. Right now the hugest portion of them are children/teens. These kids will grow up and still be "different". It's the social cues that made me think of an adult on the spectrum. How are all these kids going to be perceived as adults. When they move into new neighborhoods. When they have kids of their own to raise?

It's funny that with kids showing this type of behavior we think unseen social disorder like Aspergers. Including the innopriate choices of language etc in my neck of the woods. With an adult we think sexual predator and creepy. I am not saying he isn't a creep, but remember that when a lot of these "aspie" kids grow up to be adults with poor socialization folks might label them as creepy.



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Posted: 6/30/2013 1:45:46 PM
Someone (C or her DH) could tell him that they dont want anyone in their yard when they're not there because they dont want (other) strangers thinking it's okay to trespass... Or maybe the wife gets nervous if she hears people in the yard and could call the police on him by mistake, and, gee, we really wouldn't want that to happen.


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Posted: 6/30/2013 2:04:01 PM
I'd go with a spectrum disorder first. Lay out the "rules" of the neighborhood. (Sounds ugly but that is often a relief to one with Asperger's) If he is still doing weird things, then he is a creep.

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Posted: 6/30/2013 2:11:14 PM
For the issue of being in my backyard after I went inside and especially coming back later when I wasn't even out there Id just tell him that its time to go home.

The other issues Id let the men of the group handle it with him.



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Posted: 6/30/2013 2:20:22 PM
So has anyone actually checked a sexual predator list for this guy? That's what these lists are for. Once you've taken a minute and done that, it's easier to move on to explaining unwritten rules to a grown man.

I'm not saying those lists are foolproof, but it seems to be an easy first step in this situation. It could be even quicker than writing up a post.

As a complete aside, I was up late one night when the thought crossed my mind to check the list in my dgd's area. Took just a couple minutes, and sure enough that was a predator living just 7 doors down the same street. Apparently, he moved in with his parents within this last year. No, it wasn't a case of 18yr old charged with stat rape with an 17yr old. He was 26 and his victims were 3-7.

The lists are there for a reason. Use them. It's not like spending time online searching for private information about your neighbors. It is a legally mandated public list. Take advantage of it.




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Posted: 6/30/2013 2:30:58 PM
"I'd go with a spectrum disorder first. Lay out the "rules" of the neighborhood. (Sounds ugly but that is often a relief to one with Asperger's) If he is still doing weird things, then he is a creep."

I agreed with this.
IF he's on the spectrum, rules are key.

If not, he's a creeper

Your yards are not public parks.

I wouldn't want some neighbor (any neighbor) just walking in and playing in my yard without our knowledge.
Accidents and injuries could happen which leaves the homeowner open to a lawsuit.

And... What if your kids weren't home and you wanted to sun bathe topless?
Holy cow!
A gate is like a front door.
You knock and wait yo be invited in.


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Posted: 6/30/2013 5:02:36 PM
I have a doxie patrolling our home and not too many people come near us without serious pause with him around. My neighbor who is a police officer has a dog warning on his gate. If I had a creepy neighbor like this, I would get a guard dog and do the same.







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Posted: 6/30/2013 5:19:34 PM
A bit off topic (hope you don't mind, OP) but how do you access s3xual predator lists for your area? Is there some kind of national registry?

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Posted: 6/30/2013 5:23:53 PM
but how do you access s3xual predator lists for your area? Is there some kind of national registry?
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Google.
State name sex offender list

You'll find it easily. Then pick your city from the state's list.


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Posted: 7/1/2013 9:15:48 AM
my advice? Check the registry list first. Whenever someone new moves into the neighborhood I wait a few weeks and then start checking. You never know. Second, I would be telling my friend to invest in a lock for the back gate, and then explaining to the neighbor that you would hate for anything to happen to someone while they weren't home. Blame it on insurance, it's hard to argue with insurance.

Seriously though, I'm sorry you're all dealing with a neighbor that makes you uncomfortable! It can certainly put a damper on being outside every evening.

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Posted: 7/1/2013 12:06:51 PM
Is he from Taiwan, too? Because if he is, maybe it's a cultural thing? If he's not, maybe his wife is a mail order bride, hence the reason for the 20 year age gap and reclusiveness. Ask her (not him) how they met one day.

I too, would have checked the registry days ago. I have been shocked to find out who my neighbors were in the past.

As for locking the gate, based on your description, it doesn't sound like it's fully enclosed? Locked or not, you need to tell him you can't have people in your yard without your presence due to insurance and liability reasons. You would hate for them to get hurt.


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Posted: 7/1/2013 12:44:27 PM
OMG>so sorry you are dealing with this. sounded like a perfect set up until your psycho neighbor moved in!
If he's a drug user, that could be it, for sure. I would definitely set boundaries with him...i'd have the guys do it. if that didn't work, call the police. let him know you guys won't tolerate this type of behavior. i wouldn't give a rat's ass about offending him as he clearly has issues and i wouldn't want to engage with him anyway. be very careful....hope it turns out well for you all.


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Posted: 7/1/2013 3:24:08 PM
OP, sorry you are dealing with this. With the way he acts and the wife not being out much, I think there is more to it than a spectrum disorder. I would think maybe some sort of controlling or abusive situation. I would not trust the guy for a second.

Definitely check the registry (if you haven't already), but remember, you have to be caught to be on the registry, so just because he doesn't show up, would not make me feel all better.

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Posted: 7/2/2013 6:18:57 PM
"Is he from Taiwan, too? Because if he is, maybe it's a cultural thing? If he's not, maybe his wife is a mail order bride, hence the reason for the 20 year age gap and reclusiveness. Ask her (not him) how they met one day. "


I totally said that about mail order bride... No.. He is American ....
Checked the registry... He isn't on it.

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Posted: 7/2/2013 6:55:32 PM
Well that sucks! It's weird feeling uncomfortable in your own home, even if it's the backyard! Somebody needs to say something to him! He sounds like a total creeper! I know the type of guy you are talking about and I bet his wife is a mail order bride. Hence the age difference and that she speaks little English. He probably couldn't find a woman here in the states that would date him.

Hopefully he gets a clue that when he is around everyone leaves! Keep us updated!

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Posted: 7/2/2013 9:10:09 PM
I have to second, or third, having the husbands talk to him. He might not understand neighborhood norms. Advice about how men in your neighborhood behave should come from other men. He really may not realize he is doing things many find uncomfortable or even offensive. If after the talk he still does those things then he is just a creepy ass. Good luck!


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Posted: 7/2/2013 9:43:33 PM
I have a fence with a gate I don't lock. IMO fence is enough to tell others to stay out unless explicitly invited.

The first instance of new neighbor barging in uninvited would have been met with an "excuse me?" response. Did you need something? Are you in need of medical care, or is there a fire? Because otherwise, you are trespassing in my fenced off yard!

Your friend needs to set boundaries, NOW! What if he walked into her unlocked backyard sliding glass door, while playing uninvited in her yard? What if he went and got himself a beer from her fridge? Would that be OK?

She needs to let him know that the boundary is her property line. He may cross it when he is invited. And that the invitation is for that one time only.

If he is Autistic/Aspergers, the clarification will be helpful to him. If he's just a creep, it will put him on notice that she will not take his crap.


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Posted: 7/2/2013 9:50:47 PM
I also don't get the "the husband must take care of this" angle. Why is the wife not able to articulate that her property has boundaries? If she is afraid the man would react violently, then she should contact the police.


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Posted: 7/2/2013 10:19:20 PM
The longer people wait to set boundaries, the harder it is. Just do it and get it over with.

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Posted: 7/3/2013 11:39:48 AM
Turn the sprinkler on in the backyard. that should make him move along.

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Posted: 7/3/2013 12:17:31 PM

The first instance of new neighbor barging in uninvited would have been met with an "excuse me?" response. Did you need something? Are you in need of medical care, or is there a fire? Because otherwise, you are trespassing in my fenced off yard!

Your friend needs to set boundaries, NOW! What if he walked into her unlocked backyard sliding glass door, while playing uninvited in her yard? What if he went and got himself a beer from her fridge? Would that be OK?


I agree 100% with this. I'm sorry you are going through this, you definitely should feel comfortable in your own neighborhood. I also feel like the wife is more than capable of handling this, but understand how awkward it is. She just needs to tell him, someone does!

Good luck. Let us know how it turns out.


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Posted: 7/3/2013 12:34:02 PM

We have lots of peas with kids that have aspergers and other autism spectrum issues... ever wonder what happens after childhood? Your neighbor.


Yes, they do, and my DH is one of them. However, while he does have social issues, and frequently gets his ankle kicked under the table for inappropriate comments, he would NEVER enter someone's yard without an invitation. People with Aspergers often tend to make inappropriate comments, or stand to close, but they are not untrainable. DH is a whole lot more socially aware after 25 years of marriage than he was when I first met him. I know a number of adults with Aspergers and none of them has any more of a temper than your average guy next door.

To the OP, regardless of what E's problems might be, I'd suggest your neighbor have her DH just casually ask him not to come into the backyard unless everyone else is outside...maybe 'Y'know E, it freaks my wife out when she's fixing dinner and catches a glimpse of someone in the yard. The other day she almost called the police, and then she realized it was you.The other thing is, when our kids see you and little Johnny out there, they want to come out and play, but it's dinner time and C needs them to stay in for dinner and homework. The kids whine about not being allowed out to play, C gets mad at the kids for whining, and my whole household is mad at each other when I get home from work so I end up catching hell...You'd really be doing me a favor if you just came when the family is having playtime, thanks buddy'

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Posted: 7/3/2013 12:47:09 PM
It's hard in neighborhoods, you never know what offends people. In one neighborhood, one of the men was a jerk, but it still bothered me when the women called him a word offensive to men. So I understand that you don't want to be around neighbors that call the other neighbors mean names. I don't care what the word is, it's not nice to call men or women names.

We also had a new family move in from out of town. A neighbor went and introduced herself, and brought them cookies, and tried to make them feel welcome in the neighborhood. Well, I guess they don't like nice people! The woman came down to my friends house and said to leave her alone! My friend was just trying to welcome them.

Neighborhoods can be wonderful, or hard! It sounds like for the most part you have a great one! I would just ignore the man, and make excuses of why you are busy when he comes out. He will get the hint, maybe! if not, just ask him to leave because it's your family time.


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Posted: 7/3/2013 12:55:19 PM
Just skimmed the other posts. Makes sense that he could have a mental disorder as others have said. Not having boundaries, no filters, etc.

I never check registries for neighbors. But my inlaws have a strange woman that lives next to them. I will have to ask them if they checked to see if she is on a registry.

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Posted: 7/3/2013 12:58:20 PM

'Y'know E, it freaks my wife out when she's fixing dinner and catches a glimpse of someone in the yard. The other day she almost called the police, and then she realized it was you.The other thing is, when our kids see you and little Johnny out there, they want to come out and play, but it's dinner time and C needs them to stay in for dinner and homework. The kids whine about not being allowed out to play, C gets mad at the kids for whining, and my whole household is mad at each other when I get home from work so I end up catching hell...You'd really be doing me a favor if you just came when the family is having playtime, thanks buddy'
This is a great answer. But this is totally a woman's answer. If I told my husband, honey, say this so you don't offend him. He'd walk over, and his translation would be, "dude, when you came in my yard you freaked my wife out. Knock next time. So, you want a beer?"


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Posted: 7/3/2013 2:13:46 PM
I would have the conversation with him (or rather C/her husband should) over the phone rather than right when he is my backyard. I think it is less likely to get confrontational that way. If he came in my backyard agains after that, I would "accidentally" call the police, even if just to get it on record.

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Posted: 7/3/2013 6:41:00 PM
No real update yet... We were away last night... The M family had been gone all week... And the C family had been down the shore... All of us happened to come home within an hour of each other this afternoon and we saw each other while unloading cars ... And put together an impromptu BBQ for tomorrow... I'm sure Creepy neighbor will come by as we will be in Cs backyard.. (Theirs is the biggest with most kid toys... ) so perhaps I will have an update tomorrow!
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