Were you raised in the faith that you now believe or did you find the right faith as an adult?

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Posted: 10/14/2013 9:54:57 PM
I'm sorry if I didn't word that correctly. I just mean, were you raised with the faith or religion that you believe now?

Or did you find a faith or religion that you believe in as an adult?

Or were you raised in a certain faith and now don't believe anything?

Or were you raised with no faith / religion and now believe something?


Our family didn't go to church when I was a child. And I don't go to church now. The thing is, I want to go to church or something... somewhere to fit in. And maybe more importantly, somewhere to find something to believe in. Does that make sense?

I envy those who can go through rough patches in their lives and say, "Well, at least I know He has a plan for me."

How do you just gain that faith in something larger than yourself?

I might be rambling by this point, and if I am, forgive me. I am just at a low point in my life, and feel alone, and wish I could find a way to not feel so alone.




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Posted: 10/14/2013 9:58:17 PM
I was raised S. Baptist - of my own choice. My parents rarely went to church, but would take me whenever I wanted to go. I was baptized, by my choice and willingness, when I was 13.

My parents were both separately raised S. Baptist when they were kids as well, but chose not to attend church as adults (as I said, they would take me with no issues).

We're all agnostic or atheist today. So ... I guess No, we do not practice the religion we were raised with.



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Posted: 10/14/2013 9:58:23 PM
I go to the church I was raised in.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 9:58:59 PM
I was raised catholic and I am now pagan. My religion now is pretty solitary and that is how I prefer it. I don't need religion to make me feel a part of something. My friends and volunteer work does that. In my life religion is private.



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Posted: 10/14/2013 9:59:47 PM
Raised LDS, now an atheist. I am far more at peace now than I have ever been in my life... I find comfort in knowing that some things just happen, without trying to figure out why it happened to me, or what lesson I'm supposed to learn from it.



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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:00:24 PM
OP, I will keep you in my prayers that you find a church home.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:04:14 PM
I was raised in the UCC church and today attend a UCC church

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Raised southern Baptist. Now atheist. Very happy


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:10:35 PM
When I was a kid we went to a Pentecostal church for a while, then switched to Southern Baptist. Dad never went, but Mom would make my sister and me go. At some point my mom stopped going as well, and I went to one church with my friends and my sister went to another church with her friends.

Eventually I had my membership at my church revoked because I was baptized the wrong way, and at that point I was just finished with it. Now I'm an atheist. My husband believes in god but doesn't go to church. My oldest dd goes through phases where she wants to go so we go to an Episcopal church when she's in the mood. My youngest dd seems to equate Bible stories as fairy tales. She generally dislikes going to church even though they have cookies after the service.

My sister however, is very involved in her mega church. Maybe not exactly what she grew up with but ultra conservative and proselytizing nonetheless.
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I have always attended a Lutheran church...although my mother did not attend most of my childhood. And I do not worry about lessons to be learned from things that happen.... I do know that bad things happen...to good people
Brother #1 hit by car age 11
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I know many have been through worse...the point is that I feel that my god has been there to help me through it all...and I thoroughly enjoy attending church

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:11:31 PM
I was raised Lutheran. I got married in the Catholic church to a guy who had to get married Catholic because of his family. He wasn't practicing, so we never went to church, either Catholic or Lutheran. After my divorce, I didn't go to church at all for a few years. However, I put my daughter in a Lutheran preschool that had a great reputation. One Easter, I took her to church at the church that had her preschool. The service was exactly the same as all the Easter services I attended as a child and teenager. I bawled my eyes out during the liturgy and hymns. I've been Lutheran ever since.

When I went back to school, I took a class in the history of modern Christianity. We had to write a paper on the history of our particular denomination. (Non-Christians could pick and choose a denomination.) I was surprised to learn that the German immigrants who founded the Lutheran Church-Missouri Synod had sent missionaries to the Indians. There strategy was (and still is) very different that what you think of when you think of missionaries. The first thing Lutheran missionaries do is provide service to the people. The second thing is that they learn the language of the people so they can set up schools and translate the Bible into the native language. I think that's much cooler than making the people learn English so they can read the Bible. And, it's cool that they provide for the physical needs of the people rather than jumping right in to convert them.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:12:10 PM
I was raised Catholic to the age of about ten. Then I tried a non-denominational church for a bit and eventually realized that I am happiest as a non-religious person. I am now perhaps "spiritual", though I tend to identify as agnostic when asked.

I did like the social aspect of my churches as a child, but I prefer to socialize now within non-religious groups.

I do feel that my religion or lack thereof will continue to develop and change as I do (I'm only 20 years old). I don't see myself ever becoming part of an organized religion again, but it's not something I completely rule out.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:12:12 PM
I was raised Lutheran and became Catholic as an adult. I have also attended Presbyterian and other Protestant churches at various times. To me, they are similar in the fact that they are all Christian. Each church has their own way of doing things (rituals if you will) but they all believe in one God. There are a lot I non-denominal churches out there too. You sometimes have to try out several churches before you find the right fit.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:12:35 PM
I was raised without any spirituality in my childhood, except for occasionally going to Catholic church with extended family or Protestant church with friends. Looking back, I always enjoyed that feeling of belonging to something larger than myself, learning about Christ, the rituals, the fellowship, and always having someone to talk to.

I became a Christian as an adult after some life-altering experiences compelled me to believe in a higher power. I began attending our small local church - just to see if it filled my heart and it did - and doing Bible study with some friends. I got lucky. I found "It" on my first try. But if I hadn't, I would've tried another church and another book.


How do you just gain that faith in something larger than yourself?

I might be rambling by this point, and if I am, forgive me. I am just at a low point in my life, and feel alone, and wish I could find a way to not feel so alone.

I get it. Totally been there. Like I said, I just reached out to a church and started studying the Bible. I already knew that Jesus Christ was my savior but I 'formalized it' so to speak

My dad studied lots of religions and found different comforts and beliefs from them all. He kind of cobbled together his own belief system from what felt right to him. I admire that outlook, being so open and willing to be filled.

Read. Attend church. Study the Bible or other spiritual texts. Sing. Pray and see if you feel heard.

For me at some point, I quit asking all the cynical unanswerable questions and decided to just have FAITH. And I have not regretting that for one second. I hope that same peace for you, however or wherever you find it.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:15:59 PM
You took the words and thoughts right out of my mouth. I'm in the exact same place as you. I was raised with very little religion, in fact my mom and brother are atheist. My dad was a "when he felt like it Christian" but didn't involve me in that part of his life. I am going through a lot personally and wish I had faith in something or someone to get me through it. I often wonder how to go about finding this/him/her? My husband was raised catholic, went to catholic school, and although he does not belong to a church now, his faith is deeply rooted.

I'm interested to read the others responses.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:16:55 PM
Raised catholic and attended catholic school 8 years. I'm agnostic now.

I'm raising my son without religion. We talk about the different views but I always tell him he needs to decide what he believes in that regard.



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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:19:50 PM
Raised Jehovah's Witness, scarred by it, and now happily agnostic with atheist leanings.

I think I know how you're feeling, and I hope you find something that brings you peace. For me, the peace came when I finally gave myself permission not to believe things that I never felt were right or made sense. And also when I understood that beliefs don't make you a better person-behavior does.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:21:15 PM
Raised an atheist, became a Christian as an adult, denomination matters little to me.

I don't always have faith that God has a bigger plan for me. Right now I think I'm really muddling through and have no idea why it feels like such a slog. You are certainly not alone in feeling low. The best I can say is that my faith gives me a sense of slogging toward something.

One suggestion I have is to consider attending an Alpha course if there's one near you. It's a safe place to work out your questions about faith, and to spend some time with people who will listen and care about you.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:22:46 PM
I was raised as a pastor's kid in a strict Christian church. It was very conservative, similar to Mennonite beliefs.

My basic beliefs are the same but I now attend a non-denominational church and have for most of my adult life. Interestingly enough, the church I now attend is only a stone's throw from my childhood home and I live in the Phx. area, so I have lots of choices.

I only visited that church once growing up even though it was a 3 minute walk from my home.

My beliefs changed and grew and transitioned by reading the Bible, listening to pastors, discussing (some heated -- -- )with friends, praying, asking questions and more.

An analogy would be yes, I still live in the U.S., but I moved to a different state.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:24:23 PM
I am an evangelical Christian who went to all sorts on different evangelical churches growing up.

I have tried to learn about other religions through here and other places, and what it comes down to is that what I've learned studying the Bible and my life observations have only strengthened my faith in Jesus Christ & the Bible.

For me, I've found the Baptist church fits me & my family best. I will be praying for you!


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:25:07 PM
I'm not in the same faith I was raised in. I'm not currently in the right faith for me but kinda stuck because I'm content with the rest of my life & changing it would cause upheaval in other areas.

Good luck with getting through this rough patch! I'm sorry you are feeling alone & I hope you find some peace. Hugs!

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:27:43 PM
I grew up in a Nazarene church, but we now attend a nondenominational church that I love so much. We are in a small group and the people in our group have become like family to us, which is great because we have no family that lives here.

Our church goes out of its way to cater to unchurched people and to make them feel welcome. I think sometimes traditional churches get bogged down by rules, traditions and rituals that take away from the true message of love and hope that should be the foundation of the church.

OP, I hope you find a place of love and acceptance where you can feel free to question things and develop a faith all your own.

I have a deep faith and I think it comes mostly from asking God for certain things in my life and seeing how those prayers were answered. There are specific times I can point to and know without a doubt God was working in my life, namely when my marriage was over for all intents and purposes and we had given up. I prayed so hard for my marriage and I witnessed a transformation that only God could orchestrate.
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Raised Roman Catholic. 16 years of Catholic school. I now consider myself agnostic.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:32:49 PM
Just remember that there is a lot more out there than Christianity. So many seem to forget that. Lots of my friends are Buddhists. There are a lot of religions. Explore them all. And remember that even those with no religion find peace and a sense of belonging.



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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:35:25 PM

Raised LDS, now an atheist. I am far more at peace now than I have ever been in my life... I find comfort in knowing that some things just happen, without trying to figure out why it happened to me, or what lesson I'm supposed to learn from it.


This is me too. I'm much happier as an atheist and a secular humanist than I was as a Mormon, but until my mid-thirties Mormonism and Christianity played a large part in nearly every aspect of my life. Losing those beliefs felt like a true awakening to me. It freed me to be a more authentic and inquisitive person, yet I don't need the answers to why we're here, where we're going, and why stuff happens.

I do miss the community aspect of it sometimes, but I know my own family is better off without organized religion.

Good luck in your search .








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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:45:58 PM
I came from a family long presbyterian and I still am a member of a presbyterian church.

I like the governance structure...all money is open to congregational control and knowledge and the minister is hired by the congregation. there is a strong tradition of education and little that is a "must believe"--ie I see it as quite straight forward. Ministers generally have a masters in theology. it is also a church that is accepting of all...no special secrets or "insiders"

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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:52:07 PM
I was raised with little. Went to Methodist church sometiems up the road from my house, but my parent's didn't go. I went to bible school in the summer in the Baptist church.

I'm now a faithful Christian, with no church home. I really don't feel I *need* one desperately, but if I found one I'd be happy.


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Posted: 10/14/2013 10:59:06 PM
I was raised Protestant or going to Christian churches at times but not reguarly after a certain age. Now I go to a Unitarian Universalist church and a lot of the people that go there were raised in another religion.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:04:20 PM
I was raised with the religion of "say please & thank you and don't talk with your mouth full." and that's about how I feel about my lifestyle currently. I'm not particularly spiritual.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:16:45 PM
Raised in the LDS faith and agnostic. So much guilt, anxiety, and worry relating to religion is gone. I do miss the community, but realize I didn't make true friendships in any of the wards I attended. I didn't make real connections. The ones that have lasted is friends from school or former jobs.


Just remember that there is a lot more out there than Christianity. So many seem to forget that. Lots of my friends are Buddhists. There are a lot of religions. Explore them all.


I know this was directed to the OP, but not interested. Sure I don't mind reading about other things besides Christianity. Have absolutely no desire to participate. When you see the absurdity of one religion, you see it in so many other beliefs. If it makes you happy go for it, but not worth the time to me.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:20:57 PM
Raised Catholic (very conservative, old-school Catholic - like my mom preferred to operate as if Vatican II had never happened). Agnostic/atheist now.

DH was also raised Catholic, slightly more liberal, and he now attends a Methodist church by himself.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:30:50 PM
Raised Catholic----regular weekly church goer for most of my childhood. Other than a couple Christmas Eve masses and my wedding (all 1995 and earlier), I haven't chosen to attend mass since I graduated in 1990. (I do go to weddings and funerals of course ).

I am an agnostic that sometimes leans deist and sometimes atheist depending on the day. I wasn't really ready to claim this until the last ten years or so, and it took having my boys (and not baptizing them) that made me really "come out" of my agnostic closet, but we just don't talk about it on DH's side of the family. I've got a nephew, ironically my Godson lol, who is in the seminary.



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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:30:55 PM

I envy those who can go through rough patches in their lives and say, "Well, at least I know He has a plan for me."



I might be rambling by this point, and if I am, forgive me. I am just at a low point in my life, and feel alone, and wish I could find a way to not feel so alone.


I'm sorry that you are feeling down right now. In my own personal experience, the rough patches are easier as a non-believer. When I was a Christian, I felt very confused and depressed when hard times would come. I would pray and feel that God never answered. What was wrong with me? I believed all the 'right stuff', I loved Jesus, I longed to do God's will. I searched the Bible. I agonized over things I read there that didn't make any sense. And in life itself, I could never understand why there was so much pain and suffering. I had all the supposed answers, "God is refining me, there are troubles down here, but glory to come, God knows better than I do, etc." But it really just made me feel so lost. There was a point that I really believed that God hated me.

Now, I understand life much better. Things happen because there are laws of nature and we live by them. I'm not being punished, I'm not hated by God. I am living a life just like every other living thing on this planet. Life is a struggle for every living being. It is what it is. I take comfort in the fact that I don't have to figure out everything, all the why's and how's and such.


How do you just gain that faith in something larger than yourself?


I don't think that it can be forced. Either you do or you don't.

The version of Christianity I was taught and used to believe was that God was the author of faith and that 'He' leads people to repentance. Some are chosen and others aren't. Pretty crappy/scarey stuff. Try falling asleep at night wondering if you are chosen or not...do you really believe the right things to make it to heaven? It's a mental tyranny.

Anyhow, I hope that you can find someone/something to keep the loneliness away. I don't think that imaginary friends are the way to go, though. ((hugs))

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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:31:14 PM

I'm sorry if I didn't word that correctly. I just mean, were you raised with the faith or religion that you believe now?

Or did you find a faith or religion that you believe in as an adult?

Or were you raised in a certain faith and now don't believe anything?

Or were you raised with no faith / religion and now believe something?




I was raised in a faith that was fairly strict, but I think the small town mentality had more to do with how awful the worship experience was for me than the religion itself.

My faith has grown and matured as I've gotten older, and dealt with more trying and stressful life events. Some days I still struggle with basic precepts: why is life so difficult? why do sweet innocent children get cancer? or suffer sexual abuse? or....

I think I'm a fairly typical "believer", ie, someone who chooses to believe in a god and live my life according to my religion's tenets. I do better some days than others.

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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:34:20 PM
When I was 10 our town had people from a Pentecostal church going around putting flyers on cars advertising for vacation bible school for the towns kids that summer. My friend and I figured we would go and we got permission from our parents. They had a bus would come by and pick everyone up...my friend and I both where T-shirts and shorts...NOT short shorts because we were both chubby girls as I know for myself I was very self conscious about my body...I'm guessing she was to also it was extremely hot that day I remember plus southeast Texas summers are brutal anyways. We got on the bus and the older woman I'm guessing chaperones maybe kept looking at us...when we got to the church we were pulled to the side and told and I quote "your dressed like little whores" we had no clue what whores were but figured we weren't dressed right because they called us out. Then another woman shows us with sheets and ties them around us like a skirt and cuts the bottom so we wouldn't trip ourselves we had to stay that way the rest of the day ...my friend and I were sooooo upset and embarrassed. We never went back.


That's the day I realized if THAT'S what religion is and what church is about I want no part of it at all. I truly admire everyone on the thread Christians - and none Christians because you all seem at peace with your choice. I find myself still searching I guess. I do enjoy reading about different Christian religions and other stuff like Buddhism.
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Posted: 10/14/2013 11:44:44 PM
My parents and most of my family were / are not religious but I did go to church as a kid with either my aunt, my uncle and his family or some LDS families in the neighbourhood. I became a Christian at 18 but now, in my 40's, I no longer believe it to be true. I still believe in God but have little use for organized religion and iffy scriptures. I think that you can have faith in something without having to go to church and you can be a part of something by joining groups or volunteering at places that have meaning and purpose beyond your self: food banks, nature groups, hospitals or animal shelters.

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Posted: 10/15/2013 12:06:21 AM
I was raised in a very liberal Protestant church (United Church of Canada) and am now a confirmed member of the Lutheran church (LCC, left the Missouri Synod around 30 years ago). Much more conservative than how I was raised. DH and I were both confirmed this spring. Our sons were baptized that day as well. DS1 attends a Lutheran school as well.



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Posted: 10/15/2013 12:11:57 AM
I was raised Lutheran (LCA/ELCA). I am agnostic.

I was baptized in the religion, attended weekly services and Sunday School from before I can remember through high school, was confirmed in 9th grade and was active in youth group at our church through high school. My family are all still Lutherans and active members of congregations.

But around 7th grade, I knew I didn't believe in any kind of higher power. It was non-negotiable in my family to attend church, so I didn't make waves and just kept attending as expected. In my final interview prior to confirmation, I told my pastor that I didn't believe and he wasn't surprised. He agreed to let me go through with confirmation because he believed that I would never regret doing it but I some day may regret not doing it. He also said he thought I'd given my faith (or lack thereof) more careful thought than almost all believing kids he confirmed.

Once I went to college (at a Lutheran college and majored in religious studies ), I stopped attending church and setting the stage to tell my parents that I was an agnostic. I am not exaggerating when I say my parents were far more accepting of my brother being gay (they had zero problem with that) than me being agnostic.

I don't regret my religious background in the slightest. I think religion is fascinating on many levels. I just don't believe in it and have no desire to.

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Posted: 10/15/2013 12:14:47 AM
went to a Christian church ..basically mom was the 'church lady' ..

I knew I wanted to explore my Jewish roots as a pre-teen and as an adult I became Jewish. It's good for me and feels comfortable.

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Posted: 10/15/2013 12:16:38 AM
I don't really have what you would call a traditional faith. I am a pane theist and a mystic. Right now I am studying Kabbalah.

I was raised cradle Catholic like all good Polish girls in Chicago.

Then I discovered Jesus and became born again. My mom was not pleased.

Between there Nd here it's been quite a trip!


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Posted: 10/15/2013 12:50:36 AM
I grew up without any faith or religion.
My parents believed in God and we celebrated Christmas and Easter in a secular way, but that was it.

My elementary school I was seeking. I had friends that went to church and after going once with a friend I felt at home and always wanted to go. Sometime my parents would drop me off for services, and then I joined the choir and they would come see me perform.

In middle school I joined Christians on campus and became a Christian.
In high school I continued to attend church with friends or on my own, I also did typical teenage stuff, and did a lot of research about other faiths... and then returned to Christianity and accepted Jesus as my personal Savior and committed to a non-denominational Bible based church.

My brother was killed in a random act of violence when I was 20 and I was angry at God for a long time, and although I never abandoned my belief in Him - I was angry and it affected my personal walk with Jesus. By the time I got married in my early twenties - I returned to Him completely and lived according to His word and began to raise my children in His word nd faith.

Though I have had many ups and downs in life as I'm sure many of you had- death, illnesses, loss, cancers, divorce, etc I have never lost faith or abandoned my belief in Jesus since accepting Him.

In my case I wasn't raised in faith and I went seeking until I found Him, and here I have remained.

It is interesting to see how some raised in faith have left and others have been raised without faith have found it.


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Posted: 10/15/2013 2:50:03 AM
I was raised by non-religious parents, not atheists btw, just non-religious. Which is pretty much the norm here, church is for weddings and funerals, and very few people even go at christmas. while most indentify as "culturally christians", religion doesn't really play an important part of everyday life here.

DH and I follow the old Norse religion, and that will get us comments occasionally. If it was good enoughfor my ancestors, it's certainly good enough for me, instead of following a religion that was violently forced upon us.

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Posted: 10/15/2013 4:00:01 AM
I had a pretty non religious upbringing. I was christened, but mainly because it was the done thing then, we never went to church. I apparently announced to my parents that I didn't believe in god when I was 4 or 5 and asked what would happen to me. I was informed nothing would happen to me, some people believe in god, some don't. I've gone on my merry way as an athiest ever since


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Posted: 10/15/2013 6:31:43 AM
I was raised Southern Baptist, became Lutheran and am now attending a non-denominational church.


Our church goes out of its way to cater to unchurched people and to make them feel welcome. I think sometimes traditional churches get bogged down by rules, traditions and rituals that take away from the true message of love and hope that should be the foundation of the church.


This is our church as well. In the small group that I am a part of, we have people from every walk of life and from different faith backgrounds. Our church focuses less on religion and more on Christ. In my community, it seems churches focus more on religion. The reason why I have that opinion is because I visited almost every church in my town before finding the one that I truly felt I could grow in my faith.



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Dalai Mama
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Posted: 10/15/2013 6:37:53 AM
Another one who was raise in the United Church of Canada. If I believed in God, I would still be there.


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Posted: 10/15/2013 6:55:14 AM
Gre pw up Catholic, now an atheist.

The rough times are o much easier now that I have no religious BS complicating things. I am m own master, I rely on only myself and my strength within to get through life. That is so much more comforting than thinkng some god is controlling things. I wanted proof of god and never found it... But I found myself and that's much better!

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Posted: 10/15/2013 7:19:33 AM
Thank you all for your replies. You've given me so much to think about, and a lot of comfort knowing that I am not alone in not being sure of it all.

It's like, I almost want to use faith and religion as a crutch for this rough time when I have nothing else to lean on, but I have no idea where to start. I've listened to online sermons and such. I'm searching and seeking and yet nothing has spoken to me yet.

And i guess that brings its own fear: What if nothing ever speaks to me? What if I find no source of peace anywhere?

I sound lame. Sorry.



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Posted: 10/15/2013 7:20:22 AM
Raised as Catholic and am still a practicing Catholic.



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Posted: 10/15/2013 7:22:32 AM

What if nothing ever speaks to me? What if I find no source of peace anywhere?
Nothing ever spoke to me, despite years of trying. I found peace when I stopped trying. You will find your peace in the way only you can... whether it's atheism or Christianity or whatever.

AKathy
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Posted: 10/15/2013 7:26:33 AM
I was raised in a Lutheran church and I'm still an active church member.


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