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Posted: 11/12/2013 12:39:36 AM
I don't have any siblings. I have a cousin, however, that is more like a brother to me. He and his wife have told me many times that I am like a sister to him. He is 4 years younger than me and we grew up together. I am an aunt to his children and whenever we can get together (they live in another state) we always have fun! His wife and I are also super close and I consider her my sister in law. We often talk on the phone.

This is the one thing that really bothers me. I will call my cousin's cell phone to talk to him and he hardly ever picks up the phone. This week his wife called me back. It's been like that for awhile now. I miss talking to my cousin a lot. Since my grandma died January 31st of this year, I don't have any family left except for them and an uncle and cousins who just came into my life a few years ago.

So does anyone else have a situation like this where the wife will return your phone calls? I have brought up maybe skyping together as I have never done that before but I figured that may be an option. I just wanted to see how you all would handle it. Years ago when they lived only 6 1/2 hours away by car I drove up quite a bit to see them but now that's not possible. My cousin came down here the day after my grandma died and it was exactly what I needed. We laughed and laughed about the memories. I just don't want to lose that bond with him. I love my cousin in law and even if she wasn't family she would be my friend but I miss talking to my cousin.

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Posted: 11/12/2013 12:59:34 AM
my husband nevers answers his phone. I would just make plans with his wife.

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Posted: 11/12/2013 1:13:33 AM
yea, my DH never answers his phone either, nor responds to anyone elses texts unless its me or work.
I will make arrangements for us or him to get together with any of our friends.

It is a bummer though that he doesn't answer since you have that great bond. How far away does he live now? Can you get together for a day?

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Posted: 11/12/2013 1:37:12 AM
Can't you just ask to speak to him too? I mean, have a conversation with 'SIL' then say "Oh I'd love to have a word with cousin too!" and have her put him on?

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Posted: 11/12/2013 1:37:30 AM
My husband is allergic to the telephone. He only carries one for business and to talk to me and his parents.

He does complicated tech support for Cisco systems and is the top of chain for customers who need tech support. He spends all day, every day on the phone with partners and clients that are having major issues. It's very stressful.

I do think it's funny that he can fix issues with the computer networks at NASA, AT&T and NORAD, but he can't make simple chit chat with my mom or friends. He's much better in person.

Maybe the wife is jealous of y'all talking together or perhaps the cousin thinks you'd rather talk "wimin" stuff with his wife.

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Posted: 11/12/2013 1:48:23 AM
He is in Sparks Nevada (right outside of Reno) now and I live in Arizona. Health wise and finance wise I just can't make it up there. They will both call though if something big happens sometimes. I do text him every once in awhile too. I love his wife so I am really blessed there. She hasn't ever acted jealous at all when we do talk on the phone. I am missing his baptism this week so I am sad about that. I know he is busy and has work a lot but it's just hard. He will call and talk to his dad. Ironically to talk to his dad you have to talk to his dad's girlfriend. Maybe he just learned that it's done like that. I do genuinely enjoy talking to his wife so I eel blessed there. It would be a lot harder if I didn't like her. They use to live in St George so I visited a lot and I am grateful to have those awesome memories! I think I will ask to talk to him next time. On Sunday his wife said that he says hello. It's just different though than hearing it from him. My cousin is super laid back and hilarious. I think it's harder for me because he is my only family. It may be different when I am married and have kids but right now I just miss him!
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