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Posted: 11/14/2013 12:51:58 PM
We've been doing a combination of me doing them all, and having the kids load/unload the dishwasher.

But I'm tired of the sink getting full when we're all busy. I'm thinking of a new plan: Everyone rinses and loads their own dishes as they use them. We can take turns unloading the d/w.

I just don't want to be the Dish Police - how do you make sure everyone is loading their own and what do you do with slackers? LOL

How do you handle dishes at your house? If you do the 'load your own' method, how do you enforce it?



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Posted: 11/14/2013 12:53:38 PM
I'm a SAHM so I do them ... makes sense in our household ... it's just pots because we have a dishwasher ... I also load and unload the dishwasher because it's no big deal to me ...

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Posted: 11/14/2013 12:55:56 PM
DH does all the dish washing. He lets them pile up but I don't complain since they get done and I never have to touch them.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 12:57:42 PM
I hate dirty dishes in the sink, too!

I run my dishwasher at nite (yes, while we're sleeping and yes, I know I should never run appliances when I'm not home). This way, I empty it first thing in the morning and everyone can rinse & put their dishes in all throughout the day.

How I enforce it isn't all that special. I can usually tell who's dish it is by what's left in it. Then I just drag them away from whatever they're doing to come put it away. I keep hoping they'll grow weary of this, but it hasn't happened yet.




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Posted: 11/14/2013 12:58:48 PM
In our house, if you cook you don't do dishes. Normally, I cook and my DS does the dishes. My DH works nights so he isn't home for dinner. On the weekends, if DH cooks either DS or myself does the dishes.



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Posted: 11/14/2013 12:59:01 PM
It's only two of us but each person is responsible for their own dishes during the day. After dinner whoever didn't cook has to do the dishes, but the person who cooks should also do the prep dishes as they go.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:00:49 PM
In our house, if you dirty a dish, you put it in the dishwasher when you're done. It's run when it's full, but since I'm best at organizing the most dishes in there, I usually am the one to run it. I usually empty it, but not always. I do most of the hand-washing of dinner pots and pans but DH does them fairly often.

I absolutely lose my shit when the kids stack dirty dishes in the sink instead of washing them or putting them in the dishwasher. It's just so lazy. (They're 15 and 19, well old enough to know better!)

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:00:57 PM
For some reason I don't trust our dishwasher to clean them as well as I'd like them to be, so I hand wash all of ours & put them in the dishwasher to dry. So to answer your question, it's me, myself & I who do the dishes.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:01:06 PM
I'm the one who's home during the day, so I empty the dishwasher and clean up after breakfast. I cook dinner, and try to clean up the cooking dishes as I go (doesn't always happen.) DH and DS clean up the dishes after dinner. I usually put things away and sweep while they do that.

DH likes to stand at the sink and rinse and wash and load the dishwasher -- he always gets in the way and trips if he's going back and forth.

Before I go to bed, I call out for any other dishes to be added to the dishwasher before I start it.

Sounds like I do most of the work, but I'm the one who's always here.

Now that you mention it, my kids aren't very good at putting things in the dishwasher, but it just doesn't bother me that much. It's not a ton of stuff.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:01:42 PM
I do them all. Its my job, dh works to many hours and has many other chores around the house. LOL I used to have the kids do them, but as they got older with more activities etc. And the fact that I don't have my PT job anymore its part of my job.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:04:02 PM

I run my dishwasher at nite (yes, while we're sleeping and yes, I know I should never run appliances when I'm not home). This way, I empty it first thing in the morning and everyone can rinse & put their dishes in all throughout the day.


This exactly.

Enforcing it - not necessary too often, but when it is, just a bit if good old fashioned nagging or passive aggressive "Well *I'll* do them then!!"







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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:04:12 PM
We unload the dishwasher by dividing it out between the two older kids (well it worked until son moved out...lol) but our system was each kid unloaded every other day and on Sunday's one did the top rack one did the bottom rack.

Filling it up usually everyone puts their own dishes in there as we go along. If it is full, whoever unloaded filled it back up with dirty dishes.

I would fill in when the kids were busy or gone. Now my daughter and I kinda share doing it...Now my five year old is starting to put the silverware away.



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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:06:26 PM

In our house, if you cook you don't do dishes.


We have the same rule!

So typically:

DH - cooks
DDs - unload/put away clean dishes from dishwasher
Everyone - loads their own dirty plate/utensils/cup in the dishwasher
Me - loads rest of the dishes into the dishwasher, handwashes pots/pans etc., wipes counters, and general clean up of the kitchen


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:14:09 PM
My daughter does most of the dishes (that is her chore).


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:15:43 PM
One cooks, one washes. Usually, boyfriend cooks. So I do the dishes (no dishwasher anymore). He also packs up the left overs.





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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:16:23 PM
In our house, everyone rinses and loads their own dishes. We've done it this way for such a long time that I rarely have to say anything. But when I do notice that someone has forgotten to take care of their dishes I just remind them, no big deal. I'll say "Whoever's dishes these are, come take care of them now." If they don't know whose belongs to who, I randomly pick someone (other than me) to take care of them.

Now as far as pots and pans and other items that don't go in the dishwasher are concerned, I pretty much do all of that dishwashing. The reason for this is I typically wash as I cook, plus I also kinda enjoy hand dishwashing. I leave them drying in the sink and will sometimes have the kids put them away but I often just do it myself the next AM.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:25:02 PM

In our house, everyone rinses and loads their own dishes. We've done it this way for such a long time that I rarely have to say anything. But when I do notice that someone has forgotten to take care of their dishes I just remind them, no big deal. I'll say "Whoever's dishes these are, come take care of them now." If they don't know whose belongs to who, I randomly pick someone (other than me) to take care of them.

Now as far as pots and pans and other items that don't go in the dishwasher are concerned, I pretty much do all of that dishwashing. The reason for this is I typically wash as I cook, plus I also kinda enjoy hand dishwashing. I leave them drying in the sink and will sometimes have the kids put them away but I often just do it myself the next AM.


Sonia, this sounds like a great system. I'm going to try it out!

I don't mind doing the dishes I cook with, it's just the never-ending cereal bowls, cups, sports bottles, utensils, etc. that pile up and we get to busy to deal with sometimes. No one else volunteers (ha!) so I always end up doing them



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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:27:12 PM
Well in our house just down to dh, myself and my 21 y/o who both goes to school full time and works.

DH is the primary kitchen cleaner but I usually will unload and load from the sink and clean when I can't take the mess.

If the kitchen is clean I tend to keep it clean, but DH and son are terrible..they rinse dishes but leave them in the sink..I tell them one dirty dish is like a magnent it attracts more..and it does.

Once in awhile I just ask my ds whenever I can physically see him to pitch in.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:28:21 PM
DD's unload/load the dishwasher and I do all the rest of the dishes, which is mainly pots and pans. There are times when we have a sink full of dishes, but we just work through it. DDs unload when they come home from school so that dinner dishes can be loaded up that night and then breakfast dishes get loaded the next morning and I start the dishwasher before I go to work.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:32:28 PM
I wash all the dinner dishes.
Everyone washes their dishes that they use any other time.
I load the dishwasher, and DD unloads it.
But, she's not quick with getting it done and I often have dishes sitting in the sink ready to be loaded.
It annoys the heck out of me


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:35:17 PM
The kids take turns, one week at a time. DH will also help out if things get busy. I normally cook. Our general rule is the cook doesn't wash, so it's pretty rare that I do dishes.

We all put our own dishes into the dishwasher. It gets run at night while we are sleeping. Kids empty it after school and load any breakfast dishes. Then they load dinner dishes and set it to run around midnight.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:40:24 PM
Journey fan - same problem at my house...
"who left this bowl....yada...." and i hear, "Oh, my bad." and they come put it in the sink. Not the dishwasher. The sink. I'm so terribly sick of nagging. There's got to be a way to make them remember.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:45:01 PM

DH does all the dish washing. He lets them pile up but I don't complain since they get done and I never have to touch them.


Same here, I cook dinner most of the time and dh does the dishes. Dd usually unloads the dishwasher.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:54:18 PM
I like the feeling of accomplishment I feel when I finish loading the dishwasher.
My kids empty the dishwasher and then I fill it.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 1:59:57 PM
Whomever is off the earliest if we're both working that day or whomever has the day off. That includes me, my husband and my oldest son, who's been staying here off and on when he has a day off work.

When the two boys were kids, the oldest child washed and the youngest dried (from about age 9) and put away things.
They got help from me or their dad as needed, which was pots, pans etc when they were smaller.

ETA, we've never used the dishwasher in this house which has been since 2001.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:04:25 PM
Everyone clears their own dishes and usually we just assign one person to wash and the other to dry this dishes that don't go into the dishwasher. Sometimes we have problems but if they don't help with setting the table/getting dinner ready, they are the ones usually washing the dishes. We skid try to clean up as we go along so there really aren't too many to wash.

I unload the dishes every morning as I am usually awake first and can put them away without awaking the whole house




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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:11:08 PM
All me. Dh does most of the cooking though.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:23:13 PM
For dishes used throughout the day (breakfast, lunch, snacks), each person rinses and puts in dishwasher.

Our rule is dishes NEVER get set in the sink. When you are done eating you rinse and then they go straight into the dishwasher. No leaving them in the sink for any length of time, ever. Period. No exceptions.

(This is part of our overall house management strategy - we have the Touch It Once rule - if you touch it {it being a bill, a dirty dish, mail, shopping, whatever}, then you deal with it all the way to its final disposition. No setting anything anywhere to deal with it later. So no setting dirty dishes in the sink, no mail on the counter, no shopping bags left unpacked, etc.)

For dinner when we might have pots, pans, handwashables, I wash as much as I can while I am prepping dinner (for example, wash the mixing bowl while I'm waiting for something to cook).
DH supervises the kids washing the rest immediately after dinner (kids are little).

We run the dishwasher at night and I unload it in the morning while I am in the kitchen waiting for my coffee to brew.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:37:43 PM
Husband and I both do them, but he does them way more often than I do.
We are moving next month and the new house will have a dishwasher. We will both take care of the dishes as we do now.




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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:41:04 PM
When I cook I do all the dishes and I cook dinner at least 5 nights a week. I don't mind. I love to cook and get a very satisfied feeling when I turn off the kitchen light, everyone is full and my kitchen is clean.
My brother is living here for the time being and when he's not working, he rinses and puts whatever dishes he uses during the day in the dishwasher. If I make breakfast or lunch, I do the dishes.
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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:47:48 PM
I am a SAHM too, so that is my job. I do have the kids help me unload sometimes. I don't like to unload, but I don't mind loading! I don't do any dishes by hand, they all go in the dishwasher.

Our kitchen gets out of hand too over the weekend or if I am volunteering up at school. I do prefer that the kids use paper towel for cookies but my husband always tells them to get a plate. I say no, use a paper towel, less dishes!! My kids use a different cup if they can't find theirs. Drives me crazy! So I hid most of the cups so they have to keep track of their cups. I was running the dishwasher at least once or twice a day.

My husband always takes his dishes to the dishwasher or sink. The girls leave their dishes all over. My husband tells them that they will have a hard time finding a husband that wants to pick up after them all day, so they had better learn to clean up after themselves. haha!


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Posted: 11/14/2013 3:51:52 PM
I rarely cook so it's not a big deal in my house, but when I do cook, I clean as I go. DS knows that when you're done with a dish, you put it in the dishwasher. I only run one, maybe two loads a week, and the cleaning lady takes care of one load a week.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 4:44:52 PM
Whoever does not cook dinner does the dishes. That sometimes includes emptying the dishwasher.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 4:51:11 PM
I usually cook, so he does the dishes. Sometimes I get all organized and empty the dishwasher because he hates that part and clean as I go..

Times like these I really miss DD.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 4:58:36 PM

I was reading the thread trying to decide on my answer, but we really don't have a set system at all. Haha. Neither my husband or I like to leave any dishes in the sink so we wash up as we go. And generally, if one of us cooks, the other washes. But that's not hard-and-fast either. I guess we fall into the category of "if it needs doing, just do it."








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Posted: 11/14/2013 5:25:00 PM
DH does 90-95% of the cooking/cleaning. He LOVES to cook and wants the cleaning done a certain way, so I've always told him that if he wanted it done that way, do it himself LOL. It's what works for us. I don't mind cooking, if I have a recipe, but he can take the most random things, if we've not shopped, and make a gourmet meal. I cannot do that, so cook defaults to him LOL....


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Posted: 11/14/2013 6:16:01 PM
Our dishwasher was a cheap one and I thought we would be out of the house before it died. Nope...so now I am handwashing everything....and I like the results much better.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 6:38:57 PM
No dishwasher so I do them by hand, me myself and I.
Dirty dishes don't seem to bother anyone in the house. Drives me crazy.
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Posted: 11/14/2013 6:51:39 PM
I cook, so DH does the dishes most of the time.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 6:55:48 PM
DH does all the cooking and all the dishes, because that is our arrangement.

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Posted: 11/14/2013 7:38:28 PM
In our house if you cook you don't do dishes/clean up. Which means I do a LOT of dishes! hahaha. (DH is retired and does most of the cooking). .

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Posted: 11/14/2013 7:51:40 PM
Kids in college, when they are home the oldest leads "The Dish Crew" to clean the kitchen after dinner.

Otherwise we have the "I cook, you do dishes" rule.

When the kids were little, they took turns per week: one set the table, one cleaned the kitchen with dad after, and one was the designated dishwasher unloader for the week.

Everyone is responsible for clearing their own place & putting it in the dishwasher.

Back in the day I was known for going out to the basket ball court to interrupt a game when someone "forgot" to put away a fork, dish, whatever.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 7:57:35 PM
I have three kids, ages 11-16 They each have their own set of fiestaware dishes in a color they picked out. They are only allowed to use their own set this way I know who is leaving their dishes out.

No one is allowed to put dishes in the sink unless the dishwasher is running.

The oldest unloads the bottom rack, middle does the top rack and youngest puts away the cutlery.

ETA: whoever cooks dinner gets out of doing dishes/pots and pans.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 10:09:10 PM
DH and I both do them although he probably does them more than I do
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Posted: 11/14/2013 10:50:23 PM
We have three teenagers.

They each take two nights a week, assigned according to what works best with their schedules, and then the last night is mom or dad dish night. That night they are responsible for the entire kitchen.


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Posted: 11/14/2013 11:05:12 PM
Daughter unloads the dishwasher every day. I rinse the dishes after dinner while daughter loads dishwasher. I wash all dishes that doesn't go in dishwasher. She will dry and put the dishes away.
She also loads what everdishes are in the sink when she unloads the dishwasher. She usually does this after morning lunches are made coffee is drank and breakfast is ate. Then what litte dishes we use the rest of the day is done after dinner with dinner dishes. When daughter isn't home then i do the dishes. Usually I will rinse load dishwasher ans wash nondishwasher dishes. Then husband will come in and dry and put the dishes away. If the dishwasher is full and clean he will empty it and put the dishes away. Everybody knows that I don't like drying and putting dishes away. This works for us.



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