I feel badly for DD but I really do not want to see the Hunger Games

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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:23:43 PM
This is the second weekend in a row that DD age 16 has wanted to go see THG....none of her friends can go...boyfriends, jobs, other plans..but I have an issue with the concept, children fighting to the death for food eat... i didn't reads the books or watch the first movie for that reason. Would you sit through a movie you really don't want to see just to keep your child company?


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:28:15 PM
Yes I would.

And there's more to the story than fighting to the death for food. Much more.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:28:47 PM
Yes, I would.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:28:59 PM
Why can't she go by herself?

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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:29:27 PM
Yes, and especially that one.

I sat through Barney, Thomas the Tank Engine, Pokemon and Shark Boy & Lava Girl for my kids...the Catching Fire would be a piece of cake.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:31:02 PM
No, I probably wouldn't, if it were a movie I had very strong feelings against. She can wait till her friends can go or it to come out on video-it won't kill her to wait.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:31:35 PM
Yep, there's a lot more to take away from the books/movies than kids killing kids for food. This movie was actually a lot better in that respect than the first one anyway.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:40:03 PM
I absolutely would. I took my 12 yr old DD with me. She read all the books and she saw the first movie.




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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:42:05 PM
Like others have said, this one is a LOT different than the first. Many solid lessons about morality in it.

Take her. If nothing else, it is a great conversation starter.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:42:05 PM
Yes, I would. There are lots if things that I do as parent that I fall in this category.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:44:46 PM
My 13 yo DS saw it with friends. 16 yo DD has thought about going but hasn't yet. I would not be thrilled to go with her. I haven't read the books and have no interest in doing so.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:46:17 PM
I would. If your 16 year old wants to go to spend time with mom at an age-appropriate movie, I'd jump all over that!

But I have read the book, and agree there's more to it than just children fighting to death. It is hard to think about, but that isn't lost in the theme of the movie.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:47:13 PM
If she can't find anyone else to go with, why not take advantage of the fact that she still likes to hang with her mom? I'd be positively giddy if my teenage DS asked me to go to the movies with him, lol!

I think at the age of 16 she is certainly capable of dealing with the themes. Has she read the books herself?





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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:49:39 PM
No. I don't do movies I don't like for anyone. I was subjected to that movie at a crop...I find it disgusting.






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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:50:33 PM
I didn't want to read the books either because of the children fighting.

I read them all. I also saw the first movie.

They really are much more than just violence. There is a lot more to them.

If there was a movie I disagreed with though, I'm not sure if I could take my kid to it. I have sat through a lot of kid crap for my kids. But I've also seen some really good stuff that I wouldn't have watched or went to but did because of them. AND after I did, I was glad I did!

THis may be one of those things for you.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:52:48 PM
And I've been sitting here wanting to go and my daughter doesn't feel up to it.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:57:11 PM
I'll be taking my 14 year old to see that tomorrow night ...

I think that at this age any excuse to spend time with them is good enough reason for me

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Posted: 11/29/2013 3:57:14 PM
Your 16 year old wants to go to the movies with you and you're saying no?

Go. It's about much more than you think it is, and your teenager wants to spend time with you.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:02:04 PM
I have and I would again. Time with my children is priceless and even more so when they are/were 16.
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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:04:20 PM
I didn't want to read the books because I didn't like the violence. DH kept nagging me so I finally did. I devoured the books and love the movies. Go with your daughter. You might be begging for moments like that in a couple of years.


I sat through Barney, Thomas the Tank Engine, Pokemon and Shark Boy & Lava Girl for my kids...the Catching Fire would be a piece of cake.


Shark Boy and Lava Girl was soooo painful. I think I actually fell asleep.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:04:42 PM
I don't see how you could possibly object to something you are completely ignorant of. Take your DD to the movie.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:21:38 PM
I agree with the others - it's a small thing to do when they're getting to an age when they want to spend less and less time with us.

I also agree that the movie is about far more than you think it is. I went with my 12 year old two nights ago and we all loved it.

Did you never sit through children's movies with her? I think I have slept through the middle of every non-Pixar animated film that came out from 2005 to the present (I stay awake for the Pixar ones). If nothing else, look at it as an opportunity to have a nap in a dark room.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:28:11 PM
Hell yes I would.




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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:28:20 PM
Yes, definitely go. She wants to spend time with you, what more can you want? If you really don't want to see the movie then close your eyes at the parts you want to avoid. Haven't we all done that at horror movies?

And about sitting through movies with our kids -- I'm having a flashback to "Pikachu's Vacation". o.m.g.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:37:22 PM
For what its worth I thought it was less violent than the first one. In the first one it was tribute vs tribute, they bond together more in the second one because they have all been through it before and none of them want to be there



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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:38:19 PM
I've read the books and seen both movies. I went and saw it with my daughter because she wanted to see it so bad and didn't want to go by herself, but she's 28. I, personally, think the kids killing kids is a small part of the series. It's a big part of the first book because it sets up the other two, which aren't about kids killing kids, but encompass a much larger theme.




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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:45:47 PM
I don't have kids, so disregard every comment I make, obviously....BUT if the subject matter was something I really felt strongly about, I'd probably go so that any discussion afterwards could be from whatever viewpoint she or you may have.

The premise of Lord Of The Flies is disturbing to some and I would much rather have read that before any child of mine read it....not because I don't believe they should, but because I would like to be in a position to discuss the issues introduced.

However, at 16, I would also say that your daughter is not likely to be overly affected by this and more than capable of processing any issues introduced through the film, BUT that it is a good opportunity (as others have said)to have some time with her. At least she asked!!

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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:50:18 PM

No. I don't do movies I don't like for anyone. I was subjected to that movie at a crop...I find it disgusting.


I assume the OP is talking about Catching Fire, which isn't out on DVD yet.




Shark Boy and Lava Girl was soooo painful. I think I actually fell asleep.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:54:30 PM

If she can't find anyone else to go with, why not take advantage of the fact that she still likes to hang with her mom? I'd be positively giddy if my teenage DS asked me to go to the movies with him, lol!


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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:54:53 PM
I have kids ages 14-23 and try to take each of them to a movie on occasion. The movie is their choice. I've seen plenty of movies that I wouldn't have chosen on my own. More than happy to do it.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:55:54 PM
For that movie, no I wouldn't. For others, probably.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 4:57:04 PM
My 8yo dd asked me to take her to Dispicable Me 2. I wasn't fond of the first one but I took her anyway and SHE loved it. It's no different than if DH wanted to see another kung fu shoot em up kill em all type movie. I would do it to spend time with him and it fills that love tank. It's the same thing with your DD. Fill that tank. All too soon she is going to be grown up and on her own.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:00:57 PM

It's no different than if DH wanted to see another kung fu shoot em up kill em all type movie.


So very true. I've sat through much worse for the husband. Some of it with my eyes closed much of the time. The movie Hannibal comes to mind on that score.




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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:05:27 PM
My dd 13 went with friends and almost fell asleeep. She said it was boring.
But no I dont like movies and wouldnt go. Especially since she has seen it already. I dont see it as spending time with dd. More like she wants to go and doesnt want to go alone. So she drags you with her.

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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:06:24 PM

No. I don't do movies I don't like for anyone.


Really? Seems like such a small thing to do for someone you love.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:09:11 PM
I'm sure she's gone along on plenty of errands with you than she was less than thrilled about. I would absolutely take her. Like Katybee said, it's a small thing to do for someone you love.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:19:33 PM
It's not like we won't we spending time together....we'll be at home together tonight, all day tomorrow and Sunday. And we're going to a movie -Frozen - on Sunday.

She and I spent a lot of her free time together, oartly because dH's new job has hom travelling a lot and now that she's gone into IB and none of her friends have...they're much less available this year. Some of it is jobs or boyfriends but most of them didn't go into iB because they said they "wanted to have a social life" and now none of them ever seem to be available.

She has made some friends in IB but since she spends all day with them everyday, she's less keen to hang out with them on weekends. But even those kids are busy tonight.

I've been encouraging her to join some clubs or groups at school but she's shy and typically would join something she already knows someone in.

My older DD went through this same "distancing" thing with her friends when she went into IB but one of her friends kept in touch, kept inviting her to non-IB parties and just never excluded her. They are still great friends today even though they're at different universities.

So this is more about the lack of friends than this particular movie. I just feel sad that she's hurting and there's really nothing mom can do to fix this problem.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:22:15 PM

Would you sit through a movie you really don't want to see just to keep your child company?



I would give anything to be able to go see a movie I didn't want to see with my child.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:22:23 PM
If you didn't read the books, then you may not really know what it's about, though you think you do.

How many children's movies did you sit through with her over the years that you didn't really want to see? And were ou ever pleasantly surprised?


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:26:18 PM

Would you sit through a movie you really don't want to see just to keep your child company?


I probably would but my DH will not watch a movie if he doesn't like the concept. Period. I know it doesn't mean he loves me any less.

Don't let anyone guilt you into going to something you don't want to see.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:30:28 PM

So this is more about the lack of friends than this particular movie. I just feel sad that she's hurting and there's really nothing mom can do to fix this problem.




Honestly, your follow-up post has me even more firmly in the "take her to the movie" camp.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:32:01 PM

Really? Seems like such a small thing to do for someone you love.
On the surface, perhaps, but movies are something I have to be very careful about. Certain things in movies are triggers for depression episodes for me.

On the othee hand, I enjoyed alot of children's movies with my boys while my friends complained about enduring the torture.






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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:32:01 PM

I would give anything to be able to go see a movie I didn't want to see with my child.

Hugs to you Jennie. My heart goes out to you.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:34:36 PM
Absolutely. I sat through some terrible kiddie movies when they were little, and would do it again.

These movies and the books (Catching Fire more so than THG) are about so much more than the games and the fighting. If you haven't read the books, or seen the first movie, then you really don't know what they're about. There are some great themes and messages in all three.

As for just keeping her company, yep, I'd do it. If she's having a hard time with some life transitions, this would be the perfect opportunity to show her some support while spending some time together.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:38:38 PM
What is IB?

I think Shark Boy and Lava Girl is the worst movie ever made. It was painful.





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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:39:41 PM

I would give anything to be able to go see a movie I didn't want to see with my child.

Hugs to you Jennie. My heart goes out to you.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:39:48 PM

I just feel sad that she's hurting and there's really nothing mom can do to fix this problem.




Actually...you could go see the movie.

Rent the first one tonight, and then go see Catching Fire at the theater. It's four hours of your life...



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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:41:12 PM

No. I don't do movies I don't like for anyone. I was subjected to that movie at a crop...I find it disgusting.

I don't think you were paying enough attention to know what the movie is actually about. It does not glorify children killing children. It actually is about the exact opposite and the whole story arc is uplifting. Well, in a dark sort of way.


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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:45:05 PM
Did your DD read the book. If so, I would go without question. If it's just a movie she wants to see I would let her wait for friends or it to come out of DVD.



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Posted: 11/29/2013 5:45:15 PM
ITA w/pp. If she's having a hard time with peers now and she can't go to a movie she wants if not for you, you can help her. Take her to the movie! Sometimes we can do something and sometimes we can't. Here, at least you can make her happy for a couple hours, take her mind off the friend thing.


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