|Posted: 2/1/2013 11:27:13 AM|
My bf has requested me to take out all the pics of my ex from my PL. Any ideas on how to fill those gaps without having to redo my entire album?
EDIT // it is my ex who did something jerk-ish. I am completely fine with my bf's request, especially since I have several Shutterfly photobooks saved plus all the originals of the pics on an external. So the memories are still being preserved
I am just trying to figure out the fastest way to do over my PL.
Loc: Louisville, Ky
|Posted: 2/1/2013 11:30:21 AM|
Maybe just slip in printed papers/cardstock over top of the pics for now. Then you can figure out if you want to just fill those spots with exgtra journaling, other pics or just decorative cards & remove the pics when you figure it out.
At least that is what came to mind when I read your post, if I was in that situation. I'd rather not rip it all apart & have the holes everwhere, before I figured out how to "fix" the problem.
|Posted: 2/1/2013 11:40:52 AM|
I would just split up the pl into two albums, one with pics of the ex, the second with the pics of your new bf.
It's your pl album and your ex was a part of your life. If your bf doesn't want to see those pics, he doesn't have to look at them. Keeping them in a separate album helps with that.
I'd only remove the pics if/when I was ready to do it for myself. My 2cents.
Loc: Phoenix, AZ area
|Posted: 2/1/2013 11:53:58 AM|
^^^ditto to what ladybug said.
I don't think you ever need to take them out if you don't want to; he was part of your life during that time period. If your BF doesn't want to see them, there's ways to do that (like splitting up the album, as suggested) but it kind of negates the purpose of 'documenting real life' if you change it, in my opinion. If YOU want to take them out, then that's something else altogether.
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Loc: all up in your business
|Posted: 2/1/2013 11:58:26 AM|
That sounds really controlling.
But if you do concede, I'd just slip a 3x4 insert or whatever over each portion, thus blocking him out. Then, if things don't work out with this guy, do the same to him
Seriously, though, blocking with solid cardstock or even patterned paper.
|Posted: 2/1/2013 12:01:26 PM|
how are the photos of the ex and how new is the new BF?
I don't know that I'd make a change that quickly for someone, unless my husband requested it, and even then.... well my DH wouldn't ask that of me. It was what my life was then.
Loc: Novi, MI
|Posted: 2/1/2013 12:06:32 PM|
I still have scrapbooks full of my ex. They were part of my life. My husband has never requested that I empty these albums of my ex's pictures.
If your boyfriend is really upset about it then, I agree with the other ladies, cover those images with card stock. Don't destroy your albums you will regret it years from now.
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|Posted: 2/1/2013 12:11:33 PM|
I agree. Don't destroy your albums for some guy. If you do marry him he will have to remember that you had a life before him. I'd just leave the whole album be and tell him not to look at it if it bothers him that much. Course, I'm a b- like that.
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|Posted: 2/1/2013 12:13:38 PM|
I have the originals on an external. He just doesn't want the printed copies in the book. He usually has no issues with this kind of stuff, but my ex did something that made him decide this... As long as I still have my originals, I am fine with leaving them out of my PL... But I don't want it to look like I took stuff out...
Loc: Sunny Orlando, FL
|Posted: 2/1/2013 1:40:01 PM|
What happens if you break up with this one?? Take him out. Leave him in and tell you BF to deal with it.
What are you looking at?
|Posted: 2/1/2013 3:25:18 PM|
I agree with the other posters. Covering them up rather than removing them is a good solution, in my opinion. I think you should only remove them if YOU WANT to. I think it's really important to document the good and the bad in our albums. Good and bad things are both part of your life, and this is Project Life! Also, all your experiences help shape the person you are, so dating him, good or bad, helped you become the person your new BF fell in love with.
I have albums filled with pictures of my ex. In fact, I've recently scrapped old pictures from a group trip that had him in them, and my boyfriend has no problem with it.
Will I ever get to Buckethead?!
Loc: New York
|Posted: 2/1/2013 3:36:45 PM|I agree with the covering of the pictures with a fun patterned paper that you can put your own little embellishments on or something of that nature. When you are ready to completely get rid of those pictures go ahead.
|Posted: 2/1/2013 4:05:54 PM|
I would not do that either. we all have people in our scrapbooks that are no longer in our lives - perhaps friends or family members etc. Thats a bit much for him to ask you to take the photos out. If it bothers YOU then you could just slip a piece of printed paper or cardstock over the photo and call it good
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Loc: Norfolk VA
|Posted: 2/1/2013 4:11:14 PM|
You said your ex did something that made the now boyfriend "decide this." Why does he get to decide????
It's YOUR life. YOUR project life. It's not called "Project Boyfriend's Life."
I have been buried 20 years. I'm madly, insanely in love with my husband. But somewhere in a box somewhere is photos from my first wedding. I'm keeping them to remind me of some things -- and one of those things is what an idiot I was for getting married to that guy. It's part of my life, when I was young and dumb. And looked way better in a big, puffy white dress than I would now.
We change. We grow. People move in, people move out. Our hearts change.
Keep the pictures right where they are.
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|Posted: 2/1/2013 4:51:00 PM|
I have an album from my first marriage on the shelf with all of my other scrapbooks. I don't think my husband has ever seen it. He probably doesn't care to see it, but I would never get rid of it because he wanted me to.
I'm sorry, OP, but that's a BIG RED FLAG. Run while you can! BTDT.
Loc: where the wild things are
|Posted: 2/1/2013 5:31:34 PM|
Well, if I were you I would probably tell new bf to shove it. If you didn't want to see the pictures, that's one thing. Even if it were you wanting to get rid of them, I would still go with what others are suggesting and tell you to just cover the photos rather than remove them. That way, if you change your mind, you haven't undone your whole PL album.
Why on earth would you just go along with what your boyfriend says? Especially because that seems immature and controlling of him.
|2013 OLW: Progress
January: 5 LOs
February: 5 LOs; 5 cards
Goals for March:
-5 LOs - 2 DONE
-5 cards - 1 DONE
-keep PL caught up
|Posted: 2/1/2013 6:31:36 PM|
Could you just put that album (or the pages with your ex on) away in a box or something if it's that much of a problem? Or put something over the photos, as others have suggested. I wouldn't throw scrapbook pages away or start taking them apart or removing photos from PL.
But honestly? There's no way I would let my boyfriend dictate what I could and couldn't scrapbook, or what layouts I could have in my books.
Loc: North Carolina
|Posted: 2/1/2013 6:58:50 PM|
How do you feel about your ex? Do you want mementos of your past relationships? Your new bf should not dictate what is in YOUR albums!